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alright so me and my boyfriend have been going out for several months now and i love him alot, and he says he loves me and he said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and so do i, but when he talks to like any girl even my best friend i get really paranoid and he gets even more paranoid if i talk to a guy. how can we both stop getting paranoid with each other when we talk to the opposite sex?
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Nah it's good that you want to fix the problem, but it shouldn't be a problem in the first place. I mean really, don't your parents and his parents have friends of the opposite sex? Duh! I think you should go out in groups and both talk to everyone. Like you should talk to him and a girl and you should both talk to the same guy. That way at least you can see that it's really not a big deal. What if he was talking to a really good friend of yours that just happend to be a girl? Shouldn't be a problem with that. Both of you should talk it out and need to try talking to different people together to get over it. Hope that helped and good luck.
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honostly you can't the only thing you can do is reasure eachother maby when the other gets paranoid give him a kiss and be like i love you there my friends its not like i would leave you for any guy no one is better than ypu or somethin
ok hope it helps
Andie
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The other two answers are good and you should consider them. I have an exercise I do when this happens to me. When you feel paranoid about your boyfriend talking to another girl, just go against your feelings (this is one situation I recommend going against your feelings). Let him have his conversations. You're there, so what could happen. Don't say anything and just let it happen. The more you do this the less paranoid you will feel. Tell your boyfriend what you are doing and ask him to do the same thing. You two know that you love each other so there is nothing to worry about. The more you practice tolerance of the others communications w/the opposite sex the stronger you will become. It's like working out to strengthen your muscles. You are strengthening your fortitude.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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i think that if you two really do love each other seriously, then you two have to learn to trust each other especially when it comes to the opposite sex because if not then the reltionship won't last because there's no reltionship that isn't based on trust.
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You need to trust each other.
that's really about it.
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If you guys trust each other...talking to members of the opposite sex should not be a problem. I would suggest you both have a talk and assure each other that you love each other and no one else can break that, because if you don't...eventually you will have pushed everyone away and you'll be the couple that only hangs out with one another.
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