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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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I've been on a downward spiral for years, and it's reaching a breaking point. And it certainly doesn't help my self-esteem when recently a guy I like has been talking to me about this other girl he likes a flip-ton.

I want to like myself again. I want to have confidence, to live a day where I don't wish I was someone else. I want to be happy again. What are some steps I can take to get my respect for myself back?

You can definitely gain back your self worth. So instead of thinking about the constant negatives, try to think of at least one positive out of every situation. You need to set goals for yourself, what do you want to achieve? It could be a full time job somewhere else, or getting your college degree, or saving up enough money to do/get something. Etc. it's not fun to hear about this girl your crush likes, but don't let it bring you down! If its not happening for you then it's not meant to be and there's someone else out there for you! Go out around town, if you're old enough go to a bar or club and enjoy yourself responsibly. If you have a group of friends call them up and go out for lunch or have a sleep over..get a manicure. Maybe you're closer with your parents and family, spend some extra time with them. If you can afford it treat yourself to something nice, like a new shirt or shoes. Little things like that will be uplifting and make you happier. It's all part of the process. Make sure you always set goals, and spend time focusing on what you like and what makes you happy. When you feel this way, it means that it is time for a change in your life for the positive. I hope I've helped!

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I was thinking of sending some books to her (you can send books from Amazon). Do you know of any good paperback books or magazines that someone in jail might enjoy?

I would suggest any of her favorite magazines would be nice like if you know she loves cosmopolitan you can send if to her. As for books everyone has a personal preference, I like autobiographies while she may like fiction. If you know what she likes it could help you pick.

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I'm a freshman & I have no idea of what's going to happen during orientation. I already know what class I'm taking. What happens? Do I need to bring anything?

It's a great experience, you get to learn more about your school, the clubs, etc and it's a chance for you to meet and socialize with other students that are new as well. You will get acclimated to your school, and be guided by older students or alumni that can answer any questions you have. You're going to have a blast! Theres a ton of food and usually the mascot is there to take a picture with! you will probably get your student id foo. I also know that at mine, I got a school folder, pen, and some really cool free goody bags like a college backpack, a shirt, and some other small items.
You may go to meetings where they ask you to fill out some forms for the health office or permission forms for them to release personal information to your parents or guardians. Also at my orientation I had to take a survey. That's about it. Enjoy your orientation, you only get one! Hope it goes well :-)

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I love him to death but I have some concerns. He lies a lot not just to me but to everyone. I will find out stuff he hasn't told me through mutual friends. And because of his lying he is losing a lot of friends. Another concern is that my family and friends are not fans. They all say he is a nice guy but I could do better. My dad refuses to even meet him. He is 25 and going back to school the end of this month and just not seems to be getting his shit together. He hasn't had a car for months and it is always on me to pick him up and drive places. If the roles were reversed he would do the same for me but my parents are not ok with the current situation. When I am with my friends I want to break up with him but when I am with him I can't imagine myself without him. I am so 50/50 with this relationship. I don't want to leave him but I feel that it has to be done. Anyone have any advice or input? Does it seem like I am doing it for the better of me or to please family/friends? Should I see if anything changes? So stuck.

I was in a similar situation, first off you have to ask yourself, is he holding me back? From your post I can guarantee you that answer is yes. From my experience, I always follow my motto.. Sometimes it takes someone to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, for you to realize what you had wasn't what you deserve. A breakup will always sting no matter what, but I promise you will look back on your relationship once it's over and be so happy that you finally ended it. For me, I lost friends over a stupid guy, it is so not worth it at all. And when you find a guy that your family really loves, you will feel 10000% happier it's like floating on cloud 9. It's an emotional process, but you are only dropping a weight that has been holding you down. I could go on and on for paragraphs about this, but I don't want to overkill it. You seem like a very bright and sweet person, by just reading your question I can tell you that you deserve better. I hope I've helped, like I said it's never an easy process as its extremely emotional, but you will be happy in the long run. If you need to talk just inbox me, everything will turn out fine don't worry!

