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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Well i've liked this girl for awhile. I am planing to tell her how i feel on Valentines Day. Are there any ideas how I could tell her? Also, are there any gift ideas?

Thanks in advance!

P.S. - We are both 13, and she is kind of a silly person if that helps any...

Hmm, shes a funny person. Ok, deffinitly make her a cute little card and in the inside, write You make me giggle.
lol! serioussly, that would be cute for a funny person.. Underneath that, write how you feel about her. Say why you like her and stuff. Get her flowers, or a teddy bear, chocolate works also. Good Luck and hope i helped!


-Brina

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well all my friends think i hooked up with a kid. i really didnt. when i finally do [ which will probally be soon ] i dont want him to think im a bad kisser or that i never kissed anyone before. what do i do . how do i act? i dont want to look stupid i want to be a good kisser .. any advise?

He won't think your a bad kisser. Don't be nervous. If you two like each other enough the kiss will be beautiful. If he knows how to kiss, he'll lead you. Don't fret about it. Good Luck.


-Brina

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Is it common for girls to not be attracted to guys (age 14)? They all seem too immature in school and I'm not like those other girls that think every dude is "hot". I'm not concerned about this, I don't care If I have a bf or not but I was just wondering if this is common (and I'm not gay, I know that). It's a bit hard to explain in detail but in short, guys aren't intresting... At least not yet.

Of course its normal. I feel the same way you do. Yes, at age 14 its hard to find a nice non immature guy to like, because 14 is usually an immature age for guys. Your most likely not gay, its just that special guy hasnt caught your eye yet. Girls who think every guy is hot, is just immature. Hotness isnt something girls that are 14 should be looking for in a guy. In a year you'll probably start realizing what guys are interesting ;) lol. Good Luck hun, hope i helped.

-Brina

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hey everyone. i'm writing two valentine cards for like my best guy friends. i dont like them or anything, but we are all really close. what should i like put in it? any suggestions on what to say? thanksss

To my best Buddy, happy valentines day!


lol, thats what I'd write to my guy friends. Hoep I helped.


-Brina

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okay i am 13 years old...adn there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. the only thing is that hes 2 years older then me...to me it doesnt seem bad or anything but to everyone else it does. everyone keeps telling my that he does drugs and stuff but whne i ask him he says no. and people are telling my that he only wants to go out with me to make out and have oral sex. when i asked him about this hes like i would never make u do anything that you didn't want to. and i said good b.c i would never give you oral sex. and he said fine...
should i go out with him???

please help...thanxx

If you like this guy and think he's telling the truth to you then go for it. Dont listen to what others say, he could actually be a nice guy. And, if he isnt, and wants to have oral sex then I suggest you get out of the relationship immediatly. Dont always listen to what people think, if you think something, dont let others change your mind for you. You could probably tell if he was on drugs. Such as if his eyes were red and if he seemed out of it. Good Luck and be careful.

-Brina

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Okay, basically. I have a HUGE crush right now. i'm a sophomore, he's a junior. He hangs out with a different crowd than i do and the only time i see him is in band and jazzband afterschool. I came up with an excuse to talk to him online, and we've been talking more and more through aim. It's almost gotten to the point where i might call him a friend. Everytime i see him, or think of him, i get butterflies in my stomach, and every time he smiles so do i. I just think he's amazing. Smart, funny, talented, unique... but i don't know what to do next. I think we may need to get to know eachother a bit more before we actually date or something but i'm not sure how to go about that. And i'm afraid if i ask him out and he says no, that things will be even more akward. I'm always thinking about him. I don't know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Hmm...Do you both play the same instrunment? If you do, then you could tell him that your having trouble with the music, and you can't find time during the week to get help from your band teacher, and then ask if he'd like to come over the weekend to help you out. While online, talk about music,and if he likes the same music as you just be like, wow we have a lot in common. That will probably get him thinking that you might be compatible for a relationship. Talk about movies, then say we should go see one together some time. Just, little easy things that make it easy to sort of ask him on a date. Good Luck and hope i helped!

-Brina

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sorry this is long...
okay me and my friend ellie both liked this guy named neil but i liked him more (we agreed on that) and then after winter break i told neil i knew who liked him and he askd who and ellie had told me that i could tell him so i told him... two days later he asked her out... needless to say that my heart was completely broken and it was all my fault... but now that hes going out with her im stuck with the two of them and noone else... all the time!!! and everyone is always like "stop trying to steal neil" well the other day somehow it got out that i was still in love with him... but I managed to convince everyone that i didnt... but we always fight (me and neil) oveer the stupidest things and i hate it!!! I cant help it but I love him so much it makes me hate him... I hate how jealous i am .. what should I do? how can I get over this guy??!?!

