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really stressed
13/f
right now i'm really stressed between sports, friends, and boys. i can't focus on anything, cause i'm always think about
1)my rude and bitchy friend
2)which sports to do
3)the 2! boys i like
i just feel like crying sometimes
what can i do?! help is appreciated
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It's completely normal for you to be feeling this way. Young people these days have a lot of weight on their shoulders. Just know that you're not alone and that you're still young; what you're worrying about will pass in time :)
But anyway, to answer your question:
1) Talk to your friend about how you feel. Trust me, don't bottle up your feelings, as they can eventually boil over. Let her know how you feel, and if she does something to hurt you or annoy you, be up front with her (but be firm, try not to stoop down to her level--it'll make you the bigger, more mature one.)
2) sports- don't worry too much about it. There's a lot you can do, so you can try talking to different coaches..or in your free time, play some sports and figure out what you like best. Don't stress out about it; it's all about having fun.
3) Boys- I know how you feel! I know it's cliche, but they don't call it a crush for nothing. Try to focus on other things too... I know it's hard! Give yourself time to think about them, but try also focusing on other things, like hanging out with friends, having fun, school, etc., etc.. and it'll at least help you think of other things.
You can try talking to them, being friends..see which one you like. But do realize that there are so many guys out there. You may have the butterflies, but butterflies do fly away.
I know i sound like an old maid, but I remember being your age (i'm 22 now), and i know, it's not easy being a teen. Everyone goes through the same things, you are not alone. Just don't worry too much, and focus on YOU. Don't worry, be happy :)
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1) your friend.. you don't have to be nice to her if she's being mean to you.. step away from her for a little while and get closer to her other friends... if she needs to talk she can come to you
2)do whatever sport you like the best.. don't be pressured by your friends if they're all on one team because chances are, if you join a different team, you'll make new friends. just do what makes you happyyy.
3)become friends with both of the boys and she what progresses faster... or just choose one and stay friends with the other.
you're only 13... relaxxx you have SO much time ahead of you :)
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Im in the same position. Im an actress and i absoutly love boys but then they always take up my time so i never get any time to study my lines and everything. Ive realized that putting boys on hold is a good place to start. It will let you feel more relaxed and free. When your looking for a "boyfriend" he doesnt come along but when your not looking for one, he just falls right into your lap. =D
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crying is good! let it all out!
if you keep everything bottled up in you.. you're gonna explode! (not really...)
1. If your friend is being really mean to you, think about what caused you to be mad...
Put yourself in HER shoes and think. Sometimes... you should be the one to say Sorry first.
what would you rather do? Let HER say sorry first, and possibly lose your friendship with her?
OR
you take the first step, say sorry and forget about the stupid fight and keep your special friendship?
2. Which sport to do??
welll.. what are you interested in???
an individual sport?
a team sport?
what are you good at? Do you have good hand-eye coordination?
sometimes you just gotta throw away your To-do list and explore. Go to the gym, shoot some basketball hoops... or dance around... or play tennis. Just play a sport for fun, and then if you REALLY like it... sign up for a team!
3. guys...
sooo you like 2 guys?? join the club!
a lot of girls and guys have liked more than 1 person. Its normal.
do a Pro/Con list about each guy and see who you have more in commen with. Find him one day and just have a casual conversation with him. Keep getting to know him and then one day just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.
hope everything goes A-ok!
-volleyball2150
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