queen_of_beauty94's advice column

I had these gigantic zits on my nose and cheeks about 4 weeks ago..Well, the bump has gotten down..but the red mark is still there..You can still see where the zit came from..How do I get rid of it?

use neutrogena products.
they really work great!

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I'm getting a new camera but I'm not sure which one to get. Leave me with cameras that you know are good or recommend. =)

HP Photosmart M417 Digtal Camera (M417)
Kodak EasyShare C340 Digital Camera
Nikon Coolpix® 4600 Digital Camera

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How do you get rid of blackheads?

use neutrogena products.
it works very good!
♥

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alright i didnt know what to put this under. But im going back to school tomorrow and vacations over :-(....for the past week i have been staying up late and sleeping in late like...like id go to bed at 1:30 and than wake up at 12..well now that schools starting i need to go to bed early but im not going to be tired...what are some good tips to fall asleep earilier?

ILL RATEE !

go see your docter and tell her or him that you cant sleep that well at night.
then they will perscribe sleeping pills.

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The pores on my face are so big, therefore, my face gets so oily. I wash my face 2 times a day. About an hour after I put on my makeup after I washed my face, my face gets oily and my make up wears off. My make up is OIL FREE too. What home remedies that work for you would you suggest to me to tighten and reduce the size of my pores and to eliminate excess oil? Don't give me that stupid google bar, I've tried google.

http://www.neutrogena.com/ProductsLine_5_3.asp

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does anyone know haw much a punching bag costs. the kind on a heavy stand thing, like a ball on a stick. thankies

http://www.karatedepot.com/punchingbags.html

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Hey! i was juss wondering is it bad to mastorbate? i find myself feeling like i cant stop and i would like to know if it's bad so that i can really really try to stop thnx.

masterbation is perfectly fine.
it is not even close to becoming bad,it is just somthing that makes you feel good in a healthy way.

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ok i want to masterbate but i'm afraid i'll hurt myself? does it hurt? how should i put my finger inside me and also what can i do (sexually) it my self with out other people please help!!
if you help i'll definitly rate 5!

no it dose not hurt
when you first start doing it,you cant stop.
anyways it feels great.

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what is love really about?

A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

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I was in a realtionship for 4 1/2 years and was engaged to him for 6 months, when all of a sudden he wanted to end things. There was some things that happened in my childhood that I never told him, but I told him last night was happended, even though we are not together anymore. I was sexually abused as a child but it has stopped for almost 15 years. I am now 24. I still want this guy in my life, but I need help first. He did not leave me because I told him what happened. I just felt like he should know. Me and him have shared a lot of stuff, and even he agreed that some of the reasons he left me were because of how I acted, because of how I was treated as a child. I was wondering if there is anyway you can help me out. Any help would mean the world to me. Thank you for your time

You have been living with a difficult problem in your life. It's good that you told your former fianc￩ about the abuse--talking about it is a step in the direction of healing. I'm very glad that you decided to consult the elder service for help. You don't say whether you have had any kind of counseling, but I'm assuming you haven't. It is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL that you seek therapy as soon as possible. It will help you learn how the abuse has affected your behavior and actions and how you can overcome any negative effects.

I am going to give you two web-sites to assist you in finding help and support.

phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/familyviolence/html/nfntsxagrsexadult_e.html

This is a long one! I had to type it a couple of times before I got it right. This site is from Canada, but gives quite a bit of information about adult survivors of sexual abuse, and lists some informative books.

darkness2light.org/GetHelp/national.asp

This site gives you links to adult support groups and adult treatment. It's focused in one area of the country, but there are links that will help people anywhere.

Please seek counseling as soon as you can to help yourself live a less troubled life. You may learn ways to get the guy back in your life, if you still want him.

I hope I've been of some help to you. I'm not an expert in this area, but have called on my life experience, including consulting with my daughter, who works on an abuse hotline. Feel free to contact the elders again at any time

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my boyfriend doesnt find me very attractive.. he thinks i'm cute but not hot, he doesnt seem to have any desire to have sex.. which bugs me lots.. can someone help me with tips to make him want me more? please

i think your boyfriend just cares about how you look and not cares whats inside.in my opinion thats totally wrong.you don't have to look sexy for some guy.just be yourself.if he dosent like it,then whatever.