Just, try to hang around different people then the two of them. Thats really messed up that your friend would agree to go out with him, after you already aggreed that you liked him more. You just need to stay away from him. If they ask you to go somewheres with them, just say you can't. Its good to find new people to hang out with. Take up a hobby or something that keeps your mind off of things. I'm sure you'll find someone knew. Good Luck. Hope I helped.


-Brina

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So we went out with people and the guy that i like was going too. Me and my freind showed up eairly than the other girls and the guy i likelove was there too, so we were hanging out n stuff and he was being sooo cute to me. Then he saw that the other girl showed up and completly left me, and he liked her the whole time he led me on. and now im like dying and its sooo hard. Any ideas to get over it.

What a jerk. Just think, its his fault that he left you. Your probably nicer then the other girl i'm asuming? Just go back to doing regular activities, and try to find another guy your interested in. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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how do you do no top 8 on my space?

How do you make it so there isnt a top 8 on myspace? You can't. Theres always a top 8. You can put more by finding a certain code, but you cant get rid of it. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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i found this guy from a couple towns over through myspace. we met today and totally hit it off! we like each other a LOT . but he lives 1/2 hour away..making it hard to see each other. i think i have to tell my parents..so maybe they can drive me out there sometimes..but how do i word it? i always kept my love life private from them..i never had the need to tell..im afraid of their reaction. help please?
16f

Well, most likely you'll get in trouble for meeting up with a guy you met on the internet, even if he had pictures and stuff. Tell your parents that you met him from a friend. Just ask them if they can drive you to hang out with him, dont tell them its a date or anything. Good Luck.

-Brina

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OK im a 14 year old girl. I November my gramma died, and a week later my parents got a divorce. I have an older sister who is perfect and gets awesome grades and is really pretty and popular. Like it isnt hard enough just being a freshman in high school, i have all of this to deal with. I have always felt like im stuck in the shadow of my sister. I was especially close to my gramma, and i still am afraid to accept the fact that shes gone. My parents getting a divorce has been really hard, because i was really close to my dad, and now he doesnt live with me. It just seems like this is all building up, so im really moody. Everyone tells me i need to talk to someone, because hiding isnt good. But i dont feel like there is anyone in the world who can understand what I'm going through. It seems like i cant relate to anybody. What should I do? Do i really need to talk to someone?

PS-I am a very good Catholic, so i believe in God and pray to him, and i am at church all the time. But i dont even feel close to God anymore.

Believe me, I'm pretty much going through the exact same thing, except with the whole divorce thing. My great grandma recently died, i'm doing crappy in school and everyone is just nagging me to do better. They tell me to talk to someone. But, back to you. It is always good to get your feelings out to someone. If you dont feel comfortable talking to someone then dont. Maybe you have a friend that you could talk to or a guidence counselor. I think it would be best to talk to someone, without your parents knowing, so that they dont have to make a big deal about it. Good Luck.

-Brina

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at least once a month, I get migraine(sp?) headaches. I dont know what causes them, but I cant take any medication for them because I dont like swallowing pills. I have never done it in my life and whenever I try i feel as if I am choking and almost throw up. Are there any migraine medications I can take where I dont have to swallow a pill? If not, is there any way I can get myself to swallow a pill without vomiting? thanks ♥

Ok, this is what you do, put a big mouthful of cold water in your mouth and then just put the pill in your mouth with the water and swallow. It should go down easily and you cant feel it. If that doesnt work then I suggest you take a wash cloth and put very warm water on it and place it on your forehead. If that doesnt work, then go with cold water, and run cold water on a washcloth and place that on your forehead. Good Luck!


-Brina

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A friend of mine just told me something about a guy we are all friends with.
Well she told me that she was over visiting one of our friends. Her computer had broken down, and our friend (the guy) was over to try to fix it. She told me that when he was sitting at her computer, he was looking at a small picture of me that I had given my friend that was near her computer. She said he kept looking at it, and said "who's your friend?". When she said it was me, he kept looking at it and then said, "oh, it must be an old picture". She told me she thought this meant he may have a crush on me. Do you think she's right? I know if it were me, I wouldnt be showing such an interest in someones picture unless I really liked them.

Hmm, guys tend to daze off sometimes. It could be either he was just looking at the picture, or when he realized it was you he kept on looking at it because he may have a crush on you. If your interested in him, then start talking with him. Maybe you'll end up being boyfriend and girlfriend. Good Luck.Hope I helped!


