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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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Ok when i was on a cruise there was this sickness and my mom got it and we were in the same room and now after about four months i have been feeling like im gonna be sick all the time and i don't know what to do.
Is your Mom still sick?
Call the health department of the State of departure and ask if there were any reports of others who were sick on the same cruise. Of course you have to see a Dr, tell him about the cruise, and the different locations that you were. There are so many things this could be from a parasite--to a virus to something that was in the food. Don't take chances with your health, it's not worth the risk.
I've been at my job for several months now, and I just got switched to a new position within the job. I'm 21 and female, if that helps.
My problem is that I can't get along with the person who is training me (I'll call her Kim). Kim likes to micromanage, be in control of everything I do, and waste my time.
For example, I asked her how to edit the books and she said for me to do it myself. So I told her exactly what I was going to do and she said to go ahead and do it. So I finished up, put the book away, and started working on something else. She stopped me, told me I had done it wrong, and had me do it all over again.
I've caught her in mistakes and she'll never admit she's wrong. She always find a way to turn it back on me. We have keys organized by letters and numbers, and I asked her where the SVC keys were. So she told me wrong and I let her know. She said I asked her where the LFE keys were and that I was wrong and shouldn't "make mistakes when I'm asking questions".
It's not any one big thing. It's just a bunch of little things that go on all day. I'm pregnant and hormonal, and I end up crying in the bathroom several times a day because sometimes she is just flat out mean to me.
How do I deal with this problem? I really need it to stop. I'm afraid to tell the supervisors because Kim is the only black person in the office, and I'm afraid they'll oversimplify the problem as racism and miss the point completely (they do that a lot). Please help before I quit or go insame. Thanks.
You sound like a very bright 21 y/old, business people always do best to hire the smartest employees that they can, so I am sure they don't want to lose you.
Start off by documenting everything. Leave the emotional stuff out, just write the facts. If you document well, you will have proof it's not a racial issue. After you have several incidents documented, request a meeting with Kim and your supervisor. Ask for ways to resolve the problem (make sure you document the meeting too). If they don't take steps to resolve the problems, you have grounds to quit and can file for unemployment. Life's too short to suffer at any job, and trust me there are other employers that would appreciate you!
I am a guy and have a really embassing question i dont want toask anyone i know and dont want to ask the doctor either but when i go pee it sometimes stings and when im done it seems to continue to dribble out of my penis for a while after . this ends up staining my undies. i am not sure why it continues to dribble for so long as well as stinging while i am peeing.
I could give a better answer if I knew your age, because if you are older this could indicate a different problem. However, I will assume you are younger. Most likely you have some inflammation of the urinary tract which could be from an infection of some sort. You are probably not emptying your bladder completely and the urine dribbles due to that reason. The only person that can diagose and treat you would be a physician. They can test your urine & possibly blood to see if you have an infection. That's really the only way to know and to get the right treatment.
ok.
idk if you would know what this is but
i was wondering why it feels like i have a throbbing kind of feeling in my vagina.
im only 13 too and like im too young to get cancer down there
so do you know what it could be??
Well anyway the good news is that is not a symptom of cancer..no matter the age. It's just that it's a highly sensitive area and it's normal to feel that way from time to time. If you don't already, try wearing looser cotton clothing and not tighter jeans..this might help.
Why is it so wrong to be chauvanistic, but OMG SO COOL AND TRENDY!!!!1! to be feminst?
Why is that it's wrong for a man to hit a woman, but if the chick hits the guy, it's considered cute?
Why can girls get away with calling guys every sexist name under the sun but if a man dare say the word chick (ZOMG!!!1!! NOT CHICK!!!! *gasp*) he is called a sexist, and that is not ok?
Hopefully the world wakes up soon to realize that women can and do abuse men. It's sad that if a man fights back in self defense he often ends up getting into the most trouble. I think women and men should treat each other equal..50-50. If it's not okay for a man to say a sexist term, then it's not okay for a woman to do so either.
Ok so I'm 16/f, and I feel really weird because most of my friends have done something, and I've barely even kissed.
Everyone I meet is always like 'how can you still be a virgin?' and it feels a bit uncomfortable.
The things is that I always hear older people say to keep it, that they regret doing it in the first place, but why? My friends dont seem to regret it. And almost no guy would go out with someone who's not sexually active. At least no guy I've come across thinks differently.
What should I do?