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hey ok well here's the deal...my mom will let me go out with friends no problem. but whenever i m going w/ just a guy FRIEND she like makes sure a million times we are JUST FRIENDS. and we are. so no problem right?? but heres the Problem; she'll let me have boyfriends but she won't let me go out anywhere with them! whats the point of having a b/f if i can't go anywhere with them? how can i get her to lighten up and let me go out with a guy who is a little more than a friend????????? HELP!!! -and please dont say sneak around her i'd feel really guilty!-

what you need to do is sit down with your mom and tell her,she can trust you.lots of parents are very overprotected.all you need to do is make her trust you.

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ya see i am an only child and sometimes i get stuck on wat i should do, sometimes i have a friend over but people at my house get on my nerves messing with my stuff always wanting my attention, don't get me wrong i like hanging out but if there out my house in about 2hours i get bored ya see my parents are preety strickt so my friends are boring and imature
so if you can give me advice on some cool things to do like maybe a list or somthing i'd be real happy thanks
and remember i rate 5's to every one who tries

go to the mall
see a movie
play video games
prank call people
dance to your favorite song
play a game
sing
go to an amusement park
play a type of sport
go shopping
act completley freaky
play ding dong ditch
have fun!

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so. this was my first year in high school and in public school. i was "shy" and quiet in class. I did make soem friends though. It just feels like in school all the girls look the same and than u have me who has my own style and stuff. People are saying im "weird" and making up rumors just because i stick out. I have brown hair and green eyes and people just think im weird because im not afraid to be myself. Am i doing the right thing?

Hey!Dont listen to all dose shit heads talkling about you.Who cares if you dont dress the same as them?!Dont chage for anyone.Its cool to be yourself.Being yourself is better than being all fake and liking the same thing as everyone else.
YES!!!!!!!!its the right thig being your self.

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this is what happened..

an hour and 10 minutes ago my phone rang and my caller ID said it was my boyfriend so i was all excited and im like 'hayy' and my 'friend' answers so im like what? She goes 'hey its ***** im at the mall with *my boyfriends name* ahahhaahahhaha ok bye' im like what the hell that was really mean and i start hysterically crying.
so i call my boyfriends phone and she answers nd im crying nd im like 'can i talk to *my boyfriends name*' and shes like 'why are you pist' nd im like 'because you call me and your like 'oh yea were at the mall and im with *my boyfriends name* and your not haha'

Im like 'can you put him on please' shes like no why are you pist' im like 'can you put him on please' nd shes like no nd im like can you just put him on! and she goes YOUR A BITCH and hangs up!!

so now im crying 10x harder

I call one of my good friends for support and when she answers i hear their voices in the backround talking about it so im like OMG SHES WITH THEM! I say 'are you at the mall' nd shes like 'yea why are you mad at *friends name*' nd im like 'is *my boyfriends name* there' shes like yea nd im like can i talk to him shes like r u crying? im like yea and then she screams '*my boyfriends name* YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS CRYING COME HERE NOW AND TALK TO HER!!"

I hear "*my friends' name* screaming NO NO NO DONT TALK TO THAT BITCH and MY BOYFRIEND IS LAUGHING!!!!! and she hangs up on me like taking the phone from him. so now im crying 10x than before

I call him nd hes like 'why is *'my friends' name* so pist at u' nd im like 'howcome when i ask to talk to my boyfriend i get called a bitch' and hes like 'i dont know because your being..nevermind im not gonna say it *our friends name* you say it' and hands the phone to our friend.

