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ok this is probably the dumbest question you'll ever come across but i can't help wondering and i am sure other women have been wondering too...
so i watched "p.s: i love you" right.... and me and my gals fell head over heals for the dead husband dude and were arguing whether he's just a conjured ideal fantasy or if men like that truly exist. not to sound like a pessimist... all the men in my family are chauvinistic bastards who believe that if their girlfriends or wives or whatever get raped they'll be too disgusted to touch her again... (i know boohoo for me lol) and most of the men i know if not all have cheated in some way or another (even without actually committing the dead) on their lovers.. so thats something i am convinced, or even more so, believe is an unchangeable fact about the nature of men... but hey it doesn't necessarily mean they are bad or that i am a man hater..... anyway i know not all men are like my family men coz my boyfriends are sweet hearts... but the latter is true (about the cheating)....thing is i am not convinced that perfection exist and frankly that guy was perfect in every way... i mean even his flaws make him perfect. so i argued for fantasy...
a friend of mine told me something that i feel too uncomfortable to say again that made me think of the possibilities .... do men like jerry exist???? seriously... what man still loves a women who throws shoes at his face and yells at him every single minute of their presence together?
please give me ammo to slap her back to earth!
Oh my, I saw that yesterday and yes, he is my new fantasy husband. First of all, you have to realize that this is a MOVIE we're talking about. But yes, there are many men like that out there; and you don't really know if she did that all the time. All relationships are meant to have arguments (especially since Gerry and Holly had been married for 9 years). Perfection is in the eye of the beholder, therefore, YOU may think Gerry was perfect... depending on what "perfect" really means to you. I'm sorry for what you have perceived of all men due to the men in your family, but all human beings (including men! lol) are different in many ways. In conclusion, the character of "Gerry" was pretty much meant to portray all the different characteristics in a typical man... and keep in mind that this is a chick flick. But hey, EVERYTHING is possible, so don't put yourself down, and frankly, you should truly believe that there is that PERFECT man out there waiting for you & that you'll be his perfect woman.
:]
xoxo,
L!
I want to pierce my belly button but my praents won't let me so I was thinking about doing it at home. If I did this though, I'd have to buy one of those kits (yess they'll be steril), but could anything go wrong? I'm sure a lot could haha, but what could, and what are the chances that they would go wrong are?
I'd probably buy something like this:
http://cgi.ebay.com/100-STERILE-Navel-With-Banana-Bar-Piercing-KIT-GUIDE_W0QQitemZ150196740360QQihZ005QQcategoryZ72871QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
Thanks & Happy Holidays
If your parents aren't letting you get one, there's a reason.
First of all, my friend got her belly button pierced [using a home kit] and it got all red, blotchy, and infected. Don't do it. And plus, my other friend got her belly button pierced professionally, and when you take the ring out, your stomach will look like shiat. trust me. just don't do it. those piercing are so out anyway.
Happy holidays!
xx
L.
how to down load lime wire songs to ipod
Ok well you go to the top tabs where it says "search", "moniter", and "Library". Click on Library". The pick which songs you would like and click "Enqueue". then click "save as" and save the songs into your ipod/itunes folder.
Happy Holidays!
xx
L.
Okay so I had NO IDEA what to get my boyfriend of almost a year for Christmas. But he's really religious, so i got him a little $10 woven braclet with a cross (its not girly, or anything. haha). But, he keeps dropping hints that he's getting me some really expensive jewelry. Should i get him something more?
My dad said guys dont take that personally. They just think its the thought that counts, and he wont mind at all. But, I still feel really bad about it. Do you think i should spend a little more?
thank you for ANY help.
xoxo. (:
ps. he's not materialistic at ALLLL. just fyi.
Ok, well, I think what you got him is very thoughtful- I believe he'll take into consideration that you remembered that he's a religious person.
I don't think you should worry about spending more $$$. You should maybe try making him a nice scrapbook. Or, a tiny book about all of you "Remember the time we..." moments. That's just pretty much a little notebook of cute moments you shared together. And to top it off, write a card. A warm, heartfelt, sincere card. Since he's not materialistic, I believe he'll adore any of these gifts PLUS the bracelet you got him.
