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Really hurting
See this guy that I was with for 2 and a half years, decided that about a week ago that we shouldn't be friend anymore. We've known eachother almost 6 yrs. And Well he decided that it wouldn't be good to be friends with me anymore. It still hurts really bad, because of all the times that I need my friends it's like no one's there. I'm married and he made some dumb exscuse of why he wasn't able to tend the wedding when he said he was going to attend at least the reception. See I know it's wrong cause he was my best friend, but now since I'm married I don't know whether I should just let him go and be out me and my son's life or keep trying to keep him in my life, Please Help because all I do is mope and cry over him and I don't want to do that anymore. Nobody is worth crying over especially if they aren't crying over me for that matter.
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Is there any reason your friend is behaving like this all of the sudden? Maybe, if he didn't start acting like this until he found out you were getting married, he still had feelings for you and was hurt that you had those same feelings - but for someone else. That's a tricky solution because I would assume you love your husband and your son and you wouldn't want to break up your new family for some old flame/old best friend if the friend isn't the person you love.
What you should do first is figure out the reason this guy is treating you like crap. If a friend behaves this way then I'm sorry, but he is no true friend. I understand that you've been best friends for so long, but maybe there has been something inside him saying that the friendship just wasn't working but he didn't want to hurt you. He may assume now that you're married it would have been easier to break off the friendship.
It's hard to lose someone after being friends for so long, but like you said "nobody is worth crying over, especially if they aren't crying over me..."
So, if you are hurt, which it seems like you are. let out one good cry. Take a day to mope over the loss of a really good friendship. Eat that Ben&Jerry's, watch the sad movies of lost friendships, and sit around the house in your pj's. Do whatever your usual break-up routine is. A break up is the same whether it's a friend or a loved one. It still hurts the heart and they both, well, suck. So give it 24-hours to mourn the loss of a friendship and be done with it. He was a big part of your life so you need to mourn the loss, even if he's not dead - he's still no longer going to be apart of your life.
If you bump into him in the streets be polite, friendly if you please, but don't continue on hoping he'll be in your life. If he doesn't want to be your friend and you feel there isn't much you can do to change that then don't. He could just be a pity-friend and nobody wants that.
Have your little one-day pity party and then go out for a nice dinner and movie with your family. Celebrate what you have rather than feel crappy about what isn't in your life anymore. Life is short (even if it is the longest thing we experience) and we need to live it up to the fullest. Make the people you love happy and forget the people who aren't good to you. Help someone out once in a while - pay for the person's meal who is after you in the drive through, participate in a charity, help the homeless. Don't pay so much attention to those who don't respect you or your feelings. Say goodbye and be done with them.
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I know how it feels to lose a friend after feeling inseperable after so many years =/ anyways to be honest you sound really devastated. and i know it hurts, but if this so-called "best friend" of yours is putting you through all this emotional pain, then they really arent acting like a friend at all. no doubt about it, its going to be really hard to let go of someone you care about, but from the what you're saying he really doesnt care about you anymore. you're right, nobody is worth crying over especially if they arent crying over you so in my opinion you should let him go. only time can tell wether or not it'll work out, so dont dwell on it, move on with your life and if you're meant to be friends, it'll work out like it should. well i hope i've helped, good luck with this whole thing =].
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