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okay. my name is ashley for those who are wondering and im 15 years young. im about to be a sophomore in highschool and basically like to give people advice. i have been told that the things i say are pretty good butif you dont like what i say then good for you, i tried. Ask me anything im always up for the challenge and when i answer your question i normally try and relate it to things similar going on in my life. Say anything rude and i will delete the comment. if you need help and dont want others to see it you can message me on myspace or you can IM me at xBESTmemory x3
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well i know this is gonna sound stupid but anyway... whenever me and my bf get together, we look at each others cell phones to see who the other person has been calling/texting. (we dont actually admit thats what we're doing, but thats what we do). well yesterday we got into a fight over it. he got mad because these 2 guys had been texting me. ok now these 2 guys are really nerdy and theres no way i'd ever like them, and my bf knows that. so it was stupid for him to get mad. on the other hand, my bf had made all these calls to this one girl amanda. amanda is really pretty and shes also a big slut, so that made me really mad!! he said he was just prank calling her, but whatever. he said i have no right to be mad at him for calling girls, when i text other guys. well, i guess... but there's a difference here, right? the guys i texted are harmless, but the girl he called is anything but. plus those guys texted me first and i just answered to be nice, whereas my bf is the one who called amanda first. am i wrong to be mad about this?
you arent wrong to be mad about this as long as you take that madness out in a nice way. instead of fighting or yelling at eachother just talk about it nicely. just simply ask him why and if you dont believe him ask your closest guy friend to talk to him. and also explain over and over again that the guys you are texting are just your friends nothing more and if he doesnt believe you tell him to ask your bestfriend.
hope this helped =]
allright well my boyfriend really wants to go to second base. and im not sure if i do and like he has asked me before and i told him i would rather wait. and stuff but i can tell that he really wants to and lately he has begged me and stuff and i dont want him to like get mad at me for not doing it. and i just dont know what to do.
if your not ready, then your not ready. theres nothing wrong with that. just come out and say it and if he is a true boyfriend then he will understand.
hope this helped =]
ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 1 month and i have decided that i am not really that into him anymore i mean we kissed and have had our moments but is there a nice way to let him down gently and still be friends!?!
the easiest way as i see it would be just to say something like "i really dont think its fair of me to keep us in a relationship when i dont have the feelings that you have for me. You are still really great and nice but i think i see us being more friends than boyfriend/girlfriend."
hope this helped =]
ive liked my bff's boyfrined named ryan (ex bf now) since before she ever knew him and i just never old her. so when she started to go out with him i started to like someone else but still kinda like him so after they broke up i thought it'd be okay to date him because she said she didnt care if i did she just didnt want to see me get hurt like i was in the past and like she was in the past but i told her i wouldnt get hurt but that didnt convince her so i said that i didnt actually like him and that i was only preteneding to go out with him even though thats not true. so now since then shes had 3 different boyfriends and says that she hates ryan, but she had called him and asked him to come swimming with her and then she asked him if he still liked her. he said he wasnt going to come swimming with her and no he didnt like her and i think she knew that was his answer anyway but i guess she was hoping for a different one...but i dont know because she keeps saying how much she hates him but then why would she ask him out? She knows hes dateing me but why would she ask?
more than likely she is just trying to be a somewhat good friend by saying she doesnt like him and that you could go out with him. but her saying she didnt want to see you get hurt could mean 2 different thinks. One being she really doesnt want to see you get hurt. or two being that she didnt want you to go out with him bc she still has feelings for him. most of the time when someone says how much they hate someone it really means they like them and are trying to convince themselves that they dont. try talking to her about it and ask her why she is doing this.
hope this helped =]
soo lastnight there was a party. and it was awesomee.i had so much fun.everyone was dancing/grindingg..and i was partying with my bf.we didn't make out or anything b/c theere were some parents tthere.but w/e. ANYWAYSS my x boyfriends mother[ who im friends with..b/c my x and i are still friends] she called my parents and told them there was dirty dancing going on! my dad came at like 10. [when everything was dying down] but im soo embaressed. that mother told my parents i was one of themm.and i think my parents are like dissapointed in me.is there anyway i cann earn their trust backk???
what i would normally say is just that kids dont dance like they used to. and its just how you dance. its not inapropreite or anything.
something like that
hope this helped =]
do you know any quote that relates to players?
www.xanga.com
they have really good quotes there.