Just as a side note, I felt the 50/50 feeling too, what I realize now is that the fact that you are already 50% sure you should break up with him, subliminally you know what is best for you.

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people say I am acting cold or childish but isn't it better to act the way I am acting instead of being hysterical or feeling miserable? '


I have just accepted it and instead looked at "positives" of the situation (a bit more freedom with her being absent for a little while (if it was longer I'd feel worse) , her maybe looking at things now from a different perspective)


I'm not tearing her down with it or sonething. I'm just not feeling scared or anything and instead feel that is rather thrilling, it is an experience not many peploe go through.


Things I said are this


1. Before she surrendered to jail. We went out to a restaurant. I teased her about how tomorrow she was going to be behind bars and taking orders from people. She joked back that the food she's eating now won't compare to prison food.


2. I was telling my dad and some friends I trust how "maybe she'll see how it feels when I get punished"



I hope this doesn't sound too malicious or uncaring.

It's not too malicious, but make sure you try to keep some of those thoughts to yourself instead. The way you talk out loud is going to influence your thinking. So if you constantly make comments like that, you're going to start thinking that way seriously too. If you talk positively and tell your friends and dad things such as "it's only six months, it will go by fast" and other positive statements like "I can't wait for mom to come home so we can all spend time together" etc you will think more positively. It's kind of like how when you smile, you feel happy. Even when you're sad, if you really smile you will feel a little but happier its the same with your talking. And it's okay to feel sad, some people you say tell you that you are childish or cold, maybe this is because inside you are covering for your sadness? It's natural to feel upset and saddened by your situation. In fact, feeling upset and sad shows that you care and are affected. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, you are human. If you feel sad, talk to your dad about it, perhaps you can keep a diary of this experience for you as it will make you feel better. Another good idea is writing your mom a letter, or multiple ones. Little actions will help relieve your emotions, you should use your friends and family to cheer you up through this time. Everything will be just fine :-)

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My bf & I have been together for 11 months. He has quite a temper on him & Sometimes gets really angry & calls me names. It's wrong but because I'm scared of his temper, I sometimes hide things from him or not tell the truth. Usually about small things to spare his feelings (like if he got invited to a party or not)

I've tried telling him about this before but he just doesn't seem to understand that he's part of the problem. I've tried not lying/hiding but he just gets so mad when I tell the truth. Now he won't forgive me & will only do so if I post a status on facebook callingg myself a liar. Is this still love? Is this still worth it? I forgive him for all the awful things he's said to me/called me,.why cn't he forgive me

I completely understand your situation. It's extremely difficult to realize while you're in the relationship, but he's holding you back. I wish I had realized that earlier myself, so take it from me, any guy that you have to bend the truth for is not worth staying with. It's not fair to you, it's a recipe for disaster! No matter what a breakup stings, but sometimes (my motto) is that it takes someone to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, for you to realize what you had wasn't what you deserve. I promise you'll look back on this and be so much happier later in life, I know I found that I actually lost friends because of a stupid guy, so NOT worth it at all in the end!! Feel better!!! Hope this helped

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this is weird but I don't really feel scared or anything about this, I can't help but feel a little eh "excited" maybe is the word about my mom being in jail. Not in a malicious type of way but more in a teasing type of way. Not because I hate her or dislike her. On the contrary I had a good relationship with her but I definitely find it kind of funny that my mom is in the punishment situation now and is taking orders from others and it might give her a different perspective on certain things. Also because I know she is coming back in six months and is not going away from forever or for years and years. I guess it is kind of childish to think that way but I cannot really help it lol . I actually told my dad some of these things and he said it was OK and he was glad I was instead not acting hysterical about it and even joked back "maybe you;re mom will understand how it feels when she punishes you, maybe when she comes back things might be different". People might look at it and think we hate her but really it is just a different way of dealing with it.

