about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

Are pixie sticks good physically to your body?

It tastes so good but I wonder of it's bad because I feel like it's kinda the same as eating a bowl of just sugar.

Thanks and when you answer can you tell me if you're a professional or not so I can know for sure?

No. It IS the same as eating a bowl of sugar simply because pixie sticks are flavored/colored sugar. They're no good for you, and I don't suggest you eat a ton of them.

I'm no professional, but it doesn't take a genius to figure it out.

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okay so my stomach has been killing me last night me and my boyfriend had sex and this morning i was bleeding for some reason. I dont get my period for another 15 days so why would i be bleeding and, i throw up at like 5am this morning. Whats wrong with me i feel so sick someone helpp quickly

I doubt you could be pregnant because it's only been a day and you haven't missed your period yet. Wait a few weeks & if you miss your period & it doesn't come, get a test. And next time, use protection because you're probably young.

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14/f
So i know this story may sound selfish but i cant help it! My bestfriend( known her since 2nd grade got closer in high school) is bestfriends with this other girl(name=chy) she meant like ONE MONTH ago and i dont mind that but everytime i make plans with my bestfriend shes like ohh sorry im hanging out with chy. im like ok .. then like in school ill ask her to hangout when shes free and she will say CAN CHY COME ill be like umm i cant go and like i make it obvious i dont like chy because chy never liked me( and ive told my bestfriend this but shes like oh) ughh.! and my bestfriends computer is broken so she tells me to go check it for her and i do and i realized that her top is :: HER COUSIN, CHY, HER SISTER,ME
i didnt tell her this cause i think its stupid.
and i just cant stop but be jealous of their friendship. How do i get over this?
=[

You need to tell your best friend how you feel. She's never gonna know if you don't come right out and tell her. Tell her you don't like Chy, and you're tired of being left out or ignored for her. If your friend is really your friend, she'll understand & try to fix things. If things don't change over about 2 weeks, be friends with someone else.

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I am 14 and in 8th grade. I got my period about a year ago and right now I am a 34 B. I have been a 34 B for about 8 months. Will my chest get bigger or will I stay this size forever? If I do get bigger, when will I grow again/stop? What is my estimate for my chest size?

FYI-my mom is a D but still I know it is possible for me to get a gene that makes me not big...my Aunt Karin is an A.

You're 14. You're still growing. You'll get bigger. If not, cherish your boobs. Size D's will only give you back pain. I know, because I have them and I speak from experience.

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Okay, so I go to this really like.. stupid school.. as in, I'm smarter than like 90% of people there.. So that means I get a high class rank, etc. & even free community college because of that.

Unfortunately, living with my mom is a complete hell. Honestly, it is pure emotional abuse with her. Of course, she IS a mom, and she does have her really nice moments, but she says I always have an attitude and completely goes off on me for that, saying I'm stupid and irresponsible, etc.

Everyone tells me that I'm about the nicest person ever and that she's wrong.. Even my dad. Which is why he divorced her. So, I sorta want to live with him, even though he is never home & always working & sometimes he can be a little harsh. Also I would be going to a sorta hard school and no free college or anything. & no seeing my boyfriend in school.. :[ & having to make new friends & stuff

So.. Should I stick it out for 3 more years or start a whole new life.. with more challenges :[?

I'm not here for ratings, so you're gonna get the truth. Rate me 1's, I don't care.

Stay with your mom. As much as her comments can hurt, you're gonna get stuff like that from everyone. Everyone in life is gonna give you shit. Not everyone is gonna like the things you may say & do. People are always gonna critisize the things you do, and they're always gonna give you an obstacle. It's life. No one is gonna hold your hand, and tell you everything's okay. No one is going to baby you. You're not a baby. You're a young adult. It's best to act like one & stop caring what people say to/about you. Yeah, she's your mom. But your mom is always gonna give you shit. My mom does, my friend's mom does, her cousin's mom does. Everyone's mom gets on their nerves, and everyone's mom gives them shit & insults them. Some kids get along great with their parents, but they have their moments.

