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school dance and the random guy.
I'm 14/f and a freshman in Highschool. I was my first highschool dance the other night and tons of seniors wanted to grind with me. I didn't really mind cause I wasn't overdoing it. The first guy I danced with though eventually asked me when we were dancing "Do you want to go somewhere else?" and I really didn't want to have sex (I'm a virgin) so I said 'no'. Then he said "okay it was nice to meet you.", he shook my hand, and walked away. I have no idea why, but all night I felt really bad for him. I know it's dumb cause it's like 'I feel bad because I didn't have sex with him like he wanted'. Do you know why I feel this way? What do you think I would have ended up doing if I did? (blowjob, just sex, fingering, ect.)
Thanks so much. I RATE!
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If he pressured you
you actually might've touched all bases.
You shouldn't feel bad, because you did what you wanted to do. You shouldn't feel bad for wanting/notwanting something.
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senior asking a freshman to go somewhere else...uhm DUH he wanted sex. sorry but its true. and as far as you feeling bad...i wouldnt worry about it.
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When a guy asks you, "Do you want to go somewhere else" or something related to that, there's a possibility that you'll be ending up doing sex.
You feel bad because maybe he didn't want to have sex, but just talk around with you. He also maybe wanted to do sex, but you didn't want to...many possibilites.
If you have another opportunity to be asked, "Do you want to go somehwhere else?" You can say yes, but be aware where you going. When you somewhere, try to see you are near people, just in case. Don't go into a room where there's a lock too.
You maybe would've done if you went and he wanted sex, you probably began slow and ended up maybe major...then you will loose your virinity...
All I can say it be careful when someone asks you that and don't feel guilty because you didn't do anything bad and you probably did something smart. :)
Have a great day!
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You were right to say no because he just wanted to have sex with you therefor he didn't even get to know you so yeah he just wanted to impress is guy friends or something but next time when you sense a guy wanting to have sex with you then take the time to know him for at least 2 weeks because a guy can't just dance with you and then say hey you wanna have sex??
Sophia
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This is just a guess, but dancing is such a sensual form of expression. You said it yourself in your question that a lot of seniors wanted to grind w/you. The operative term here is "grind". You may have subconsciously thought that you led him on in some way. You can get that thought right out of your head. Dancing w/someone is not leading them on. You were just having fun, it was your first high school dance, and you were exhilarated. I hope it happens again for you. Anyway, what kind of guy is it that would expect that of you before you have a chance to get to know him? He doesn't sound like he's that nice of a guy anyway. He just wants to have sex w/you and be on his merry way. But, next time something like that happens say "no" again, but add would you like to sit down and talk for a moment? If the guy says no, then you know for sure what he's interested in. You'll find yourself in a lot of pain if you go there w/a guy like that. Also, this guy probably didn't give it a second thought. He went on to the next one, and the next one, and the next one until he scores. He's just about scoring. Keep having fun, dancing your heart out, and that special person who respects and loves you will come into your life. Good Luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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well dont worry because he obviously wanted to do something sextual with you and the guys an asshole because once you said no he nice to meet you and left just because you didnt want to do anything with him so he should feel bad because he was only intrested into doing it with you rather then knowing you for who you are and talk and have a good time with you...you getting my point here? ok well dont feel bad just be happy you had a great time..peace
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Maybe he didn't want to do anything sexual with you. It's hard to judge, as only he really knows what he was thinking at the time. I would have guessed he wanted to talk and get to know you. But as you said no, maybe he thought you didn't like him.
OR;
Because you were grinding with him, he thought he may have been in with a chance.
Don't think too much of it though. What's done is done! and if you really think something sexual would have come out of it, then it's good you did say no.
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