hope it helps =]
how can i tell him i just wanna be friends? its soo hard! i hate doing this because i know my boyfriend really liks me but i dont want to go out wtih him just because he likes me. help!!
just come right out and say it. but keep it in a nice way. say something like well i have been thinking and i dont think its really fair of me to keep going out with you when i dont ahve the same feelings for you that you have for me and i was hoping that we could just go back to being friends.
hoped this helped =]
ive liked this guy on and off for a while now. like umm 5 months? and he never liked me in all this time. hes my best friend so i just got over the fact that we cant be more. everyone thinks we are together though because we like hold hands and not to mention we're always together. even my english teacher asked him if we are dating! haha. the problem is that sometimes i feel like he wants to avoid me. maybe he just hates all the drama and is trying to aviod ppl annoying him about it. today he was just acting weird to me and then he was back to normal and then weird again. i dont understand it.
and worst of all he told our friends [that are guys] that hes a heartbreaker. then they asked if he was talking about breaking jennys heart and he said no. he said he broke my heart. and i was right there when he said it. and they laughed at me. then they asked if im jealous that he made out with his ex. wtf?!? i hate it. its hard enough trying to see him as just a friend but why is he doing this to me now? hes been such a good friend to me up until this. i dont know whats happened. then i was walking with him and one of the guys until he started saying that he sends girls "mixed messages". he didnt say my name but he was talking about me again right in front of me. the guy asked what he meant. then he put his arm around me and said "like this". in my head i said hell no! and i just said bye walked away without looking back. hes so stupid that he didnt even know what he had just done. and we talked online and he asked why i walked away. then i said "when i liked you you hurt me and you make it into a big joke. its like you dont even care" and he logged off a minute later and never responded. i know he doesnt mean to be cruel because he probably thinks that its not a big deal, but it is. what should i do about this because at this point i have no idea anymore.thank you.
well one as one of my best guy friends has told me guys tend to act differently around their friends and they dont want to be made fun of soo they will basically act like a player i guess you could say and then when no one else is around they will be all nice and seem to like you. What i would do if i were you is talk to him directly like face to face and dont have other people around either becuase then he would most likely get distracted from you or be again cruel.
hope this helped =]
my friend is really pretty and likes to flirt with guys. once she was over my house and the guy that i liked was on so she gave him a link to her myspace and asked him what do you think of me. he wouldn't answer since he had a girlfriend. and she goes i can't wait till he breaks up with his girlfriend so he can tell me what he thought. then she put together this lunch so i could meet up with him but she started flirting with him and he asked her to be his girlfriend. she knew i liked him so she asked me what should say. i told her to say yes regardless my feelings and the next day after she said yes she bragged about getting him is she really a true friend?
well some friends, they dont realize that they do things like that. or they do it just to prove to you that they can get any guy they want. i have a friend just like that and if you tell her you like a guy she will go after him and then once she has got them she drops them and they dont want anyone else besides her. it gets annoying. try talking to her and telling her how you feel. you never know she might realize what she has done and feel bad and try hooking you two up.
hope this helped =]
Hey, I just realized I like my best friend Alex. I have known her since we were in jr. high. But I don't know how to tell her I love her. Thanks for any help.
Frodo
aww. thats so cutee. well if you really want to get her heart. do something extremely cutee. such as call her up one afternoon and be like what are you doing tonight? and see what she says if she says nothing, invite her over to watch a movie just the two of you and when your watching the movie try putting around arm around her see how she reacts. and when your movie ends be like here i want to show you something and go out back and star gaze. that is the cutest thing ever a guy can do with a girl. and then when your looking at the stars tell her how you feel just bring it up easily such like start it out with something like alex you look really pretty tonight. and see what she says. but dont really say anything more but then once she leaves send her a text that says something like i had a GREAT time tonightt =] and see what she says and then you can say something like alex it might sound crazy but i think i like you. and see what she replys.
hope this helped you =]
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Alrighty so there's this guy that I like, and it just so happens that we're good friends. So we're hanging out tomorrow and I'm really happy, I finally feel like I might have a chance with a guy that I really like. But I'm also kind of nervous because I think it'll be just me and him... what if we run out things to talk about, like what can I say? Also, how can I hint to him that I like him, without being too pushy/annoying? I just don't want it to be weird if he doesn't like me in that way because even if nothing happens, I still wanna be friends with him. Help?
