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should i break up with my boyfriend
Ok, so I'm a female and I'm 16.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months now. and everybody thought we would end up together. well about a month or so ago, He moved 2 hours away. and It's been really hard to deal with this. but as he's been away for awhile, things about him have started to bug me. and i feel myself starting to fall out of love with him. also, me and him have started to fight alot lately, mostly my fault. and he asked me if i was going to break up with him.. i panicked, and said no. which i don't know if i should or not. so i seriously need help. I want to break up with him but then again, I don't... i want this to work.. even though, i know eventually it won't because of the distance. so .. should i break up with him now? ..what should i do?
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i just broke up with my boyfriend over the same thing. except he was 21 hours away. which is like 1000+ miles. I basically broke up with him because i felt that he didnt love me. But i still loved him. i was falling out of love with him. im the same age you are, but im looking for a serious relationship. one that will last a lifetime. i knew it wasnt going to work and i was tired of being confused about whether or not i should let go. i realized that things were not going to get better (and they still havent) so i let go. and im glad that i did.
however, he was and is my first love. i feel kinda bad about letting go. sometimes i wonder what i gave up. what would it be like if i was still with him.
im not telling you that you should break up with him. im not telling you that you shouldnt either. just listen to your heart. thats what i did. and my heart told me that it was tired of bleeding for him. just do what you feel is right. a little advice: dont love with all you've got. cause when everything fails, your scarred for life. that's what happened to me. best of luck. email me if you wanna talk.
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Distance and young love do not mix! Break up with him and don't feel guilty. Be gentle, but know that he will take it personally no matter what. You both owe it to yourselves to be able to date freely at this time anyway and not miss out on the rest of highschool fun, by being stuck in a long-distance romance that is not going anywhere. It might be different if you were adults and could work something out. You could tell him that you want both of you to be free to see other people, but want to keep in touch as friends, until you can be together possibly in a couple of years.
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The fact that he aggravates you is a sign that all is not well. What you might want to try is not braking up w/him exactly but changing the rules a bit. Nothing says you have to be exclusive to each other. You can still see each other whenever possible and also see other people. You might just need to get out there and see what else is out there. Date some other people yet whenever you can arrange it the two of you get together. You might be mad at him because you are seeing all of your friends w/their boyfriends hanging out on a daily basis. That is really one of the fun parts of dating. When he comes to town you see him and him only, then you can even go and visit him for special occasions like dances and things. The point here being is you need some time off from the exclusivity of your relationship. This doesn't mean you two have to stop being friends and dating each other. You may find that you love him more than ever or you may find that it wasn't meant to be. But whatever the case you need to explore adding a little freedom in your life right now or you will break up w/him and you two will not remain friends. You have to weight how important it is to keep him in your life. He may be angry at first, but if you keep emailing him, calling him, ignoring what mean things he says while he's hurt, than he will come around. Let him know that you absolutely still love him. Assure him that you absolutely want to see him whenever you can. You just need it not to be an exclusive thing right now. Good Luck!
Namaste!
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well you probably should break up with him. If you feel like your not in love with him anymore you should break up with him. Because that's not a nice thing to do to him. your supposed to love the person your with or it will never work out. Another thing you should do is ask him if he still loves you, and how does he feel about the realationship. The both of you should decide on whats best.
i really hope i helped.
and anything you decide isa right let your gut feeling talk for you!
goodbye love
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It sounds as though you really have already made your decision. You say that he's two hours away from you now and that you fight constantly. Although problems like these can be worked through, most couples are not able to overcome such obstacles.
Before making your mind up completely, I would recommend spending one more day, or if you are able, a weekend with him and just assess how things are between you. Spend some time really looking at him and work it out. Do you still love him? Can you maintain the relationship under the same circumstances you have been so far?
If you know that the answer is no, then breaking up with him may be the fairest decision for both of you. If you are only unhappy in the relationship, then it simply makes no sense to continue it.
On the other hand, if you feel that you may still love him, keep at it but when you are both feeling tense, try to calmly work through it, rather than arguing with each other. Maybe try writing instead, so that you can't inadvertently say things that upset each other. If after you have spent time together you know you really care about him then you need to try to work it out until you know it can't work any more.
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