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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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is it true that when you put butter on your boobs, they grow bigger???????/???//??//?
nopee. hahaa. if that were even the least bit true, all girls would be out buying tons of butter. sorry to burst your bubble :]
good luckk, xxo.
19 female. i like and HAVE liked this guy joe who is 18, for awhile now. we're pretty good friends too, so you wouldnt think it would be hard for me to ask him to hang out right? WRONG.
i'm always so nervous of getting rejected, who isnt? so i never ask him to hangout, i rarely text him first, it's how i am. lately i've been getting better. my friend gave me 4 free tickets to a major league baseball game sunday, so of course i think about asking joe to come. this was our conversation:
me: hey my friend is giving me four tickets for the baseball game friday. i'm going to find two other people to come, but do you want to come?
him: i have a football game.
me: on a sunday? werid. just thought id ask.
him: you said friday!
me: oh sorry i meant sunday.
him: what time?
me: 1:10
him: i have a hockey game.
...REJECTED:( i mean i know he's not lying, i know he does play hockey and football, he wouldnt lie to me but i just feel dumb. and i have these handcuffs and he stole the keys from me so then i was like:
me: will you like leave my keys at your neighbors tomorrow since me and my friend will be over there (i didnt want it to be a hassle and bug him so i said that..)
him: just come get them
me: will you be home?
him: sometime yea
me: ok i'll just text you and see if your home
him: alright
is it me or does he always seem short with me? or is that how boys just are? and now i have to see him tomorrow, i will be embarassed because i asked him to go to the game and he couldnt. maybe its just me overanalyzing but i dont know. what do you guys think?
no no no no nooo. boys are just like that, well most boys. I know my boyfriend is. It's like he uses the least amount of words as possible hahaa. You're just overanalyzing it. If he was flat out rejecting you because he DIDNT want to see you he wouldnt have asked you like the time and stuff. trust me, I know what I'm talking about haha. and since he said "just come get them" about the key thing, it means he wants to see you, rather than just drop them off at his neighbors house. which is good :] it's his subtle way of saying he'd like to see you.
this whole thing wasnt rejection at alll. it was just kinda like ... bad timing.
hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. have fun ! and dont sweat it so much :] good luck, xxo.
I like this guy at school, and he likes me, he asked me out at the start of the year like 2nd day of school and i said no because im not the most confident person around guys. I gues is how i would put it. He told me a couple of weeks ago he still has feelings for me and that he loves me. Then he asked me what i thought of him i told him i do like him to and yeh from then on we got closer. He is now my boyfriend. Im a shy kind of person and im happy to admit that but it gets the better of me. The other day after we said goodbye and hugged, he kissed me, i froze, and kind of stepped back. I didnt expect him to kiss me. the next night he asked me whether i think of him differently because of what happened but i dont. i love him just as much. But he asked me why i stepped back. i answered "i wasn't expecting it, i gues." he didnt mind. but since then we hug and stuff but we dont kiss. I Havent kissed any one ever before and it kinda freaks me out. He always askes me if we could kiss. I always say yes but i chicken out when it happens at the last minute. I dont know why. It gets really awkward. I want to kiss him but ive never kissed someone before and i just chicken out :( hellpppp...
awww, everyone has a first kiss. just think, you're gonna have to get it over with sooner or later :] and it won't turn out badly, I promise. But I do HIGHLY suggest that you tell him you've never kissed anyone before, and that's why you shy away when he tries to kiss you. It will make it less awkward [believe it or not] and you'll actually feel less scared to kiss him when the time comes :]
you just gotta do it. close your eyes, and just kiss him. haha. you'll be fine! if you need anything else, or have any other questions, feel free to inbox me ! good luck, have fun, relaxx, and just go with the floww ;] hope i helped sweetie ! xxo.
I am a girl and i am straight. but i happened to be atracted to this lesbian at my school and i have been with a girl b4. we didnt date we kinda just fooled around. i know i like guys and that im gonna marry one but why am i attractied to a girl? i know i could never like do shit sexually to a girl but i could be with one casue i like there personalitys. so would i label myself a bi?