Good Luck!
Happy Holidays!
xx
L.
I got a new acne medication from my dermatologist. Its clearing up my skin wonderfully, but now, my skin has become really dry (before it tended to be alittle oily), when i put on moisturizer its burns soooo badly adn makes my face all red and blotchy. I tryed a sensitive skin moistursing lotion adn that burns just as bad. I Just started this new medication adn its working well otherwise, so i dotn want to stop it. Does anyone have any REALLY REALLY good moisturizer or moisturizing mask that i can put on adn will instantly help my dry skin WITHOUT burning it? Thank you soo much
If I were you, I would speak to my dermatologist.
But, if you don't want to do THAT, my advice would [also] be to just give your skin a break. Sometimes, skin needs to be aired out, you know.
Also, skin usually gets dry because you have stopped your usual method of...something. For example, if you were using a certain face wash daily before and you switched to something else/stopped, then that's what'll happen until your skin adjusts to this new medication.
Happy Holidays!
xx
L.
my grandma told me i was developing a hunched figure the other day, and now im trying to sit straight and trying to catch myself every time i hunch. Is there any way to rpevent this?
The best thing to do is to stand against the wall and align your back (your whole body) with the wall. And stay that way. Just catch yourself everytime. But you have to get to it, because one you start going through puberty, your spine begins to harden, and if you're hunched, you will most likely stay hunched. I heard it directly from the doctor's lips!
xoxo
L.
About a week ago, I felt very uncomfortable. I was talking to someone during school, and somehow we got into the conversation of homosexuality.
She was disgusted, blunt about how all gay people should be burned to death, that they chose to be rebellious and gay and they would rot in hell forever. I, myself, am not gay, but I was so taken back by what she was saying. I told her that I did not believe in God, and that I believe that people do not choose their sexual orientation. Mind you, I am not ignorant. I was raised to believe in God, but as I have gotten older (17) I have realized my own views.
She flat out told me that I was going to hell along with all the gays, muslims, buddhists, non-believers, jews, etc; Asked why I was defending gays, and then decided to accuse me of being gay for not agreeing that gays are disgusting.
I stayed calm, and asked he what she would do if she birthed a gay child. She told me should would lock it in a closet or in their room and not let it come out until it was straight.
I am just feel offended and imposed upon. Just because I do not believe in the same thing she, or the majority of people in my area (i live in the south) do, doesn't mean I should be yelled at and accused, and meant to felt horrible about myself.
I don't impose my views upon others, but I just felt so uncomfortable when she was basically giving me a one way ticket to hell.
Should I just forget about it, and disregard her?
Help. :/
You have to understand that there are going to be MANYY people like that in your life; people wjo will judge you, torment you, and spit on your opinion. The only thing you personally can do is respect yourself and your beliefs; do not "disreguard" that conversation...always have it in memory to remind you that there is always going to be someone, or a 100 someones, who are going to not only disgaree with you, but also be disgusted by you & you yourself have to know your own values and principles.
As for that person, if you don't like what she says to you, disreguard HER. Pretend she's not there. But if you like her, don't judge her by her beliefs. Don't judge her PERIOD. Treat others as YOU would like to be treated.
Stay strong and let me know what happens.
xoxo
L.
for a while now ive been planning to break up with my man but ive never gotten the courage to do so , and today i wish i had cuz this black guy, cameron came up to me and was like so are you single, and i had to tell him no cauz my boyfriend just walked up beside me, adn cameron was like oh then he yelled across the room "sorry man but she's taken!" i tried to se who it was but everyone had turned in our direction since he yelled! i really want to find out who it was cauz hello camerons only freind are black and ive just wanted to know what its like dating a black guy! how do i break up with my bf with out him thinking i dumped him for my mysterious black guy!?!