Stick it out for 3 years. You'll learn to deal with people who give you a hard time, and people who put you down. You'll know how to react when someone does, and how to ignore it. And call me crazy, but why the hell would anyone want a challenge? Yeah, it's nice to know what you can overcome, but starting over doesn't sound like fun, especially when it's not needed. When you're 18 & graduating, yes, then you have to start over. But you don't right now. So stick it out, learn to deal, let the comments roll off your shoulder, & stay there. Besides, if you move in with your dad, no more boyfriend, and new friends that are gonna be hard to make. And you're smarter than everyone there. You should feel good about that. That means only 10% of the school is above average, like you.

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without "toys" , how can you give yourself an orgasm?

Find the spot that gets you off, and then stimulate it.

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Anyone knows where Gerard Way, lead singer of the ripping band My Chemical Romance went to Art School?
Please answer, I really want to know!

Use Google, and get his biography.

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i fingered myself today and if felt like bumpy inside like tehre were ridges i didnt like it at all

Thank you for sharing that. If you don't like it, don't do it. Instead of complaining, just not masturbating would be a better option.

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I want a friend who i see all the time and hang around with mostly and not sometimes i mean all the time and i cant see most of my friends that arent that close
But i want a friend who i see all the time

Talk to your friends during the week & make plans for the weekend in advance. You don't have to hang out everyday. You'll end up getting sick of each other.

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Did any body out there ever had to wait till that someone you truely care about came up to you and respone to your letter or something elus? how long was the wait? and if it last for more than six months and you had to ask explain what happen?

If they don't reply after a two weeks, they're probably not interested.

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i get jealous of people easily, and it's really annoying. i wasn't like this before and nothing really happened to make me jealous of people. if my friends get a cute expensive purse from their parents, or if my friend gets a ring from her boyfriend, i'll get jealous. i'd want to go shopping and find something that nobody else has that i know they'd like. same with looks, if i thikn i girl is prettier than me, i get kind of upset and i wish i were her. it's seriously super pathetic and i dont' know why i'm like that now! how can i stop being jealous?

I agree with ygsgirl. Material things aren't everything, & they won't buy you happiness. They can make you happy for a certain amount of time, but then they become just another thing. Money can make you happy, but it can go awfully quick & when it's gone, so is the happiness it brought you. I like getting new things, but they don't matter to me. I rather have the love of my family & my friends than have a new purse, or some new shoes. New purses & shoes are nice, but I've got tons of purses & shoes I can wear.

Someone may be prettier than you, but they won't be that way forever. This is probably really horrible of me to say, but just think about her face getting all messed up. Then you'll be prettier. Haha, sorry. No, but just think of how she might not be so pretty a few years from now. Besides, the ugly duckling can always turn into the beautiful swan. =)

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Okay if someone likes you and shows alot of body lang of liking you, why is that when we are with our friends she grabs my attention and flirts. but then when its the two of us and no one around she is not like that. Why? (me 20/f, her/21).

There could be another girl in your group of friends that likes you, so she takes the attention & focuses it on her so your other friend doesn't get the attention she's been seeking. Or, she could just get the joy of teasing you, & not have any actual feelings about being more than friends with you.

You need to ask her for herself.

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i am a really insecure person and i am always getting teased about the way i look kids say things like what you looking at fatty and stuff like your never gonna get a boyfriend and if you did i feel sorry for him.and i have pimples anyway i can get rid of dem help me plz.

For your acne, use face cleansers. Try ProActiv, and use other things you find at the store. I found Clean&Clear worked amazing for me. It could work for you. If it doesn't, don't be discouraged because there are tons of other products you can use to help treat your acne.

