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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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both me and my brother have the exact same ipod, we even bought it the same day from the same place - here's the thing though, his has a search engine so he can easier find songs, and my doesnt! Now I have 4662 songs on my ipod, so its really hard to find the song im looking for - takes ATLEAST 30 minutes! Spo I was wondering, can you download the search engine onto you ripod somehow? Or is it a setting on iTunes you need to fix? Or what? Cause on the actualy ipod are settings are the same (or so i think)

Also he has this thing where if he "flips" really quickly letter well come up like in a gray box so you can find the letter you're looking for faster, mine doesn't have that EITHER!

please help me :( i spent a long time saving for this iPOd and it tunred out to be a total let down..

hmm.. honestly i have no idea. but here's a tip-
why don't you go to the store where you bought your ipod and see if they can help. I had a problem with my ipod once and i went to the store and they fixed it.

Maybe it's a different generation as your brothers?
some generations don't have the same features as other generations.

-volleyball2150

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i wanna tan in my backyard..but when its about 65 degrees and sunny, how long would i have to tan to get a kinda noticeable one?

well for me... it takes about 2 hours for me to tan in about 80 degree weather. So for 65 degrees you might wanna stay out there for 3 hours.

Now hun, you DON'T have to stay out there for 3 hours straight. Maybe do 1 hour and then go inside for a cool lemonade and watch tv. then go back outside and do the same thing.

Oh and here's a tip that my brother gave me- when you are sun tanning, the sun rays go inside your skin and thats what makes you tanner. So after you are done tanning, wait at least a half an hour before showering because if you shower, it washes out all of the UV rays out and makes you less tan.

USE SUNSCREEN!!!!! I don't care if you think this is stupid, but seriously my friend one day went tanning and thought she would get tanner if she didn't put sunscreen on... WRONG! She got sunburnt soo badly and her skin started peeling off for a week. also it increases your risk of skin cancer and other skin conditions. so promise me that you will use sun screen?

also if you get some sun burns, use Aloe Vera, it helps the sun burn be less irratated and turns the red to brown.

Hope this helps!!

-volleyball2150

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Im literally crying right now...I feel that my family doesnt love me anymore. My parents are very demanding they dont even seem to care about my life anymore. i have 3 younger sisters, which makes me the oldest. The second youngest sister i have gets all the attention, they look up to her, they treat her with respect. shes like the boss of the other 2 younger siblings. and they are supposed to look up to me. but alls they do is just be mean to me ignore me and dont even talk to me. so i feel left out of the family, out of place. i feel sad right now. i feel like im the only child. i just noticed this as i was watching myself today. my second youngest sister in line used to be my best friend. but not anymore. im not jealous, but im unhappy with my family life. i would like to feel equal. but i dont and i cant stop crying about it. someone please help me, i will defintely give you a rating of 5 if you give me somewhat good advice. I really need it now!

ok relax!

have a "meeting" with your family and simply tell them that you are feeling a little left out of the family. Tell them how you feel. Honestly... they don't know how you feel, the only way they can make a difference is if you tell them how you feel.

Or if you don't want to tell them how you feel, take 1 person individually and plan a special evening. Like go to the movies with your Younger sister. Then one day take your parents out for dinner. And another example is have your parents go out, and babysit your sisters and play a fun game.

If you don't come to them... how can you expect them to come to you??

YOU need to take a step further and show your family how fun you can be and then they will have a great time around you and they'll want to be around you more.

I hope I helped and everything goes well!!!
-volleyball2150

PS: here's a tip- DON'T run away and only hang out with your friends. DON'T ignore your family and think nobody loves you because there is ALWAYS someone who loves you. It's like my mom says
"don't ever frown because you never know who might be in love with your smile." hope this helps

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I got my hair cut about 2 weeks ago and i hate it. my hair used to be really long but now its like sholder length and thats to short for me. I also have these really anyoing angles in my hair too. Is there anyway to make my hair grow faster and even out my angles? thanks in advance!

i'm not sure if this works, but i heard it from someone else. what you do is just wear your hair in a ponytail (tight, but not too tight) for a long time. (long time as in everyday for another month or so, but you can take it out too, but just wear it up for some time)

that way it stretches out your hair roots and allows it to grow quicker.

I hope i helped!
-volleyball2150

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hey! i have a question about hitting. i always cup my hand when i hit, and even though my coach says that it is better to hit with an open hand, i hit harder and better with cuped hand. what are some things that i could do to help me with hitting? thanks a lot!

from: someone who actually lives in the city u do and is on a team lower than u hehe

hey! hehe i don't know who you are, but i'm guessing Stephi? sorry if you're not

well hitting with a cupped hand actually risks a lot more damage than hitting regular. If you cup your hand when you hit, there might be a possible injury that you could hit the ball on your fingers and maybe break a finger.

so hitting with a cupped hand is definitely not good. some ways to get rid of this habit is try taking a volleyball into an open area (the gym, or your garage) and take the ball and just practice hitting the ball with a flat palm surface. It might be hard, but don't think about anything else. Just keep saying in your head "hit with a flat palm"

remember "practice makes perfect" take the volleyball and hit it into the ground, let it hit a wall and come back to you (without touching the ground)... then when it comes back to you, hit it into the ground again and just repeat.