I definitely understand, it is a more lighthearted method of dealing with your situation. As I like to think of if, every family has a different rhythm or flow to them, some people may find that the best method of coping is by crying, in your case it's not and that is definitely okay. The point is you're dealing with it just fine, which will obviously be better off for all of you in 6 months on the arrival of your mother. I wish you the best of luck! I'm glad that this turnout is a good one :-)

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my mother is going to jail for six months for forgery related charges. I am handling the situation fine because she will be back and her visit to jail might make her go easier on me now. Even though it is only six months, My dad asked if I want to visit her sometime because he said she would appreciate a visit and it could be interesting and an "educational experience" (What does that mean? Please give your opinion on that)




also, my dad said I still have to listen to my mother when she gets out. I don't understand how he can do this. I mean like I said I don't hate my mom or anything and had a good relationship with her but now that she is a criminal, her telling what to do might be hypocritical




I have no problem with my mother and other than this misdeed she was a good mother but I don't know if I should subject myself to go into a jail just to see her for a while. Does anyone know what it is like there and how the visiting works? I am a 14 year old girl by the way. Also, what can we talk about in the short time we probably have? Also is it really going to be that bad for her in there, I mean she has six months of not having to worry about anything.

Having a mother in jail is never a pleasant or easy experience, fortunately she didn't commit something much more serious. What I believe your father means by it being an educational experience is that you will get to first handedly witness and understand how unpleasant jail is. Its like punishing you when you misbehave, it shows you how actions have grave consequences. As for you deciding whether to visit her or not, she is still your mother and everyone makes mistakes. No matter what you do wrong or what mistake you will make in life, your mother and father will always love you, this is in some respects reciprocated by you visiting. It shows support and would give your mom an ease of mind that as your daughter you still love and respect her. It's definitely an experience a 14 year old let alone anyone should have to go through, but family is forever and 6 months in the long run will seem like nothing. 20 years from now when you're thinking about getting married and having kids, the 6 months your mother has spent in jail will simply be a lesson learned, and hopefully just a past memory for you and your entire family. Also, as far as your mother being a criminal, it is technically true, but try to sympathize when she tells you to clean up your room or when she grounds you for talking back to her (every teen goes through this stage) because after all, she still is your mother, and it will only enhance your relationship if you keep the rhythm of your family functioning the same. In 6 months, she will have paid her do's for her crime so it won't be worth bringing up over and over again. I know I would feel horrible if my mom still brought up all of the mistakes I have made when I was your age (I'm 21 now). Anyway I hope this helps! Let me know if you need anymore advice or have any other questions. Again I'm sorry you have to go through this tough time, but your family will be back to normal before you know it. :-)

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I have a sore throat right noww, it hurts a lot and I can't stand it. I'm taking a medication ,but the strange thing is that this it happens to me often. My throat gets better and after about a month it appears again. What may be happening? It's awful since even when I'm walking the pain gets even worse.

My friend had that happen to her and she needed to get her tonsils removed. She feels 100% better now and is so happy she did it. You should see your doctor and ask about it since it's so frequent!

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My ex-Boyfriend wants to see me. I keep on telling him excuses like-
- I cant. I have to clean my room.
-My mom said i cant...
- I already have plans.
He still just keeps on asking. I have even tried to tell him that i dont like him anymore. He just wont listen! Please help.

I have been in your situation, it's tough but once you tell them how you feel and the persistency of asking to see you doesn't stop, the best and most effective way to make it all stop is to not answer his texts or calls or messages whatever form of communication you use. If you see him everyday do your best to avoid him! He will get the hint, the longer you talk to him the more he feels he will convince you. Cut off communication and he will eventually quit it!

