Hey there. I'm 18, and my birthday is January 8th, 1988. I have brown hair, blue eyes, and I'm short.
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im a 16 year old female and my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 months... we have had sex in the past btu today i let him take my anal virginity... and it hurt really bad... now i knwo the first time it will hurt that is just a given but will it always hurt? i want to do it again cuz the good feeling i got out of it was really good but the pain was really bad... will that eventually go away? i have one more question... i swore on my life i would never let anyone take my anal virginity but i let him to show him how comftorble i am with him and how much i love him but now im having the feeling somethings going to go wrong... am i just thinking to much because of the trust i put into him or what? im so confused please help? (link)
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Hey there. It is totally normal for it to hurt really bad. I wont always hurt. Just like your vagina, it will stretch a bit to fit in a penis, if you do it often. If you do it a couple of monthes at a time, it'll hurt a bit more because your not helping your body assume the forign body part. You shouldnt swear on your life you wont do certain sexual things, because you'll probley feel comfortable in doing them later on. You shouldnt have to do a sexual thing to prove to him your comfortable with him and that you love him. I mean, sex is something you do when you love someone, but its not something to prove your love to each other. The feeling that something is going to happen occurs all the time. I feel that way sometimes. You are thinking to much, one of the flaws of women is, in fact, thinking too much. We over analyze the litle things, and the big things and we begin to doubt the trust we put into men. I got through it all the time. If you ever have any trouble, please message me on here, or email me at this_sucks92@hotmail.com, and i'll help you out anytime. good question!
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hey... well i rly need help with this one. im only 12 and i started to "hump" a pillow when i was like 11. and now i sorta masturbate.. but like i don't go "up" me or ne thing... i just like rub it. please help me. i wanna stop so bad. i havn';tdone it in about a week or something. i rly wanna stop because im scared someone (like my mom) will find out and b mad at me. ive NEVER had sex and i don't plan to ne time soon, or at least untill im married. oh.. and im female =)
plz HELP ME. I WANNA STOP.
from what should i do
ps. dont u feal odd like telling 13 year olds to have sex??? there like rly young and not married. if they believe in God i suggest they at least wait untill like a couple years. just sayin.. (link)
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okay, masturbating is totally normal, and if your mom found out, she shouldnt be mad ... at least it's not sex, right? I hear of lots of girls humping pillows and rubbing and Ive heard of every kind of masturabating out there. Once you start, its hard to stop. I guess it's a whole mind over matter thing. If you really want to stop, then stop. And as for your PS, I do not feel odd giving 13 year old sex advice. I do not tell them to have sex, I have no influence on how they feel in things. If they want to wait until they are older, or mariage, then great, if they want to have sex, and are safe and mature about it, then great. I know lot's of people who have had sex at younger ages and are my age now and they are great people. It is your opinion that you shouldnt have sex until marriage, and I respect that, but you also have to respect the fact that most of the worlds population has sex when they feel it's right, and dont need a ring around their finger to make it offcial. And not everyone believes in god. I respect your opinion, but I will continue to help out those who seek advice, and I will not influence them into trying anything stupid.
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My name is Kelsey (female) and im a freshman in highschool. I have liked this guy named Drew since i was in 7th grade and he was in 8th. We are best friends and can tell each other anything. We help each other out with our love lives all the time. He never thought of me in a girlfriend way. Lately though, he has been saying things like we should hook up and start dating this summer when he gets his license. The other night we were talking bout what if we had sex over the summer. And he made it seem like he wanted to date me. Now he is dating a junior. He holds her hand, walks her down the hall, and looks at her like she is the only person in the room. Am i supposed to move on and forget him? Should i wait around? What do i need to do to make him want me? I need your advice please!!
Sincerely,
Kelsey (link)
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Hey there. Okay, well, girlfriend or not, I would still try to be with him at least. I say your first step is to talk to him. Alone. Ask him what is going on. I find it weird that he would plan to date you in the summer, but starts dating another girl. Can he not wait? That's a good thing to ask him. Your best bet would be to ask anything you need to ask him, things you need to know. If that doesnt work, then I would move on ... i know it will be hard, but it's better to be with someone who wants you back, right?