Keep practicing and you'll get there. It just takes time. If you still can't get rid of hitting with a cupped hand, go to your coach... she/he will be able to help you.

I hope I helped!!
-volleyball2150

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i'm going to this thing for school for two days, and we have to bring our own lunch. but i don't know what kind of lunch i should bring. we can really bring anything, but i don't wanna bring something i'm not gonna eat. i don't really want a sandwich, so no sandwiches please. i'm most likely gonna bring chips or some kind of junk food, but i still need to bring kind of like a "main lunch" thing. so any ideas? it needs to still taste good after making it a couple of hours later.

thanks.

buy lunchables... thats what i do

they have pizza, sandwiches, and juices. and sometimes they include candy

theres other types too.. i just can't name them off the top of my head right now.

-volleyball2150

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Ok i seriously have the biggest probelm ever. in my biology class there is this annoying guy robert who sits behind me. HE IS SO ANNOYING! literally every 10 seconds he is tapping my shoulder and whispering my name and when i turn around he just sits there, EVERYTIME. im like "what?" and he just sits there for like 7 seconds and starts laughing. honestly it is so annoying because hes tapping my shoulder every 10 seconds and whispering my name over and over and over again. so sometimes i just ignore him but he keeps doing it. but now its to the point i want to slap him. and no hes no flirting. hes gay. but its pissing me off! i cant listen to the teacher and he gives me a headache. what should i do? dont tell me to yell at him and tell him to stop because im not that kind of person and i dont like getting upset at people

talk to the teacher about this problem. Ask the teacher if he/she can move you to a different location (or him) and say that he is disrupting your learning time and he's being such a pest.

hope this helps!!!
-volleyball2150

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hi, i'm trying to find some school fundraising ideas for my freshman class in high schoo. Let me know if you have any ideas that you've tried, or know to work. Thanks

hey

a few of the students in my school are doing a car wash in the spring (sometimes soon) to raise money for the homeless

some other ideas are probably a children's carnival, a play, a buffet night, a talent show

thats all i can think of, but just be creative and think of what people would want to come to most.

-volleyball2150

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ok for starters f/13
i have a gross kind disorder thing
i have had it all my life but it is suposed to be the worse when you are a teenager
there is no cure for it and it doesnt hurt and its not contagiouse
its like only on my arms
basicly its just really red, bumpy,and unatractive
i wear a jacket everyday to cover it up but its getting to be summer and its getting really hot and i cant wear a jacket anymore

it isnt that bad or red when im relaxed or if i dont worry about it but when im at school i feel like i HAVE to cover it up or ppl with make fun of me (they have before)

what do i do?

SO WHAT!

I'm tired of people making fun of others because of some stupid problem. I'm thinking you were born with this. am i right? Well don't cover this up anymore! I know you may think i sound stupid, but really... don't cover it up.

Don't you just wanna open yourself up to the world and stop hiding things??

who cares if someone makes fun of you, just confront them and say "I was born with this and theres nothing I can do about it" you can even tell them something that sounds like "what if you had this, what would you do?"

If this REALLY bothers you, i suggest going to a dermatologist and asking for a special cream to make it less visible.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: don't listen to the people who make fun of you, they are all jerks who don't realize that its what's on the inside that counts, not the outside.

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so theres this guy and we sorta got really close over winter break and we made out and stuff and then all the sudden he stopped talking to me.. i found out that my friend told him i liked him and to back off because i did. well, he listened to her and doesnt talk to me much and idk i sorta do like him but not enough that it even shows, but i still want to be friends with him.. and i try to have online convos with him but they just seem akward so i guess... what can i talk with him about.. like what are guys interested in talking about with girls.. or how do i get into like a really flirty convo with him?

hmm well what the other 2 advicenators said was kinda right. He must be really stupid if he trusts your friend, instead of you. If i was him... i'd just ask you if you wanted me to back off, instead of listening to your friend.

As for the flirty converstaions- well i wouldn't know cuz i've never had a 'real' conversation with a guy before. But guys are so involved in sports, so you can talk about sports. Like ask him what the score was for a football game.