You don't have to label yourself as anything, to be completly honest. you are who you are and you don't need to define yourself, nor does anyone else HAVE to or should define you.
But if you really want to know. You are most likely bi-curious. there's a difference between being BISEXUAL and bi-CURIOUS. When you "label" yourslef as bisexual, you definetly know that you like both sexes, but if you are bi-curious, then you don't really LIKE both sexes, you're just attracted to both and trying to figure it out. ahaha, kinda like testing the waters, yuh know ?
Anyways, you'll figure it out, eventually. everyone does :]
good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. hope i helped ! xxo.
REPLY TO YOUR QUESTION:
it's totally fine, haha, you can ask. but no, I'm straight and i have a boyfriend haha but I have friends who are bisexual and gay and all of that.
ok well i went to a party and i saw this guy that i want to school with ...and we kinda klung together the whole night till 6 in the morning...i had so much fun well then we wanted to go to sleep well him and i slept in the same bed we didn't do anything but he just kept me up we wrestled over a blacket and he put his butt on me and at random moments he would do something to wake me up like making noises or talking under his bearth ...i don't know it was fun though. i miss being there...now it's like he wont get out of my head and i don't know what to do we might be hanging out this weekend again but i don't know.i hope so
You both definetly have a connection with eachother, no doubt about it. 99.9% sure he's into you hahaa. so go for itt :]
good luck ! have funn, and let me know how it goes ! xxo.
Before you go reading all the stuff I wrote here's a quick summary. My girlfriend who I've been dating for a long time is still really shy around me and my friends and everyone else. She's kind of an airhead and I'm really smart, she thinks shes ugly but she isnt in the least.
As the title kinda says my girlfriend who I've
been dating since october 08 is still really shy
around me, ontop of every other person I know.
We're both 14 and really into eachother, we spend
like all of every day together and I love her so
much, the only problem is she's so shy around my
friends and I.
I don't want to ask her to stop being so shy (I
tried, it really upsets her), her dad bugs her
alot and she really doesnt like the fact she's so
shy but she just can't seem to get over it.
I'm not a shy person in the least, I'd go up to
someone I've never met and just spark a random
conversation and everything always ends up fine
but I dont think she seems to understand that.
She doesn't talk to ANYONE other than the few
friends she has of whom I can count on one hand.
I have more friends than I can count and we're
total opposites in that sense. I'm really smart,
and she always calls herself an airhead (which is
actually kinda true), but I try to make her feel
better about it. She also thinks for some odd
reason that she's really ugly when she isnt at
all and shes totally uncomfortable in her own
body and I dont get that because she's so pretty
I always try to be a nice guy and comfort her
when she's feeling sad and stuff and I just try
to be the best boyfriend I can be.
So can someone help me out with this?
Being in a relationship myself, I can understand why she would be so insecure around you. It's like this ...
She tells you all of her "flaws" or whatever before you can just realize them on your own and not like her anymore. Girls are complicated and we tend to compare ourselves to other girls and like, even though you think she is unbelieavbly pretty and all of that, she doesn't beieve it herself. Even when you re-assure her that she is, she's not going to believe you if she thinks you could have any other girl you want.
For example: me and my boyfriend. He tells me I'm beautiful and all of this stuff, but I just don't see it. Like, I'm not throwing myself a pitty party, but I don't think I'm pretty. and it's like, I always think that he's going to meet another girl someday who is prettier, smarter, and all of that and then he's gonna just fall out of love with me.
I think that's sort of what you're girlfriend is feeling. It's part of why she feels insecure. She doesn't want to mess up infront you or your friends to make you not like her anymore. Which is why she is shy. I think this situation calls for a bit more than you telling her shes pretty. You need to tell her that no matter what, you'll always love her and that you chose HER because [well, you can finish that sentence haha :)] You just have to let her know that even if you could have your pick of any girl in the world, you'd still choose her.
