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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.
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Okay know this may be weird but can anyone please tell me if there is any difference between european clothing sizes and american pants sizes because i really don't get it! I am going over seas next summer and I want to go shopping there-thanks!
Yes, and here are a couple of websites that covert sizes for you. You can print them up and take them w/you. Have fun on your trip!
http://goeurope.about.com/cs/shopping/l/bl_clothes_size.htm
http://www.i18nguy.com/clothing.html
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Ok, so I'm a female and I'm 16.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months now. and everybody thought we would end up together. well about a month or so ago, He moved 2 hours away. and It's been really hard to deal with this. but as he's been away for awhile, things about him have started to bug me. and i feel myself starting to fall out of love with him. also, me and him have started to fight alot lately, mostly my fault. and he asked me if i was going to break up with him.. i panicked, and said no. which i don't know if i should or not. so i seriously need help. I want to break up with him but then again, I don't... i want this to work.. even though, i know eventually it won't because of the distance. so .. should i break up with him now? ..what should i do?
The fact that he aggravates you is a sign that all is not well. What you might want to try is not braking up w/him exactly but changing the rules a bit. Nothing says you have to be exclusive to each other. You can still see each other whenever possible and also see other people. You might just need to get out there and see what else is out there. Date some other people yet whenever you can arrange it the two of you get together. You might be mad at him because you are seeing all of your friends w/their boyfriends hanging out on a daily basis. That is really one of the fun parts of dating. When he comes to town you see him and him only, then you can even go and visit him for special occasions like dances and things. The point here being is you need some time off from the exclusivity of your relationship. This doesn't mean you two have to stop being friends and dating each other. You may find that you love him more than ever or you may find that it wasn't meant to be. But whatever the case you need to explore adding a little freedom in your life right now or you will break up w/him and you two will not remain friends. You have to weight how important it is to keep him in your life. He may be angry at first, but if you keep emailing him, calling him, ignoring what mean things he says while he's hurt, than he will come around. Let him know that you absolutely still love him. Assure him that you absolutely want to see him whenever you can. You just need it not to be an exclusive thing right now. Good Luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Okay so i'm 14, and my boyfriend is 17.(he just turned it about a month ago, and i am turning 15 in November).
We are seriously crazy about each other, and if you want to say that a 14 doesn't know what love is, then i'm the next closest thing to it. We've been together for about a year (16 days shy). We want to be together forever. Yeah, you can think we're crazy, it's alright. lol. What i'd like to know is, is it normal to feel like this at an age like 14, and is it realistic that we could last forever?
Yes, this is a normal reaction for someone your age. The majority of the times relationships do not last when one is your age. But, I will tell you a little story. It's a little bit sad right now but it had a marvelous beginning. My Aunt died this week. She was 82 and she left behind her children and her beloved husband who is 91. They met when she was in high school and she was 16, he was then 25. In those days things were a lot different than they are today. My Aunt's family was not pleased with her dating such an older man. She was breath takingly beautiful and they felt she deserved to experience more of life before making any commitments. My Aunt didn't listen. She ended up marrying my Uncle and they lived happily together for 65 years. They did everything together. When my Uncle came to town he had no money, but he had an entrepreneur spirit and quickly became a milti millionaire. My point here being that yes it is possible that you can stay together until the end of this life experience, but most of the time it just doesn't happen that way. If you truly "believe" you can achieve anything you want. Best wishes to you in all you want for your life because anything IS possible.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
My husband died about a 2 years ago in a tragic car accident. I still can't seem to move on. I know people grieve at different paces and in different ways, but I'm afraid I'll always compare men to my old husband and I'll be alone for the remainder of my life. (I'm only 29!) Right now everything seems bleak an hopeless. Will I ever be able to love another man? So far I haven't been activly dating, but there's a few gentlemen I've almost had relationships. Nobody seems to compare!
