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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!
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Ok I have this friend Terry (26). He is a very good friend and we always have fun hanging out. And yes I do have a crush on him. We flirt all the time but it is always ALL talk. We can about literally anything. I can talk about guys and he won’t bad mouth them and it is the same when he talks about girls. Sure of course there is a twinge of jealousy when someone tries to get in the picture, but I don’t do anything about it. That is just not right. I want him to be happy. I know I have to give it time if it is meant for me and him. Sometimes I feel that it is right there in front of us but neither one of us is blind to it. Well I thought I would make a little effort on new yrs eve. My friends and I were out bowling having a lot of fun. I thought it would be cute and bought this cheesy mistletoe. Last day out of the year to get away with something like that. My friends got a kick out of it. (FYI I am sober throughout this whole thing) I also ran into Terry at the alley too and said he was going to have some people over at his house and that me and my friends were invited to come along. Well I wanted to get there before midnight but my friends just took a little longer then I wanted them too. We got there just a matter of minutes afterwards when everyone is rushing outside to light off the firecrackers. I wanted to wish Terry a happy new yr, just was a little too hard with so many people around. I finally was able to stop him in the kitchen and I had the mistletoe. I thought it was a clever little trick to be able to kiss him. And it did work; also that it was new yrs too. I felt very proud of myself too, that I took a little initiative. And we went on with the evening like nothing had happen.
Well.... turns out, there was a girl that didn't know that was kind of with him. She was almost always around him. At first I figured it was one of these young little girls (teenagers) that do have a tendency to follow him around since he is attractive. Well that was until I saw them sitting on the couch holding hands and cuddling. I felt like such a fool. If I had known they were together that night I respectively would not have tried anything. I know when to not step on toes even when it does happen to me. So I mentally tell myself, “ok I have to back off, and let it be” So the next night I am at our Tuesday karaoke Night which we always go to. Terry is there and the girl wasn’t. But we didn’t do anything out the ordinary. We still continued to banter and flirt back and forth like nothing was different, because it wasn’t. I few of us went up to his house since it was up the street. While most were down stairs, I was alone with Terry upstairs and we were talking and I made the effort to apologize for the night before for kissing him not knowing he was technically there with someone. He told me not to be, since they weren’t actually together and the girl ( her name was Jenny20 yrs old) was very needy, moving too fast and that she lived in Sacramento and had come up to see him for the night. Also said that he thought it was very cute and that he had liked the kiss.
Now what I need to know is what should I do about this? Should I just let things take their course? Should I forget about it? Am I in the right to be feeling like this? This has never happen between us. He is always telling me about these girls that like him but he doesn’t really want to start anything with them, since his last relationship really hurt him, but then he is looking for Mrs. Right and not Miss right now. And he does tell this to the girls and they seem to kind of leave the picture, not even wanting to be a friend, yet I know well enough to keep being his friend. You think he is trying to tell me something and I am not taking it in all the way? I don’t really think he is trying to play me because he does look out for me and has not tried anything. I know this is very silly but it is still something on my mind. Any advice would be great. Thanks for making it through all this.
What I feel you should do is just kind of bring it up. It will be awkward, uncomfortable and, hopefully, it will do the trick.
Say straight up "Terry, I don't know if it's just me, but that's what I want to find out. In my mind it seems like we're always flirting and I do kind of like you and I just wanted to know if you feel the same way."
You could also say something along the lines of...
"I understand if you don't have those kinds of feelings for me and if you don't I hope it doesn't effect our friendship because I have really enjoyed being your friend for all of these _______(months, years, whatever)".
If you're as good of friends as you say you are then it shouldn't be so hard to say something. Just tell him that you wanted to kiss him on new years and you have liked him for a while now and you've been getting mixed messages and just want everything clarified. If he likes you too, great. If not, I guess you'll have to live with being just friends or start to distant yourself if it's going to cause chaos in your life.