That will make her feel better, she needs to know that you won't leave her if she makes a fool of herself. Talk to her. communication is key.
good luck ! have fun. hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to ibox me, xxo. :]
ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months now and spend like 10 hours a day together and somehow still arent tired of each other and still love each other very much. our sex life is good and in all the time weve been together we've never fought. we;ve had some small dissagreements but its always something we get talk out and come to an agreement..
but okay heres whats up. we both do drink a bit and i've told her before that i dont mind if she drinks with her friends a little but as long as she doesnt get to drunk. and not to going to any guys houses with her friends to get drunk because im worried something might happen..
then last weekend i left to stay with my sister out of town and she said she was going to her friends for the weekend. but anyways.. sunday night her friend and her went to some guys house.. just my girlfriend her friend and 2 guys... they ended up getting drunk and things got out of hand and my girlfriend had sex with one of them. i found out monday when i saw a hickey on her neck. she promised me that all they did was kiss but i've already know when she lies and i could tell she was... she did regret it and she didnt want to but it still happend you know..
but the next day i looked at her phone and saw a text to the friend she went with telling her not to tell me anything else happened. so i confronted her and blah blah blah i was pissed she cried again and idk. but the problem is i love her way to much and even though i want to be mad i cant. i just cant be mad at her its only been a week and im already acting like nothing happend. im still hurt about it and theres not the trust like there was but i dont know what to do. she promises me it will never happen again and shes never going to drink again unless im there to but im still not sure..
what do you think i should do?
She won't do it again ?
... Do you HONESTLY believe that. What she did shouldn't have even happened in the FIRST place. Even if she's drunk out of her mind, things don't always just get out of hand, she obviously knew what she was getting herself into.
She CHEATED on you, and wasn't even planning on telling you. So really ? you think she won't lie to you again ? I mean, I know you love her, but you can't have a realtionship without trust, and you definetly cannot love someone without trust.
Look, I'm not gonna lie, I'm a strong believer in giving people second chances, but witin limits and she crossed those limits. You even saw the evidence on her phone from her friend telling her to not tell you what else happened. Which means OTHER stuff happened and she cried to get out of it.
She KNOWS you love her so much, and she is using that to her advantage. Acting like nothing happened isn't going to do anything. You're just going to be paranoid and not trusting with her. Do you want to ALWAYS be wondering or worrying if she's fooling around or having sex with other guys ? No, I'm sure you don't.
So in my opinion, I think you should either go on a break from the relationship or just end it. If you go on a break, it will give you some time to think about all of this, without feeling like you have to forget what happened. But if you end it, you will be free to find another girl who deserves a great guy like you; a girl who WONT cheat on you. Honestly, you sound like a great guy. I don't think I know ANY guys who would stick with their girlfriend if they did that. She takes you for granted and she effed up BIG TIME. But it's up to you.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]
okay so im getin an lg cookie an i was just wundering if you could get the internet on it ??
mhmm, yes you can :] my friend just got it ! It's pretty sweet.
good luck ! have funn. xxo.
Remember me and my situation??...
Well the excitement of our reunion has died down and now our old problems have surfaced once again. Remember the whole me feeling ignored thing? Its happening again. Shocker *sarcasm*. He always would rather be with his friends than me. I tired of bringing it up over and over again I refuse to beg to some time with him. You think after 9 months of me complaining and talking to him about the same thing that he'd at least try but he doesn't. I love him I really do but I think my words continue to fall upon his deaf ears. Even other people notice he'd rather be with his friends than me, I'm so frustrated ugh DX
Hey Keri :] !
Long time, no talk. hahaa.
Okay so, I know you love him. I love my boyfriend too, but sometimes, even though you love a person, you have to do what's right for YOU. And if after all of these months, he's not wanting to spend more time with you over his friends, then you need to let him go. The fact of the matter is, if you're in a relationship with somone, they should ALWAYS want to be with you over EVERYONE else. Because if you're in love ... then that's what it feels like.. Like you always want to be together.
