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My millionth question, plz bare with me
Ok, I really like this guy. Only the problem is, he hates my guts. I used to hate him too. I was in like 3rd grade when i started to hate him and he started to bully me. Now, i'm 13 and I really like him,but he only dates girls older than him and he's dating some high schooler. My friends tell me to forget him. He's... how should I put this... a bad boy. But i still like him. I'm a not too into dating things. I've only dated 3 times since 5th grade. My first experience was bad. My first boyfriend physically hurt me, but anyway, I want to date this new guy, but he hates me, what do i do?!
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To make you feel comfortable, I like a guy and I think he hates my guts too!
Call this guy and talk to him. Get to know him. Become friennds and don't date yet. This lets you to get to know him better and maybe he sees who you are and might change his mind.
It's difficult to answer this question because he dates women older than him. All you can do is try getting him to notice you. If it doesn't worrk, sadly, you should forget him. It's difficult, I know! It takes months! My little story is that this guy is a bully also and I didn't know he was a dating person because he never got girlsfriends. Probably because he was a mean guy. I decided to give up on him...it took me 5 long months!
Don't strain yourself by getting this guy. Guys are like cars! If you like it, you want it. If the car is bad and isn't good, you throw it a way!
Good luck! Being single is a good thing...it takes a while to get into a women's brain though.
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just start being nice to him, if you see him at school smile and wave if your online and he has a screen name IM him and start up a nice conversation. remember when it is his birthday and say happy birthday. also try apologizing for being mean to him for so many years. and as for the bad boy thing, thats most girls they are just like drawn to badboys. some say its bc you want to be the girl that they changed for. hoped this helped =]
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Do what your friends are telling you. Although you may like this guy, your friends know what's best for you simply because they see the things you don't. They're looking out for you & if they say to forget him, then do it.
Since your first relationship experience was horrible [I'm guessing he was a bad boy too], who says this one won't be either? He could be a good boyfriend, you never know, but why take that chance? Abuse is a hard thing to get over & you're doing something a typical abused person would do -- go for the assholes. Honestly -- whether you believe it or not, you can do so much better. Maybe have your friends set you up with a nice boy who'll treat you right.
If things don't work out, don't flip. You're 13 & guys aren't everything. So don't get discouraged if things don't seem to work out for you, k? =)
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OK, your first dating experience was bad, and now you want so bad to date this other bad boy, you want us to help you. And you say he hates you. Well, it may very well be that in time he will show an interest in you. You have to be patient, but I hope not. Sometimes when God wants to punish us, he answers our prayers.
Well you can't make him like you if he doesn't want to. If he likes older girls, girls that are more mature, they must be girls who don't go around saying they want someone who doesn't want them. They put their energy into someone who likes them, and the relationship is mutual.
So growing up and becoming more mature and sensible, may get him to like you more, BUT, if you grow up and become more mature and are more sensible, you should ALSO realize that dating this boy is a bad idea.
If you want your life to be full of chaos and emotional pain and heartache, continue to persue "bad boys". But if you want a life with a boy/man who cherishes you, who brings you flowers and can't do enough for you, then find a boy who doesn't have a reputation of being bad, and pay some attention to him. He'll think your the great!
Michele
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