Ok so first of all stop calling Cameron "the black guy". The color of your skin shouldn't distinct who a person is, but I should be a part of them. If you're not fully committed to your bf, then break up with him, but if yur only dating him because he's African American, that's messed up.
so i was at starbucks today and the barista is really cute and i go there a lot and we chat and today he was telling me how it was slow there that day and he was doing a crossword puzzle and was asking me for help w/ some of the answers. so next time i go i wanna let him know i'm interested. i am thinking about getting him a book of crossword puzzles and in the front cover like putting my nuumber?
any opinions on this idea?
That's brilliant!
I would totally go with that :]
There isn't much to be said except for good luck, love, and let me know how it goes!
xoxo
L.
hey so theres this guy... and we went out for like a week. hes indian but hes pretty good looking. but anyways we both kindaa like each other and were wicked good friends. however i feel bad because if he asks me out, i would say no... and this sounds really mean but it might be because of his looks.
like i thought to myself, if he wasnt indian and he was amazingly good looking then i would probably go out with him. i swear im not racist!! is this really bad??!
14/f
Don't be so shallow.
Look past that stupid stuff!
But if you really don't feel comfortable with im, then don't be bf/gf with him. Stay good friends, there's nothing wrong with that. You have to be REALLy comfortable with your boyfriend, so yeah.
What is the movie/book
where the red fern grows about?
Can i please have a really good description.
I need to know the exact details, and what happens. And the whole book/movie. Not just the main part; if you know what i mean
thank you so much.
Uhm, if this is for an assignment or whatever, you should be reading the book/movie. But whatevs.
try going onto www.sparknotes.com;
that'll show you :)
Hope I helped!
hey so my boyfriend and i have a great relationship. we are never awkward at all and we talk ALL the time. but today i was feeling really tired and just not that talkative and i noticed after i got home from school that we didnt talk at all. and i feel like the only reason we didnt was that i didnt talk to HIM. i doubt he did it purposely but like.. he could have said something to me without me having to come up to him and say something. also he really shows he likes me when we just hang out alone, (kissing/holding hands) but at school he just like treats me like a friend and most of the time when we are around other people even out of school. i dont want him to be all lovey dovey around me when other people are around.. but it would be nice for him to do some things to remind me that he really likes me. what are some ways i can tell him this but like.. joking around kind of way. cause i dont see it as a big deal i have to confront him about really. or do you think i should just let it go?
thanks
Well first of all, he porbably doesn't show affection around you because he probably isn't into PDA {public display of affection}. Also, if you TOLD him not to do anything like that, even in a joking way, then he won't do it at all, which is a sign that he really does like you and respects you. And maybe he sensed that you didn't feel like talking, especially if you told ANYONE, because they may have told him.
I think you should talk to him. Like you mentioned before, you guys are really close and both like each other a lot, and it takes WAY more than a little confrontation to mess that up.
Hope I helped! Let me know how things go!
xoxo
L
Basically there is this girl, Nikki nobody likes her. She had friends at one point and then everybody turned on her including me. I'm friends with a 'popular' girl Lindsey. And Lindsey is rude and snobby but she's kind to me. I'm not 'populer' me and Lindsay just hangout during school. I dont like Nikki either, and she knows it. But today I was hearing Nikki and her friend talking about, Nikki cutting herself. I saw it was true, I know it was she showed her friend her scars [I saw them there is two]. And I dont know why I did thing..to Nikki and anybody who's going to sit there and think they never made a bad decision knowing it was wrong and did it anyways is a lair, we've all done it. I told Lindsey, It was a bad idea she's going to tell everybody she hasent, yet. I'm about 50% sure she will. But I know Nikki started cutting because of Lindsey, I know it. I don't know what to do, Suggestions? comments? I feel awful that she cuts herself and I know Lindsey, And Some what of Me and her own self image issues affect this cutting.
I'm in middle school 8th grade.
Did you by any chance go to a school in which the nmae starts with a "B"?
Ok me and my GF have been going out since halloween, we were talking for like a month and half before that and I love her so much. She said that she doesnt like public display of affection. But here is the thing she hugs everone of her freinds guy or not right before class, and barley ever hugs me:S, im confuesed here cause isnt that there hugging somone affection? But sometimes i feel like she doesnt even know im alive help me??? Oh and the othere day at my house she offerd me a hand-job but how can she show her afferction for me by giving me a handjob but she cant even give me a hug?