I think you know that this relationship isn't working out. No matter how much you want it to, it's just not. and when other people start noticing that he would rather be with his firends than with you ... then you know it's going downhill fast. Why stick with him if you are so unhappy? You shouldn't have to put up with this. You're his GIRLFRIEND, you should be the FIRST person he wants to hang out with, not the last. If he's ot trying, why should you?
I think you've given him more than enough chances and you have put in SO MUCH effort and he has given you barely any effort at all. You are a GREAT person and you deserve a great guy who wants to be with you and doesn't take you for granted. You have a right to be frustrated, but I honestly think you need to find someone else who is worthy of you. Even though you love him, and probably always will ... it doesn't mean you can't find someone else to fall in love with, someone who will treat you 25869 times better than your current boyfriend, who in my opinion, doesnt deserve you.
There's not much else you can do at this point. You talk, he doesn't listen. and you shouldnt beg for his attention and you shouldnt beg for him to spend time with you. It's not right. You need to REALLY think about this. Do you want to be in this realtionship for another 9 months feeling alone and frustrated and not important ? or do you want to go out there and find someone else who will treat you the way you SHOULD be treated when in a relationship?
.. good luck ! have fun and hope i helped. :] if you need anything else, or you just wanna vent or talk, send me an inbox ! xxo.
16/f so i have this friend (she's 17) and i used to consider her as my best friend but now im not sure anymore?
it seems like shes always lying to me. like she was dating this guy for about 6 months and told me she had sex with him ( i didnt ask her to tell me but she always told me everything) and it was her 'first time'.
but then they broke up a few weeks later and about a month later (2 weeks ago) she told me that it was all a lie & that she never had sex with him BUT recently had sex with two 26 year old guys ( for the first time). & when i told her that it's crazy to have sex with two 26 year old guys (for the first time) you meet in a bar she got all mad and didnt wanna talk about it anymore. like she doesnt even care that its illigal or that she lost her virginity to some stranger. & she also told me that she likes one of them now. i think the whole thing is so slutty & dirty yet she keeps talking about it but i know that when i tell her that its just stupid she'll get mad etc and i hate fighting. she's changed so much & i dont know what to do anymore
:[ sounds like my friend. She went to the shore, hooked up with many guys in one night and totally changed. It wasn't like her at all.
I got upset, like I didn't know my own best friend. She started drinking heavily but saying she was being "classy" about it when she told me she had to remind herself how to walk.
I didn't understand what changed her. So yeah, I talked to her about it, but she would get mad at me and yell at me, saying I'm "judging" her and best friends don't judge people. I only wanted to help her. So I told a school counselor and they got her help. If my best friend is going down the wrong path quickly, I'm going to interfere and HELP her, even if she thinks she doesnt need it.
But I think you're situation is a bit worse. 26 year old guys ?! You need to tell someone. Because not only is that illegal, but she thinks it's normal and fine. You might not realize it, but she's telling you what she's doing because it's her way of crying out for help. In this case, age is NOT just a number, she could get herself into a potentially dangerous situation. These 26 year old guys are most likely using her for sex.
I think you need to talk to her. Tell her that she needs to stop this now. You need to tell her exactly how you feel and that you are only saying this because you care about her so much and that you don't want to see her end up in a bad situation. Even if you think she's going to get mad at you, you NEED to tell her to stop. she needs to know that someone cares. Yes, she'll probably get mad at you, but it won't last. There's something deeper going on, and you need to help her, but if you can't, then you need to tell someone. I know you hate fighting [so do i] but would you rather fight with her about this or lose her and let her go on spiraling downward ?
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, I know what you're going through, so just inbox me. xxo.
A boy just dumped me for another girl. Any suggestions on how to get over him and get attention of other guys?
Ouchh :[ I'm sorry hun, that's never a good experience, this just happened to my friend.