If you are really interested in developing a close relationship w/another man you can't compare people w/your husband. No one will ever be him and no one ever can. You have to look at each individual and see them for who they are. There is definitely someone else out there for you. What you may want to consider is simply developing some friendships for now. Nothing serious, just someone or some people you can invite to parties, functions, group get togethers or the movies, that sort of thing. Go dutch when you go out to dinner, simply be friends. As you're doing this you may want to get involved in some kind of grief counseling. I use to head one up that was out of a church. I have included a couple of websites below that have some articles that might help you. But you can also put "grief counseling" and your town into your search engine and you will have contacts with some local support groups you can attend. These are really great groups to go to. People get really close and a lot of good comes out of it. You will be w/people who will relate to what you are going through and you will be able to work through your difficulties as a result. You will find that others are experiencing the same things you are and they can help you by sharing their how they are coping with it. Another interesting thing is you might find that you have a lot to offer them too. You have to work on yourself first before you can expect to move on and find someone else. I know it has to be difficult for you and w/o direction from someone who is trained in this it could take you a lot longer. We have a tendency to hold on to these feelings. We feel guilty if we move on as if we are betraying our loved ones. We are not of course, but this is how we feel. These support groups are generally free and a lot of churches have them as well. Please get involved in one; I know you will be glad you did. Best of luck to you and my prayers will be with you.
http://www.counselingforloss.com/articles.htm
http://ub-counseling.buffalo.edu/coping.shtml
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Flight 5191 should not have crashed in Kentucky today. Where was God? And does he not love them?
This is a rather complicated issue and I'm not sure I can explain all the details thoroughly enough, but I'll try or at least give you a synopses. One of the greatest gifts God gave to us was free will. That means that if I decide to go to school (for example) there are many consequences, roads, or decisions to be made w/in that one decision. With each road I take there are consequences for each one decision made and innumerable decisions and consequences that lay w/in that (really mind boggling). Some of the consequences can be good and some of the consequences can be ones I won't enjoy. I could decide to skip school, get caught and be suspended or go to school that day and am one of the few who are chosen to go on an out of town field trip (you had to be in school that day). I may wish I had made a different choice, but the choice I make is the one I will have to live with. There actually is no such thing as good and bad. Good and bad is just something we label to explain how we feel about an outcome. Now how does this relate to the flight going down? Well, some of the things that it could have happened as a consequence of human decision is a mechanic decided not to tighten a bolt properly, the pilot flipped the wrong switch because he became too complacent about his job, maybe the control tower gave inappropriate directions, a terrorist did something, or the plane was overdue an overhaul check-up and some executive let it slide. All of these being human decisions w/consequences attached to them. God believes in our abilities and intelligence to know what is the right decision. We don't always follow our instincts and this sometimes brings about those consequences we don't like. Have you ever decided to do something that you know that your parents were going to be angry about if they found out but you do it anyway? They find out and you get into a whole lot of trouble. You made the decision and the punishment by your parents is the consequence. The pilot when he flips the wrong switch (for example) may have had a split second where some voice said you might want to look at what you just did, but the pilot ignores this little voice and the consequence is the plane crash. I'm not saying that any of these examples are the cause of the plane crash today by the way. What I'm saying is the plane crash was caused by something that some human somewhere did or did not do and this is the result of that action or decision. God loves us and welcomes us into his presence. He loves us so much that he gives us the freedom to grow through our mistakes. A few ways that we can stop things like this is listen to that little voice w/in us that is alerting us to "something is wrong". We have to follow our conscious and not ignore our wisdom within. We need to stay on the road to truth, love, and respect of each other. If we could do some of these things plus probably a whole lot of other things I am not attuned to, we might be able to avert the stupidity of our own actions or choices. I wish you the best of luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
I'm 14/f and a freshman in Highschool. I was my first highschool dance the other night and tons of seniors wanted to grind with me. I didn't really mind cause I wasn't overdoing it. The first guy I danced with though eventually asked me when we were dancing "Do you want to go somewhere else?" and I really didn't want to have sex (I'm a virgin) so I said 'no'. Then he said "okay it was nice to meet you.", he shook my hand, and walked away. I have no idea why, but all night I felt really bad for him. I know it's dumb cause it's like 'I feel bad because I didn't have sex with him like he wanted'. Do you know why I feel this way? What do you think I would have ended up doing if I did? (blowjob, just sex, fingering, ect.)
