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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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I slept with like 5 or 6 guys one night (i dont really remember) i was drunk. i wasnt really sure what was going on. now i think i am pregnant... what should i do? and i dont know who the babys daddy is...im 13

Okay well thats really bad. 1st I wanna tell you that you are waaaay too young to be drinking, and if you are then you have to be responcible about it and know your limits. Guys will take advantage of a young girl who is under the influence. You should take a home pregnancy test to find out if you are pregnant. Hopefully you're not and this cann be a lesson to you. If you are, I suggest you talk to your parents about getting an abortion, cuz not knowing who teh father is, is pretty bad.

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Ok..here I go...
I was going out with Aaron, and dumped him for his best friend, Josh. Now since his Josh hates me(we went out he dumped me), Aaron wants to go back out with me...and i said yes...but it's a long distance between us. Is it a good idea? Or no? Please help me!

its nice that aaron wants to give you another chance. all i can say is give it a try, if it doesnt owrk out than it wasnt meant to be.

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i have this friend(lets call her mangan)and latly (especial last year) we have gotten into a lot of fights (not physical, but like over stupid thisngs) like 1 time when i didnt get her some shoe! but anyways we have been frineds since second grade and it is now eighth. she is makin new friedns and so am i, and i am afaidi will lose her, and that is the last thing i want to happen :( i just gotn know wut to do cuz i love her to death and always will please help me!

signed,

tryin to hold on!

(dont deleat cuz i really need adviuce!)

it is okay to have new friends. just make sure you guys still incorporate eachother with your new friend and new the new lives you are living. as long as you do that, your friendship will be okay.

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Ok my sister annoys me so much im gunna be 14 and she iz 18 but n e wayz i have been wid my bf for more then 10 months and she iz alwayz sayin i like her bfz brotha which iz so not tru and she iz like yea when u go to BP then Sam can play football and u cna be hiz cheerleader and i was liek uh.... no she was like well iz not like u r still gunna be with him when u go to high skool i mean it pisses me off juss cuz im younger duznt mean i cnat be in a relationship that has lasted longer then hers iz right now i mean come on i may turnin 14 but i kno my bf iz the 1 and she tries and tellz me that he iznt and o u wont be togetha in high skool and all thiz shyt and it really pisses me off so wat do u think?!?!?!
help plz.......

well tell her how you feel. ask her to please not critisize your relationship. hopefully she will understand.

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Hi! She's perfect. She's beautiful, shes smart, she's talented, she's funny. Problem: She's my best friend. I can't tell her how I feel because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't want our friendship to end because of how I feel about her. Now, if I was a guy, this wouldn't be so complicated. But I'm not. I'm a girl. And I want to tell her, but I don't know what would happen. Any suggestions? Let me know!!

hmm... this is a tough one. if your friend isnt intrested in that type of life style, then maybe you telling her that will freak her out. maybe b4 you say anything to her, you could talk to her about what she thinks about girls being with girls and if she would ever try that... based on her reaction you will know what she thinks about it. hope i helped. and good luck! :)

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im really confused.im a catholic and bieleve in everything it teaches.iv been baptised and confermed too.but i also beilieve in abortion.i think women should have the right to choose if they want.is this a sin? does this mean im goin to hell? pleaz answer.

no its is not a sin. not to me anyway. and no you will not go to hell. everyone is entitled to there own beliefes. im catholic but i feel the same way. some people get coaught in tough perdicaments and a woman should have the right to choose whether she will have an abortion or not.

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My boyfriend and i had sex the first time last week. Now we are doing it w/out the condom. He says that he has his cum under control and he knows when it is comming out. So he said that when it comes out or feels like it he will get out of me and wipe it off. He said w/out cum you can not get pregnate b/c with cum it has the sperms. Now is this true or is he lying to get me pregnate. Please help Me!!!!!!! :*(

i dont know if he is trying to lie to get your pregnant, just making an excuse to not do it with a condom, or just reall doesnt know. but yeah, as long as you are having unprotected sex there is always a chnace you can get pregnant, eevn if he pulls out. so use a condom or get on birth control.

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I need a good way to study for my exam in Algebra 2...any suggestions?

memorize the formulas. thats about all that will help you to survive thorugh that freaking class. Algebar 2 is a bitch. I feel for you.

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Just so everyone knows, putting this in the subject of your question not only does not affect our decision to delete it, but it only serves to point out to us that you have already asked the same question before and it was deleted.

Asking the same exact question two or three times, only putting "MODERATORS, DON'T DELETE THIS QUESTION", does nothing but serve to annoy us more.

yes this very true

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I'm a student that needs the time to figure school work out... and take my time on stuff... but between HorseBack Ridin, School Work, My Babysitting Jobs, and an Athletic Trainer after school.. well I just don't know how to balance it.. any advice?

" Ask Lia "

maybe you should cut down on some stuff... or pick a night when you're not doing all that stuff and just cram. you could also try waking up a little earlier and studying, but you may not like that.

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i hate my body .. like.. im 5'0'' nd i wiegh like.. 140.. but im muscular nd all .. but like.. i could lose wieght.. nd i needa find ways to lose weight.. what kinda excersises work.. FAST.. and like.. to top it off i have like the slowest motablisim lol.. so that sucks.. but im in alot of sports.. but it seems like them never lose any thing

grr so i just need a lil help here lol.. thanks!

b4 you work out , or just any time during the day, try drinking those energy drinks like red bull. that should increase your matabolism. and i always thinking running is the best way to shed pounds, you just gotta stick with it though.