-Brina

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Well, I like this boy who I liked forever!. I'm 18/f.
I liked this boy named Nick for a LONG time. I mean like seven years. Since my 5th Grade. I never told my friends because they think I got over him after middle school. I still have feelings for him. I know this will sound too juvenille, but I told him I liked him in 5th Grade. He never said anything.
During middle school, I didn't really see him too much. Whenever I would pass him, he would act so cool and mean around me. Well, not really mean, but sarcastic. Like he would say "Get out of my way!" In a sarcastic way. He still does that. I know this sounds kinda eager, but I think he likes me.
I REALLY like him. I never liked anyone else. If I did, I still liked Nick.
Please help me!!!

Signed,
Loving Long

Go for it. Seven years is a very long time to like someone for, and if all of your feelings are sorted out about it, dont hold back, just tell him. Even if he says he doesnt like you, the eagerness will be lifted from you and it will feel awesome. 75% of guys that are rude to girls like, doing stuff like get out of my way or like, teasing them about little stuff actually have a crush on the person they do that to. Imagine if the guy you liked died tomorrow
{god forbid} you would spend so many years regretting not telling him. So, tomorrow, call him up or whatever, and tell him. Good Luck.

-Brina

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I'm on my period right now and I have extremely bad cramps so bad. Like, on a scale 1-10, it's worse than 10! What can I do??!

Definitly take some advil or tylenol. I know its weird, but whenever I have cramps, I drink Mountain Dew, and then like 10 minutes later I dont hurt at all. Put a warm compress against were its hurting if that mountain dew doesnt work, or you just dont have any.Good Luck! And hope you feel better!

-Brina

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Everyone in my family has true blue eyes except me! My eyes ARE blue, but they just don't always look it. When I wear blue, they look blue. When I wear green, they look green. When I wear white and yellow they look grayish. How can I make my eyes look blue ALWAYS without wearing blue everyday? I don't wear contacts or glasses.

Try to find something that will make the blue stand out, such as a black or blue eyeliner, and mascara. Not too heavy on the mascara though. The green that you wear that makes your eyes green is most likely just the reflection of the green and makes your eyes look blue, and the same thing for the other colors you wear. So, deffinitly try using the type of makeup I wrote before. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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ohk i want to know what i should do. i had gym on thursday and i have it before i go home so i have to change and i left my bookbag in the locker room cause our lockers arent very big so i left it sitting out like everyone else does and inside i had my purse which had my ipod and digital camara inside and someone stole it. poor fucker. but what should i do? i already talked to the school with my dad and the police got involved but what can i do on my own?

All you can do is go around asking people if they've seen anyone with a new ipod and digital camera and confront the people. This really sucks for you lol. Have your friends try to help you find the person who stole it also. Good Luck!

-Brina

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hey i thought i could relate to you the best so i was likeing this girl that liked me for a while and she just got out of a 1 and a half year relationship and her she likes me and i like her and i just found out were 5th cousins and its not like some jerry sprinnger thing were not horny rednecks or soemthing lol were just wondering if two 15 yr old 5th cousins should go out or not ty

Ok... your 5ht cousins. I suggest you don't go out. If you ended up marrying each other that would be called insest even if you are 5th cousins, your still related. Does your family even talk to her part of the family? Still, I guess its alright to have the hots for her, if you dont really talk to her family, but dont take it farther then that. Hope I helped, if you need anymore help let me know.

-Brina

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ever since i started walking to school there have been these 2 girls who always say hi to me and i never really thought anything about it until one of them asked me out and at first i wanted to go out with her but then somthing inside me told me she's bad news and i dont know if it's because im neverous i dont know if it's because ive seen her smoke a few times i dont know what it is but could someone please help me i dont know what to do.

Ok. So, evidently you dont really know mucha bout her since you've seen them on your way walking to school. Let her know you want to get to know her first. If your not into the whole smoker scene then don't go out with her. Good Luck, and hope I helped.


-Brina

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Ok my girlfriend who i have been dating for 3 months tells me she loves me all the time on the computer and when we talk on the phone. I can tell her I LOVE HER on the computer with ease, but when it comes to saying it on the phone i tense up and can't seem to say it to her unless she says it first I really want to tell her first. What is wrong with me? HELP

Thats very normal. Its much easier to say things online then on the phone or in person. You probably do love her, but your just not ready to tell her.Dont worry, that time will come soon. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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