As for your weight issues:

DO's
- Eat healthy. Fruits, veggies & meats are essential.
- Drink 8 glasses of milk a day and eat yogurt [preferably Yoplait Light & Fit]. If you're lactose intolerant like me, then eat dairy sparingly so you don't get sick.
- Drink 4 glasses of water a day.
- Cut junk food out. No more desserts, no more munchies, no more candy, no more soda & no more fast food. If you're gonna eat it, make sure you eat only a small portion & make sure you don't go completely overboard with it.
- Run alot. I'm not saying to run a mile in a day, but work your way up to it. Once you can run a mile, trying going for 2, then when you conquer 2, try 3 and so on. Don't run fast though, because you'll get tired & give up. Pace yourself.
- Join a gym. They have machines that target certain areas of the body, and if you ask a trainer, they should be able to help you out. [And if you don't wanna go alone, invite a friend along, or bring your ipod & listen to music. It'll make the time go by faster.]

DONT's
- Don't eat or exercise before bed. If you eat before bed, it's gonna be really hard to digest while sleeping since basically your whole body shuts down, and you'll just gain weight. And if you exercise before bed, your muscles won't be relaxed, so you'll be antsy & it'll be hard to fall asleep.
- When you see results, DO NOT STOP. Keep going because if you stop right then, you'll just gain all your weight back. So once this healthy lifestyle starts to suit you, don't give it up at all. For the rest of your life, because if you do everything you've worked for will just have been a big waste of time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. =)

If none of that works for you, then ask Mike. He's a fitness trainer that specializes in stuff like this.

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=MikeCFT

Good luck sweetheart!

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k so ths isnt really sex but w/e. wrong categ.

hows fingerin done? im cluless bt ths stuff bt curius at da same tim.e

14f if it matters.

It's when a guy/girl sticks their fingers into a girl, & move them around to arouse her & possibly make her orgasm. For a girl, it can be either masturbation or foreplay. Foreplay if you're bisexual or a lesbian, and masturbation if you're basically any girl. And it's foreplay for men on a girl.

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ok sory but i`ma get RiGHT to the point;


my sister was supposed to be getting married in this place, but now we can`t. just leave it at that.

we live in beverly hills, california and she is gettting married on saturday & we need a place [banquet hall] that allows outside catering and yeah. COST DOESN`T MATTER, AS LONG AS IT IS AROUND LOS ANGELES COUNTY OR ANYPLACE NEAR.

PLEASe, we need help.
we are srtressing out BiG TiME!

ANYWHERE!!
PLEASE!
THAnk you so much in advance and i`m a rater even if it`s one place or whatever!


anywhere, remember

beverly hills
burbank
bel air
glendale
ANYWHERE

we are DESPRATE!

thank you SOOO MUCH!!

There's probably a lot of places where you live that offer it. Look in your local phone book & find a place. I'm sure they can do it. I'm not sure if it's tomorrow, or NEXT Saturday, so I can't exactly say if they'll be available, but just check everywhere you haven't. Good luck.

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Okay. I'm 16 and I'm a girl. Of course, I worry a lot about my appearance and what people think of me. But unlike most girls, I obsess about it. It's ruining my life and my relationships with my friends and family are suffering because of it. I'm constantly thinking things like, are they looking at me because I look bad, are they laughing at me, do my friends not want to hang out with me because I'm not pretty, etc.

Not only that, but I worry about absolutely everything else. I worry that my boyfriend is going to get killed before he comes back home (he's working in an office job in the city for two or three months so it's not like he's gone off to war), I worry about my family members getting hurt, I worry about walking out my front door because I'm scared I'm gonna get kidnapped, raped, shot at, etc. I worry that my boyfriend is cheating on me, or doesn't love me, or is using me. I worry that my friends think I'm boring or don't like me for some reason. I read way, way into everything everyone says and overanalyze it and turn it around so that it hurts me. I can go on and on but the point is: all of this worrying and self-deprecating and obsessing over everything is destroying my life.

I don't know what to do. I need advice. Please don't tell me, "Just don't worry so much!" because it's absolutely NOT that simple. Believe me, if I could just stop, I would. But I don't believe that I can. I've spoken to my mom about it, and she's suggested taking me to the doctor (with no actual intention of doing it) and I'm a little wary of doctor's and taking medication intended to change something in my head.

