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Im crying because no one loves me
Im literally crying right now...I feel that my family doesnt love me anymore. My parents are very demanding they dont even seem to care about my life anymore. i have 3 younger sisters, which makes me the oldest. The second youngest sister i have gets all the attention, they look up to her, they treat her with respect. shes like the boss of the other 2 younger siblings. and they are supposed to look up to me. but alls they do is just be mean to me ignore me and dont even talk to me. so i feel left out of the family, out of place. i feel sad right now. i feel like im the only child. i just noticed this as i was watching myself today. my second youngest sister in line used to be my best friend. but not anymore. im not jealous, but im unhappy with my family life. i would like to feel equal. but i dont and i cant stop crying about it. someone please help me, i will defintely give you a rating of 5 if you give me somewhat good advice. I really need it now!
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I honestly don't know what to say either. I don't have siblings, but I do have parents, and I don't feel like they love me either. I feel exactly like you, out of place not wanted.
What I did was sit down with each of my parents and talk it over them. I explained my feelings twords them, and how things had changed. They really understood.
I see a Physiologist though. They seem to help a TON. I know its not what you want to hear -- but its your best bet to talk to your school counselor. They seem like they're for nerds but they can help a ton. I would really advise you to try and explain to your feelings. It could change things.
Always remember, your parents are there for you. They will ALWAYS love you.
If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to add my myspace, or IM me, or inbox me. All of those options are availvible on my column. Good luck :)
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ok relax!
have a "meeting" with your family and simply tell them that you are feeling a little left out of the family. Tell them how you feel. Honestly... they don't know how you feel, the only way they can make a difference is if you tell them how you feel.
Or if you don't want to tell them how you feel, take 1 person individually and plan a special evening. Like go to the movies with your Younger sister. Then one day take your parents out for dinner. And another example is have your parents go out, and babysit your sisters and play a fun game.
If you don't come to them... how can you expect them to come to you??
YOU need to take a step further and show your family how fun you can be and then they will have a great time around you and they'll want to be around you more.
I hope I helped and everything goes well!!!
-volleyball2150
PS: here's a tip- DON'T run away and only hang out with your friends. DON'T ignore your family and think nobody loves you because there is ALWAYS someone who loves you. It's like my mom says
"don't ever frown because you never know who might be in love with your smile." hope this helps
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I know your pain
except im a youngest. my parents are so hard on me and my brothers both treat me like crap. it can be hard. What i do is When i start feeling sad i put on a song that really pumps me up. or one time i got an email and it said. you are an amazing person, no person can tell you whats wrong with you and sometimes people can be harsh but every little thing you do for the world will end up in effecting the world in a better way. You may not think that they look up to you but they do. They really do. Sometimes people dont understand what they ae saying or doing. All you have to do is take a deep breath. also you can tell some of your friends that you feel kind of neglected and you can be sure that they will try to cheer you up. Your family will love you no matter what, sometimes they are pre occupied and dont realize that they are doing these things. And if that didnt help, everynight someone thinks about you. its clinicaly proven that they think about you because they are in love. trust me your family doesnt hate you. if you need any help or anything dont feel afraid to ask.
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I really dont know what to say. I mean, I have two other brothers and we fight all the time, but normally they just get over it. I would just advise that you try and talk to your parents and try to talk it out w/ your sisters.
If that doesnt work, then surround yourself with friends that you know care about yoou and value who you are. I dont know anyway else to put it.
I really hope that things get better for you and feel free to leave something in my inbox any time.
--Brandon--
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