Look at it this way "Hind sight is always 20/20" meaning the experience is too new for your friends to have any regrets. Older people regret having unmarried sex at a young age because of what they know now. They now realize that it was an immature and often impulsive thing to do. It's not as good as it is when combined with a long term committment. Don't worry about what others say, go with how you feel in your heart. If you don't really want to have sex, and have your doubts, you will be one of those who regret the decision later on. If they ask about your virginity....that's really crossing the line. Just respond back with something that will get them to drop the subject. Such as "Why do you ask"? Honestly they are probably jealous that you have such good self control, but of course they are not going to tell you that.
i have a kitten. i have had her for about...9 days. she is 7 weeks old. whenever i put her down and leave the room. she starts freaking out. like running around and meowing like crazy. when i go back in a pick her up, she falls asleep, starts purrring and calms down. can anyone give me any advice on what to do??
It's just because of her age. Give her a box or a crate (pet carrier) and a soft blanket to sleep on. You can also put in an old wind up alarm clock (that will tick) like a heartbeat, and a hot water bottle. Cat's are rather aloof and don't mind being alone, but kittens are used to their Mother and siblings.
As weird as it sounds I just hate dealing with people.
Sure I do have friends, and I can make friends with people after a while. But I'm so anti social sometimes. I want to start working, but the only reason why I havent gone out to get a job it's because I'm shy and because I mostly dont want to talk to people.
I mean, even with my neighborhood friends [who i met trough my cousin] I dont even want to talk to them because i'm embarrased that I'll bore them or something.
I hate going out when it's not with childhood friends.
I cant even have someone look at me on the streets because I start feeling self concious.
I know it's not Antisocial Personality Disorder because people that have that are suposely aggresive and dont care about anyone's feelings.
What's wrong with me? I just want to know if there's a name for this phobia of meeting new people that I have.
It sounds similar to agoraphobia, but of course anyone on here can't diagnose you. If your symptoms are causing you to modify your life (such as avoiding someone on the street or not getting a job) you need to be evaluated by a professional that can treat anxiety disorders and phobias. Without treatment you will probably continue to suffer needlessly.
I agree, doesn't sound like you are antisocial (such as the personality disorder) or even unsocial (which means you prefer to be alone.
Please seek help before this consumes your whole life, you deserve to feel better.
http://www.mentalhealth.com/dis/p20-an02.html
I have been recieving remicade infusions for rheumatoid arthritis for the last 4 years and
as of the last 6 months. The relieve level that i experienced at first seems to have diminished considerably. Is it possible that my body has become imuned to it?
I doubt it's an immunity issue. There is such a thing as tolerance level for pain medication, but I don't know if that exsists for remicade because it's entirely different. I would say you need to review your treatment regimin with your Dr. Any medication questions could be directed toward your pharmacist.
http://www.midwestarthritis.com/html/remicade.htm
Me and my ex-boyfriend (first love) might try to try it again and see if it works this time. I still love and care about him. But there's another guy who I like and he likes me as well and wants to be with me. He hasn't caused me nearly as much pain as my ex (actually he hasn't caused me any) but I don't know who to choose or what to do? I love my ex even though it's been over a year since we broke up, but I also am starting to catch feelings for this new guy. Please help me . I will rate
Always choose the nicest guy! While it's quite natural to have feelings for an ex, it's not a good idea to act on those feelings. If you broke up for a good reason, that should be a good enough reason to stay apart. If you get back together it will be okay for a while, but it hardly ever stays that way.
Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my family's moving and I was wondering what kind of theme would be good for a 17 year old's bedroom?
Hearts and Kisses (Like Lip prints) are always cool for a young lady of your age. Otherwise
try these sites for more ideas.
http://forms.aweber.com/form/03/660178603.html
I know this is probably common or whatnot.. but when i like sit down for more than say.. 10 minutes, when i stand up i get reallly lightheaded and feel like im gonna fall over. is something wrong with me.. or is it just because the blood is rushing through my head??
help please!
It's most likely because your blood pressure drops when you stand up. It's called orthostatic hypotension. There are several reasons for this, some are not serious, but others can be. The best thing is to see a Dr to determine the exact cause.
Well, i'd like to say that I am not sexually active, never had sex EVER, and that I don't use tampons.
Well, last night i was getting into bet and i was stretching, and there was a pain like, between my vagina and the whole i poop out of. i touched it [not directly], and it hurt everytime i touched it. Now, it doesnt hurt but everynow and then it does. The thing is i cant really look because it hurts too much to bend so i can!
what is it, and how can i stop it WITHOUT going to a doctor?
Okay..someone answered yeast infection. If your only symptom is pain, that's most likely not the problem. Yeast infections don't cause pain when you bend! Of course only a Dr can give you a correct diagnosis. If it didn't hurt before you were stretching most likely you strained a muscle. Try applying ice wrapped in a towel 3 times a day for 20 minutes, and ask your pharmacist about over the counter medicine for a muscle strain. In addition, make sure you are not constipated which can cause similar pain due to the pressure in the colon.
My mother can't sleep.
When she does its only for like two hours a night.