dont be nervous to hang out it i can bet once you get together it wont seem as awkward. and dont worry about running out of things to say because normally if the connection is right the conversation just flows. plus if you ever get worried about running out of things to talk about watch a movie so you wouldnt have to worry about that =] to tell him without telling him you like him (lol confusing i know) flirt with him while your hanging out, play with his hair, tickle him (if he's ticklish), nudge him or like nicely push him. hopefully he would catch on. and then after you hang out later that night text him or IM him or however and be like heyy i had alot of fun today =] or something like that
hoped this helped =]
Today, I was watching Peter Pan and a few Veggie Tales movies when my friends called and asked what I was doing. They laughed when I told them I what I watching. They said Disney and Veggie Tales are for little kids. I can't help it. I like those movies. They're funny and cool, but i need advice on what should I do. Should I stop watching them? Or stick with the movies?
well i think every teenager has a little kid still inside of them. KEPP WATCHiNG THEM =] i love watching all my old movies that i watched when i was little. my neighbor is graduating from highschool and he still watches nick. soo who cares what your friends say, if you enjoy them. then watch them.
hope this helped =]
ok well i liked or at least i think i still like him im not even sure anymore, but lets just say that i still do like him. well he found out that i liked him so he invited me to his house on memorial day weekend and we hung out in his basement and watched a movie and we hooked up. and it was my first time and i was really happy. and we dont go to the same school anymore cos i moved two years ago, but we stayed friends. and so the night before school started that weekend at like 11pm i texted him and i said"i loved being with you on friday night! i miss you already!" and he texted me back, and was like "me too, what are you doing next weekend" which kinda made me upset cos like i guess i was expecting for him to message me with something else. ok so then last weekend i wanted him to come over, but he asked if he could sleep over cos his mom wouldnt want to pick him up so late since we live a halfhour apart. and so i asked my mom and she said yes. but then the night he was supposed to come over i really didnt feel right about him sleeping over so i told him that i had to study for my finals and he kinda got mad. but then yesterday neither of us had school so he invited me to his house. and i went and i nkow that he isnt a virgin and i am. and i knew that i wasnt ready to make it to that point yet cos hes the only one who ive ever hooked up with you know and i dont love him. and we were making out on his couch(no one was home) and we were lying down. and we were making out and i felt him touch my belt and i waited to see if he would try to undo it and i felt him try to or at least i thought i did and i said no. and he took his hand off and he said he was sorry and we kept making out. and he kept trying to put his hand up my shirt, and i kept moving his hand away. but then he finally did. and i dont rember if i made him stop o he just did on his own. but then he kept moving my hand toward his penis and he put my hand over his penis(his pants were still on) and he just to make me like massage it if you will. and i moved my hand again. and then i fell asleep and i dont know if he knew if i were asleep or not and i woke up and we were holding hadn and he start moving my hand down his boxers slowly and before he got the chance to move my hand all the way down i just pulled my hand totally away, and like i heard him kinda like "huff+puff" like he was fustrated. and then he had his hand like under my belly button like sotof going down my pants, and he was just rubbing me. but i was really afraid he was gonna stick his hand down there so i moved his hand about 6 inches up. and i was really upset cos i wasnt ready to have sex or anything or go to the next level, and i think he was mad cos i wouldnt. and then my friend who lives in boston text mesaged him last ngiht and was like why did you take advantage of jessi? and he was like well after three hours of making out i got bored. and that made me really upset. and the kid i like messaged my friend john back and was likew ell why dont you just hookup with ehr and john said well if i were to hookup with her itd be because i actually care about her and not for my own benefit. and harrsion messaged him back and said well im sorry that i dont become soul mates with someone the second i see them. wich made me even more mad. cos hes known me for four years and john has only known me for two. and john cares a lot more about me than harrsion does. and me and john are just really good friends and i thought harrison actually liked me. well i wrote this letter to harrsion, so can you tell me if i should give it to him and also some advice on what i should do about him .. like im proud of myself for not letting him take advantage of me but idn, everything still just feels wrong
you really hurt me on thursday. i know how far you have gone, and thats great. but im just not ready for anything like that, and im sorry but thats just how i feel. and obviousily you dont care about me, cos if you didnt you wouldnt have said "well after three hours of making out i got bored" to john. i really thought that you liked me for me, but i guess i was wrong. i was so happy to just be with you, but i guess we're both looking for two totally different things. i'm looking for someone who i really want to be with for a long time and who ill be able to remember for basically the rest of my life. i know that that sounds corny, but this is something that i've wanted for a really long time, and i thought that i could have that with you. but i guess you're just looking for someone who you can "get busy" with. and thats great for you. but that just isnt something i want out of some one, so i guess we're just not meant to be together. and im really upset with the way you treated me. how many times did i need to pull my hand away before you realized that i wasnt going to give you a hand job and for you to realize that i didnt want you putting your hand down my pants. i was just so afriad that it was going to lead into something that i was going to regret. i wasnt about to loose my virgintiy to you right then and there. because i know for a fact that you arent in love you me. and i know that im not in love with you. and i know that you have had sex before, and obviousily you werent in love with them, because if you did, you would probably still be with them. well, i hope you understand how i do feel, because i was able to tell that you were getting frustrated with me cos i wouldnt go as far as you would have liked to go. but i think we should just be friends because i really just dont want to be with you because im just not ready for what you obviousily are ready for.
