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Hey I'm Melinda & I am 15 years old; october 15th. I am currently single but my heart is taken. I live in West Haven, & attend West Haven High, there I am a sophmore. I love my friends, there amazing, & they are always there for me when I am at my lowest & i love them for it. I love shopping; Hollister, American Eagle & a&f. I love summer & vacations, & taking pictures with your friends is the best. I love Laguna Beach & the Hills; me & my friends can bassicaly have a conversation about it like we live there. I love being a dork with my friends. I'm always laughing & smiling, I always try everything at least one time. you only live once. I love The Notebook, its my favorite movie, & I also love Zoolander, I know almost all the lines to that movie! I listen to all kinds of music; rap,rock,techno, & country. ♥




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my boyfriend has been an utter jerk to me lately. i dont know what to do. i found out a bunch of lies he been holdin out on me. but i cant break up with him because hes the father of my child- i just dont know what to do with him anymore. all he wants to do is hang out with his guys while i sit at home pregnant and in a crappy mood. hes blaming his ignorance on me, and says that im becoming the type of person he doesnt want to be around anymore. what in the world can i do to let him know tha its NOT all me, and that pregnancy CAUSES YOU TO HAVE MOODSWINGS???!!! hes jsut not gtting the concept.

yeah pregnancy does cause moodswings BIG TIME, he needs to mature & grow up & be there for you, you need to talk to him about this, you need to say that you are having moodswings because of being pregant & try to make him understand on how your feeeling, & if he still his being a jerk, then i suggest dumping him.. it just wouldnt be a healthy realtionship, & if your pregnat with his child then, just involve him in the babys life & stay friends maybe.
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Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.


July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.

The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.

Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.

HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME

ok wow thats hard.. hmm i would forget about mark, if he dumped you in a week & does it to most girls, then he would prolly be the same, & as for felix stay with him, he sounds like he really likes you & at the same time, my friend went threw this with her bf everytime she tried to break up with ehr bf he would always threaten to kill himself, so she never really could, but later on when she did he was lying and never did, it could be different with him but you have to have a conversation about this succide thing because thats really not nesscary & its really big.
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My friend gave my number to the guy that I like and he said that he would definitely call me. If he calls me, I know that I'll get nervous and freeze up. In case he does call, how do I stop myself from being nervous and how can I calm down?

the same thing happened to me, just dont think about it, act like your talking to one of your friends.. & if you freeze up on what to talk about, just talk about stuff that happened at school or how hes doing the rest will just come.
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I'm planing on making a small slide show.
I was wondering if anyone knew any good love songs?
If so thanks a bunch.


1. amazed - lonestar
2. a moment like this - kelly clarkson
3. accidentally in love - counting crows
4. all my life - KC and jojo
5. back at one - brian mcknight
6. because you loved me - celine dion
7. be without you - mary j. blige
8. hanging on by a moment - lifehouse

those songs are really cute.
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ok..so..i like this guy..we'll call him kv. well he turns out to be my brothers best friend..i eventually told him, and it didn't bother him at all. i told my friend jordan, who was kv's age (they r 2 years older then me)and kv's friend, and asked her if i should ask him out. she told me no, because he had a girlfriend, and his grifriend was her best friend. i had absolutly NO clue kv had a girlfriend. i immeadiatly felt emmbaresed. i remembered his old girlfriend (lets call her dee)dee, and wondered if they were still together. she moved to florida. i found out they were still together... a couple days after i told kv, he IM'd me and told me he needed to tell me something that was private, and not to be said to anyone else. he told me that he really liked me, and his girfriend, and he was confused. he told me that she would be coming back to where we live on june 21st to visit. he said they would probobly break up...but i'm not sure if i believe him...what do i do???

-conufsed..

okay this sounds like drama waiting to happen haha.. but i would deff wait to go out with him if anything, i mean if she lives far away then this relationship will not last at all, so just wait & see if hes telling the truth about breaking up with her, & if he is telling the truth & asks you out AFTER they break up then totally do it.. if he really likes you hed wait.
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well i really like this guy and he is real nice including really HOTT. Well i want to do some thing with him because ive not got to hang out with him out of shcool. but im not alowd to have him over. eny ideas were we could hang

aw, yah there are a lot of places you guys can go..

the beach
the mall (most guys dont like that though)
movies
his house
coffee place
walk around
a friends house
out to eat
bowling

hope i helped :o)
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hello, this is Jackie here. I have a problem. I am confused... there is this boy, I like him and from what I can tell, he likes me. I am 14 and he is a little older. This weekend this boy, my sister and another boy went to a community swimming pool. We sat next to eachother, he put his arm around me, and we held hands. after that I went home and soon I got a call from some girl saying that she was the boys new girl friend and that I need to stay away from him now. and I'm not sure if she's for real, or just being mean? I think that it could be this girl who's friends with him, that I made a comment about me not liking. So maybe she found out and knows that I like him, and wanted to get me back. I'm not sure. what do you think? Please help i rate well

*jackie*

well he deff likes you, if he put his arm around you and held your hand.. & this girl she might be telling the truth.. i dont know but i doubt it, unless this boy is a player, but just ask him what i think is, that this girl is jealous, but yeah jsut ask him if he has a new g/f & see wat he says.
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well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!!

it really does sound like there using you, have a conversation about it, & just dont give them rides anymore.
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Okay, so I like this guy alot. And I heard he likes me too (he told my friend that i was hot and sent me 6 messages asking me who i liked), so I called him the other day and his sister picked up. So I asked if he was home and she said to me, "He's in the shower. And I dont mean to sound rude but he's not supposed to have girls calling him and he really doesnt like you that way." I got so upset I just said "Okay, I'm sorry, I didnt know." and hung up. Then I just felt sad for a long time. But I still really like this guy! And I dont know if his sister was lying or not. The only thing is if he's not supposed to have girls calling he's probably not supposed to have a girlfriend either. So what should I do in this situation?