16/female. in march im turning 17 and i havent had sex yet... all of my friends have done it already.. so i feel weird when they talk about it around me. some have boyfriends and some have just done it with radom guys at parties (which i dnt want to do).
i feel that im missing out and that im ready to do it for the first time but i dont have a boyfriend and i want my first time to be with someone i can trust and that i can remember it as being spacial.
is it weird that i havent done it yet and everyone else has and the fact i will be 17 soon.. my sister is 19 and she did it when she was 15 so i feel like i should of already.
thanx
Oh wow, of course it isn't weird that you haven't had sex yet. In fact, it's crazy that all of your friends have had sex at such a young age. Sex isn't something you do just to fit in; it is this amazing, fun experience that you share with someone you care about. I can understand the girls with boyfriends who they thought they loved but these girls just giving it up to random guys at parties - been there, it's so not worth it. Those guys won't treat you right and will only want you for sex. What happens when you have sex just to have it and nine months later here comes junior? At least if you have sex make it special with someone you really care about and who is going to treat you right. Sex is fun, no lie there, but it's so much better with someone who you care about and who cares about you in return. Don't just go looking for a guy so you can catch up with your friends, that is not how it's done. I have friends who are virgins and friends who are not. I'm 17 years old, a senior in high school and I've been through it all. If you feel uncomfortable with them discussing their sex lives just say something. Virgin or not, I get weirded out when my friends and I discuss things like that. I don't want to know how long it took for my best friend to orgasm, nor how long it took for her boyfriend to ejaculate. Yeah, I don't mind the who's the better kisser conversations or the biggest mistakes/happiest moments conversations, but no friend wants all of the details.
I know that they best advice I can give you is just to wait for someone special, don't settle for someone just to be with someone (I'm going through that with a friend right now and it's really hurting her... she was up all night last night crying about why she can't get a decent guy and it's because she'll settle for anyone who pays her any attention), and if you're ever uncomfortable with a conversation with anyone then you have to say something otherwise nothing will change.
S_C
Two questions:
1. How do you know when you orgasm?
2. Do guys orgasm? How can you tell?
1. You just know. It's an amazing feeling that you get all throughout your body. If you're a girl then it takes a lot more for you to orgasm which is why a lot of girls will fake it.
2. Ohh yeah, guys orgasm. They will ejaculate when they orgasm - they can't really control it,
whats the song that goes like this:
[[something about dissin my girl and, i dont care]]]
ya he says i dont care alot...
http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Buddy-Holly-lyrics-Weezer/DBED28A861806E14482568B600168F02
Is this what you're looking for?
i see people that cut their t-shirts on the side so it would be tighter & its like flowy on the side
dow do i get it 2 look like that
You just cut like half inch think increments of the fabric from your shirt. Then you tie them together so the shirt will be more fitted. Make sure it's even on both sides though otherwise it will turn out poor.
This link may help. I tried googling for others but I didn't know what specificially to google for.
http://au.answers.yahoo.com/answers2/frontend.php/question?qid=20071126172345AAk7enT
This one may actually be better. It's step by step directions but there aren't any pictures.
http://geocities.com/oak_r0se/tshirt.html
i'm 16 female and looking for a job. i can't work in fast food because i'm a vegetarian and the smell of meat makes me throw up. i was thinking of working in a department store where i could do recovery (taking the clothes from the dressing room back to the racks) or being a cashier. does anyone know places that hire 16 year olds? thanks.
Unfortunately, most department stores (whether or not they are in malls) will require you to be 18 before they're willing to hire you.
There are shoe stores that will hire at 16 though. A few of my friends work at The Shoe Department, Rack Room Shoes, etc.
You could also try applying at a food place that doesn't have meat such as a Coldstone Creamery or another local ice cream shoppe. You could try some basic mall clothing stores such as maybe Rue 21, The Body Shop, etc. They will usually hire somewhere around 16...
Do you think that im being easy? because me and my ex broke up with me because its not working out and fight a lot but he still like me, he wanted to get back with me but i didnt want to
but i still like him. We're friends,But we flirt a lot we hug and stuff and then when we were talking he kinda poked me near my butt and then when we were hugging he suddelny bit my ear out of nowhere 2 times did he lost my respect or am i being easy?
Nah, you're not easy. If anything you're just vulnerable and willing to flirt.
Easy is pretty much when you'll sleep with any guy just because he's horny and he wants to get with you.
Easy is when it's easy for a guy to get with you. You're not giving up sex or anything so I wouldn't consider you to be "easy".
I was at Abercrombie & Fitch yesterday, and when I went in there was this song playing and I really liked it, but it was almost over and the only thing I remember was that it was like a boy band and the last word was "Abrakadabra". BTW, this was at the Providence Place Mall in Rhode Island at like 2:30ish in the afternoon on Saturday, Dec. 22 if it matters or helps. Thanks.
