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My Beauty is Man Made
I wear makeup to hide ugly scars on my face. With my makeup on no one ever knows that I have them. Only my family has ever seen me without my makeup. My boyfriend of one year is getting fed up with me. He cant accept the fact that he cant see me as sporadically as he'd like. When he comes over unannounced I make him wait 10 or 20 mins while I fix myself up. He says that he loves me no matter what.. and yet he is always saying the best thing about me is my beauty. Should I reveal to him how I truly look and risk losing him? Or save face and let him be upset?
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Your beauty might be man made, but your love for him and his for you isn't. Is it a risk? Yeah to some degree it is. Ask yourself: can I trust him enough? does he love me for who I am as a person? and if he can't accept me for what I look like, which is not as important as for who I am, is it worth it? Part of a relationship is trust, which means to allow for an open line of communication. Honestly, if you love him its because of everything about him, not just the good things...and if he loves you, it should be for all of the qualities about you, whether you find them to be good or not. Might even be some kind of test - see if looks really do matter to him. I don't mean it in a bad way, but in the sence that looks don't matter...just use the example of what you would do if you were blind. Would looks matter then? Hope that helped and good luck.
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♥I can really relate to you on this one. I also have scars. One on my neck and a rather large on my chest. The thing is, we can't help the fact its there. I always wouldnt wear a bikini because of it and/or really low cut shirts. When my bf came around (the one im w/ now) he said my best feature was also my beauty but i was still scared to relieve my scars. It turned out that he didn't notice or even cared.
♥ Beauty is w/in and no matter how many scars you have, your bf really wont mind. Its not about looks. Sometimes it takes time, but try and relax about the way you look.
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if he doesnt accept the fact that you have scars on your face then he truley doest love you for who you but what you look like. but personaly i think he wont care.
*~Stephanie~*
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He should accept you for who you are...scars and all. If he doesn't then he's waisting your time...your time that you could spend with someone else that was worth it. Beauty is only skin deep and when you get old and that beauty fades you sure as hell better have something worth wanting...a warm heart, awesome personality....you get my point. I say show em'...Best of Luck xoxo
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trust me, if a gut doesnt like you because of your scars, then hes not a person worth wanting. i know that most guys wont care if you have scars or not, i mean i'm missing bones and joints in one of my hands, and that hasnt stopped any guys from asking me out.
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if he loves you he shouldnt care.
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I feel almost a bit sorry that you feel the need to cover up "your ugly scars" but i know how it feels without makeup you dont feel "pretty" as you could. Same with me, only i have major acne, really bad and i used makeup to cover it. If he says he doesnt care what you will look like without makeup, on..then you should show him, and tell him how they got there. if he is able to go a year a with you, and gets up over scars on your face, he isnt work so much trouble, for you. I bet you he will love you still, but show them to him. good luck<3
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you guys have made it this far so let him see. if he really loves you then he won't break up with you if you don't let him see, and he also shouldn't break up with you because of the way that you look. and if the scars are small enough to cover up with makeup then they can't be that bad and i bet that you still look beautiful with makeup. also if you plan to be with him for a while and posably spead a night with him then you aren't ging to be perfectly maked when you wake up, so let him see and start to let up on the makeup for yourself because too much it'sn't a good thing, and could end up like destorying your face in the long run.
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Does he know about the scars?
If not, one day, tell him. Invite him over, don't have on makeup. Show him each of the scars, and how the scar came to be. Tell him that you realize that the scars aren't as "lovely" as he may wish, but you are an excellent makeup artist.
I'm sure he'll love you with the scars.
I have a scar on my face too - though nothing as drastic as yours sound. Mine is one small scar, about 3 milimeters long, in the corner of my left eye [starting at the crease where the top and bottom lids meet and going towards my hairline]. Sometimes I take the time to cover it up; it may be small, but I notice it a lot. When I'm angry, or upset, or if I've been crying, it shows a lot.
I bet you're beautiful with the scars. Wait, I KNOW you're beautiful with the scars. Scars are only skin deep; beauty goes down the the soul.
-FunnyCide
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honey if he really likes you then i doesnt matter how you look im sure you're beautiful and he probably wont care but if he does hes not good of enough for you!!! ITS THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS!!
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all the love
kylee shae
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If you really want to be loved for who you are, it might be time to take off the protective mask - your makeup.
Love isn't about flawless skin OR scars. It's about accepting someone for who they are, caring deeply for them, and helping them reach your true potential.
Maybe the beauty your boyfriend is referring to is your inner beauty. Maybe he'd think you were gorous no matter what.
Try. If he leaves you, then that's a fairly shallow relationship. If not, you'll know he really cares...and you'll probably also build your confidence up.
Best of luck.
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You never know what's going to happen until you try. I'm sure that he does love you. You need to be bold. You gotta take chances and go for it. Remember--you're a Goddess. =-)
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if he says he doesnt care then let him see it or take off your makeup infront of him and if you two have been together for a year i dont think some scars would break you two up but do what you feel comfortable with
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