Boys can be the biggest jerks EVER.
You just gotta hang in there. However, my suggestions for you to get over him would be ...
- delete him from your life. erase his phone number from your cell, remove him as a friend from any social networking site you both have, like facebook or myspace. delete him off of msn or aim or whatever you may have, even e-mail.
... do these things because it is going to drive you NUTS seeing everything him and this new girl are doing. its better to just not see it because then you'll move on quicker.
- listen to a lott of music that describes how you feel, or happy music that will get you pumped to move on and get right back in the "game" haha. It honestly helps. Music is like the medicine that cures EVERYTHING relationship related haha.
- write down how you feel in a notebook of some sort. It helps to get your feelings out on paper, because it kind of takes it out of your head because you'l always know that it's on paper that you can read or go back to whenever you want to.
- vent to your friends. if you don't talk about it with anyone, it's going to just stay inside your head and build up all of the emotions and just burst at the worst time. Even if you think that they don't want to hear about it anymore, keep talking. You'll feel better in the end.
Now, for getting the attention of other guys, you just have to be yourself. Don't go out there advertising your new "single" status haha, that's not the way to go. Just be flirty and outgoing. Always have confidence [because that REALLY gets a guy's attention] and just have fun. even if you're not. fake it. hahaa. because you'll trick your mind into thinking you actually are having the time of your life, and the guys around you will then believe it too.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, im here for yuhh ! it'll get better, i promise :] xxo.
Do you think friendship trust can be rebuilt? Any examples.
I have MAJOR trust issues. Some of my friends have broken my trust, and in my eyes, if theres no trust, theres no friendship. You can't have one without the other.
With that said, yes, I do think that friendship trust can be rebuilt. I've already done that multiple times haha, so I am a strong believer.
For example:
Last year, my friend went behind my back to my other friend and told her who I liked, which was one of my biggest secrets. The friend who told my other friend this secret was the ONLY person who knew and I told her not to tell anyone under ANY circumstances. But she did. So it ruined the trust in our friendship. But after a while, she kept apologizing and saying she knew she was wrong. However, sorrys don't always work. In this case, it didn't.
But, I tried to forgive her, it took some time and everything. but I never, ever forget. We started out just talking again, about nothing. Then I tested her by telling her a "secret" [which wasnt a secret at all haha] just to see if she would tell anyone again ... she didn't. and our trust went from there.
People make mistakes. No one is perfect and everyone deserves a second chance. it clearly depends on how and WHY the trust was ruined in a firendship. but overall, I think it can be fixed and rebuilt. it just takes time, effort and well, trust.
good luck ! hope I helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! :] xxo.
I've never had a "smelly" period before and I just started today. My period is always exactly 28 days after my last one and this one has been right on track. This time it smells different though! I mean, usually it just smells like blood but today it smells like something else too. I can't describe it but it smells nasty.
I am a VERY clean person! Sometimes I shower 2 times a day even when I'm not on my period. Why does my period smell different this time? Is it because I ate something different than usual? Do I have an infection? Should I see a doctor?
Don't freak out :] hahaa. It might not be anything serious, it's pretty normal for a girl to have a smelly period from time to time. This could be happening for a couple different reasons...
1. are you wearing pads or tampons? sometimes, from personal experience, pads start to smell after a while if theyre not scented. so you can try getting scented pads or tampons if the smell just isn't getting better.
2. make sure to use wipes down there throughout the day during the days you have your period [its also a good idea to do even if you aren't on your period, keeps it clean.]
3. it could possibly because of a change in your diet. believe it or not, but foods have a slight effect on the smell of your discharge and the smell during your periods.
You seem totally fine; but if it starts to itch or burn when you pee, you might have an infection and I would suggest going to see your doctor and/or gynocolegist. Good luck ! have fun. and don't sweat it so much :] hope i helped, xxo.
