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so basiclly im a 15year old girl in highschool, and i ahve firends and stuff but not necisarily the people i wanna be friends with, and im a little socially awkawad especially with boys, i feel like im not the same fun,loved personi was before, how to i become less awkward and become friends with the people i wanna b friends with?
pleaseee helppp
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First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
-Laura (17-f)
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It just takes some getting used to, that's all. I didn't start opening up until this year; my junior year.
You just have to be really friendly, even if it's out of your comfort zone. I know you think you're socially awkward with boys, but everyone is to some extent.
And you ARE that fun and loved person you were before. it's there, just hiding. and you have to bring that part out of you again.
To become less awkward, you can't think that you are awkward. or be like, "omg, this is awkward." You have to trick your mind and think that it's totally normal.. even if it's not. hahaa. It's hard to explain but here are some tips..
- smile alot. even if its only a little bit of a smile. like walking in the hallways, always look approachable.
- try to relatge to people. if you over hear a conversation people are having, and you can relate to it, kind of barge in and be like, "oh hey, not to be a creeper or anything but..." and then relate to them. People like it when you have something to say and arent afraid to say it.
- make people laugh. and laugh at yourself. because if you are carefree, other people will think you are too and they'll want to get to know a chill person like you.
- help people if they need help and talk to people who may be socially awkward or not. just be open and friendly and sociable.
- have confidence. walking down the hallways, keep your head held high. don't think about what people are thinking. just be confident. confidence is attractive.
If you do those things, you'll be good to go in no time. but you really have to apply yourself and TRY to be more outgoing. It's up to you to make the effort :] good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. hope i helped, xxo.
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