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do they exist
ok this is probably the dumbest question you'll ever come across but i can't help wondering and i am sure other women have been wondering too...
so i watched "p.s: i love you" right.... and me and my gals fell head over heals for the dead husband dude and were arguing whether he's just a conjured ideal fantasy or if men like that truly exist. not to sound like a pessimist... all the men in my family are chauvinistic bastards who believe that if their girlfriends or wives or whatever get raped they'll be too disgusted to touch her again... (i know boohoo for me lol) and most of the men i know if not all have cheated in some way or another (even without actually committing the dead) on their lovers.. so thats something i am convinced, or even more so, believe is an unchangeable fact about the nature of men... but hey it doesn't necessarily mean they are bad or that i am a man hater..... anyway i know not all men are like my family men coz my boyfriends are sweet hearts... but the latter is true (about the cheating)....thing is i am not convinced that perfection exist and frankly that guy was perfect in every way... i mean even his flaws make him perfect. so i argued for fantasy...
a friend of mine told me something that i feel too uncomfortable to say again that made me think of the possibilities .... do men like jerry exist???? seriously... what man still loves a women who throws shoes at his face and yells at him every single minute of their presence together?
please give me ammo to slap her back to earth!
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There is no such thing as perfection.
However, some people just fit. Thats the best way to describe it. Their flaws help them to understand you and your flaws do the same towards them. You can put up with each others bullshit that comes in between the loving, sweet, sensual, and mundane good moments you share.
As to quality of men, yes there are better men than you know out there. There are also worse men.
Something to keep in mind for perspective sake. Everyone has flaws. But lets say you date a guy and you hate a few things about him and its a dealbreaker, another person with different views might not say the same thing. They might be flaws that the new person can understand or deal with better than you could.
And to be honest, few men will love an abusive woman. Some men would be just as abusive back, some men would cower and just let you walk all over them because they cant do any better.
Not every man is a Chauvanist. Not by half. You need to swim in better ponds if you want to find better guys.
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I love this question.
I've wondered about it practically my whole life, and I think I have finally come up with a reasonable answer:
Yes, men like Gerry exist, though they are very rare to come by.
However, perfection does not exist. Gerry was not perfect; he may have seemed as though he was, but he was not. No one is perfect, so your friend was right in that aspect.
Honestly, when you find the right guy, you will think even his flaws are perfect for you.
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Oh my, I saw that yesterday and yes, he is my new fantasy husband. First of all, you have to realize that this is a MOVIE we're talking about. But yes, there are many men like that out there; and you don't really know if she did that all the time. All relationships are meant to have arguments (especially since Gerry and Holly had been married for 9 years). Perfection is in the eye of the beholder, therefore, YOU may think Gerry was perfect... depending on what "perfect" really means to you. I'm sorry for what you have perceived of all men due to the men in your family, but all human beings (including men! lol) are different in many ways. In conclusion, the character of "Gerry" was pretty much meant to portray all the different characteristics in a typical man... and keep in mind that this is a chick flick. But hey, EVERYTHING is possible, so don't put yourself down, and frankly, you should truly believe that there is that PERFECT man out there waiting for you & that you'll be his perfect woman.
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xoxo,
L!
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