okay. well to start off you should be proud of yourself for not letting him take advantage of you. that is a veryyy hard thing for a girl to do, especially when they like the guy and want the guy to like them, even though "getting with them" doesnt get them to like them. but what to do with this boy and leave him, not like technically like stay his friend but if you go to hang out with him dont hook up, if he trys to make a move just be like no, were friends because if you hang out alot more and hook up everytime you will become something people like to call a "booty call" when guys arent getting anything at all, they have that girl they know will. personally if i were you i would go with john, he stood up for you to this kid. As for the letter, theres 2 things that you could do. one being give it to him but one thing you might want to take out is that you know what he said about you, just to avoid him getting mad at the kid that showed you. and i would also make sure that he reads it. otherwise you could either call him or tell him in person how you feel just so you know that he heard you and you said it for yourself, becuase sending the note he could easily rip it up and throw it away never to look at it.
hope this helped =]
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hello people have been tellin me rumors that they have seen my boyfriend behind a 7/11 makin out wiyh a girl but he said thats so stupied why wud i do that if the 7/11 is right next to your house than i heard that he fingered and made out widd his ex gf a couple of saturdays ago but he told me he wud never cause he hated her b/c when they went out she cheated on him many times and the day they broke up she told him so he hate her for that than this friend of mine met my bf the other day and said he was huggin and beling all over his friend andrea that i am even chill with and i dont know cause chris likes me and i dont know if he was tryin to break me and mike up but he yelled at chris and said why are you lien to my girl and sayin stuff thatt aint tru... but like every day he tells me how much he loves me and how he wud never cheat on me cuase he said he said he knows wat it feels like to be cheated on cause it has happend to him and i told him to never cheat on me and jus break up widd me if you like another girl i am really!! confused and i need help or adivice?!!
well. what i would always go on is it all depends who is telling you. someone who wants you to break upis of course going to tell you lies or even overextend the truth. normally with a cheater they make up excuses why they cant hang out or if you call them to just talk they are like uhm i cant talk right now and then if you ask they get mad becuase you keep asking. those are the signs i always look for. and if he did get with andrea and your friends with her, ask her. she would most likely tell you.
hope this helped =]
17/f. It has been over a year since I broke up with my boyfriend. And I am still in love with him. Head over heels, would do anything for him, I want to spend the rest of my life with him, I know he is the one, the only one for me, in love. And, he is my best friend. Problem is though, is that he has a girlfriend and they have been going out for a year. I want to tell him so much, but I am afraid that things would get weird between us. I don't want to lose him because he is my best friend. But I just want to be truly happy. I don't know what to do. What should I do?