She has problems when her feet move and she can't stop them so she has to walk around and if she sits her feet move.
She takes sleeping pills sometimes but they don't work either.
Can someone please please please help me!
I am so worried about my mom.
Sleeping pills are not usually the solution for this type of problem. There are probably several conditions that cause the legs to move like you describe. Two of them are Periodic Limb Movement, (PLM) or Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS). Do a search on google and you will find info on both.
It's best that your mother see a Dr for this problem and insist on a sleep study so they can determine the best treatment and a proper diagnosis. Of course there is no way anyone on a message board can diagnose your Mom. The lack of sleep will eventually catch up with anyone. It's nice that you are worried for your Mom...more kids should be just like you.
My son - African American - has hair bumps throught his head and at the bottom of his hairline on the back of his neck. He has tried several products to get rid of them to no avail. Someone suggested he use Vagisil. He's been trying that for the past 2-3 days. Nothing happening yet. Anybody have suggestions out there on how to get rid of them?
Thanks
Since basically the bumps are slightly infected hair follicles, try antibiotic ointment. There is also a newer cream called "calmoseptic" that might help. If it can be avoided, don't use hydrocortisone cream. Although the over the counter version is rather mild, steroid creams cause lightening of black skin.
this morning i went to the doctors office to get treated for my sore throat and coughing. She told me that it wasn't a big deal and it was just allergies. when i got home i went to sleep and when I woke up I noticed that I had a 102.4 fever. is it normal to have a fever with allergies? what do you think?
This is allergy season, so without a temp I could see why the Dr was wrong. In fact a 102.4 temp is a little bit higher than I would expect to see with a cold. Most of the time a fever like that would be associated with the flu. As long as you are coughing, and have a temp yes you are probably contagious. Call the Dr back and tell her about the fever, she might be able to prescribe something over the phone or will request a return visit.
How bad is weed for you?
I smoke like.. maybe once every 2 months.. sometimes from a pipe.. and sometimes from a can.. how bad is this for you? I dont even think I get high when I do it though.. How do you know when youre high?
When you are high you'd feel different. Sort of like being disconnected from your body. The world around you doesn't seem real, you might be off balance and feel like you are in slow motion. I think the amount of THC in different weed varies. It also depends on your body size and metabolism. So while you don't feel the effects, you are still putting an illegal drug in your body...and it can stay in your body for 30 days after smoking. Pot does have an effect on the heart and blood vessels and sometimes it can be laced with PCP or other dangerous drugs. If you keep smoking an illegal substance, it will catch up with you. It's like playing with fire, eventually you are gonna get burned!
So yesterday, i was standing on a chair when my foot slipped and i fell face first into the carpeting. I used my wrist to break my fall an dever since it really huurts. Its not bruised but my legs and nose are bruised up pretty well from the fall. It hurts when i try to turn my wrist into my body like when i wash my hands, dry them, hook my bra, do my hair, try to wash my hair, eat, etc. This happened two days ago and it is still a bit swollen. I tried wearing a ace splint but that doesn't help from the pain of turning my writs. When you put presure on the bone, it hurts and when i rotate my wrist it hurts a lot. My parents think nothing is wrong and they don't want to take me to get x-rays until a nother couple of days. Im icing it and taking ibprofeun but it isn't helping. Anybody have any ideas?
There is a myth about broken bones "I can still move it so it's not broken" Thats not always the case. There are tiny bones in the wrist that can easily be fractured when falling and landing with your hand palm down and extended. Sometimes if a broken bone (fracture) is not in perfect alignment it will not heal properly and your range of motion will be limited forever! It's worth the trip to the Dr for x-rays and you shouldn't wait because in 2 days it could be healing wrong already.
my mother made me get these stupid acrylic nails!
besides the fact that they hurt, i can't take my contacts off. i've been crying hysterically for the past few minutes because i can't take them off. and my mother won't let me take off the acrylics. i'm so mad. is there any easier way to do this?
Buy the little suction cup that helps remove contacts that way you won't even have to touch them. It's kind of mean making you get fake nails if you don't want them...geesh..I've heard it all now!
ok, i've bin vomiting spontaniusly lately, like i really mean spontaniusly, like i can feel great one second then be gaging the next. its kinda bothering me and i dont know what it could be, people have bin telling me that i could be pregnant but i dont beleive it to be true because just had my periode last week, i guess my qiestion is, am i just sick or could i be pregnant because i'm on the pill and people also tell me that the pill will still make you have your periode if your pregant is that true?
No the pill will not make you have your period if you are pregnant. How long have you been vomiting? Is it a large amount? Can you keep anything down? The first thing you need to do is drink/eat clear liquids for 24 hours and see if you feel better after your stomach rests. If you are not better or get worse make sure you see your Dr.