So you know how everyone goes to party's and dances and stuff or whatever it's like the cool thing and it's fun to dance with all your friends and shit. well That's not me i don't enjoy dancing i don't do it i mean a can like dance for fun and stuff with a friends or something but i don't go to party's that involve that cause i look like an idiot sitting watching everyone dance so my question is how come every thinks its weird and your boring if you don't dancing so why is that people who don't have any intrest in dancing people think its weird or something like that?
for example- So lets pretend me and two other girls are good singers we meet a new girl but she doesn't sing she can't and she doesn't like to It's not like were going to think it's werid that she doesn't cause people like diffrent things so why are people so gay and anyying about that?
True ... I don't like to dance either hahaa. But sometimes my friends force me. I just feel like I'm making a fool out of myself. and yeah, they'll call you party pooper and stuff but I can promise you that they don't ACTUALLY think you're boring. They just want you to have fun with them and be wild, yuh know ?
Like okay. It's like ... if you invited 3 friends to an amusent park and only 2 of them actually LIKE rollercoasters and your other friend doesn't like them. She doesn't want to go on and is like, "noooo, i hate rollercoasters ! i don't want to cry and scream like a baby, its embarassing." and then you want her to come on with you because youll KNOW she'll have fun and eventually get used to it, so you're like, "come onnn, just go onnnn." but she insits that she's fine. It's like the same thing with dances and stuff. your friends KNOW youll have fun if you just loosen up, which is why they say those things that you think they are being gay and annoying about.
And you don't look like an idiot just sitting there. Trust me. just be who you are. and don't listen to what they say because you're you and you like your comfort zone. so don't worry about it. they will eventually stop bugging you and become mature.
good luck, hope you understand what im saying hahaa :] it sounded right in my head. ;] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
so basiclly im a 15year old girl in highschool, and i ahve firends and stuff but not necisarily the people i wanna be friends with, and im a little socially awkawad especially with boys, i feel like im not the same fun,loved personi was before, how to i become less awkward and become friends with the people i wanna b friends with?
pleaseee helppp
It just takes some getting used to, that's all. I didn't start opening up until this year; my junior year.
You just have to be really friendly, even if it's out of your comfort zone. I know you think you're socially awkward with boys, but everyone is to some extent.
And you ARE that fun and loved person you were before. it's there, just hiding. and you have to bring that part out of you again.
To become less awkward, you can't think that you are awkward. or be like, "omg, this is awkward." You have to trick your mind and think that it's totally normal.. even if it's not. hahaa. It's hard to explain but here are some tips..
- smile alot. even if its only a little bit of a smile. like walking in the hallways, always look approachable.
- try to relatge to people. if you over hear a conversation people are having, and you can relate to it, kind of barge in and be like, "oh hey, not to be a creeper or anything but..." and then relate to them. People like it when you have something to say and arent afraid to say it.
- make people laugh. and laugh at yourself. because if you are carefree, other people will think you are too and they'll want to get to know a chill person like you.
- help people if they need help and talk to people who may be socially awkward or not. just be open and friendly and sociable.
- have confidence. walking down the hallways, keep your head held high. don't think about what people are thinking. just be confident. confidence is attractive.
If you do those things, you'll be good to go in no time. but you really have to apply yourself and TRY to be more outgoing. It's up to you to make the effort :] good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. hope i helped, xxo.
I was 12 when i had my first boyfriend and my first kiss, The first one was really bad cause I had know idea what i was doing like my tooth went in his mouth or something it was so bad cause we were at the movies with a group of people 3 girls two boy so my ex and the other guy playned it out on how he was ganna kiss me we were in the parking lot and the other guy was trying to get the two girls disstracted so he was like omg look and ofcourse i looked cause i didn't understand what was going on then my ex was like saying my name and was telling me to hurry and come here adn i new it was about to happen i was like wtf do i do and it was so bad ha
we never madeout cause i was new to all that stuff so i was wondering how your first makeout was?.... or kiss if you haven't madeout with anyone.