Dump her. She OBViOUSLY isn't worth it. One of my friends had this guy that she liked/loved but she stopped. She didn't want to dump him so she tried to get him to dump her by flirting with the other guys and stuff. Girls do that; we're bitches, sorry!
xoxo
Lola.
anyone know who sings the song that goes:
"i wouldnt care if you were a prostitute and that you hit everyman that u knew it wouldnt make a difference if that was way before me and you."
"You And Me" by Musiq.
The thing is, I'm rather poor. The only expensive thing I have is my camera. It's not much really. It's about $200 or less than that. I'm really into photography and it means so much to me.. because it's a one time thing- it's not like I can get a job or allowance to buy another one..
My friend broke it. The lens are messed up. She opened it and as the lens opened, the camera dropped. Now whenever I turn it on, it shows a blank white screen OR "lens error" usually.. this problem is fixed by opening the battery lid and closing it. Turning it back on and it doesn't help now. It only helps after about 6 or so times doing it. Even when I try to take a picture, this white screen pops up or the errors screen does.
I'm clumsy too but with my camera, I'm not. So I don't know. My friend has had really good cameras, more expensive than mine. My boyfriend is telling me to get her to buy me a new camera since she's the one who broke the lens.
I don't know what to do.
Take your camera to your nearest Costco or Best Buy.
Take it to ''Tech Support''
The same thing happened to my cousin's camera.
OR
Call The Geek Squad.
They really help.
If not, then ask your friend to repay you or something in the classiest way possible.
Hi, I'm 14, soon to be 15 in 13 days, female.
My family has recently become poor. I've never been a person to shop at Hollister or anywhere that expensive, buttt, according to my mom and dad, we're almost in debt, and we can't pay our monthly bills. We can't afford my school clothes, so I'm having a yard sale.
My dad, tonight, just told me that we might not have enough to send me to Drivers Ed this September. I got really upset, and he still has to look into the finances.
I told him I was angry because we were poor, and he said whatever and left. What do I do about all of this? I think I hurt my dad's feelings, and yet I'm literally crying because we don't have enough money for anything anymore, I can't stop crying.
... please help. What should I do? My birthday will probably be the worst ever.
Well instead of thinking of just yourself and drivers ED, think about your family and your house!
You may lose everything and if you keep acting insensitive toawrds their feelings, then you WILL have to worst birthday ever.
Sorry to be such a jerk, but this is the truth babe.
Tell your dad you're sorry and tell him that it's OK that you can;t afford it and ask him if there's anything you can do to help them.
As for the driving thing, ask your parents or someone else older who can drive to teach you!
I'm really sorry about your situation, but i think you're doing a very right & smart thing having a yard sale.
Just don't worry about little things like that, and focus more on the future, and how it WILL be better.
:)
anyone know how to find out what someones profile song is if they have it hidden on myspace.
thank you.
Go to Edit Profile.
And go to the place where you can edit YOUR music profile.
In the adress bar, there is going to be a 9 digit number; your friend ID.
now go to you friends profile and get his/her friend ID. then copy His/HER friend ID into the music profile of YOURS!
Or just ask him/her.
:)
HI,,
I really really like this guy, and he says he likes me too,, but he likes my friend,, and my friend doesnt know i like him. We have been getting on really well, and i love him, and he says he does too, but because he likes the friend of mine aswel, and my friend like him, i am stuck in the middle, and i have no idea how to sort it! I would love to be with him more than anything, but how do i tell my friend i like him??
PLEASE HELP!!
ANNA =]]
Tell Your Friend.
Simple As That.
If she is a true friend, she'll understand, and plus, if the guy finds out she likes him too, he might go out with her and if he is going to do that, that neither of him are worth it.
i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly.
Just TELL someone.
No on will hate you; whyy would they??
YOU have done NOTHiNG WRONG, and it is NOT YOUR FAULT this horrible thing happened.
Tell your parents. THey will definately belive you, they love you and your their CHILD.
So don't keep it all in, or it WILL destroy you.
Just tell