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My boyfriend is 24 years old and has three younger sisters one around his age and two younger they are a very close family and they are also Arabic so I'm not very familiar with his culture but he is a Christian . He's still living at home and seems to have a lot of pressure on him to always please his family. We've been dating for seven months and I've grown very concerned with his relationship with his middle sister, she's 20 years old and seems to depend on him for everything money, friendship and ???? they are constantly texting even when we are together winky faces and hearts included and she always seems to be the one walking into his bedroom to talk to him while we're on the phone. In the past he's made comments about her butt looking nice in yoga pants and I confronted him about it and he said he was doing it in a joking way because he doesn't like her to wear them, he's also said things like I should do my makeup more like his sisters, there's also a weird pattern I've noticed in all of their family pictures in that she's always on his lap or at the least those two are next to each other. Just recently she saw a scary movie in theaters and he informed me that she was so scared she slept in his bed...which is SMALL. I'm disturbed to say the least because besides these few things I've pointed out there's just a weird vibe I get when he talks about her. I've confronted him in the past lightly stating that they seem very close and I'm surprised he's not closer with the sister his age and he will just say 'ew what are you thinking' Should this be of concern or am I over reacting ? I don't have any brothers but through all of my friendships I've never had a friend be quite as 'close' with their brother..

It would be easy to assume that there is incest going on, but without proof I won't jump to that conclusion. All of that aside, the fact that these are consistent patterns shows that this is behavior you will be dealing with for the rest of your relationship. Personally, I could not deal with that. If he doesn't see a problem chances are he never will. It's definitely up to you, whether you want to put up with it or not. I'm sorry that someone you really care about has raised such concern for you!

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I feel like something evil has been following me for most of my life. This started happening to me when I was 9 years old. I would be scared to go to sleep & I didn't know what it was. My mom would pray with me every night & I still had paralyzing dreams & nightmares of the devil & evil shadows. When I wasn't sleep I started seeing dark shadow like people with red eyes on walls everywhere I went. I still see these things and I know I'm not crazy. I was not sleep when I saw these things. I have nightmares & most of the time I'm wide awake. Some times I feel an evil presence in the room with me & I start shaking. Everywhere I go I feel like there's something evil following me. I went on a website and found numerous stories of people talking about their experiences with dark shadows (an evil spirit with a fedora & suit following them & in their houses.) I feel weird feeling typing this. Sometimes when I'm in my room I see shadow human figures & I hear loud footsteps. I get so terrified when I feel a presence in my room & I can't move, I know I'm not sleep. Sometimes I'm not even laying down when this happens. I can't talk to a church or anyone else about this because they will think I'm crazy. I even heard a voice one time when I was 9-10 yrs old. It was very evil & scary, I was wide awake sitting up & it was the middle of the day, my mom was in another room. The voice told me that I was going to hell & it was really evil. I started having nightmares about the devil. I even dreamed that I was getting married to the devil. I was wide awake when these things happened I know I wasn't in a dream. One time I was paralyzed & I couldn't see I kept calling my moms name & I heard loud thumping. When it was over I had small scratches on my face. Evil spirits have been terrifying me for years. I can't tell anyone about this because they won't believe me.

They say that evil spirits follow you. Some people said that they've seen dark shadows over their beds on top of them & they couldn't move. when I was little I would see shadows with eyes but I would never tell anyone because no one would believe me. I do not believe that this is REM sleep. I feel like there's a dark spirit in the room with me. One time I was laying in my bed awake & all of a sudden I couldn't see or move. I heard noises & then a loud pop. I see shadows out of the corner of my eye (& sometimes I see them when I'm wide awake.( I woke up and I had scratches on my body, they weren't big. I hear loud stomping across my floor and I couldnt move.I've heard countless stories about people having sleep paralysis & seeing spirits/shadow people around their houses when they weren't sleep.


I even sense them there when I'm in church. Praying hasn't worked. I see shadows & stuff flickering around my room too. They hover over my bed on the ceiling, shadows with red eyes & a shape of a human & these are not my shadow. They follow me everywhere I live. I see evil spirits all around on things. I do NOT have a mental disorder & I'm not hallucinating, cause people have suggested this before. I've googled "shadow people", "old hag syndrome" and there's people who have stories detailing exactly what i've been through. It's hard to explain, but I think that this is something supernatural & I'm not imagining things. If I keep a bible or crucifix would that help?