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Me and my boyfriend have been together 1-year-4-months today AND well we have not done ANYTHING sexual. well i want to lead on to start doing sexual things but i don't know how. can you guys explain your first times or how you lead on to doing sexual things for the first time
thanks-
confused.. (link)
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um, we started making out, like most couple. And we talked about sex a lot beforehand. We got comfortable with the subject, then we started touching each other in places, and then one day we were both really horney, and were making out, and we did it. lol.
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ive asked questions on here before and you dont know how much your advice means to me (link)
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hey there. thanks for asking me questions. I love giving advice. OKay, no ... you do not want the reputation of being a slut. Well, it seems like you have a man now that respects you. First I'm going to give you tips on not getting that reputation, and then on sex. The reputation thing, if you want to tell anyone about having sex, tell only trusted friends. And ask your man to do the same thing. Now on sex, there's not really any tips i can give you. Since it's your first time, be on the bottom, for it will be painful, and you dont have to do anything. lol. After your first time you will be comfortable to be on top and try new things. Just make sure your comfortable with everything first, and that your safe.
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well, im 14/f.. my concern is that ive never been in a sexual relationship with anybody and i have these pimple like bumps "down below" and im wondering whats the problem.. ive popped one to see if it would go away and i know its not some kind of disease b/c it had puss or w/e its called but im worried about what it is.. im in a realtionship right now and weve talked about going all the way and.. im just scared. i know its a kinda wierd question but please i need advice; and i dont wanna hear that i need to see a doctor because that would just be wierd for me.. and i dont want my mom knowing because its just hard to except or w/e.. i may not make sense but please i need advice. thanks (link)
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hey they. They are actually normal. lol. I had them at your age and I still have them, they just arent so noticable as you get older and they lessen ... they also will get smaller ... but dont worry. I kow you dont want to hear this, but after you have sex, you have to go and get checked out every yeat\r. Anyways, good luck and have fun
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ok well i have been going out with this guy for a while now and every thing is going really good but i want to take it to the next leave and i dont know what to do can anyone help me
p.s. i dont really know how to give a guy head or like how i am supposed to let him fingure me can anyone help me please? (link)
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just talk to him about it. After that everything comes naturally.
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hiya, my friend has just recently got a new boyfriend. she has had one before and had sex and her mum didnt no. im scared she will have sex again beacuse today she said to her other friend that she did something with him, and im thinking it may well be sex, cos she sed she was in a shed (by theirselves).
anyone give me advice plze?
thanxz x x x x (link)
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well, it might not be sex. They ould have done anything ... oral sex, masturbation, they could be just making out. I think that you should concentrate more on you then your friend though. I mean, dont become self involved ... but let your friend make her own decisions. Just make sure she is being safe
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hi, uhhh its kinda hard to talk about this but, I dont know what to tell my boifriend, I mean he asked me if I was a virgin or not n i keep aboiding the question, you see when I was 13 I was rapped, what should I tell my boifrien? should I lie or tell him the truth, do you think it will effect the relationship?
thanks so much (I rate well!!!) HaLeY
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i think you should tell hi. I think that it would show him that you trust him and love him enough to talk about such a painful event in your life. He'll respect you a lot more because of it
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Okay I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. Well I have a few questions....
1) I'm not a virgin but I told him I was. The 1st and only guy I had sex with was very small and I was wondering if my (virgin) boyfriend would be able to tell I wasn't.
2) Also...after sex do things change between the two people? (link)
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1)No, he would not be able to tell, and you really should tell him you have had sex before ... be honest with him about that
2)After sex things usually do change, but for the better. You'll be a lot more closer
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Is it too early for sex if you've only gone out with the guy for 2 months? and dont tell me i shouldn't do it at all (link)
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hey. well, i had sex a month and half into my boyfriend and mines relashinship, and we're really close, and it's been 7 monthes now, so i think it not too early ... it totally dependes on how mature you are.