Thank you.. I'll rate as high as I can.

okaayy, well seriously his sisters prolly lying, why would he mention you or anything, but yeah just talk to him about it, and ask if hes alowed to date.. & if he isnt you guys can be good friends ;o)
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My friends want to hang out but we don't know what we want to do. Have any ideas??

well you can do lots of things..

if you want to go outt you can -
go to the movies
out to eat
bowling
mall
walk around

if you want to stay in -
take pictures
bake cookies
go on the computer
talk
play games

those are some fun stuff :o) & prolly when your hanging out you will think of things
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i work at an ice cream shop and im not allowed to wear nailpolish. my nails break easily and they start to peel off in layers. HELP. what can i do to keep them healthy and keep them from not breaking without nailpolish?

I RATE HIGH. = )

i have this great stuff, its vaseline intensive care, {healthy hand & nail" its bassicaly like a lotion for your hands & nails, and it made my nails SO strong, it works sooo good.
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okay well im def not fat but i feel that i am. i am 15/f i weigh 108 and im 5'2'' . i was recently a vegeterian and my body got really weak from not having protein. i got sick and didnt eat for like 4 days and then i ate very little for the next week i lost wicked lot of weight and i was in love with my body i had a perfect stomach and no rolls or flub or anything people think im so skinny but i have issues with my stomach. now since i started eating alot again my metabolism sucks like i eat one effing thing and i feel like i gain 6753 pounds what can i do to make my metabolism faster pills anything like i excercise alot 24/7 all the time i live on fit tv and at the gym please pleaseeee help.

alright well you sound skinny, for your height 108 is fineee, you really shouldnt go overboard because in the long run it can end up in death, i think you might have an eatting disorder.. you should prolly talk to your mom on how your feeling, & you should keep a normal diet, & exercise..
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How long does it usually take to tan? I`m have fairly pale skin and I do burn, but I tan also. If I stay out for about an hour, nothing happens, but if I stay out for much longer I get burned!?

well i am the same i used to be really pale, but then i went in a tanning bed *i know its not good* but i got better results in a tanning bed then laying outside, & it takes about a couple weeks but you gradually see some color, & they also have good lotion at tanning places, but there expensive
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15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is?

the same thing happened to me once, my bf told me to stop talking to this girl and actually went on my buddy list and blocked her, i came to found out he was cheating, so maybe he MIGHT be cheating or just not like the girl, you have to sit down and talk to him, and explain how you feel comuacation is the best thing, and also ask around, or maybe start to talk to the girl again and ask her about ryan.. hope i helped.
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what are some good creams for your bikini area that will leave it smooth and no red bumps?
thankz

i rate high.

i use, conditioner & soap, just mix it together & it actually works good & cheap :o)

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I'm 13/f and I have never kissed a guy before.
Well I really want to kiss my boyfriend within the next 2 days before school is over and I'm pretty sure he is planning on kissing me at one of the end of the year parties. I know I should just go with my instinct but I seriously am really nervous because I don't know how to kiss him. Any tips, or how-to's are welcome. I'll rate.
THANX

its really simple, just bassicaly kiss him & everything will come natrual, i promisee.
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ok well my boyfriends birthday is coming up like really soon but i have no idea what to get him.

guys are so hard to buy for and i need help plz! lol

haha yes they are hard to buy for, but you can get gim some nice smelling cologne, i like the abercrombie one, & hollister it smells really good, or you can make him a mix CD with all his fave songs, or buy him a box of his fave, chocolates, thatd be sweet too.
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well to start things off i really liked the girl the first time we started going out and we went out for three months and then broke up...she broke up with me because she said that i was to nice and just a great friend and i was not thrilled by this but i lived with it and became her best friend she has ever had but now that i have done that i really want to get back together with her cause she is such a great girl .... this pass weekend i hung out with her everyday and then on sunday i was taking her home and i told her that this weekend has been great and i really enjoyed spending time with her and then i asked if she wanted to give us another shot and she said she dont no...Now i love this girl to death and would do anything for her what do you think she will say ... and do yoou think i made the wrong move?? Thanks I rate!!

aww, well, they do say if you want a good relationship with someone is to be there friend & get to know them better, but yeah just tell her how you feel about her, bassicaly what you just said, good luck!
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what are some good ways to good tan fairly quickly?

well, you can buy jergens natural glow, its bassicaly like a self taner & works great, or you can lie down at the beach.. or a taning bed, but DONT get a spray on tan, because they make you look orange.
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Are energy drinks bad for you? People say after the energy wears off, it all crashes and you feel SOOO tired. And how much energy does it give you? And is Red Bull or Rockstar good brands of them?

I'll rate wicked high.

well they do nothing for me i had both red bull & rockstar.. they didnt make me feel energised at all haha.. in fact they did make ma really tired, so yeah i would they they are bad
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