So then our friend says "why are you mad at *'my friends' name* nd i told him nd hes like ohh or whatever and my boyfriend gets back on the phone nd im like 'you know what go go be with them because i dont give a shit. go have fun'

He goes 'no' nd im like YES **** BECAUSE I DONT CARE AND NEITHER DO YOU SO HAVE FUN' nd he goes 'sorry bye' nd i hang up! that makes me 305894085940865 times worse because he doesnt even care

i was crying for so long. this is soo horrible! what should i do? and he always says to me 'what are you doing later/tomorrow want to hang out?' and im always like 'yeah' but we never wind up doing anything and now he goes to the mall with my best friends and he doesnt invite me, neither do me so called 'bffs'. im so effing upset right now. any advice? anything at all. oh and if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all'

thanks for reading all of this. xo byee

hun dont let those bitches make you mad.your boyfriend dosent even relly seem like he cares about you at all!your friends seem missed up too.you should just stop seeing your boyfriend if hes going to act that way.oh and your friend that called you a bitch if i was you i would really kick her ass!....lol.j.k
anyways my point is if you still want to work somthing out with your boyfriend then sit down and talk to him,and tell him how you feel.if you don't want to be with him.then just break it off with him.
hope you feel better

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LONG STORY!!!!SORRY
I'm 16 and recently went back to work at the restaurant I worked at the previous summer. I was surprised to find out that J., 20, had started to work there on the same day that I came back. We worked together last summer, I had no strong feelings for him this way or that.

I began to flirt with him immediately, normally I wouldn't do this, but I am comfortable around him. He's always set me at ease. I did childish things like throw parsley at him, he often attempted to throw it right back.

Anyway, as time went on we'd stand close together in the doorway, just subtle flirtatious things like that. Later, he began to flirt back with me by putting me in headlocks and lightly pushing me. Sometimes we'd hold hands until the next session of flirtation began.

To make a long story short (I'm sorry! I don't want to bore you! ^^;;) I asked him if he had a girlfriend, and he said he did. I almost slapped myself, was he ever planning on telling me if I never asked? I guess I should have asked earlier, but maybe I didn't want to know if he did...

So even though I really liked him I tried to not flirt with him, I felt that things were just "weird," because it feels so natural to have the flirtation between us. I don't want to hurt his girlfriend, but I can't help the way I feel...

So later after I pretty much had stopped my advances, he starts to flirt with ME again! (not vice versa!) What am I supposed to do?! I flirt back, because I still have strong feelings for him.

One night when we worked alone we got drunk (well I had 2 beers, he had 3) and we played around some more. We did the normal flirty things that we usually do, stand really close together, he holds me and runs his mouth/face over my neck/collarbone. Then our boss shows up, we scramble outside and I ride around with him in his car (I was afraid to drive).

He said he wanted to have sex with me, and I told him, "No way. I'm a virgin. I'd never have sex with you unless I really really liked you and you were my boyfriend."

I told him the last part to be nice. I'm really saving myself for marriage. Later before he dropped me off and said that he wanted to kiss me, but he said he shouldn't because, A. I'm "too young", and B. he has a GF. I gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him Goodnight. That way his GF can't be mad at him.

Another night (next week) we got drunk again at work, I had 3 wine spritzers and he had a beer. We fooled around some more and I kissed him, or he kissed me...I don't know. He told me I was a good kisser (but you never know because boys lie! :-P) and that he wanted me to kiss him again. I eventually end up kissing him more and more that night before we went over another restaurant that my boss owns. He's my second kiss, and I love kissing him. Of course, because I was drunk I told him that when I was kissing my first kiss I was thinking about him. (I was!)

He told me that he would date me if he didn't have a girlfriend already, I told him that I would wait for him...oh, he also said that he likes me.

He also told me that someone told his girl that I had a crush on him. We think it was one of the waitstaff, that told one of HER friends, that told his girl. (Yes, one big long chain of ppl ^^;;) I asked if he would act weird around me when that certain waitress was around, first he said probably, and then he said he would act the same around me. I was happy when he said that, I don't want things to change. Oh, this was also on another day of working alone together, we were sober!

So the day after our kiss, he acts Coldly around me. He tries to avoid me if possible, and barely talks to me. The next day is kind of the same, but he tells me he had a huge fight with his girlfriend (that wants to beat me up..) partly over me. He told me that he told his girl that he didn't care about me.

So here I am. I'm confused and lost. I really like him. I don't want to get burned, but it appears to be too late. I know that if I dated him, I would be the only one..but how would I be for sure when he flirts with me and has a girl?! I don't want to have these doubts, I trust him completely.