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Hey, im really scared about doing stuff sexually with a guy because of some of the stuff with my body..do guys care what a body looks like? i have stretch marks on my boobs because they grew so fast..and i have little dots on my but..and i dont know why? i just wanted to ask you if a guy cares about what his girlfriends body looks like to do sexual stuff with her.. i havent done anything yet...but im scared of what might happen when we do stuff..thanks! (link)
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hey, if your really into each other then it shouldn't matter. some very shallow guys will get freaked out, but other guys, most guys wont. Do what you want to do and be proud of your body
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OK. See me and my b/f have been going out for a little over three months...everytime i see him all we really do is make out. i mean he has gone up my shirt, but he hasnt tried to go any farther than that. im starting to get tired of the same old thing everytime i see him. why wont he go farther with me? another thing is... i want him to finger me and i know he wants to because he told my friend he wanted to but he never has, and he told her this when we had only been dating a month. if he does finger me tho im scared that he wont like it because i have hair... down there... should i shave it? what do guys perfer? does it really matter? plz answer ill rate sincerely confused (link)
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Okay, most guys prefer it haved. And if you want to go further, why dont you make the first move. Why dont you give him a handjob or blowjob or something. Then he'll probley feel comfortable after to do stuff with you
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My boyfriend is coming over tomorrow, and we are going to spending all day and night with him. We have talked about sex, but I'm not quite sure about it. I've never had sex before, but he has. Should I go ahead and do it tomorrow? Or wait? I feel like I'm ready to do it with him, because I absolutly love him with my whole heart. Help me! (link)
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i think you should if you are ready
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my friend told me she was raped by some guy at a party a few years back. i told her she should report it to the police but all she remembers was that he was black and tall (about the african-americain male population). and since it happen so long ago why say anything? no, she told me. and a few weeks ago she showed me that she cutting herself and stealing razors from some store. i feel like these are the kinda things you dont keep a secert about. what should i do? (link)
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personnally, i think you should tell someone ... now. She is self destructing and she wont go on for long if she doesnt get help now
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In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm? (link)
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i say if your ready, go for it
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im ADDICTED to sex. If I don't have it in less than at least a month, my stomach starts hurting, I become depressed..and everything. I know this sounds so stupid and don't call me a slut please...is this normal? or...what can i do to maybe hold my urge in? Because about every weekend I have sex (but with the same guy I always do it with) I`m also pregnate..and my hormones are going EXTRA crazy..15/f HELP!!!!!!! (link)
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lol, it's okay. In the forth month of pregnancy you get really horny. lol. To hold the urge in you cna masterbate, and it's normal to love having sex. I get grumpy when I dont have sex for w while. Good luck with the baby.
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ok...ive been with this guy for 3 years now on and off...and im 15 and like i really love him and he claims he loves me and i just dont no what to do hes an complete asshole at times but then he can b the NICEST guy EVER!!...hes nver cheatd on me or en thing..and he goes to a differnt school and it jus gets hard...and like idont no what to do anymore if i should stay with him or not..we made it 3 years ya no...but lately hes jus been a prick...what should i do?
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Well, I think since you have invested 3 years into the relashinship, i think you should stand up for it. Tell him, and make him listen (even if that means pinning him to the ground) that you love him, and if he really loves you, then he'll treat you right and with respect, and not be a prick anymore or you'll have to end it. Remember, guys are complete assholes at times ... belive me, but then they usually bounce back to being normal at times ... its kinda like PMS except for guys. lol.
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ok me and my bf are thinking about sex.... i almost hadsex one time.... i just dunno. should i be on the top or bottom???? (link)
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well ... if you haven't had sex before, i say you should be on the bottom, because it will hurt. plus, it just seems more ... special that way. lol. have fun!
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Hey please help me in any way possible!!
Imma 16 years old and one of my aunts friends is like into me I mean he tells me he loves me and everything I think imma fallin for em but tha thing is hes 26.. so I know what your thing wow thats illegal, yea i know but noone knows bout us juss me and em! we kiss all tha time.. we've never had sex or ne thing! I thought tha maybe he was juss tellin me this stuff so id have sex with em but hes not like tha.. we talked bout it and he said tha he wasn't gonna force me into havin it with em if i wasnt ready*but hes fingered and eat me out*!! He also calls my house and my mom answers but she juss thinks we're really good friends cause of my aunt and he knows my whole family!! So what should I do?? please help me like asap.. Imma so confused!! (link)
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hey htere. hmmm ... this is really confusing. well, if you really think your falling for him, and you dont have one single doubt in your mind that this relashinship is right, then go for it. But if there is even the slightest doubt ... call it off. Maybe you could talk to an older friend and see their opinion as well. hope i helped. ttyl.
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