Hahahahaa, oh maan. My first kiss, technically I don't count it. It was with my ex boyfriend. However, I do count my "first kiss" and first makeout with my boyfriend :]
He knew I never "technically" kissed anyone and like, he always tried to do it sophomore year, end of the schoolyear, but I wanted it to be special yuh know. So over the summer, I went over to his house. and we were chilling, watching a movie, just talking. and he kept kissing my cheek and forehead, and it was SO CUTE :] and then my dad came to pick me up. We sat there, just silently. no awkwardness at all. and I turned to him and said, "I dont wanna go." and he was like, "I don't want you to go either." then he leaned in and kissed me. just a kiss. I was like.. OMG :] :] :] hahaha. and then i smiled and so did he, and we stood up and I was starting to walk up the stairs, but he took my arm and pulled me back and then kissed me again. Then I was like, "I really have to go. hahaa." and we have this inside joke thing where he has to give me a 10 hug :] so he was like. "I'm going to give you that 10 hug now." so he lifts me up and kisses me in the air. It was the most perfect kiss ever. I couldn't have asked for anything better.
Now onto the makeout..
I was over his house again one night, and he said he wanted to build me a fire outside in his firepit. so when it got dark outside, he was attempting to make a fire hahaa, and finally he got one started. we sat infront of it and just talked and cuddled. and it was nearing the end of the night, almost time for my dad to pick me up, and he kissed me. and then we kept kissing, and somehow we just started makingout hahaa. I don't know how it happened. but i totally SUCKED at it. I think I might have bitten him ? i don't know hahahaa. I block it out of my memory. But then again, it could have been worse. But we laughed about it :] and just said I need practice hahaa. We made out again another night. and I'm getting better. Just don't freak out, like i did. You just can't think about it, you just gotta do it. hahaa. :]
good luck ! have fun. and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
why am i obsessed with my boyfriends exs? like really i dont get it i compare myself.. even when i know i look better than them some times i 2nd guess myself. i find my self anonymously asking who looks better. what is my problem? i always look at there myspace and facebooks too. i cant help it..
You're not obsessed, just curious. Everyone is. Heck, even I am.
I mean, I don't like my boyfriend's ex girlfriends, but I mean. I like to see what they look like and how they act to see why he was attracted to them in the first place, or why I'm the one he chose. Like what qualities do I have that they didnt ?
I do the same thing you do. It's not obsessive. It's just being curioous and kind of re-assuring in some ways. Trust me, he most defiently looks at your ex's facebook and/or myspace too. [I know SO many guys who do that.. i dont know if my boyfriend does/did though..]
I can't help it either hahaa, but you are sane and not obsessive. totally normal.
good luck ! dont sweat it and dont think your psycho :] you're not. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
Saturday, Sept. 5th is the day I lost my virginity. I wanted it to happen though but now I don't know how to feel about it. My boyfriend and me lost ours to each other so it wasn't really awkward because it was comforting that neither one of us knew exactly what to do. To be honest I'm kind of disappointed, I wanted it to happen (I'm very sexual girl), I felt I was ready (which I was), I felt he was the right guy (which I still do) but it was nothing like I expected or wanted. I'm left with this empty feeling about it but what really gets me is he isn't. He's all cool about it. I don't know what to say to him about it w/o blowing his hype about the whole thing. I need some help here or just someone to talk to about everything. I haven't told anybody nor has he. What we do is our business but I figure I'll feel better if I talk to someone about it.
Of course you can talk to me !
This was a big deal. You lost a special thing to you, and now you both have a "piece" of eachother, so-to-speak.
But the truth of the matter is, us girls take these things harder than guys do. Some boys don't think about it as much as we do, it ust depends on the guy. I'm not saying that your boyfriend doesn't care about it as much as you do, but a lot of guys don't. We feel more strongly and intensly about it because we are very emotionaly people. It has been proven that from a young age, boys were taught to be stronger and masculine [obviously] and girls more feminine and sensitive to these things.
It's also probably just his way of dealing with it. And thinking about it. So he acts cool with the entire thing because he doesn't want to make it a big deal.