Some other topics that guys like to talk about with girls-

Music
Friends
School
Dancing
Parting

stuff like that...

sorry if i wasn't much help.
-volleyball2150

PS: just a tip- talk to your friend about "why" she told him to back off. Seriously.... what kind of friend would do this? she's not worth it if she wants to break you're friendship with him. think about that

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what do you guys think of this BlackBerry? http://i127.photobucket.com/albums/p122/CAMxWHOREx3/370x400.jpg

do you guys like them? i want opinions!!

personally... i don't like it

if it's smaller than a credit card, i wouldn't like it. Just cuz the buttons are so small and it would be hard to text someone or call someone.

It looks cool, but it's too small for me.

Nobody can make the choices for you. only you know what is best for you.

-volleyball2150

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ok so my high school is having a junior prom for the first time in a long time. i'm trying to think of ways to get my junior class to go! A good amount of people want to go but then there's the people who don't mostly because they think "nobody" will go. Whats a good idea to get the amount of people who go to homecoming to go to junior prom? we're putting up posters and spreading the word around , but whats a way to get the students siked? oh and does anyone have ideas for easy fundraising? we're thinkiing about t-shirt sales and bake sales but others? thanks!!

hmm... well i've never been to a prom before. but this just came to mind

what if you gave awards for special things. for example- matching couples, or brightest colored, or prettiest/handsomest queen/king

idk but it just came to mind.

as for the fundraising, the t-shirts and bake sales sound great! what our high school did for shirts, was short or long sleeved black shirts that had a printed front that looks like a Tux. hehe it looks amazing! tonz of people bought them.

be creative.. like cool hats, or wristbands. choose cool things that people would want to wear in school or other places.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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hey i have a ipod mini that i kinda share with my sister. well we listen to different kinds of music and whenever i like shuffle music to listen to random songs her music comes up a lot and its annoying. so i was wondering if there was any way to like keep that music on my ipod but like put it one like a playlist or somethin so that when i click suffle music only my songs play. i no i can put my music on a playlist and just play that but u can't shuffle it and i dont wanna listen to the music in the same order everytime. thanks.

i have an ipod nano... and i know how to do this, but i'm not sure if it's gonna work on a mini.

try this:

go on menu and go to settings
then where it says shuffle: off... press the center button until it says Songs

then you're done

just go to the playlist that's yours and then play the first song, then it should shuffle.

Hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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ok so i need a little help getting myslef on the right path. im only a freshman in highschool. but its right now where you decide your future. and i really dont have any idea what i want to do with my life.. there are many things i am interested in. but im not sure what would really be the best for me. i really want to spend the rest of my life doing something i reallly love. and not something thats just ok.

ok some of the things i think about are fashion design, be a part of some kind of modeling agency.
be a hair stylist. make up artist, just do that kind of stuff. i am reallly creative and im willing to try new things. i also have another side of me i always wanted to be a psychologist.
and then there is the photographer, and graphic designer.
see i go through like these phases first i wanted to be a fashion designer for the longest time. then like graphic designer then psychologist and now its back in the fashion direction. and im really looking for a path that includes all these things. i want to be able to travel and meet new people and just have a good job. any ideas on what career path i should take?
im also a really good writer, but i dont really like it.

thank you

woah there! you sound JUST like me!! I LOVE to be creative and do fashion/make-up things... then i love helping people (psychologist) and I love architecture too!

right now i'm only in the 8th grade... and I told my mom i didn't know what i want to be when i grow up.. you know what she said??

she said

"its too soon to tell what your chosen career is... theres going to be PLENTY of time to know. One day it's just gonna 'click' in your head and you'll stick with it."

so my advice to you is just to wait it out... wait it out and one day you'll realize what your heart truly desires.

-volleyball2150

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ok so i have thick thick dark brown hair. I was wondering if you can give me a website that has like cool things to do to your hair weather its up or down. DONT tell me to straighten it or curl it cause i do and its getting boring for me. so if you can just tell me like a step to step hair do''s or website ill appreciate it alot:]
PLEASE
ANDDDD
THANKS
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www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland

go to that website and click on a link that say HAIR

it gives A LOT of hairstyles and they are really cute!

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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ok like 5 minutes ago i had a fight with my friend online. it didn't really go anywhere. i just wanted to tell her how she doesnt treat me like she used to and has been ignoring me lately. soo anyway in school we are in 3 classes together, but shes the only one i talk to. also i have lunch with her and none of my other friends are.

so do i just leave her at the end of class? and not talk to her during lunch? it will be awkward..
i kind of what to solve things, but sometimes i kind of dont, cause this is the 2nd time i brought this up to her. helpp!please

solve it! asap!

you don't want to risk your friendship over a stupid 5 minute online fight, now do you???

its best to say sorry first, even if you didn't do anything. show her what a good friend you are, taking responsibility for a problem that you probably didn't even start.

You will eventually get over it, but don't waste your time now ignoring her.

