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I am the only virgin of all my friends
16/female. in march im turning 17 and i havent had sex yet... all of my friends have done it already.. so i feel weird when they talk about it around me. some have boyfriends and some have just done it with radom guys at parties (which i dnt want to do).
i feel that im missing out and that im ready to do it for the first time but i dont have a boyfriend and i want my first time to be with someone i can trust and that i can remember it as being spacial.
is it weird that i havent done it yet and everyone else has and the fact i will be 17 soon.. my sister is 19 and she did it when she was 15 so i feel like i should of already.
thanx
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you shouldnt feel left out really. it seems like your waiting for the right person to give it away to. a lot of people regret having sex at this age because they have sex with the one they think they love and then they have sex and sometimes they get dumped or something. i think you should have sex when your ready. even if everyone else has.
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dont feel like you have to do it. your friends are going to look back on what they did and probably regret it. especially the ones that are hooking up with random guys at parties. thats just stupid. wait until you really love someone and want to do it with them.
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Don't let this peer pressure get the better of you. Just because your friends done it and your sister done it at an earlier age than you, this shouldn't bother you. Sex your first time should be special and you already know that. Those friends that do it randomly are just sluts (Don't take it personally). Your not missing out! I'm 18 and I stil haven't done it--if that makes you feel better. ^^ Do it when you feel comfortable and you are ready for it. You definatley aren't ready for it because you feel like you have to do it. When you get a trustful boyfriend and you are ready--that is the time when you should do it. Don't worry about your age. Don't let your friends taunt you because you are still a virgin. Who cares what your friends think about you--it is what you think about yourself. Don't let your friends judge you because you haven't had sex before--this is childish! Don't let your friends push you into doing something you aren't ready for. It isn't werid that you haven't done it yet--your just not ready and that's OKAY. You are still young and you have years ahead of you. There isn't a rule that you have to have sex at a certain age to be "cool" and whatever. Like you said, you want it to be specail so follow your instincts! GOOD LUCK!
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You sound like you already know what you want to do. You said you wanted your first time to be with someone you can trust so you can remember it as being special. I think that is the right idea to have.
Don't worry about your friends. I'm sure some of them regret just doing it with someone random to get it over with. I know I couldn't have just had sex with anyone, and I was glad that I waited until I knew my boyfriend was the right person.
Sex should be something special between two people, I think you should wait until you have someone you really truly feel a connection with, so you can experience it together.
Kate <3
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Awhh hun dont wory. I am still a virgin and i've had a bunch of boyfriends. (i'm 16 going on 17) I know PLEANTY of people who have yet to have sex who are our age. Don't wory about it. Just wait.
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It's not a competition here or about age. It's about being mature, ready and loving who you are with. It won't be special otherwise. Once you give up your virginity you never get it back.
Your sister may not be lying but people at school might to sound cool. Some of them who have done it might regret it. You have your whole life ahead of you to have sex.
Wait until its right. You aren't missing out on anything by waiting. In fact it may be a better experience for you if you waited until the right person came into your life. Sooner or later that will happen.
Sex is about physical, emotional, mental maturity and loving who you are with. if you don't have hose three ingredients everything is meaningless. You might enjoy the physical side of things but not remember the experience for the right reasons.
If your gut says "wait for the the right person" and "this needs to be special" obey it. You'll be better off in the long run than you think or your friends for that matter.
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No its not wierd.
First off, every one of your friends who just hooked up with a guy at a random party is an idiot. Do not imitate stupidity like that.
The point of sex is not to obtain status amongst other teenagers by having "done it"
The point of sex is to share intimacy between two people who care about each other.
Everyone wants sex. Its part of being human. Control those urges until the right time. If nothing else, your first should be a guy you trust and care about and you should be having sex with someone whom you know you can have more sex with. Look at it this way. Everyone starts out terrible at sex. You have more sex, and you learn to get better. If you have a one nighter or sleep with someone you cant have more sex with the next day, how are you going to learn?
That alone is a good reason to wait for the right guy.
Your sexuality is your own. Its not your friends. Its not your sisters. You shouldnt do things other people do because you are not them.
Show some more interest in boys you might be interested in. Chase a little more maybe. But beyond that, dont worry about it. Sex will happen when it happens, if you make it to the end of college still a virgin we'll start worrying, m'kay?
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dont feel bad your not going to be a virgin forever and you know what im glad that you want to do it with someone your trust thats the best thing you can do because no one can call you a whore! there is not rite age to do it. some are way to young others think to old but its the rite time when you feel its the rite time! dont feel left out b.c u didnt jump in bed with the first guy you saw who cares rite be happy your still pure and that guys dont have to be like ew shes to easy ya i banged that in the 5th grade uk!
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Don't worry. It's completely normal. Don't do it with some random guy. You have a good point. Your first time should be something special that you can remember, and should be with only someone that you trust and care about. You're not missing out on anything. In my opinion, wating until you've found someone you really care about and trust, will make it all the more meaningful. You're doing the right thing.
I hope I've helped :]
Good Luck, and, when you find the right guy, all I have to say is, have fun! :]
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Oh wow, of course it isn't weird that you haven't had sex yet. In fact, it's crazy that all of your friends have had sex at such a young age. Sex isn't something you do just to fit in; it is this amazing, fun experience that you share with someone you care about. I can understand the girls with boyfriends who they thought they loved but these girls just giving it up to random guys at parties - been there, it's so not worth it. Those guys won't treat you right and will only want you for sex. What happens when you have sex just to have it and nine months later here comes junior? At least if you have sex make it special with someone you really care about and who is going to treat you right. Sex is fun, no lie there, but it's so much better with someone who you care about and who cares about you in return. Don't just go looking for a guy so you can catch up with your friends, that is not how it's done. I have friends who are virgins and friends who are not. I'm 17 years old, a senior in high school and I've been through it all. If you feel uncomfortable with them discussing their sex lives just say something. Virgin or not, I get weirded out when my friends and I discuss things like that. I don't want to know how long it took for my best friend to orgasm, nor how long it took for her boyfriend to ejaculate. Yeah, I don't mind the who's the better kisser conversations or the biggest mistakes/happiest moments conversations, but no friend wants all of the details.
I know that they best advice I can give you is just to wait for someone special, don't settle for someone just to be with someone (I'm going through that with a friend right now and it's really hurting her... she was up all night last night crying about why she can't get a decent guy and it's because she'll settle for anyone who pays her any attention), and if you're ever uncomfortable with a conversation with anyone then you have to say something otherwise nothing will change.
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Not at ALL! Look what this world has come to, people thinking it's wrong to still be a virgin at 17.
Don't be influenced by your friends to have sex just because you feel "left out." It's already to be a virgin. In fact, kudos to you for still being one and saving yourself for someone special. It means you are more mature than them for waiting for someone you trust instead of just throwing it away at a young age.
Be proud of your morals, and don't follow other people.
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