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Afraid of people
As weird as it sounds I just hate dealing with people.
Sure I do have friends, and I can make friends with people after a while. But I'm so anti social sometimes. I want to start working, but the only reason why I havent gone out to get a job it's because I'm shy and because I mostly dont want to talk to people.
I mean, even with my neighborhood friends [who i met trough my cousin] I dont even want to talk to them because i'm embarrased that I'll bore them or something.
I hate going out when it's not with childhood friends.
I cant even have someone look at me on the streets because I start feeling self concious.
I know it's not Antisocial Personality Disorder because people that have that are suposely aggresive and dont care about anyone's feelings.
What's wrong with me? I just want to know if there's a name for this phobia of meeting new people that I have.
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You know wat? I use to have exactly the same problem as you. Even now, all these fearful thoughts do come into my mind. and trust me, everyone has these fearful thoughts too.But I always tell myself why bother bout things that I have no answers to? I dun think you are suffering from any phobia or disorders my dear. You are simply insecure, that's it.
Are you a perfectionist? Cos i feel that you are one. You are so afraid of things going wrong cos you just wan everything to be perfect. Why worry bout things that havent even happen? SHUT OUT the worries of tomorrow and concentrate on doing your best for today and today only. I'm not saying that you shouldnt plan for the future. Hell yea you should always plan wat to bring and wat to wear when you are meeting new people but PLEASE PLEASE dont plan wat is going to be they're reaction when they see your new outfit or wat will be your conversation like. Cos you are not a fortune teller or GOD. You are only wasting your time and worrying your life away.
Just be yourself and keep smiling when you meet new people. Conversations will come naturally. Dun worry so much about it dear.WHen someone looks at you on the streets, look back at them . or you can smile at them or just dun care bout them. Let them look. Why should you let your life and how you act on the streets be controlled by passerbys and people whom you will only meet for that one second when they walk past you?
Just dun think too much.ANd do your best for today and live well for today so that you will have a happy future. You CAN make new friends . IF you cant, how can you possibly have your own group of friends and childhood frens??The fact that you can still maintain your friendship with your childhood frens tells me that you are a loyal friend and someone who treasures friendship a lot. SO wat's not to like about you?
You love your frens for who they are and likewise, your new frens will love you for who you are. Dun worry bout starting converstaions cos they'll come to you most naturally. just relax, live happily =)
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It sounds similar to agoraphobia, but of course anyone on here can't diagnose you. If your symptoms are causing you to modify your life (such as avoiding someone on the street or not getting a job) you need to be evaluated by a professional that can treat anxiety disorders and phobias. Without treatment you will probably continue to suffer needlessly.
I agree, doesn't sound like you are antisocial (such as the personality disorder) or even unsocial (which means you prefer to be alone.
Please seek help before this consumes your whole life, you deserve to feel better.
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the best thing for you to do is just to try meeting new people. try getting a job and you can practice by saying hi to people who came in and out. you dont have to strike up long conversations with them but just a smile and say hello. dont worry about boring people. not saying anything at all gets pretty boring. try starting conversations about things all of you have in common then you wont get bored and neither will they.
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Look i know its hard but people are attracted to confience, thats why they be a little hesitant. You dont have to change completley,but your going to have to deal with people sooner or later. Your phobia is called Anthropophobia and its a fear of people or society orits Sociophobia- Fear of society or people in general. Its not that uncommon...REALLY and sometimes the sympotoms dont always show up
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if you think you have those syptoms you should strongly see a doctor..psychtrist maybe...its not bad...i go all the time for other reasons...
if you ever need to talk email me at oliveyoux3@hotmail.com or go to my myspace...and me n u can jus
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