This is 100% true & I'm not making this up, other people have experienced this as well & I just want it to go away.

That sounds absolutely terrifying, I don't care what anyone says I believe you. What I seriously suggest doing is to purchase holy water asap, my grandmother always buys it for my family, and spritz it around your room if that makes sense. I just dip my fingers in it and just spray it with my fingers around the corners of my room. Do this everywhere in your house, and as often as you want. Also, you should buy a cross necklace to wear, and almost never take it off. It sounds weird but these little things will help you feel more at ease if anything and should help you out with the evil around you. Another thing you may want to consider, keep a bible under your pillow and buy a wall cross. I have one in my room I love it. If you haven't told your parents, maybe you should consider just bringing it up to your mom. Ask about the history of your family, you never know what you may discover. I'm not an expert on any of this but I can only imagine how terrifying it is. If this persists you should research some specialists to potentially help you out, as you have already mentioned from searching online, you're not alone in this. I seriously wish you the absolute best of luck, and may God be with you!

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My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 6 months now. He's the best guy I've been with and our relationship is wonderful. The problem lies in the fact that he is good friends with an ex. I actually recently found this out because they don't hang out too often, but do talk/text occasionally. She is also in a serious relationship herself. My boyfriend and her had a clean, mess-free break and it was many years ago. Is this normal? I'm feeling threatened, and don't know how to react since I've never been in a situation like this before. I have no reason to not trust him, but it makes me worried that he's still close with someone he was in a relationship with. Am I making a big deal out of a non deal-breaker? (25/f)

Trust is a vital component to any relationship. You should definitely talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, remind him that you trust him completely. It's understandable to feel that way, if the situtation were flipped, he probably would not feel so comfortable either. An "ex" is supposed to be someone from the past, not the present, in my opinion. If this were me I would feel the same as you.
As your boyfriend, he will/should understand the sensitivity of the circumstance and comfort youe, as well as assure you there is nothing to worry about. Depending on how greatly you feel about this, perhaps he needs to consider cutting off communication at some point. Remember that you are his girlfriend, while his ex is merely a friend, your feelings need to be considered first.

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I really want to get my ears pierced but my mom said she doesn't know a place that will do it for a "fair" price. I think she's afraid to take me to some place that will charge a whole lot of money to just get an ear piercing done on me since I'm 14.

It seems like my friend said something about Wal-mart doing ear piercings a few years ago but I can't quite remember for sure. So, I wanted to know if anyone knows if Walmart will do ear piercings for me and how much it might cost to get my ears pierced at WalMart?

Oh, and if anybody does have experience with getting their ears pierced at Walmart . . . then does Walmart do a good job with ear piercing?

THANKS FOR ALL THE INFO!!!

I believe walmart does do ear piercings, but Im not sure of the price. I do know that if you go to the mall, there are places that will pierce your ears for free, all you need is an earring to pay for. Clairs does it for free. To be honest, I got mine done at my doctors office, they did it for free there too.
Also, I know a girl who was 13 and wanted their ears pierced, but not a lot of places would do it until she was 14, so her mom just told the earring place she was 14, and it was fine. :-)

Good luck!!!

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I'm so sick and tired of not being a popular girl and not getting the hot boys at school to notice me. I want to do whatever it takes now to become popular before school is out this year. What are some good tips on how to become popular in my school so people know me and like me? THANKS

I know how you feel, I was in your situation too.
my tips: (keep in mind I dont know your daily routines haha) :-)
- If you have dull teeth, try using teeth whiteners, I use crest. You can also brush your teeth with baking soda!

- Straighten your hair, dont put it up all the time. If it gets frizzy, put a little anti friz lotion or spray in it. If you straighten your hair, keep it down, and youtube videos on how to put it up in cute ways, and how to curl it.