Thanks so much. I RATE!
This is just a guess, but dancing is such a sensual form of expression. You said it yourself in your question that a lot of seniors wanted to grind w/you. The operative term here is "grind". You may have subconsciously thought that you led him on in some way. You can get that thought right out of your head. Dancing w/someone is not leading them on. You were just having fun, it was your first high school dance, and you were exhilarated. I hope it happens again for you. Anyway, what kind of guy is it that would expect that of you before you have a chance to get to know him? He doesn't sound like he's that nice of a guy anyway. He just wants to have sex w/you and be on his merry way. But, next time something like that happens say "no" again, but add would you like to sit down and talk for a moment? If the guy says no, then you know for sure what he's interested in. You'll find yourself in a lot of pain if you go there w/a guy like that. Also, this guy probably didn't give it a second thought. He went on to the next one, and the next one, and the next one until he scores. He's just about scoring. Keep having fun, dancing your heart out, and that special person who respects and loves you will come into your life. Good Luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Oh no! i have a problem. this boy asked me out like a week ago and he is seriously...like so in love with me. the problem is that i dont think i really have such deep feelings for him. and i cannot break up with him because he keeps on telling me he keeps getting hurt by girls..and that i make him so happy and you know things that would make it impossible for me to break up with him. So any suggestions on maybe how to get myself to like him more?? Or even what to do?!THANKS i need it.
Don't let this guy manipulate you into staying w/him because he's having problems keeping a girlfriend. You can't live that way and will end up really hating this guy if you do that. What will work best for you is what is important here. I think it's commendable that you consider his feelings and it tells me that you're a caring person. This doesn't mean you should sacrifice yourself. There is someone out there that would be more your match and you will enjoy spending time with. You deserve that. I realize he'll be crushed but there is someone out there that will love him the way he is looking for and if you stay w/him he will not find that person either. You need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Let him know you love him but not in the way he is looking for. Tell him you'd like to keep him in your life because you do care for him, but you think it will be best for him if he finds someone who will love him in a way that he deserves. Tell him you will be there for him if he needs someone to talk to, but that you have plans to see other people. This way you may be able to keep him as a friend, but don't count on it. He may really hurt at first and not be able to do that. But, stay friendly w/him no matter what he says when you break up w/him. Keep in mind that he's hurting and may say some hurtful things. Then again, maybe not. The most important thing here is you and what is best for you. Best of Luck to you!!!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Why do men lie so much!?!
Everybody lies to one degree or another. For example I tell you I've done my homework because I want to go to the movies. I'm only hurting myself w/this lie. What you must look at is what type of lies are you willing to tolerate or live with. Personally speaking the previous answer that a guy gave you would not be a lie I'd be willing to tolerate. That is someone who doesn't understand how much this type of lie will hurt if his girlfriend finds out on her own. He doesn't understand how much this type of lie is hurting his relationship w/women in general. He doesn't respect women and doesn't think we are worthy of a true close relationship. I also don't think a guy like that should make any kind of committed relationship with anyone if he intends to see other people. It would work best if he just told someone that he liked dating them the most, but was going to see other people from time to time. He'd be honest and what he doesn't get is if a girl really liked him she'd always be on her best behavior (another kind of lie) to keep his interest. What he's doing is childish and immature, and since he's young it probably fits. A major problem with this mentality is that these guys usually carry this into adulthood and think it's ok to do as adults as well. Guys that think like that are not guys you want to make a commitment with and most especially a home with. They will forever lie to you about what they are doing or where they've been. They'll go out w/their friends a lot and tell you it's just the guys when actually they are up to other things such as other women. If caught they will tell you that it's to keep you from hurting, but actually it's just to make it easier for them. They do this so they can glide through life doing whatever they want regardless of how it can hurt two women not just the one they are married to. They are all about making life easier for themselves and it doesn't matter about anyone else. These are very selfish people. Are all guys like this? No. There are lots of guys out there that would never do anything like this to anyone. They have respect for you and will love you the way you deserve to be loved. You will find one...you just have to sift through the dirt to find that gold nugget. Good Luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
I had volleyball try-outs for 8 hours, and my legs are so sore fromdoing conditioning that I can hardly move. The problem is, I have more try-outs on Monday. Any tips to recover beforehand? I am so sore, and I desperately need to get better.