Also, tomorrow our friend is having a b-day party, and he is going to be there, and his girlfriend. It's going to be all day. I don't want to break down or anything, do something stupid. I just need some advice on how to handle tomorrow, what can I do to not let them get me down too much?
well what most people would say is have your friends ask him what he thinks about you or would he consider going back out with you. dont do that bc eventually your friends start to nag him and then he gets annoyed. what i would do is just casually talk to him at the party not to flirty since his girlfriend is going to be there. then if you ever talk on the computer flirt a little but make sure he is alone if you do becuase you dont want it getting out. and then just basically see where it goes from there. if it is meant to be he will realize that he should be with you. also try hanging out with him away from his girlfriend, yahh that probably sounds bad but it is basically the only way to see if your meant to be, but i wouldnt come on to strong bc you dont want to scare him away or anything. hope this helped =]
okay , so my boyfriend && i have been together for almost 4 months . i love him , really , i do . the only thing i don`t like about him is that he does pot . he says he hasn`t done it for like 2 months. but my friends keep telling me "i wouldn`t go out with someone that does drugs , but thats just me" idk what to do because i really like him , but not sure if i wan`t to keep seeing someone that does pot . and btw : he knows i know that he does pot . what should i do ? should i let it all go to waste & break up with be because of pot ?
uhg ,
well you really love him and tell him that you that you dont want to see him basically killing himself so tell him he should stop. and talk to his friends but keep it subtle soo that he doesnt find out. the worst thing to do is check his phone for text that say stuff about pot. DONT DO THAT ! bc for some reason guys get really angry at that sort of stuff. and then if you find out that he does keep doing it even after you told him how you felt then tell him so you choose pot over your girlfriend, something like that dont sound to mean about it and see what he says if he keeps doing it then i would say dump him but stay close friends bc he is doing the drugs for some reason or another. a kid i know does them bc he feels stressed. which is stupid get a stressball, lol but any ways hope i helped =]
Ok, I really like this guy. Only the problem is, he hates my guts. I used to hate him too. I was in like 3rd grade when i started to hate him and he started to bully me. Now, i'm 13 and I really like him,but he only dates girls older than him and he's dating some high schooler. My friends tell me to forget him. He's... how should I put this... a bad boy. But i still like him. I'm a not too into dating things. I've only dated 3 times since 5th grade. My first experience was bad. My first boyfriend physically hurt me, but anyway, I want to date this new guy, but he hates me, what do i do?!
just start being nice to him, if you see him at school smile and wave if your online and he has a screen name IM him and start up a nice conversation. remember when it is his birthday and say happy birthday. also try apologizing for being mean to him for so many years. and as for the bad boy thing, thats most girls they are just like drawn to badboys. some say its bc you want to be the girl that they changed for. hoped this helped =]
How do you get a person that hurt you really bad off your mind. Because I just can't handle being used.
there really isnt a way to get them off your mind. i have a friend who still likes her ex even though he cheated on her and would break up with her every single week. but just try and keep yourself busy and anything that he might have given you or pictures of you and him put in a box and put it in your closet. hope this helped =]
What are some reasons why a single guy who you know likes you won't ask you out? I'm asking because there is a guy from work who has liked me since before Xmas. He knows I like him back yet he hasn't asked me out. Do you think he's waiting for me to make the first move?
more than likely he is just really shy and even though he knows that you like him he still may be a little nervous. sometimes he may just need the push to go out. invite him to somewhere like the movies or something and see what happens. hoped this helps =]
There is a guy that I have known for about 6 months. I see him most weekends because we both have friends within the same circle.
When I see him I never get a chance to be with him alone because of our friends but I need to know the signs of how he would flirt.
He's quite shy with girls.
He always talks to me,or stands near me but doesn't really say much, jsut little things not a proper conversation.
When I was at a pub talking to a guy he asked my friend if I fancied that guy, she said 'no i don't think so' because she knows who I do fancy. He said 'Wel you can't blame him for talking to her.'
He doesn't really flirt with anyone, but one night he was quite drunk and he kept looking round in his chair and staring at me, not very subtly, he was really drunk though.
On msn he's much more confident, and says hi everyday, sending me songs I might like and pictures of him at a friends house, he even sent me his coursework once lol.
And once when we were in a group of friends in a park, he started saying a ryhme with my name in it? whats that about
He doesn't really aske me questions though, even though he starts the conversation I feel like i'm keeping it going.
I don't know if I sould let him know how I feel. Sorry for the essay! but it's driving me mad
well him standing near you and basically complimenting you to your friend about talking to the guy at the pub is a plus. and might be his little way of hinting that he is sorta into you. i would just try and flirt with him see what he does. maybe he doesnt know the right way to flirt or to tell if you are flirting with him. make alot of eye contact when your by him or anything else. i wouldnt come right out and say it until you know for sure. also you could try asking him who he likes and if he says ohh idk then normally that means its you. so just push for him to say it or tell him to give you hints about it. hoped this helped =]