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Is there a way to gain back my self worth?
I've been on a downward spiral for years, and it's reaching a breaking point. And it certainly doesn't help my self-esteem when recently a guy I like has been talking to me about this other girl he likes a flip-ton.
I want to like myself again. I want to have confidence, to live a day where I don't wish I was someone else. I want to be happy again. What are some steps I can take to get my respect for myself back?
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This may sound a little strange to you though it worked for me. I found that we can spend our lives wishing or trying to be someone or something we are not. For those of us who do this we end up where you seem to be and I was. Having low self-esteem and paralyzed in self-doubt.
When I realized that being this way was keeping me from making my way in the world, making a real living, finding a wife and living the best of the American dream I could. I came up with the following two phrases to live by:
1) The only person I have to be better than tomorrow is the person I am today.
2) If I leave the house today and return home in the evening having learned something new then I have had a day where I accomplished a great deal.
If I can be a better person tomorrow than I am today, then I have grown and matured. This has worked well for me in life and in my career. When I started to live by this rule I started to have better sales. Was sought after by the leading organization in my trade and became one of their best sales people. For over 20 years I never was worse than in the top 5 which meant I was always the leader in my region.
Sales managers always measured productivity and accomplishments by sales. I had one sales manager tell me if you did not sell something each day then you were unemployed that day. I never worried about selling something each and every day. I was more concerned with learning something new each day because knowledge is growth and power. If I learned something new about almost anything I could use that to help me sell something.
Sales people are supposed to talk a lot. I didn't talk very much I sat and I listened. Through listening I learned and I used what I learned to sell what the customer wanted as well as what I wanted them to buy.
Hopefully by explaining how these two little phrases or idioms if you will changed my life. If you were to adopt them they can change your life. Perspective which is how we see things is everything. If you change how you see yourself you can reverse that spiral you're in, gain the self-confidence you're losing and get the respect you want from other people.
You don't say how old you are so I will put it this way. People respect those who are successful. Be it in school or at work. If you're in school buckle down and improve your grades. IF you are in the working world then become the best at whatever it is you are doing. Make the supervisor or boss notice you for what they are not seeing. That being having to constantly be on you or correct you to do your job. Employers notice you more when they are not seeing you. The same goes for teachers.
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You can definitely gain back your self worth. So instead of thinking about the constant negatives, try to think of at least one positive out of every situation. You need to set goals for yourself, what do you want to achieve? It could be a full time job somewhere else, or getting your college degree, or saving up enough money to do/get something. Etc. it's not fun to hear about this girl your crush likes, but don't let it bring you down! If its not happening for you then it's not meant to be and there's someone else out there for you! Go out around town, if you're old enough go to a bar or club and enjoy yourself responsibly. If you have a group of friends call them up and go out for lunch or have a sleep over..get a manicure. Maybe you're closer with your parents and family, spend some extra time with them. If you can afford it treat yourself to something nice, like a new shirt or shoes. Little things like that will be uplifting and make you happier. It's all part of the process. Make sure you always set goals, and spend time focusing on what you like and what makes you happy. When you feel this way, it means that it is time for a change in your life for the positive. I hope I've helped!
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