Do ice packs for 20 minutes and then put a heating pad on for 10 after which you do some stretching exercises. I have included some sites that have them demonstrated for you. Just pick the areas where you are hurting most. You don't have to spend lots of money on ice packs either. Just go to your local Home Depot or Lowes and pick up that stuff that keeps the moisture in your plants. They are clear little round balls` (I don’t know the name of them and they are not absolutely necessary, I just happen to like them). Put about 2 cups into a large freezer bag. Then put 1 cup alcohol and the rest water. You then put the filled bag into another freezer bag and place it in the freezer for about 3 hrs. You put them on the areas most affected first. I saw that others told you to take hot baths and showers. Definitely a good idea especially while you are waiting for your ice packs to freeze. When the ice pack is frozen (it won't be completely solid because of the alcohol in it) you will wrap it in a towel to apply. Get a heating pad or hot water bottle to apply in between. Ice pack 20 minutes/heating pad/bottle 10 minutes, then you want to stretch after every combo application. To keep this from happening as badly in the future you want to stretch before try-outs and stretch whenever you have a chance during as well as stretch at the end. Your soreness won't be as extreme if you incorporate stretching as much as possible.
Good luck to you!!
http://www.halhigdon.com/15Ktraining/Stretch.htm
http://www.easyvigour.net.nz/fitness/h_Free_Pilates_Exercises.htm
Namaste!!
LULABELLE
i need advice about eyeliner..every time i put sum on it smears at the end of the day or during..how do you keep it from smearing..also it didnt use to do that..help
If you are talking about eyeliner that is around your eyes smearing than I have two suggestions. One is to use liquid eyeliner in the summer time. Liquid liner doesn't smear where pencil liner tends to do that in the summer, not winter. If you don't like liquid eyeliner than you need to prep your eyes w/a base or eye type foundation. Clinique has one but there is a less expensive version made by Mabelline called Cool Effect. Neither your eyeliner nor eye shadow will smear and will last all day. You only need a little dab. Also, another insurance against smearing is when using an eyeliner pencil after lining your eye, you want to go over the already lined area around the eye w/a complimentary eye shadow. You can use an eye shadow that is the same color or you can use a complimentary color such as the one you may be using to accent your eyes w/. This will help it to last longer than you've been experiencing. I hope this helps.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
alright so me and my boyfriend have been going out for several months now and i love him alot, and he says he loves me and he said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and so do i, but when he talks to like any girl even my best friend i get really paranoid and he gets even more paranoid if i talk to a guy. how can we both stop getting paranoid with each other when we talk to the opposite sex?
The other two answers are good and you should consider them. I have an exercise I do when this happens to me. When you feel paranoid about your boyfriend talking to another girl, just go against your feelings (this is one situation I recommend going against your feelings). Let him have his conversations. You're there, so what could happen. Don't say anything and just let it happen. The more you do this the less paranoid you will feel. Tell your boyfriend what you are doing and ask him to do the same thing. You two know that you love each other so there is nothing to worry about. The more you practice tolerance of the others communications w/the opposite sex the stronger you will become. It's like working out to strengthen your muscles. You are strengthening your fortitude.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
for 5 months i couldn't bring myself to the make the moves on my boyfriend. and he never made them. so we didnt do very much of anything. but now we broke up and im dating a new guy name justin. and i really like justin and he asked meout. but everyones sayin that if i date him he's just goina fuck me and then once hes got that hes goina be done with me. and that makes me nervous but for once i actually think im ready to have sex for the first time, because i like justin that much, but everything everyones sayin about his reputation and stuff just makes me nervous. i dont wanna give it up to him just to have him be in it to say he fucked me first.
any ideas ... ?
