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Missing my husband
My husband died about a 2 years ago in a tragic car accident. I still can't seem to move on. I know people grieve at different paces and in different ways, but I'm afraid I'll always compare men to my old husband and I'll be alone for the remainder of my life. (I'm only 29!) Right now everything seems bleak an hopeless. Will I ever be able to love another man? So far I haven't been activly dating, but there's a few gentlemen I've almost had relationships. Nobody seems to compare!
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maybe in order to forget about your old husband you could try things that you've always wanted to do, or join a sports club or something, have a hobby maybe to get your mind off of him. True, you will never forget about your old husband, but maybe if you actually do start dating other people know, you could be living a happier life
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If you are really interested in developing a close relationship w/another man you can't compare people w/your husband. No one will ever be him and no one ever can. You have to look at each individual and see them for who they are. There is definitely someone else out there for you. What you may want to consider is simply developing some friendships for now. Nothing serious, just someone or some people you can invite to parties, functions, group get togethers or the movies, that sort of thing. Go dutch when you go out to dinner, simply be friends. As you're doing this you may want to get involved in some kind of grief counseling. I use to head one up that was out of a church. I have included a couple of websites below that have some articles that might help you. But you can also put "grief counseling" and your town into your search engine and you will have contacts with some local support groups you can attend. These are really great groups to go to. People get really close and a lot of good comes out of it. You will be w/people who will relate to what you are going through and you will be able to work through your difficulties as a result. You will find that others are experiencing the same things you are and they can help you by sharing their how they are coping with it. Another interesting thing is you might find that you have a lot to offer them too. You have to work on yourself first before you can expect to move on and find someone else. I know it has to be difficult for you and w/o direction from someone who is trained in this it could take you a lot longer. We have a tendency to hold on to these feelings. We feel guilty if we move on as if we are betraying our loved ones. We are not of course, but this is how we feel. These support groups are generally free and a lot of churches have them as well. Please get involved in one; I know you will be glad you did. Best of luck to you and my prayers will be with you.
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Namaste!
LULABELLE
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First of all I am so sorry about your husband, and secondly give it some more time and don't think you have to be with someone, take it at your own pace, on your own time, and the right person may come around.
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Raidergrl1024
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