This could be it...
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/s/sugar+ray/abracadabra_20133345.html
We're changing classes in a few days and one of my classes is gym(ugh!) my question is though do i go to the gym or the classroom number? or is that the number for the gym? I know you guys probably dont know, but anythign will help!
For my school the number on the schedule is the room number of the gym. When it's time for gym class go straight to the gym and see if the numbers match.
so me and this guy met a couple weeks ago and weve been talking. anyway, hes apparently already bought me a christmas present. so now i feel pretty obligated to buy him one. i mean how low would that be if i didnt? so yeah i have no idea what i could get him because we arent that close yet as far as knowing each other... nothing expensive obviously, no pictures/scrapbooks, and i cant really make anything.
he's 18.. country boy... loves hockey and monstertrucks and fire fightin. i dont wanna make him a burned cd.. even though i know he loves country, i have no idea about songs and im not a big country fan so i wouldnt have a clue. any simple but cute thoughtful ideas ??
If you know his favorite hockey team you can buy some sort of item that relates to the team. I wouldn't buy anything hockey if you don't know his team though - you could buy from the wrong team or the wrong player. Unless you bought him a hockey stick or something.
You could get him a John Deere shirt or hat...
What about one of those collectable "toy" cars. It could be a toy monstertruck or a chevy car...
I'm not so great without a lot of details on the person. This was the best I could come up with. =]
See this guy that I was with for 2 and a half years, decided that about a week ago that we shouldn't be friend anymore. We've known eachother almost 6 yrs. And Well he decided that it wouldn't be good to be friends with me anymore. It still hurts really bad, because of all the times that I need my friends it's like no one's there. I'm married and he made some dumb exscuse of why he wasn't able to tend the wedding when he said he was going to attend at least the reception. See I know it's wrong cause he was my best friend, but now since I'm married I don't know whether I should just let him go and be out me and my son's life or keep trying to keep him in my life, Please Help because all I do is mope and cry over him and I don't want to do that anymore. Nobody is worth crying over especially if they aren't crying over me for that matter.
Is there any reason your friend is behaving like this all of the sudden? Maybe, if he didn't start acting like this until he found out you were getting married, he still had feelings for you and was hurt that you had those same feelings - but for someone else. That's a tricky solution because I would assume you love your husband and your son and you wouldn't want to break up your new family for some old flame/old best friend if the friend isn't the person you love.
What you should do first is figure out the reason this guy is treating you like crap. If a friend behaves this way then I'm sorry, but he is no true friend. I understand that you've been best friends for so long, but maybe there has been something inside him saying that the friendship just wasn't working but he didn't want to hurt you. He may assume now that you're married it would have been easier to break off the friendship.
It's hard to lose someone after being friends for so long, but like you said "nobody is worth crying over, especially if they aren't crying over me..."
So, if you are hurt, which it seems like you are. let out one good cry. Take a day to mope over the loss of a really good friendship. Eat that Ben&Jerry's, watch the sad movies of lost friendships, and sit around the house in your pj's. Do whatever your usual break-up routine is. A break up is the same whether it's a friend or a loved one. It still hurts the heart and they both, well, suck. So give it 24-hours to mourn the loss of a friendship and be done with it. He was a big part of your life so you need to mourn the loss, even if he's not dead - he's still no longer going to be apart of your life.
If you bump into him in the streets be polite, friendly if you please, but don't continue on hoping he'll be in your life. If he doesn't want to be your friend and you feel there isn't much you can do to change that then don't. He could just be a pity-friend and nobody wants that.
Have your little one-day pity party and then go out for a nice dinner and movie with your family. Celebrate what you have rather than feel crappy about what isn't in your life anymore. Life is short (even if it is the longest thing we experience) and we need to live it up to the fullest. Make the people you love happy and forget the people who aren't good to you. Help someone out once in a while - pay for the person's meal who is after you in the drive through, participate in a charity, help the homeless. Don't pay so much attention to those who don't respect you or your feelings. Say goodbye and be done with them.