You're not going to like my answer but here it is. Liking someone a lot is not a reason to have sex w/someone. Sharing the most precious gift you have to offer is for someone who you are passionately in love with and will respect how precious a gift this is. Justin doesn't sound like someone who respects this. If you withhold this precious gift for that person sex will be one of the most beautiful experiences of your life and you will always remember it that way. If you have sex with someone who has a reputation like Justin and he does leave you afterwards you will feel devastated and used. You may even end up having anger associated w/sex. You will not have as special of an experience or memory as you can have and will regret that you did it with Justin. Hold off until you have a deep emotional bond with someone that is deeper than you've ever felt in your life. If you do this you will be happy that you did. Also, withholding from Justin is one way to see what his true motives are. If he gives up quickly and moves on down the road to other pastures than you will see that all he was after in the first place was another conquest. Keep in mind that you have friends who are warning you about him. They don't want to see you hurt and have your best interest at heart. But, I wish you the best of luck no matter what you decide to do!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
WHY is it ok for black guys to date caucasian chicks but it's not ok for black ladies to date caucasian guys.
Where did you hear that? I see people all over the place/ guys w/girls, girls w/guys. I don't even notice anymore whose with whom. What's important here is chemistry/love. If you strike it up w/someone and feel an attraction I think everything else is elementary. The fact of the matter is there is no such thing as "race" in the first place. We are all descended from a South African bushman tribe called the Le San. We have all be genetically traced to them. There is not a human being on this planet that can't trace their genealogy back to them. There have been scientific studies that prove this and they have been put into a documentary called "Journey of Man". You can purchase it on line from PBS for $29 or you can wait for it to air again. They've also put it into book form. It explains how some of us ended up lighter skinned than others. Just keep in mind there is no such thing as race. This is just an illusion we seem to choose to live with. I personally choose not to to live by the illusion.
Now to answer your question: in some areas of our country there has been a stigma which makes it looked down upon for a darker (black) skinned woman to date a lighter(white) skinned man. I think this may be because of what happened during slavery in this country. Back in those days the male owner of the plantation would take female slaves on his plantations as mistresses. They'd sometimes set them up in their own homes, their own servants/slaves, and would use them for only one reason. There are many stories of women who fell in love w/these men, had children with them and thought it possible they would even marry them, but of course this never happened, at least not openly. These women died being looked down upon by both races. Now for black males, after the war, it was looked upon as a status symbol if he were to be able to have a white woman at his side. As a matter of fact I think up until the 60's it was still on the books in many states that it was against the law for a white person to develop a romantic relationship w/a black person regardless of gender. There were people who have been arrested, in those days, for that very thing. The point here being the different set of rules that were set up because of the circumstances of those times. I think that in many cases people have lost sight of where these stigmas have come from and are reacting to feelings that have been handed down. For this very reason I think it is important for us to ignore those feelings and not pay any attention to those who express them. These are people who are stuck in their feelings of fear and they are to be pitied, not encouraged. If there is someone who you have special feelings for and they have them for you than there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to explore them to see if this person isn't the one for you. I have included some websites below for you to explore. Good luck to you!
This is a short synopses of what "Journey of Man" is about.
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2002/12/1212_021213_journeyofman.html
This is where you can buy the book "Journey of Man".
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0812971469/bookstorenow57-20/104-0561232-4666306
This is where you can purchase the 2 hour CD.
http://www.shoppbs.org/sm-pbs-journey-of-man-dvd--pi-1402989.html
This website goes into what happened to slave women here in America.
http://www.etymonline.com/cw/mulatto.htm
This is where you can purchase one of the most amazing books ever written "Jubilee", by Dr. Margaret Walker. I feel strongly about this book. I feel that if "Gone with the Wind" is on required reading lists than so should this book. It's an amazing true story about a young woman who was born into slavery.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0395924952/104-0561232-4666306?v=glance&n=283155
This is a synopsis of a PBS documentary about a black male boxer in the early 1900s who married white women. He was highly publicized and I think this is one of the places where it was treated as if it was a status symbol.
http://www.pbs.org/unforgivableblackness/rebel/
A shorter version of Jack Johnson.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Johnson_(boxer)
Namaste!