- If you dont wear makeup, experiment with some simple eyeliner and mascara, from then, start applying some eyeshadow if you want.

- Make sure you have some form fitting cloths, no matter what your weight is, you can always look good! I suggest going to tj max or marshalls, they have really nice cloths for not alot of money.

- SMILE :-) everyone likes an ubeat, overall happy person!

- Dont try too hard, i know you have probably heard this one before...but be yourself! As long as you are nice, and smiling, and outgoing, you will be noticed

- have more get togethers with friends, go to some parties, live it up! this isnt going to happen overnight, but thats okay, you have to slowly work your way up to your goal. :-)

Good luck!!!! If you need any more help, you can always ask me on my page, xosodapopx3.

ps,
always make sure little things are taken care of, such as you always have deoderant on, and make sure you put some nice perfume, guys love that! Also, paint your nails if you can, thats cute :-)

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What are the most popular teen stores that you can think of? I want to dress more popular this year but I'm kind of stuck on what stores are considered "in" right now. We have lots of stores around here like Old Navy, Hollister, Abercrombie&Fitch, American Eagle, Fashion Bug, HotTopic, etc etc

What's the most popular stores that us teens shop at now?

Forever 21
Hollister
Abercrombie
American Eagle
Pac Sun
Old Navy
Lucky Brand
TJ Max
Marshalls
Express

good luck :-)

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my computer is acting gay so sorry but my catgory was suppost to be love... anyways lemme start of ; soo this is wat happened; i met this guy lets call him (c)& we started talking & i liked him alot & he sed he liked me.. we went too different schools but he wuld cum too my sschool too see me. & i was telling him tht i heard his bestfriend lets call him (p) had raped a girl & i told him not too say anyting & he sed he wuldnt.. then like 2 weeks later all of a sudden he stopped talking too me ( this happened on a thursday) then he got a girlfirend that sunday... like wtf ??? i got soo mad... then like 1 week & a half later (p) i/m'ed me saying wtf you believe i raped a girl ?? thats a lie wow i cnt believe you believe tht.. & i was like i dont believe it cause the person who sed it is mad fake who told you tht anyways ?? & he goes (c) soo then i i/m (c) & im like wtf you told (p) tht i believed he raped a girl ?? when i told you not to saya nytin & then (c) goes he knew before... & i was like wow w,e bye im in schoool & hes like okay.. & then i chedk my phone 2nd period & i saw an i/m from (c) that said " i

first off, please dont use the term "gay" as an insult. thats completely wrong. and second of all, I tried to read your post, but its barely understandable. There are tons of symbols and shortened words such as w,e, (C) and nah and -_____- that make your post very hard to read. please consider revising it, and I would love to help you.

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Whats the best curling iron for thick hair?

I have a conair curling iron, and that works just fine, I have really thin hair and my sister who uses it too has really thick hair, it works well for both of us. I heard that revlon irons are really good too :-)
Good Luck!

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I'm 15 and have recently found out that I'm pregnant the guy wants nothing to do with it and i've been really stressed out about it, people keep saying you can hit yourself in the stomach and make yourself miscarriage is this true ? and what are the symptoms of miscarriage.. thank you

If your mother hit herself in the stomach while she was pregnant with you, you either wouldnt be around today, or you would be mentally retarted. Im not saying that to be mean, its very true. You are not guaranteed to have a miscarriage by doing that, and that is a horrible way of trying to have one. You have been given the miracle of birth, some people that actually try to have kids cant and dont. just think about that before you beat yourself, which is essentially what you are doing.

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is tap water the same as bottled water essentially?

tap water is just as safe as bottled water, depending on where you drink it from. For instance, your kitchen will have clean tap water to drink from, which is just as good as bottled water. In restaurants, they have a law that forces them to get a fitration system so basically you are just paying for the plastic bottle.

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