Anyways, can someone please give me some advice? Should I see a doctor? Is medication the right path to take? I just want to be happy with my life, and appreciate what a wonderful thing that I have, and the way I worry is keeping me from doing so.

Thanks in advance for your advice and sorry this is so long!

Worrying is normal. Analyzing things is normal. Thinking is normal. And worrying about appearance is normal. BUT at the rate you do it, it's not. And it's obviously affecting everything you do. So I'm thinking you suffer from paranoia. I've got it. I worry about everything. I wonder if I look okay, if I look fat, if people hate me, what my friends think, if they like me, hate me, if they talk about me, if my parents & family really love me, if I'm gonna make it in life, if I'm gonna get a job, if I'm gonna find love. Absolutely everything. Things I shouldn't worry about. Yes, I should be worrying about if I make it in life, but there's not a doubt I won't. And my friends love me, so why worry, right? Wrong. You can still worry about things, but to the extent which I do it...it's dangerous to my health.

For your appearance, do you not eat because you might think you're fat? Or do you wear lots of make up or whatever because maybe you think you're ugly? I can assure you that you're not, and there is nothing to worry about. If your worries about your appearance are stopping you from eating & doing other things like that, then it is definitely something to worry about because you'll get an eating disorder. If you think you look bad, look to your friends for reassurance. Ask them "Do I look good today?" or ask your mom before you leave. Of course you think, "She's my mom. She'll probably just tell me yes so I won't change & be late for school." or "She's just telling me that because she loves me & wants to spare my feelings." Wrong. Your mother is actually telling you the truth.

For your boyfriend, I doubt anything is going to happen to him. I mean, yeah he's in the city & there's dangers & all of that, but he's a man. Men can usually tend to themselves & be fine. That's just their masculinity & that's how it goes. I don't know how long he's been there, but if he's been there a while, I doubt there's a chance he's gonna get killed. I mean, he's lasted that long there, so there's nothing to worry about. I'm sure he can last the rest of the time. Secondly, I doubt he's cheating. If your boyfriend loves you, he won't cheat. It's simple. I don't know who your boyfriend is, or who you are, but I'm pretty positive your boyfriend loves you & won't fuck up the relationship. And he's probably not using you. If all he said to you was "When are we gonna have sex?" or "Let's have sex now!" or "If you don't have sex with me, we're done." or "That can be put off for later. Sex comes now." then he'd be using you. But if none of that comes from him, & sex isn't all he seems to be asking for, then he's not using you & he's not interested in just sex alone. He loves you for you & has better things to worry about than getting laid.

Your friends are friends with you for a reason. If your friends thought you were boring, why would they be friends with you? If my friends were boring, I wouldn't be friends with them. I honestly can't stand people that bore me. If you can't make me laugh, we're not friends. Same thing as if you're rude. The only reasons why your friends should be laughing at you is if you say something funny, or something sort of dumb. If they laugh at you for other reasons like you make a serious mistake, or they're laughing at your discomfort or your hurt, then they're not your friends & you need to find some new ones. Your friends do like you though. Why worry about it? Like I said, your friends are friends with you for a reason.

Your family -- you can't stop them getting hurt. You can't stop anyone from getting hurt. I mean, you can, but like a twisted ankle or maybe a black eye, no. Getting ran over by a car, or stuff like that & you're there, yes you can stop it from happening. You can either pull them back before they walk, or push them out of the way. But things like getting their heart broken or their feelings hurt, you can't stop. It's normal to worry about them, they're your family & you love them. But everyone gets hurt, and to a certain degree, you cannot stop it. I worry about my family memebers getting hurt too, but I also remember that they've got their parents or their spouses to look after them, and they don't need the extra worry.