LULABELLE
My boyfriend has a friend thats a girl, and theyve been friends for a couple of years. They have pet names for each other and talk all the time. He doesnt talk about her all the time, but, when he does I just get mad. I dont know why, I just do. Hes always concerned or worried about her. I really dont like it when he talks about her but I want to help him because hes always worried about her. Am I just being jelous? What should I do? I'm so confused.
Your reaction is normal. I don't know of any woman/girl who would not feel that way. What you do about your feelings is important here. You could grow immensely from this experience or if left alone "jealousy" could grow until it festers and is damaging to you and your relationship with your boyfriend. What I'd do to overcome these feelings is get to know his friend better. I'd become friends w/her as well. It could be a really great thing. You become friends w/her and she starts to really like you, then you and your boyfriend get into an argument you could have an ally. The women against the guy so to speak. Being friends w/your boyfriend's friend could defuse the "jealousy" feelings you are having. But I do caution you here. Don't let yourself give up any secrets that you don't want your boyfriend to know about because she will tell him. She's his friend first. But you could also end up w/a very good friend that you can take away w/you if for some reason you and your boyfriend were to ever brake up. Also, a funny thing about guys, they express concern about people when they are not with them. I'll bet when he's w/her you are all he talks about.
How to start this up would be to go on a double date with her. You could also invite her to join the two of you when you are going to places like swimming, boating, a park, any place that you and your boyfriend are going just to hang out, but don't intend to become too romantic. Include her in any activities that you would or are going to include your friends in on. Be really friendly towards her. It might be a little awkward at first, but after you get over the hump things will move smoothly. She may be a little jealous of you too because you are taking her friend away from her. This will also help her to work through her feelings. The thing to remember here is that she isn't going away. She's been your boyfriend's friend for 2 years. Incorporating her into your life will help you w/your feelings and her with her's. Good luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
hi, i weigh 101 and i'm 5'4 and im a 16 yr old girl. im a ice skater and my coaches think im fat. i am very insecure with my weight and afraid to gain. i have decided that i am going to hardxcore diet but not become anorexic, what would be too skinny for someone my height and age.
I personally don't think you are fat, but the problem here is not my opinion, but that of your coaches. I'm assuming that you are training to skate competitively and hopefully reach international status. If this is the case your coaches know what an athlete needs to do to get to these levels. When they say you're too fat I don't think they are speaking of how big you are but more on the level of body fat percentage. Most successful female athletes maintain a body fat level of around 18 to 20%. I wouldn't suggest eating any less than you are right now. What I suggest you do is eat more fresh fruits and vegetables. As a snack carry around baby carrots, cherry tomatoes, celery sticks, cucumber slices, etc. and if you have a sweet tooth make it strawberries, blueberries, pineapple slices (fresh not dried), apples, bananas, whatever your favorite fruits are...these things have no fat to speak of in them and they can keep you feeling satiated. You want to keep away from dairy, bread, and most oils. Take a tablespoon of flaxseed oil everyday. Good fats help you to eliminate fat believe it or not. Another good fat is coconut butter. Back in 1948 farmers wanted to fatten their cows up so they started feeding them coconut butter. What happened next was the opposite of what they had expected. The cows became more energetic, slimed down, and developed more muscle tone. After ten years of this the farmers gave up on this and started to feed their cows corn. The cows quickly fattened up. This leads me into my next suggestion and that's to not eat any corn or anything w/corn in it. Now that's going to be harder than you think since just about everything in the market has some kind of corn product in it such as corn oil, corn, or corn syrup. If it fattens the cows it's going to fatten you. The best oils to cook w/ are raw coconut butter and raw palm oil. These oils do not go rancid at high temperatures like all your other cooking oils. Palm oil has carotenes (precursors to Vitamin A) and the antioxidant tocotrienols (Vitamin E). It's always better to get your vitamins from a natural food source if possible. Your body assimilates them better. Like all good things you can do too much of it so go lightly. Get yourself one of those salad spritzers and make your own salad dressing and spray it lightly on your salads. You can use the healthy oils like flaxseed oil in this dressing and get your flaxseed that way. Stick to the workout routine that your coaches have mapped out for you and you will have your body fat down in no time. Below I have included a website that has a body weight chart for you to see. I wish you luck in your endeavors and hope you reach your dreams.
http://www.heartmonitors.com/tanita_fat.htm
Namaste!
