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Boyfriend sleeping in the same bed with sister? 24 and 20?
My boyfriend is 24 years old and has three younger sisters one around his age and two younger they are a very close family and they are also Arabic so I'm not very familiar with his culture but he is a Christian . He's still living at home and seems to have a lot of pressure on him to always please his family. We've been dating for seven months and I've grown very concerned with his relationship with his middle sister, she's 20 years old and seems to depend on him for everything money, friendship and ???? they are constantly texting even when we are together winky faces and hearts included and she always seems to be the one walking into his bedroom to talk to him while we're on the phone. In the past he's made comments about her butt looking nice in yoga pants and I confronted him about it and he said he was doing it in a joking way because he doesn't like her to wear them, he's also said things like I should do my makeup more like his sisters, there's also a weird pattern I've noticed in all of their family pictures in that she's always on his lap or at the least those two are next to each other. Just recently she saw a scary movie in theaters and he informed me that she was so scared she slept in his bed...which is SMALL. I'm disturbed to say the least because besides these few things I've pointed out there's just a weird vibe I get when he talks about her. I've confronted him in the past lightly stating that they seem very close and I'm surprised he's not closer with the sister his age and he will just say 'ew what are you thinking' Should this be of concern or am I over reacting ? I don't have any brothers but through all of my friendships I've never had a friend be quite as 'close' with their brother..
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It is easy to jump to the conclusion that there is some type of incestuous relationship between your boyfriend and his sister. Based on what you have said it is an easy conclusion to make.
Based on Arab culture, not religion, how protective this culture is of their women. I would be very surprised if there was any incest going on. If his father was to find out he would find a dessert to take him out to and leave him there without food, water or proper clothing. That is how it would be dealt with in their old country.
The fact is that you have developed doubts and are not trusting of the answers you are receiving from him. You may or may not have could reason to doubt him. We or I can't say as we do not know him.
My best advice is: If you feel you can't trust him then this is no way to build a relationship and you should consider ending this one.
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It would be easy to assume that there is incest going on, but without proof I won't jump to that conclusion. All of that aside, the fact that these are consistent patterns shows that this is behavior you will be dealing with for the rest of your relationship. Personally, I could not deal with that. If he doesn't see a problem chances are he never will. It's definitely up to you, whether you want to put up with it or not. I'm sorry that someone you really care about has raised such concern for you!
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Dump him
Sounds like there is incest going around in that family. Your boyfriend is sleeping with his sister...Wake up. I am sorry to be rude but this is a red flag and a very obvious one. It is wrong, It is disgusting and almost anywhere it is illegal.
Do you really wanna be involved with someone like this? Sounds like not only is he having inappropriate contact with his sister but he also has strong feelings for her.
Either way, It is wrong. Grown men do not sleep wirh siblings or family members.
Meet someone eles
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