How should I act around him? What should I do? I just want to flirt with him, and he with me, and have everything be alright.

I can't stop thinking about him, and I just want him to come back to me. What has his problem been lately? I just don't understand. I can't turn to anyone else for help.

Thanks!

I think you already know what to do but in case there is any doubt, let me lay it on you.

First, this guy is a MAJOR PLAYER. He may be nice and he may even like you, but basically, he is nothing more than a guy who cheats on his girlfriend. Are you sure you want to be the next girlfriend that he cheats on because, believe me, it will happen. Second, you say you would trust him if he were you boyfriend! Based on what???? He is extremely untrustworthy and absolutely not ready for commitment. How do I know? Look how he is handling and commitment he made to his girlfriend.

Ask yourself: How did she get to be his girlfriend? He flirted with her, kissed her and told her he loved her. Right? Then, he starts fooling around with you. Do you really think he likes you better? Darling, you are nothing more than another notch on his 20 year old belt!!

I'll tell you what really worries me here: because of alcohol you went against your better judgment more than once.

Think: if you weren't drinking, would you have lead him on like that or even let it go as far as it did? Probably not. Unconsciously, you allowed yourself to drink so that you could have the excuse that you were high. One of the problems with alcohol is that judgment and inhibitions go out the window. Because you were drinking, this went a lot farther then you wanted to if you were thinking clearly.

Here's another problem. You were indiscreet. Now, his girlfriend knows, has read him the riot act, and wants to "kick your butt." On top of that, he has now withdrawn from you emotionally. Doesn't that tell you where his heart( if he has one) is? Do you really need all this drama and anxiety?

Please show some self-respect and get back in control, even if you "really like him." Absolutely ignore him. If he says hello, you can give him a very small recognition that you see him and nothing more. You need to just "walk on by." Do not flirt, do not drink, do not involve yourself with this immature young man. Even if you are aching inside, you need to show some pride and self-control. Believe me, you will heal, but the way to start doing that is to withdraw, perhaps even find another job.

The last thing you need is an angry girlfriend coming after you and a boy who acts like a yo yo. These kind of triangles seldom work out in our favor and leave the third party feeling empty and alone.

Let the two of them live in their own private Hell. Create something better for yourself by just walking away. It is possible and I know you will feel much much happier when this is behind you.

The lesson this young man needs to learn is that he can't cheat on his girlfriend with no consequences. Don't be victimized by his inability to be faithful. Look right through him. As far as you're concerned, he has simply ceased to exist.

I know it will be hard but the reward in terms of self-esteem and peace will be well worth it.

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whats a good photo thing to download i want an editor that can make my pictures look cartoonish?

adobe

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Me and my bro are starting a skate squad and we desperatly need a name for it. I thought about the initials of each member but it dosnt spell anything. so we need a name that isnt corny, stupid, geeky, childish ect. i also need an individual name for myself, i want something that says girly, boyish, skater, anxe. But i cant tink of sumthin that fits that descirption.
so if you have ideas for the squad name or my individual name it would be great. i need advice.
thanks and HaPpY nEw YeAr!!

~sk8er chick

hmmmmmmmmm ummmmm what about choked are rotton flys oh are cosmic death........ahhhhhhhh sorry i know all of the names i picked out are retarted!

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14.f
im flat chested im a 32 a in bust size, but im really emberrased because i got this bra from VS and its fully padded and its a 34 a cause i know i dont fill it out and its really embarrasing to change in p.e. cause all the girls know i dont fill out my bra but when i wear the 32 a it hurts like my back and makes red marks which isnt healthy but then like a year ago when i did wear a 32 a sometimes when i wear loose shirts my boobs would look like tiny buds that looked really weird
fyi im short like 5'3" and i heard its less noticable if you have a flat chest if your tall, and ive had my period for about a year now.

I'll rate 5 if someome can help me

you are still develpoing.i bet when your 16 are 17 your breast are just going to get huge...lol.that happens to some girls.so just wait patiently and it will happen.you should not care about what those other girls think.ok so just ignore them all and if they tell you stuff,tell them to fuck off!....lol sorry
good luck=)

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