LULABELE
My partner and I have been playing this game and normally play the the Romans. However, this time I was a Mayan and I cannot figure out how to grow Agaves! I had loads of Agave farms and there was just nothing happening, even though Settlers were occupying the buildings.
I'm really confused and the Manual doesn't say how to grow the plants so has anyone tried this before because I really feel like throwing my PC out the window right now!!!!
Agave is really easy to grow. Agave is a succulent and can thrive in almost any condition with the exception of cold weather. They can be planted as a ground cover or in pots, depending on what you want to achieve. The soil needs to be a little sandy, basically not 100% fertile soil. It likes to be watered once a week and fertilized once a month, but it can also go for long periods of time w/o these things and survive just fine. Agave is the cactus that the Mexicans make tequila with. You can also purchase the juice of Agave in health food stores as a great sweetener to replace processed sugar. It is 30 times sweeter than sugar and tastes a little bit like butterscotch. Another really interesting fact about Agave is that diabetics can eat Agave because it doesn’t raise their insulin levels which make it a much better alternative to artificial sweeteners. Good luck with your game!
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LULABELLE
ok so im 16/f and for some reason my ankles pop everytime i walk up stairs and sometimes just taking steps make them pop really loud!! its really embarrasing in class when it's dead silent during a test and i have to walk across the room and my ankles pop!! is there something wrong w/ them or what? also my wrists and knees pop whenever i bend them back and forth but it hurts usually when they do pop. should i see a doctor or is just a weird thing that's normal? o ya im a cheerleader if that helps any!
There is a scientific explanation which is that you have something in your joints called synovial fluid which acts as a lubricant. The fluid contains the gases oxygen, nitrogen, and carbon dioxide. The popping or sound of a joint is gas rapidly released, which forms bubbles. You may also have brittle bones which makes it chronic but I wouldn't worry about it unless you are feeling pain when your joints pop, than you should seek a health care professional to diagnose your problem. Good Luck!
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Lulabelle
yesterday i spent the night at my friend savannah's.
we went through her woods to meet my boyfriend @ 2 in the morning..bunch of bugs.
then i used her deoderent this morning..
and i shaved yesterday..
i have a really annoying rash under my underarms and it hurts really really bad..and i dont know what it is so i dont know how to treat it..
any idea?
It could be the type of deodorant that she's using has more aluminum or some other ingredient in it and you are not use to. A lot of people have allergic reactions to aluminum in their deodorant just like what you're having. I have it w/commercial deoderants like secret,etc. I don't think it is anything more than that.