I think you should talk to him about it. Because if you don't tell him how you feel or ask him what he's feeling, you'll always be wondering these things and have these questions in your mind. Don't worry about what he'll say, this is FOR YOU and what YOU need to do.
good luck ! communication is key. And vent away :] I'm always here to listen. xxo.
I just don't get it. There are a lot of guys who really try to win my heart but I always fall for the wrong guy. One thing i hate about myself is im a hard-to-get type but when i fall, i really fall so hard that i'll go out of my way just to make that person feel so special.
Girls always say that my future boyfriend will be the luckiest but i guess i always attract the wrong guy.
They always let go of me that easily.
(This guy) texted me that he still loves me no matter what even if i left him already. But i just can't move on....
I am the same exact way ... always falling for the wrong guys.
Until ... I got with my boyfriend :] hahaa. I don't know like, over the years [im 16 by the way, very close to 17] you just start to see which guys are the bad ones and which are the good. I know every girl wants the "bad boy" yuh know, the whole ... thrilling turn him good thing, but that never works, and we always end up getting hurt. It sucks. But it's the truth. I don't know about you, but I can weed out the good ones and the bad ones now. It's the little things like, are they wanting a serious relationship or just a "fling" and the way they talk says alot about them too.
I'm also the kind of hard-to-get type. what girl isn't ? I mean, everyone has it in them, it just comes out more in some than others. yuh know ? And also, when I fall, I fall hard and I will also go out of my way to make the person I fell/am falling for feel really special. It's not a bad thing, in my opinion, but when it comes down to it, you can't think about the other person, you have to think about YOU. I learned that the hard way. Because if you're not happy then everything will go downhill. You need to make yourself happy and focus on yourself befroe you focus on the guy.
And YEAH the guy you get is gonna be lucky, because I mean, you sound like a great person ! and yeah, they let go of you that easily because they know they can. Because they aren't the right guys. I have known my boyfriend for 12 years. But we have been through alot. I thought he was a bad guy, but he's not. at all. You really learn who is and who isn't. It's not being sterotypical, its being efficient :]
and if you can't move on, maybe you shouldn't ? But only you can decide that. Is it worth it to stay in your mind ? Because this is all up to you. Like, yeah, maybe he's just telling you what you want to hear, but then again, maybe he's actually being sincere and means it. You need to ask questions and communicate or you'll always end up getting hurt. and quick tip:
never jump into a relationship with a person you barely know or only know somewhat because then you don't know who they REALLY are until it's too late.
good luck ! you need to keep me posted :] and if you have any other problems or things you just want to talk about or vent about, feel free to inbox me :] im always here for youu. xxo.
I had a really roller coaster sorta love story with this guy. He knew that I love him. I did a lot for him, even gave him a cake in class.
He let go of me for his friend. I was hurt.
I planned for a surprise on his birthday but now, I'm having second thoughts on even greeting him on his birthday. He explained to me that he le me go because he don't want to see me hurt anymore. He loves me enough to let me go.
Will i still prepare for his birthday??
Better question, will i still hang on for him??
I'm sorry that happened :[
But honestly ? Don't hang on for him. There are PLENTY of other guys out there who will WANT to be with you and love you like you deserve to be loved. I know it's hard to move on, but you have to for your own good. Let me be the one to tell you that it is NOT worth it waiting for someone who is NOT waiting for you too.
If I were you, I wouldn't do the surprise thing for his birthday, because you can leave that up to his "friend" to do. He let a great person like you go, so don't do antyhing special for him, or he might take it in a different way and will hurt you even more. I know you WANT to do this for him, but I don't think you should.
You can greet him on his birthday and stuff, but don't go out of your way for him. Always trust your gut instinct and follow your heart, I know you'll find a great guy who deserves you :] I promise you, you will.
good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, it'll get better. It's going to be hard to move on at first, but hang in there. I know you can do it :] ! xxo.