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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




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Hi... I'm a 18 year old female.. and I have a question for hopefully someone who can give me a helpful answer. I got a year supply of birth control from this place called family planning.. and alot of it expired.. but.. I didnt realize it until recently.. And I know that i took a months worth of expired pills... but ive had my period since that.. But i was told that if you have unprotected sex right after your period.. the chances are really high... So pretty much my question was.. When you take expired birth control does it make your body think that your not going to take it anymore... and then you release eggs again so that the chances of getting pregnant are higher??

Help.. Please...

isnt birth control susposed to make make your body think it is pregnant so it wont be able to firtilize anymore eggs so you wont be able to get pregnant? unless i am really stupid then that is what it is supposed to do. so truely (i noe i am younger then you) i dont think it will give you a hirer risk of gettin pregnant.
*~stephanie~*

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Hello, I've looked up Limewire and everything I've read says it's legal. But I still can't help but wonder...
So does anyone know if it really is legal? Because I want to download it, I just don't know if I'll get in trouble for it.

honestly it is legal but if you sell the music it is ilegal you are allowed to have music on your computer. they cant expect people to have a computer with music on it. a little warning abotu limewire.( i have it and love it) but if you dont have a firewall it will mess up your computer.
*~Stephanie~*

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Does a condom still work ok if you're doing it in the shower?

yes it should work if the person using it knows how to put it on.
*~Stephanie~*

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should you blow dry your hair before you straighten it er let it dry naturally??

thanks!!

blow dry it striaght so you know for sure that is dry and it will be easier to striaghten.
*~Stephanie~*

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okay i want to straighten my hair tomorrow & i was wondering if anyone had any tips??

-i have to do it in the morning after my shower
-i have to blow dry my hair (i dont have a straightener you can use when your hairs wet)
-i have pretty much time about 15-20 mins
-my straightners pretty good. its the revlon thin ceramic straighteners

i juss wanted a few tips.

thanks!!

i would take a shower tonight and strighyten it wit the blow dry then in the mornin i would striaghten it wit a flat iron.
*~Stephanie~*

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Ive noticed that every one talks about something called AIM..what is it? and how do i get in on it?

aim is Aol Instant Messanger. and it is great to use to talk to your friends.
*~Stephanie~*

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Do colleges look at just your last 4 years of high school? Or do they go beyond that?

the only look at Highschool middle school was like pratcie for you to get into what it ae to be in highschool.
*~Stephanie~*

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I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 8 months. I met him at a summer camp 2 summers ago and we started dating in July. We saw each other 2 times during our relationship, then I surprised him once and visited his church this past summer after we broke up in April. He was my first kiss and my first love. I've had a boyfriend since we broke up, because I thought I was over him. He's one of my best friends and we still talk all of the time. I got over him because I didn't think he loved me anymore. He broke up with me because the distance was hard on him. He's more than worth the distance to me. After me and my last boyfriend broke up, we started talking a lot more cause we didn't talk so much while I was in a new relationship. I talked to him last night and my sister asked him if he liked me. He said yes, but that we couldn't do anything about it because I live here and he lives there. I understand where he's coming from, but I might see him about 2 times before the end of the school year and then again for a full week because of summer camp. Because we still like each other, when we see each other, I still want to be together. I'm still in love with him. I guess I should tell him, but what would you do? I have an idea, but I want other peoples' opinions.

if you truely love this guy distance doesnt matter because you guys can have each other in your heart and it wouldnt matter. if you guys cant do that than i suggest to get over him and only stay as friend because it isnt worth the pain if you guys are makin the distance come between you to.
*~Stephanie~*

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if youre on your period and your boyfriend wants to have sexual contact and you want out of your period what should you do or he wants to wonder in your pants?

just tell him it is the wrong timing and if he asks y just tell him the truth.
*~Stephanie~*

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I was at a party nine days ago, when my friends all started smoking pot. I didn't give in to the peer pressure. I didn't smoke any. But I did stay and hang around with them, and I think I got a little "contact buzz" from the second hand smoke. I'm in the military and have a random drug test tomorrow. Will second hand smoke show up in pee tests?? Please help me.

nope it shouldnt come out on the drug test because really your not the one inhaling it or smokin it.
*~Stephanie~*