I recently had a scrapbooking party at my house. My sister got to meet a few of my friends from work. This was the FIRST time she had met them. I got a phone call from her a few days later, asking if she could have the home addresses of 4 of the women from my party. I didn't have the addresses on hand, so I told her I'd get back to her. She wanted to send them cards. She later told me she had looked in the phone book and gotten another one of the addresses on her own and sent a card to one of my other friends. Do I confront my sister? I think it's weird to send cards in the mail to people that are my friends that she's only met once. Also, she doesn't know the politics in my workplace. Help!
I suppose it was a little strange, but maybe she just wanted to thank them for their kindness and let them know she enjoyed spending time with them.
As I don't know the politics of your workplace I can't really comment much more on this.
Unless one of the women happen to mention being offended by this then you should just drop it. Now if you find out someone took offense to your sister's gesture maybe you should sit down and talk with her, explaining the way people are where you work and how they feel. Tell your sister that you understand she was just trying to be nice, but these people don't take to such gestures.
I wouldn't go that far unless one of the women expresses dislike towards the cards though. I will say I agree with you a little bit that what your sister did was strange, but I suppose she felt she was being courteous. So I suppose I'm just saying to drop it unless someone is taken aback/hurt by what your sister did; although I don't know why they would be.
Ok me and my sisters BEST friend usualy comes over to our house friday after school and saturday and then leaves sunday night and goes home now my sister and i live in a different town then our best friend were about 15 minutes apart anywho her mom lately has been saying she cant come over on the weekends or she can only spend the night friday night and stuff and my our friend said her mom is jealous of my parents and us because our friend always talks about how much she loves my family, my sister and i and stuff and her mom says our friend never wants to hangout with her family now the thing is, it that my sister me and our best friends are really close and ever since me and my sister moved to a different town it's been hard to hanogut with her so thats why she comes over every weekend and i mean i know why her mom would be a little upset that our friends always wants to come over here but she would want to hangout with her family if they werent always arguing and being chaotic and stuff also her moms says she wants her(our friend) home but then her mom and stepdad just stay in there room the whole and time and so does my friends so i dont see why here mom wants her there if they dont even really talk when there there does anyone know any advice for this like how we could keep our friend coming over every weekend and stuff
Wow, that was the longest sentence I have ever read - I take that back; that wasn't even a sentence... there was no period!
Anyway, to get to the advice, there are a few simple solutions to this problem.
One is that you can respect her mothers wishes and only visit on Fridays. Seeing each other once a week is not that big of a deal. You can still hang out and have fun and her parents can still spend time with their daughter on the weekends. I understand you say that her house is not much fun and that her parents just want her home for the sake of her being home - not to spend any time with her, but they are her parents after all and what they say goes. Listening to your parents isn't always fun, especially when they are trying to stop you from doing what you enjoy and when no harm is coming from it, but in the end it's going to be up to her parents.
Another solution is to maybe alternate every weekend. Maybe one weekend everyone gets together at one persons house then the next weekend you all alternate - it's really a win-win situation. That way her mom can get to know you better and maybe not be so "jealous" as you put it. She may also worry that because her daughter wants to spend so much time at your house there could be something bad going on. Maybe her getting to know you and your sister better will change that - you really never know until you try.
Remember - treat your family with respect. Treat others with more. Anytime I visit a friend's house I try and use my best manners. I'll chat with their parents, be nice to their siblings (unless it's one of those families I've known for years and have become comfortable around.. then I may just pick on them...) For me, if I consider someone family I'll be my complete self around them. I'll burp in front of them, I can be around their family without my friend around and be totally comfortable, etc. Maybe you just need to form more of a relationship with her parents so the trust is there.
If none of this works then I'm sorry, like I said before it is up to her mother. If you all go sneaking around or lying it's going to get you into worse trouble. Believe me, I've been there and done that. It took me a long time to learn certain lessons. If you still don't think that what I'm telling you is true I'll leave you with something here.
My freshman year in high school my best friends and I thought it was cool to hang out with the seniors and the older kids. We thought it was awesome to go to parties and such. Well one night we decided to be "cool" and that was the last time I ever saw my best friend. She was drinking and driving and was in a car accident. She was DOA to the hospital. They couldn't recessitate her in the ambulance. The worst night of my life was the night I deceived my parents.
So, even if you're not breaking the law - there could be some sort of freak accident where one of you are driving and someone is killed or where someone hits you and you're killed, etc. I'm not saying to live in paranoia but the worst accidents happen when there are lies involved.