For you worrying about getting shot, raped, or kidnapped -- that's nothing to worry about. There's always a chance that it could happen, but it more than likely won't. If you live somewhere safe, you have nothing to worry about. There's a slight worry you should have since nowhere you go/live is exactly "safe" but you should know that if you're careful, you'll be fine. Whenever I walk, I make sure there's a guy with me at all times. Whether it's a friend, my brother, my cousin -- anyone, they're with me. If I ever walk alone, sometimes I get beeped at, or whistled at by guys who are well over 30. Sometimes by guys who are young, but it still scares me. If you see someone approach you, it's probably best to run to a safe place such as a neighbor's house, a family member's home, or a close friend's place. They will take you in, and call 911. As for getting shot at, I doubt it'll happen. I'm not gonna tell you "Oh, go buy a bulletproof vest" simply because it'd be rediculous to wear one, but just make sure you look before you leave your house.

It's normal to think about what people say, but overanalyzing them is too much. Just take the nice things people say as compliments. Brush off the rude comments. And laugh at the jokes. Life is good & you can't let something like your thoughts take over because most of the time they're wrong. Your friends love you, and wouldn't be friends with you if they didn't like you. Your boyfriend is going to be fine, and he loves you & isn't using you. Your family members probably won't get hurt, and you won't get shot at, raped, or kidnapped. Don't worry so much.

I think talking to your mom about it was a good idea. Take her up on her suggestion; and see a doctor. I mean, I can sit here & tell you that you have a chance of suffering from paranoia, but only a doctor can diagnose you with it. I'm not a doctor, so I can't say for sure, but that's what it sounds like. Just see the doctor, tell them what's going on & let them diagnose you & prescribe you something. As for medication, some might not work for you, and you might go through a few before finding the right one. Also, if you do suffer from something like paranoia, don't automatically consider yourself a freak or whatever. You're not, you're normal. Lots of people suffer from things like this. Like me, I suffer from a lot. I have paranoia, clinical depression, adhd, anger issues, ocd, and I'm lactose intolerant. Just remember you're not me. Lol. Good luck!

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So There is this guy that i really like..Lets just say his name is Justin. Justin and his girlfriend broke up,and we dated in the past. Tomorrow we are hanging out at night and no ones going to be home and i know we will end up, well having sex. the thing is though i'm nervous about it. I'm totally ready for it because im totally comfortable with Justin, Any suggetion on how to calm the nerves. Maybe how to make it actually good..haha i know this is weird but i need some help and all my sibs are boys and my mom would flip.

If you could get back asap id appreciate it

Well, are you scared? You could be scared & think you're nervous. But everyone can get nervous before sex simply because it's a BIG gesture to take, and it's not something to take lightly. Sex is a huge decisiom. If you're scared, you're definitely not ready. I was completely comfortable with my ex, and before we had sex I would tell him I was nervous but ready, and then at the last minute, I'd change my mind & tell him "Oh, no nevermind I can't." He'd get pissed, but I wasn't ready. When we finally did I was okay, and out of the regrets I have, this is one of them. I only regret two things.

I'm not sure how old you are, so I'm not sure if I should advise you to wait or not. If you're young [less than 17], I am gonna advise you to wait because life is not about sex or boys. I cannot tell you not to have sex [since you'll probably go off & do it anyways], but I can help you rethink it. But just if you do have sex, please use double protection. I don't mean two condoms, but use a condom & birth control. Then again, it's best you don't have sex in case your mom & brothers were to come home early & find you. Your brothers would probably kill him & rip his penis off, and your mom would probably stick a cork in your vag. Haha, sorry if that sounds scary. Just be careful, and use protection.

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Alright, so, I'm an arachnophobic... Well, I think so.

My mom grabbed clothes from my floor and other things onto my bed and when we were done putting them away, there was a spider there. So, that means the spider must've been on something to get there, because it wasn't there before (unless it WAS? eep) & yea, the point is, she killed it.

But now, I'm afraid of even going near where that spider was, & now I think they could be on my floor, or in my clothes..

And logically, I think, well it's dead. & it was there the whole time and I didnt freak out until I saw it so whats the problem..?

BUT I don't know and I can't get over it! Pleaseee.. I want to be able to sleep in my bed again :( haha.. i know.. sounds very stupid.. but plz.. help?

Me too. There was just a spider in front of my face falling from the ceiling from it's web. And I didn't know what it was until I realized it was a spider & freaked out. I killed it and took it to the bathroom & flushed.