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hey im 16 and okay so heres my problem...well i have a boyfriend who switched schools and who lives like an hour away so i dont get to see him much but we talk all the time...i love him a lot and i dont plan on doing anything to loose him...but...well before i used to like this other guy and we were like close to going out like we could really tell we liked each other but i never knew what happened but we still talk alot and we're good friends and i think i like him again but this...this is VERY BAD...BECAUSE hes going out with my best friend and they've been together for like 3 months and its bad enough that i already have a boyfriend who i really dont want to lose...now i dont know how my friends boyfriend feels about me and im trying hard not to show that im starting to have feelings for him again...i just need some advice on how to just get over him and put him in the past i really really want to and i'll do anything so please help!
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stop worryin about this and leave him alone it is bad enough that you have a boyfriend but that guy is your best friends boyfriend. leave him alone truely he isnt worth it.
*~Stephanie~*

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I wear makeup to hide ugly scars on my face. With my makeup on no one ever knows that I have them. Only my family has ever seen me without my makeup. My boyfriend of one year is getting fed up with me. He cant accept the fact that he cant see me as sporadically as he'd like. When he comes over unannounced I make him wait 10 or 20 mins while I fix myself up. He says that he loves me no matter what.. and yet he is always saying the best thing about me is my beauty. Should I reveal to him how I truly look and risk losing him? Or save face and let him be upset?

if he doesnt accept the fact that you have scars on your face then he truley doest love you for who you but what you look like. but personaly i think he wont care.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay, so, I might be having sex for the first time in a few days, and I'm wondering, should I be shaved...down there... or not?
And please, I dont need the "If he loves you for who you are inside he wont care" bit, so leave that out and give me a straight awnser... thanks :-)
Ah yes, and I'm a girl.

there is no correct answer for your question. but if you want my opinon i would do it since you dont really know what your bf perfears i would just do it plus when it is shaved there is a less of oder and is much cleaner.
*~Stephanie~*

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how do you put pictures on myspace...like under heroes and such?

you put the link of the image on it under it but you have to have the code which is

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When i shave uh "down there" why does it get really itchy and bumpy. it sometimes hurts really bad, is there something that i am doing wrong?

you not doin anything wrong. it is a razor burn and to make it better whta you can try to do is after shavin it put some lotion on it and it should amke it feel better.
*~Stephanie~*

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I have liked this boy off and on for about 3 years. The thing is he lives in another state, i see him almost every holiday because he is my neighbors nephew. We were going to date until we got into an argument and he called me some horrible names. I really like him again but i dont know if he likes me, he kept staring at me at my neighbors new years party but im really confused. Whats your advice??

i personaly think it will be hard for you to make it work. sicne he has done something in the past that was mean to you i wouldnt take the chance of gettin him to break your heart. i think you guys should stay only friend. and plus in a long distance realtionship you guys need to have a lot of trust in each other and love if not than it will be difficult to handle.
*~Stephanie~*

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i love this guy and we used to be friends and he has been acting all weird lately and i think he likes my friend and my friend likes him and she keeps saying well whats the big deal if i go out with him. i really want him back.

signed i love him

so basicallly your best friend wants to go out with a really good friend/ crush of yours. my advice to is tell your friend how you feel abotu all of this explain to her that you want this guy back and that you like him dont be scared.
*~Stephanie~*

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so my boyfriend sucks at talking on the phone...he only answers when i call every now and then, he calls me back way later then he said he would, he just never makes time to call me basically...i told him how i wish he would call me back like he says he will and everything but it doesnt seem to make a difference...what should i do?

try explain to him that it make you sad that he doesnt call you when he says he does. dont just give up on him. plus it might just be that he is busy with other stuff and he cant help but call you at a time that is better for him.
*~Stephanie~*

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Ok i am like extremly shy when it come to guys and stuff, and I don't want to be. Does anyone know a way to overcome that?

what you should and can do is over come your fears. no matter what it takes. if you fail the first time get up and try again. dont be scared. get over it and live your life to the fullest without being shy.
*~Stephanie~*

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this is going to sound really stupid, but please try to answer as best you can? im 15/f

im used to being on the bottom when kissing, and when it's flipped around so im on top.. sometimes i feel like i might be too "forceful" just because im not good with the "control position." im used to the guys having control over it.. (and yes, i like it that way, if that makes any difference.)

my question is, how do you know how much to "control" when you're on top? how do you know if you're too much, or not enough? without actually asking the person?

any help would be great, thank you!

all you can really do is trust yourself with that one. unless you want to ask the person which you should just to get feed back to see how your are doin. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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