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I'm 21 years old, but I already have an almost constant back pain. Can anyone tell me a daily exercise I could do to make my back stronger and less likely to get strained when I pick up a piece of paper?

have you tried one of those body rubs like bengay, icy hot or aspir cream. that may work. you can also try relaxing in a hot tub. or having someone walk on your back. my bf has a bad back and i walk on it for him all the time to crack it and get the kincks out, he said it makes him feel alot better. otherwise try seeing a chiropractor.

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I am a janitor while making my way through college, so I vacuum and mop a lot every day. The movement has seemed to locked up my right hand between my thumb and first two fingers. It does not always hurt, but when it does, I can't use my hand to lift a bag, twist of a pickle jar, or open a bottle. I basically can't use it for anything. Is there anything I can do to prevent this pain, and is there anything I can do to help alleviate it.

Oh, pain relievers don't usually work for me, but if you know of some super good ones I could get then advice would be welcome.

hmm... have you used any of them body rubs or aprir creams? that may work. or maybe cold compresses. otherwise see a doctor and get something prescribed. you may have a medical condition.

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Does anyone know any good new songs? Im into rap but im lookin for music that they dont really play on the radio. I also like some rock, upbeat stuff usually.

why dont you go buy young bucks new cd. or try jadakiss, jayz, kanye west, i like them all.

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Well there is this guy in my dance class ( I swear he's not gay) and I like him a lot and all my dance friends say he likes me and I like him too, and I've told my best friend about him and she said make a move but i don't know if it's right for a girl to make a move on a guy( I don't really think I'll be good at it), plus i think he has a girlfriend and another girl likes him in class(she's my friend too) what should i do...

if you like the guy, then go for it. who cares who else likes him or what other people think. just talk to him after class and ask him if would like chill one of these days. its really not that hard. just gotta get up a little confidence.

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im asking this question for my friend ... a few months ago she wanted to be homeschooled ... then she found this really nice boarding school that she liked A LOT! so she requested information and things of that sort on teh internet and things like that...well she was sure her mom was going 2 say yes...well her mom said that it was A LOT of money 2 pay especially shes one of four kids...four girls...so it kinda sux for her! i feel really badly for her and she asked me 2 write this...she cant go to the boarding school or homeschooled and she doesn't want to go 2 public/private school because in her area...they judge you at pub. and private school...

PLEASE HELP THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO HER AND ME!!

AND AGAIN PLEASE HELP!!

look everywhere you go people will judge you. whatever school she goes to it will all be the same. this world is all the same. i know it sucks, but you're friend is just going to have to realize that and get on with her life like everyone else.

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This girl and I recently became really close, we used to be good friends and then spilt apart. What got us to be so friggen close again is she went through the same thing I went through. All the drama with other girls befriending you talking behind you back and all of that. We are so close now and can trust each other and throughout the whole summer are bascally each others only friends. Well I am going to college now, and shes still in highschool and on the cheerleading team, where all these girls are. Well a whole bunch of stuff went down and apperently she does talk to tthis one girl that I know of which I don't care because I am sorta ok too. But the thing is apperently shes telling her and these other girls stuff about me. Like the things this girl told me to do because I was about to fight them .. they fought out .. not like everyday things but like things about fighting with a key between your fingers and if worst comes to worse use mase. And apperently when I was talking to this one girl she said all that to me, which my good friend told me. Also work got out that I had talked to the cheerleading coach, only my good friend knows and these two other girls I just "reunited with" that I`ve known since I was 3 and been super close with in the past so I know it wasn't them. So now I just don`t know what to do with this good friend of mine, like to know how close we are its crazy. But then I wanna ask her all these things but don't want to be :ignorant: or like blaming her like how did these girls find out when you said this all to me? And why did this girl tell me to watch out who i say stuff too and that shes friends with my "good friend"

thankyou so sorry if its confusing!!

so... she befriended you. are you surprised. you cant trust many people these days. stop hanging with the girl, shes not your friend. shes gonan cause you trouble,

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for the past few months the inside of my right cheek has been really sore. I looked at it in the mirror the other day and there's this ~half inch diameter laceration there. I donno what to do, it hurts and it won't go away. any advice?

go to the dentist or the doctor

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well i was dating this guy for a while...then things kind of fell apart between us. nothing bad really...he was really busy with work and we kind of just drifted. anyway we just started talking again and he explained everything he was thinking and all that. but while we talked i never really got to say everything i wanted or ask him what the deal is with us. i talked to him online tonight and i had to leave but i thought we would talk when i got back. but he hasn't come back online, and i know he's really busy so i dont want to bug him on the phone. so my question is, should i email him...say what i have to and ask him where things stand, or should i just wait until i talk to him again? i'd appreciate any advice...i really dont know what i should do!

go ahead and email him

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Ever since fifth grade ive had a 2 really close friends that were like the only ones i ever hang out with. But one of my friends is also in this group of girls who im friends with but they always look like they have so much fun! I really want to hang out with more people but how do i do that with out acting like a tag along?

so just go and hang out with them. why do you gotta be considered a tag along? you just wanna have fun like everyone else does. thats only freakin human.

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