I know exactly how you feel. If there's a spider in my room, I won't sleep there until it's killed & my parents can reassure me there are none in my room. Just check your bed sheets, and check your clothes before you put them on. I do that everyday before I put something on because I'm scared some unwanted neighbor is gonna be in them.

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evanescence's song tourniquet explains me right now. the first line i tried to kill the pain but only brought more. yea i cut im fed up with my life. im cutting dieing screaming praying bleeding crying pretty much going crazy at the moment. i need help from anyone and everyone. just help me give me advice pleeaaaaaaaase soon befor its too late for me. i regret it. its deep

I'm not exactly sure you're asking me for help on how to stop cutting, but if so, here:

First, you need to go to your parents before something bad happens to you. If you cut yourself, and cut deep, you're probably gonna need stitches. Since I don't know where you cut yourself, I can't exactly say what's gonna happen to you. But if you get to the hospital NOW, you can probably get it fixed up & be okay.

I stopped cutting when I realized I was hurting everyone around me. I hurt my friends, I hurt my family, and I was hurting myself. It made me think my problems were disappearing but I was only focusing on the physical pain & not my emotional pain. And after everything was said and done, I still had my problems, so cutting was NOT helping me.

I was admitted into the hospital a year ago for an overdose on medicine, and for cutting. I stayed for a few hours until they decided I was okay, and I could leave. I took 16 extra strength tylenols, and I had cuts everywhere. The nurses looked at me with sad faces, and looks of disappointment. The nurse who was taking care of me asked me why I would do such a thing to myself. Telling me I was pretty, and had a lot to live for. And if I died, I wouldn't get to experience life like I should. Another thing about the hospital, it was scary for me. I seen people with their bones coming out of their skin from accidents, and people who were super thin with eating disorders. I saw people who had got into car accidents with blood everywhere. I even saw someone die right in front of me. And I made a vow I'd never go to the emergency room again. I'd go if family was there, but for myself? No way. It scared the living shit out of me, and I've done well to not go back. It's a scary place.

When my mom finally showed up, she started crying. My mom didn't like seeing her 15 year old daughter hooked up to machines to monitor my heart, and everything else. My mom didn't like seeing all of my scars & freshly cut wounds over a boy. My mom didn't like any of it, and I had to watch my mother break down & cry in front of me because of something I had done. I don't get along with my mom sometimes, but hurting her & seeing her cry was the worst feeling in the world. And no matter how mad I get at her, I still think about that time & feel bad & go apologize. And when I was laying in that hospital bed, I had a pyschologist analyze me & he decided I was okay to go home. He initially wanted to keep me in the Pysch Ward for 6 weeks. I wouldn't get to go to school & see my friends. I wouldn't get to see my family [unless they visited] and I wouldn't be able to do anything for myself. I'm glad that man said I was fine to go home.

Knowing I hurt people made me stop. I found new techniques to deal with the pain. When I got upset, I'd eat or sleep. Or I'd write & listen to music. I still do that. I don't cut anymore, and I'm proud to say I haven't since September. If I can go without cutting for that amount of time, I can probably go without for the rest of my life, and I'm trying. It's a day by day thing that I deal with. I get my depression here & there, but I do NOT give in no matter how bad I want to.

Let music help you. Let your friends & family help you. Hurting someone because of something you did is the worst thing you can do. And if I regret anything, it's been cutting. So please stop. You can be anything you want, but you'd never get that chance if you died. And once you die, there is no coming back. That's it. So go to the hospital, and try to get some help for yourself sweetie. Life is amazing, cherish it.

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im a sophomore right now. i plan on joining the army when i turn 17, which is in january, if i can get parental consent. which means i would go to basic training summer '08, come back and graduate, then go to to AIT. then go active duty and go overseas. but i still want to to go to college. my teacher was telling me i should do a ROTC college? how would i go about that?

I believe there's the option of doing college while in the Army or doing it when you get out. You might wanna talk to the recruiters about that.

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