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Cutting and being rude.
Basically there is this girl, Nikki nobody likes her. She had friends at one point and then everybody turned on her including me. I'm friends with a 'popular' girl Lindsey. And Lindsey is rude and snobby but she's kind to me. I'm not 'populer' me and Lindsay just hangout during school. I dont like Nikki either, and she knows it. But today I was hearing Nikki and her friend talking about, Nikki cutting herself. I saw it was true, I know it was she showed her friend her scars [I saw them there is two]. And I dont know why I did thing..to Nikki and anybody who's going to sit there and think they never made a bad decision knowing it was wrong and did it anyways is a lair, we've all done it. I told Lindsey, It was a bad idea she's going to tell everybody she hasent, yet. I'm about 50% sure she will. But I know Nikki started cutting because of Lindsey, I know it. I don't know what to do, Suggestions? comments? I feel awful that she cuts herself and I know Lindsey, And Some what of Me and her own self image issues affect this cutting.
I'm in middle school 8th grade.
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most real cutters aren't itching to show people their scars. if someone is doing that (showing it off) it's most likely for the attention and this girl knows what she's doing. but let's say this girl is for real, you don't know why she's doing it and you can't completely blame yourself because you don't know what this girl is going through outside of school. If she hasn't actually come up to you and asked for your help you don't owe her anything. that may sound harsh, but sometimes people just need to deal with things by themselves.
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often times, kids your age will do things like this to gain attention- ive seen it happen all the time, more than i could count on both my hands- id jsut wait it out. nikki obviously is disturbed by somethnig in her lfie, and feels that she needs this attention-= so jsut dont give it to her. the more you give to her, the more she'll continue to do it, because she knows its working.
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Hmmm tuffy.The only thing I can say be kind to her to show that you care about her,she probably thinks no one cares and sometimes that is why some teens cut them selfs(Oh I'm 13 and in 7th grade so want to become pen pals you know where to get me)but be christlike toward her who knows you could change a life
But if here is hotline I got from a carolweston page 1-800-855-HOPE
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Hun, if this Nikki girl goes around showing people her cuts then it's cries for attention. Just to be sure though, tell a counselor. No one should hurt themselves because of someone else, no one should hurt themselves period. SO, inform an adult and don't be rude to her just cause your friends are or because no one else likes her.
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