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how do i no if my boyfriend is cheating on me
hello people have been tellin me rumors that they have seen my boyfriend behind a 7/11 makin out wiyh a girl but he said thats so stupied why wud i do that if the 7/11 is right next to your house than i heard that he fingered and made out widd his ex gf a couple of saturdays ago but he told me he wud never cause he hated her b/c when they went out she cheated on him many times and the day they broke up she told him so he hate her for that than this friend of mine met my bf the other day and said he was huggin and beling all over his friend andrea that i am even chill with and i dont know cause chris likes me and i dont know if he was tryin to break me and mike up but he yelled at chris and said why are you lien to my girl and sayin stuff thatt aint tru... but like every day he tells me how much he loves me and how he wud never cheat on me cuase he said he said he knows wat it feels like to be cheated on cause it has happend to him and i told him to never cheat on me and jus break up widd me if you like another girl i am really!! confused and i need help or adivice?!!
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well. what i would always go on is it all depends who is telling you. someone who wants you to break upis of course going to tell you lies or even overextend the truth. normally with a cheater they make up excuses why they cant hang out or if you call them to just talk they are like uhm i cant talk right now and then if you ask they get mad becuase you keep asking. those are the signs i always look for. and if he did get with andrea and your friends with her, ask her. she would most likely tell you.
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It really sucks when you can't tell who to trust in a situation like that, especially when one of them is your partner. Unfortunately, I don't think you'll be able to figure it out based on his actions -- he'd act the same way whether he was telling the truth or not.
Cheaters like to act like non-cheaters. So it's hard to tell.
I'd take a careful look at the people who're telling you he's cheating: do they have reasons to bad-mouth him? Do they care enough about you not to want to see you hurt?
Take a look at their allegations: does it make sense that he'd be behind the 7-11 on that day, at that time, with that girl? Does it make sense that he'd hook up with his ex?
It's possible, too, that you don't know everything about his relationship with his ex: maybe she's turned psycho and is having her friends help break you two up. Then again, maybe he left out a few details, like if he cheated on her, or she cheated because she thought he was cheating, or ...
The details might be pretty tangled, but all you have to do is gather information from as many people as possible and figure out what makes sense. Try to stay calm throughout the process: ANY of it might be lies, and you'll work it out best when you're calm.
Then, if it seems like he's cheating, bring your evidence to him and ask him to clear it up. If he is, decide whether you want to fix that or not, give him some pretty straight-forward reasoning, and either stay to work it out, or walk away calm and powerful.
If not, let him know that you think people are trying to mess with him. Let him know that you're backing him up.
Either way, it seems like somebody is doing something wrong: either the boy is cheating, or his so-called friends are spreading rumors -- and hurting you by doing it. You're caught in the middle and it'd be best if you knew what was going on.
Best of luck. I know you can work it out.
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WEll time will tell. Sounds like you are going to have to trust him until you catch him. AFter all, you would want him to trust you. Trust is very important. But if you DO catch him. Don't ever trust him and again and break up with him, because now his is a cheater and a liar.
Use your head, listen to everything he says. Read between the lines. People who lie and cheat always get caught. IF he is cheating, he won't be able to keep it a secret for long.
Michele
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