S_C .. 17/f
this is a controversal subject but can you choose the sex of your baby? if so, how? i think it would be wrong but im very curious...
We learned a few years ago in my biology class that it was possible or that it would be in the future. It's a difficult, expensive, and lengthy process to do so (as far as I know).
The biological way the "dad chooses the gender". I put it in quotes because it's the fathers sperm that decides what the gender will be.
So I suppose yeah, through some scientific process you could probably choose the sex of your baby - but I don't know how long it will be an open choice.
=]
If you eat a cough drop without having a sore throat can it cause you to have one?
Nope; it's probably not the most healthy, but it won't hurt you. I pop cough drops like they're candy. The only negative effect they will have it making you immune to them which means that they may not work for you if you actually get a sore throat. It's a risk you're willing to take though...
=]
I need to find something to get my brother. But the problem is i only have like 4 dollars to my name. I was wondering if you could help me. He is 14, turning 15 january. He loves dirt bikes, drums, and soccer. Any idea as to what i can get him? Thanks...
I don't know the cost of soccer balls where you live, but they're pretty cheap around here. Less than $10. I'm sure one of your parents would be willing to front you some money or maybe you could babysit for someone for a few extra dollars.
Or, something really cheap, you can make him some sort of scrapbook or one of those movies using windows movie maker. Just upload a bunch of pictures and make some sort of slide show or something.
Or you can make him a coupon book with things you're willing to do. Examples are:
-Cook you a meal
-Clean your room
-Help you practice soccer
-Help you with your homework
etc.
Be creative =]
Is there any way I can get on blocked websites at school? There's something called proxy? But I really do not understand what that is..
Normally I would suggest k-proxy or any other proxy (which you can just google, but most schools are smart enough to block the proxy's as well (which are the only ways (I know) how to get around blocking).
You should be learning at school anyway - not screwing around on inappropriate sites.
Although if you want to be on myspace/facebook, or whatever after school then I don't see why schools make such a big deal about it. Maybe try and speak with an administrator at your school to find out.
can you put a DVD in the computer and play it, then pause it, take a screenshot of whatever scene it stops on and then have the picture of the scene in your pictures?
if so, then which buttons would you press.
That's a really good question. Honestly, I'm not 100% sure, but it's always worth a try.
Whenever you want to take the picture just pause the movie and hit the PrtScrn/SysRq button. You know where the F1-F12 buttons are? It's right after the F12, above the insert, home, page up, delete, end, page down buttons which are above the arrows.
I know that I shouldn't be answering this because I don't know for sure, but it's really worth a shot to try.
my bday is coming up and i know my boyfriend is going to do something really sweet which will later end with us being alone. (if you know what im talking about)Long story short my period should start around my bday and that will really ruin the evening plans, im not on the pill so is there any other way to delay my period for a day or 2.
Unfortunately, no. There are no ways to delay your period - none that have been proved anyway.
I would like to say that you sound very young and you should be EXTREMELY careful! You shouldn't just be having sex to have sex. If the two of you aren't in love then why would you want to? Anyway, you should be safe. There are so many STD's out there and you don't want to get them. Whether he claims to be a virgin or not you should always have the guy where a condom. It not only minimizes your chances of getting pregnant, it also minimizes your chances of contracting and STD.
Play it safe! STD's can be life threatening and an early pregnancy can really screw up your life for the time being.
please i need to know the difference between and xbox, wii, and play station 3 cause im getting one of those for christmas and i haven't decided which one i want =| thnx in advanced :)
I can't really tell you the total difference on all 3, but I can say that the Wii is my favorite of the three.
The PS2 is exactly like the ps2 except better, I don't know the word, graphics... It's the same hype that occured when they came out with a ps2.
I don't know much about the xbox except that it can play games from other systems which is kind of cool.
The wii is a lot of fun. There are these remote controls that have strings coming off of them. You tie the string thing around your wrist and tighten it so it doesn't fall off. Then you get to actually play the game.
Another reason it's my favorite is because even though it doesn't seem like it, you are getting a minimal amount of excercise while playing so you're not just sitting aroudn for an hour or more not moving at all. Plus it is loads of fun to play! I suggest the wii.
Also remeber that Christmas isn't just a time of receiving so take in mind the true meaning of the holiday and give to others whether it is a gift or just kindness...