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My friends mom
Ok me and my sisters BEST friend usualy comes over to our house friday after school and saturday and then leaves sunday night and goes home now my sister and i live in a different town then our best friend were about 15 minutes apart anywho her mom lately has been saying she cant come over on the weekends or she can only spend the night friday night and stuff and my our friend said her mom is jealous of my parents and us because our friend always talks about how much she loves my family, my sister and i and stuff and her mom says our friend never wants to hangout with her family now the thing is, it that my sister me and our best friends are really close and ever since me and my sister moved to a different town it's been hard to hanogut with her so thats why she comes over every weekend and i mean i know why her mom would be a little upset that our friends always wants to come over here but she would want to hangout with her family if they werent always arguing and being chaotic and stuff also her moms says she wants her(our friend) home but then her mom and stepdad just stay in there room the whole and time and so does my friends so i dont see why here mom wants her there if they dont even really talk when there there does anyone know any advice for this like how we could keep our friend coming over every weekend and stuff
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Wow, that was the longest sentence I have ever read - I take that back; that wasn't even a sentence... there was no period!
Anyway, to get to the advice, there are a few simple solutions to this problem.
One is that you can respect her mothers wishes and only visit on Fridays. Seeing each other once a week is not that big of a deal. You can still hang out and have fun and her parents can still spend time with their daughter on the weekends. I understand you say that her house is not much fun and that her parents just want her home for the sake of her being home - not to spend any time with her, but they are her parents after all and what they say goes. Listening to your parents isn't always fun, especially when they are trying to stop you from doing what you enjoy and when no harm is coming from it, but in the end it's going to be up to her parents.
Another solution is to maybe alternate every weekend. Maybe one weekend everyone gets together at one persons house then the next weekend you all alternate - it's really a win-win situation. That way her mom can get to know you better and maybe not be so "jealous" as you put it. She may also worry that because her daughter wants to spend so much time at your house there could be something bad going on. Maybe her getting to know you and your sister better will change that - you really never know until you try.
Remember - treat your family with respect. Treat others with more. Anytime I visit a friend's house I try and use my best manners. I'll chat with their parents, be nice to their siblings (unless it's one of those families I've known for years and have become comfortable around.. then I may just pick on them...) For me, if I consider someone family I'll be my complete self around them. I'll burp in front of them, I can be around their family without my friend around and be totally comfortable, etc. Maybe you just need to form more of a relationship with her parents so the trust is there.
If none of this works then I'm sorry, like I said before it is up to her mother. If you all go sneaking around or lying it's going to get you into worse trouble. Believe me, I've been there and done that. It took me a long time to learn certain lessons. If you still don't think that what I'm telling you is true I'll leave you with something here.
My freshman year in high school my best friends and I thought it was cool to hang out with the seniors and the older kids. We thought it was awesome to go to parties and such. Well one night we decided to be "cool" and that was the last time I ever saw my best friend. She was drinking and driving and was in a car accident. She was DOA to the hospital. They couldn't recessitate her in the ambulance. The worst night of my life was the night I deceived my parents.
So, even if you're not breaking the law - there could be some sort of freak accident where one of you are driving and someone is killed or where someone hits you and you're killed, etc. I'm not saying to live in paranoia but the worst accidents happen when there are lies involved.
S_C .. 17/f
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well since you guys are used to hanging out every weekend and her mother only wants her spending the night on fridays, maybe you and your sister can go to her house on saturdays. this way you guys can still hang out. and maybe do different things. hope i could help
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