-volleyball2150

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well basically the subject says it all. i'm 15 and in 9th grade and the guy i like is in 8th grade. but he has a girlfriend that is in 9th grade that goes to another school. i've never met his girlfriend, so i don't know how well their relationship is. but i REALLY like him, and it seems like he is flirting with me a lot. he is always IMing me, he says hi to me everytime we see each other in the hallway, he always bumps into me in the hall on purpose (but in a fun cute way), and he has a nickname for me. he is already a really friendly person, it just seems like i'm getting a little extra attention. anyway thats not the point. the point is he has a girlfriend but i like him. what can i do? should i try to flirt with him so maybe he will breakup with his girlfriend? or would that be mean and i should just back off?

oh and since he's in 8th grade i don't have any classes with him. what are some ways to talk more in or out of school without being obvious that i like him? we used to be in the play together but now the play is over and i don't get to hang out with him everyday after school for practice anymore.

sorry this is so long its just that i love your advice and i needed some help =]

hey!

I strongly suggest that you don't interfere with his relationship. You can still flirt with him... but I wouldn't ask him out or anything. If his girlfriend finds out about you, trying to win him... well lets just say theres gonna be a lot of drama going on.

try doing some really simple flirty things.. like twist your hair, or nod your head when he looks at you, or wet your lips and bit your lips, or fix your hair... get the point?

don't do anything too serious, like looking at his ass or blowing a kiss to him... or anything big like that.

Its his choice on who he goes out with, you can't decide that.

and don't jump to conclusions when he's around you... he could just be a REALLY friendly guy. You may think that he gives you a lot of extra attention, but he could just be noticing you as a friend.

About the "how do i talk to him more" part... well talk to him about really casual things, like what sports he's interested in. Then one day you might invite a lot of friends over and ask him if he wants to come too. (dont get confused with this.. you're not asking him out.... you are with a group of friends and you are "hanging out" not "going out")

See if theres going to be another play coming out soon, and ask him if he's going to be in it.
Find some similarities between you 2 and find something fun to do.



I appriciate the compliment!
thanks!
-volleyball2150

PS: any more questions? drop one in my inbox!

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My friend(mia) liked this guy(bob) for two years and she told me a week ago that she stopped liking him. Well I was talking to a different friend, Chrissy today and she told me that Bob hooked up with this other girl(Rachel) alot over the past few months. Should I tell Mia this or just let it go? Bob was hooking up with rachel while mia liked him.

better not tell her...

if you tell her she could think you are lying and she'll get mad.

instead... just give her helpful hints. like say stuff "I saw bob with rachel one day.. do you think they could be going out?"

let her find out on her own
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13/f
right now i'm really stressed between sports, friends, and boys. i can't focus on anything, cause i'm always think about
1)my rude and bitchy friend
2)which sports to do
3)the 2! boys i like

i just feel like crying sometimes
what can i do?! help is appreciated

crying is good! let it all out!

if you keep everything bottled up in you.. you're gonna explode! (not really...)

1. If your friend is being really mean to you, think about what caused you to be mad...
Put yourself in HER shoes and think. Sometimes... you should be the one to say Sorry first.

what would you rather do? Let HER say sorry first, and possibly lose your friendship with her?
OR
you take the first step, say sorry and forget about the stupid fight and keep your special friendship?

2. Which sport to do??
welll.. what are you interested in???

an individual sport?

a team sport?

what are you good at? Do you have good hand-eye coordination?
sometimes you just gotta throw away your To-do list and explore. Go to the gym, shoot some basketball hoops... or dance around... or play tennis. Just play a sport for fun, and then if you REALLY like it... sign up for a team!

3. guys...

sooo you like 2 guys?? join the club!
a lot of girls and guys have liked more than 1 person. Its normal.

do a Pro/Con list about each guy and see who you have more in commen with. Find him one day and just have a casual conversation with him. Keep getting to know him and then one day just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.

hope everything goes A-ok!

-volleyball2150

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Ok Steven is a nice sweet awsome kid but he's one of the 'cool' kids.Everyone likes him and only like 3 girls like him like him..one girl Olivia is already going out with someone and had already gone out with Steven 1000 times!But he keeps going out with her.Alot of people know i like him nad tel me to ask him.Right now stevens single.. but right when olivia dumps mat the same things ganna happen there ganna go back out.. I dont want to be used until someone better comes along..
Should I go out with him and iof i should how should i ask him

I woulnd't ask him out if I were you... he sounds like one of those guys who dumps a girl, just to get back with his ex.

Its really your choice... but I wouldn't risk it.
He's just gonna go out with you for a while, have the best time of your life... and then one day he'll drop the bomb and say "we need to see other people" and then he'll get back with his ex.

Its your choice...

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