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tourniquet song is my life


Question Posted Thursday April 12 2007, 11:56 pm

evanescence's song tourniquet explains me right now. the first line i tried to kill the pain but only brought more. yea i cut im fed up with my life. im cutting dieing screaming praying bleeding crying pretty much going crazy at the moment. i need help from anyone and everyone. just help me give me advice pleeaaaaaaaase soon befor its too late for me. i regret it. its deep

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xWACKYJACKIEx answered Friday April 13 2007, 11:30 am:
Oh hunny. Theres one thing you need to do. Is stop. Don't cut yourself anymore. Thats the first step. You need to think things over. Why are you doing this?
Cutting isn't going to help yourself any. It doesn't take away pain, and it doesn't do anything but leave scars on your wrists that never go away.
How would I know, right? I have cut before. I told one of my best friends and she starting crying and she wanted to get me help. Refer to some friends, or a close family member for help.
I am here to help, if you need anymore help, please contact me in my inbox.

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Brandi_S answered Friday April 13 2007, 1:09 am:
Hi. Yah. I answered your last question.
It sounds like you mostly hate your life because of the opinion of others.

Why cut yourself because other people are jerks?
Like I said, your friend's parents will one day realize that they can't make him stop being your best friend.

Hurting yourself, or ending your life because what other people think about you is silly.
Like I said, why give them the satisfaction of knowing they can get so far under your skin like that?

And know this: You love Evenescence, and their song explains you. Fine. But they didn't put it on the airwaves to make you feel bad about yourself and hurt yourself, now did they?

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xoLoLaox answered Friday April 13 2007, 1:09 am:
CALM DOWN.
drink some cold water.
take 3 deep breaths.
PLEASE.
go out with yer friends, read a book, watch DiSNEY CHANNEL.

don`t be so DRAMATiC. don`t cut yerself, there is NO POiNT. you can rate ONE or whatever, but you SERiOUSLY need to CALM DOWN. yer a CHiLD.
stop listening to that music, and GO OUTSiDE.
TAKE THERAPY.


PLEASE..

christ<3

<3L.

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solightninglove answered Friday April 13 2007, 1:05 am:
please dont give up hope. i can't imagine what you must be going through. but you cant give up. sometimes i feel like i want to die too. but just breathe okay. its hard. ive known so many people who've hurt themselves in the past. to read this makes me sad because i know so many people and afraid and lost and scared and they arent asking for help. you are. i want you to know that your very brave. do you want to talk about why you feel this way. i hope you know there are people who care and love you more than anything. i know its asking a lot from a complete stranger but, just dont give up okay?

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askforanswersfromAndie answered Friday April 13 2007, 1:05 am:
hun how bad are you bleeding? take a towl and some ice aply presure to the cut, i need to know how bad to tell you the extent ou neeed to do,if its to bad you need ot tell some one and go to the hospital so you don't bleed to death

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christina answered Friday April 13 2007, 12:20 am:
I'm not exactly sure you're asking me for help on how to stop cutting, but if so, here:

First, you need to go to your parents before something bad happens to you. If you cut yourself, and cut deep, you're probably gonna need stitches. Since I don't know where you cut yourself, I can't exactly say what's gonna happen to you. But if you get to the hospital NOW, you can probably get it fixed up & be okay.

I stopped cutting when I realized I was hurting everyone around me. I hurt my friends, I hurt my family, and I was hurting myself. It made me think my problems were disappearing but I was only focusing on the physical pain & not my emotional pain. And after everything was said and done, I still had my problems, so cutting was NOT helping me.

I was admitted into the hospital a year ago for an overdose on medicine, and for cutting. I stayed for a few hours until they decided I was okay, and I could leave. I took 16 extra strength tylenols, and I had cuts everywhere. The nurses looked at me with sad faces, and looks of disappointment. The nurse who was taking care of me asked me why I would do such a thing to myself. Telling me I was pretty, and had a lot to live for. And if I died, I wouldn't get to experience life like I should. Another thing about the hospital, it was scary for me. I seen people with their bones coming out of their skin from accidents, and people who were super thin with eating disorders. I saw people who had got into car accidents with blood everywhere. I even saw someone die right in front of me. And I made a vow I'd never go to the emergency room again. I'd go if family was there, but for myself? No way. It scared the living shit out of me, and I've done well to not go back. It's a scary place.

When my mom finally showed up, she started crying. My mom didn't like seeing her 15 year old daughter hooked up to machines to monitor my heart, and everything else. My mom didn't like seeing all of my scars & freshly cut wounds over a boy. My mom didn't like any of it, and I had to watch my mother break down & cry in front of me because of something I had done. I don't get along with my mom sometimes, but hurting her & seeing her cry was the worst feeling in the world. And no matter how mad I get at her, I still think about that time & feel bad & go apologize. And when I was laying in that hospital bed, I had a pyschologist analyze me & he decided I was okay to go home. He initially wanted to keep me in the Pysch Ward for 6 weeks. I wouldn't get to go to school & see my friends. I wouldn't get to see my family [unless they visited] and I wouldn't be able to do anything for myself. I'm glad that man said I was fine to go home.

Knowing I hurt people made me stop. I found new techniques to deal with the pain. When I got upset, I'd eat or sleep. Or I'd write & listen to music. I still do that. I don't cut anymore, and I'm proud to say I haven't since September. If I can go without cutting for that amount of time, I can probably go without for the rest of my life, and I'm trying. It's a day by day thing that I deal with. I get my depression here & there, but I do NOT give in no matter how bad I want to.

Let music help you. Let your friends & family help you. Hurting someone because of something you did is the worst thing you can do. And if I regret anything, it's been cutting. So please stop. You can be anything you want, but you'd never get that chance if you died. And once you die, there is no coming back. That's it. So go to the hospital, and try to get some help for yourself sweetie. Life is amazing, cherish it.

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