http://www.markjoyner.name/forums/articles-members/1844-deodorant-top-7-ingredients-avoid.html
http://groups.google.com/group/alt.med.allergy/browse_thread/thread/e970081478bf06d3/bb8f17641f1c9655?lnk=st&q=&rnum=10&hl=en#bb8f17641f1c9655
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LULABELLE
ok... so im confused... well i've been treated like pure shit when it comes to boyfriends... they all start out amazing but end terribly... i no alot of relationships end badly but this is pretty ridiculous... my last one we were dating for like 5 months... the day he left for vacation he told me he loved me... 9 days later when he got back from mexico he broke up w/ me... he really didnt have a reason... and i havent done anything to make him all of the sudden want to break up.... the only thing he said is he was going into highschool (i already go to the highschool) and it is going to be cross country season (which i thought was a poor excuse becasue i play tennis)... well i know you dont want to read alot.... but seriously i want to talk to some people (ill tell you about myself so maybe you can help me understand y this keeps happening) but basically i really dont understand and im confused becasue i dont know y some guys are like this.. i told myself that they were just stupid and made a mistake... hopfully u can tell me... but before you do i think you need to know about me.... so please respond and ill tell you about me
I hate to say this but I think your present X went out w/someone in Mexico. He probably came back thinking he must not be in love w/you if he could do that and he may have felt guilty about it too. I know about Mexico because I've been there and for the same amount of time. I went when I was going into high school and I have blonde hair and green eyes. In the two weeks I was down there I had men of all ages following me around all over the place. I exchanged addresses w/2 or 3 of them and kept up for a while. My little brother had women chasing him all over the place too. They are aggressive and Latinos love love so in this instance I wouldn't think it had anything to do w/you. It is probably the fact that he spent time w/a couple of girls down there and felt this meant he couldn't love you if he could see someone else. He may have even exchanged addresses and thinks he can maintain a long distance relationship w/someone, but it won't last if this is the case. Since you only told me about one of your relationships I can't begin to understand what may be a factor in other relationships you have been involved in. I will say this...you never know with a teenage guy. It doesn't take anything at all to send them on down the road. I remember when I was in high school I had a boyfriend who was furious w/me because someone told him that I looked at them. They told him I was going up the stairs and looked at them. I did not even remember who they were much less purposefully look at them. He took that as a sign of my ability to cheat on him. Of course I didn't need anyone in my life that was that ridiculous, but I use this as an example of how ridiculous they can be. Someone could say to a guy, wow, Suzie looks like she's gained weight (and Suzie hasn't gained an oz, but has on something that isn't becoming) and the guy will freak out and break up w/her. They are so into what other guys think while in high school. I had another boyfriend who was riding by my house on his bike w/a friend. I had a friend over and we were playing records and dancing. His friend made a comment about our dancing by ourselves and he broke up w/me. Do you see a pattern here? Boys just run for the darndest things. Don't let it get you down. They aren't worth it. Good luck!
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LULABELLE
14,f, my ex boyfriend, who i still kind of have a thing for, basically told me that he still loves me on AIM. and i was really flattered and all, but he has a girlfriend that he's been going out with for 2 weeks. and a while ago he told me he had a major crush on her, and then one day he asked her out and turns out she liked him too. so now i feel really bad that he's kind of, well, trying to cheat on his girlfriend or whatever by telling me he loves me, well actually i dont know what hes doing by telling me this, and i wouldnt want him to do that to me with some other girl. i really dont know what to say to him and when he wrote me that on aim i just told him i had to go and signed off. havent talked to him since. i really like him but still i would hate him if he told another girl he loved her if he was with me. so i'm basically asking if i should like him or not -- i mean, i really do..i think about him more than anyone and he was always faithful to me when we were together and he was just the perfect boyfriend..but then i broke it off because i wasnt ready to have a steady realtionsip back then but now i am. help???
If you are sure that he never cheated on you than this could simply be a case of his never really getting over you. You broke up w/him and he very well could still have the feelings for you that he always has had. Now when you broke up w/him he did the best thing he could for himself to get over you and that is get back out there and start dating other people. I don't think he's trying to cheat on her as much as he's trying to find out if there is anything that can be developed between the two of you. He's young and inexperienced so he may not be doing things in the proper order. It could be that he's taking a chance to tell you how he feels and hoping you feel the same way and then he will end it w/his present girlfriend, but he doesn't want to end it w/her if you don't feel the same way as a he does. Why should he end it w/her if you aren't interested? He's feeling you out so to speak. What I suggest you do is let him know that you are interested in him, but you can't proceed in a romantic relationship w/him as long as he's involved w/someone else. Let him know how this is making you feel. Tell him that it comes across to you as if he's cheating on this new girlfriend. But in my opinion if someone has only been dating someone for just 2 weeks that does not constitute cheating. There couldn't possible been any true emotional commitment at this point, it would be too soon. You're still in the infatuation aspect of the relationship at this point. Simply relax and let him know how you are feeling about everything and it will all work itself out. Good Luck!
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Lulabelle