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Hi, I'm Jasmine, I have been though some hard times in my life, and I'm always here for anyone who needs advice! (: I'm just a message away!

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There's this girl at my school and she's the most evil person on earth. She should be two grades ahead of us, but she's stayed back a few times. But anyways she bullies me because she thinks I'm ugly and weird. I'll admit that I'm not the prettiest person in the world, but that's no reason for her to tease me because she has problems too, she has a tooth in her mouth that's growing in the wrong spot.
She's super popular, everyone pretends that they like her which means they have to hate me, but everyone is secretly scared of her. She wears skimpy clothes, and I wish I could tell her how stupid she looks. The thing with me is that I have oily, greasy hair that always tangles up and is only about 3 inches long, so I have extensions, and I hate having to lie about my hair constantly. No, I do not have any kind of
disease. My hair just hates me. Anyways, I have a face full of disgusting pus-filled zits, braces, and I have a noticeable curve in my spine which meant I had to get a back brace, meaning that I can't move around that well, so I look like a zombie. The guy I like is nice to me just because he pities me, and can't do anything about this girl. I really hate my life.
Help me...

Okay, if you know that no one really likes her, next time shes mean to you, just go off on her. Tell her how rude she is, and just tell her eveything that you think about her. Good luck (:

Okay, so I'm only 13 and in 8th grade, and well this guy.... well he has a gf and he is a freshman and he sends messages while he is dating this girl.... and IK cuz he did it with me and lied and said he broke up with her and I believed him! But anyways he let me get on his facebook and thought he was smart and deleted the inbox, but he didn't delete the sent mail..... and I looked at it and I thought I was special but I saw he had messaged all these girls while he was messaging me.... And he is STILL doing it and he DOES have a gf.... and I want to know if I should tell her, cuz IK I would want to know but I don't want to do it out of revenge or anything or hurt their relationship..... but I even copied the message he was sending a girl.... Gerry December 24, 2010 at 12:40am
i would kiss you on the bus

Gerry _ _ _ _ _ December 24, 2010 at 12:42am
well night sexy if you want i would kiss you on the bus if you didnt tell anyone and if you came up and sat by me. night sexy get on tomorrow.
and said that to another girl, but like I asked above this should I tell his gf? I don't think she will believe me.... but I hope she will. :/ Oh and he tries to get girls to send him pics he begs and begs...... and trust me he has gotten some.....

Okay, I'm a teenager too, so I can relate(: You have to tell her. You said yourself that you would want to know if a guy was cheating on you. Tell her! It will only hurt her in the long run if you dont tell her now. If you have any questions, just message me (:

So my boyfriend is planning a double date with me and his friend for this tuesday. I hate double dates cause they're just so awkward and I don't know his friend or the other person. Ugh i just don't want to go. How do i get out of it? And why is he planning such a thing? It just makes me uncomfortable. And I'm not going to talk about it with him because he's just gonna make me go anyway cause it's his friend. help....I hope I'm busy.

Mayeb you should go. I would go on the date and see what happens. Who knows, maybe you'll make a new friend, and you guys can double date more often! Hope it goes well! Good luck (:

hi so i am a sophomore in college and i need to get a laptop for school, to take notes, write papers etc. next semester i am taking chemistry, psychology, and history. i know for sure I'll be using it for psych. and history. so what kind of laptop would i need? i want one with lots of space, a good hard drive, doesn't weigh a lot, etc. so if you could give me some ideas that would be great. thanks!

A Mac computer would be a great investment for you to make, but if you are a little tight on money, you could always go for a laptop table. (:

A few days ago I had a dream that my mom died.

And now i'm really scared, because I have a feeling something really bad is going to happen. But it's just a dream, right? I honestly don't know why i'm so scared, but I am.

What do dreams of death mean?

Dreams of death are symbolic, meaning that something in your life may come to an end, like a relationship or a career. Dreams about death can also mean that something is endning, but something else will soon begin. (:

Hey,
I'm 16 and give a lot of advice but can't find the answer to my own. I've been into acting for 4 years and want to make it in the business, it's really all I want to do. I'm pretty confident and a positive thinker. I'm doing "performance studies" as a course now. But I'm from a little town in England,which is not on the map, and most people havent even heard of it. Is there any hope? I'm so dedicated and committed to anything that I'll get a chance to do. I just want to break out and make it big! But there are NO auditions here, and if they are they are really far away and my parents both work till late and I feel helpless because I don't know how or what to do. Is there any hope at all? I also take acting lessons online aswell as school, at home I take notes while i watch tv. It's becoming a big part of me..

Maybe you could record yourself and post it on youtube. Enough people go on that website that you have a good chance of being discovered. (: Good luck!

I am in my first year of college and I live in a dorm with many other students so naturally bacteria and infections run amok.

In August, I caught a cold. It went away within a week or so. No problem.
In October, I got sick again, only this time, I was coughing up some nasty phlegm. I waited and battled with it, don't think I ever had a fever, for weeks. I got better slowly with a lot of sleep and cough medicine, but in November it came back (I'm guessing it never really left?). In November, my mother decided that since I had been sick for a long time I should take some antibiotics so she sent me some that she said would help me. Within 3 days of taking them I was completely better. I felt great. A week or so later I started noticing that I still had a little phlegm in my throat but it did not bother me at all I thought it was just remainder of what I had and it would go away. Now I am home on break (three weeks later) and two days ago my throat started KILLING me with pain. It hurt really bad, I took a Tylenol and stayed put for a bit, and it went away I carried on my usual business. I also started coughing and feeling sick randomly but it would go in and out. Just the pain in my throat is what hurts really bad sometimes. I'm also noticing the phlegm in my throat, not a lot, but enough.

Now my question is, will the antibiotic Ampicillin TR cure whatever bacterial (because I'm guessing this must be bacterial) infection I have? Can I take Ampicillin? Because my mother wants me to take it but I don't want it to be the wrong thing or to make the bacteria stronger or immune to antibiotics, I'm afraid that's what it did the first time I took it in November, but that wasn't Ampicillin it was some other form of it my mom says.
*Oh and just as a side note, we are not from the US originally and have several prescription medications for different symptoms from back home where you can buy them at a pharmacy legally without prescription. My mother always buys when she visits and brings it over (legally of course)

I have had this same thing. Cough up some of the phlegm and spit it out, and take alot of cough drops, if you feel you need antibiotics, you should consult a doctor. (:

My boyfriend lives with his mom in a basement because his dad was really mean to him and so they moved away from him. His dad lives in Florida and they live in virginia. His dad never talks to him like once on the phone every 3 months, and is very mean to him and calls him ugly and that he has no purpose in life and his father said the world would be a better place without him. It's really mean and Im always there for him and this christmas he gave his dad a christmas card. And his dad didn't even give him anything. He emailed the mom and said some really mean things that he was so grateful some other person gave him a christmas card and he didn't even mention my boyfriends card. He made fun of them and it was really mean. I don't remember it because i didn't read it. But the mom told me about it last night. I feel really bad for him. How can I help him and what should I tell my boyfriend? his mom and the man are still not divorced and she's going to divorce him sometime soon. He doesn't have a dad and his dad makes him feel terrible please help him.... :(

If a father is this mean to their child, he needs to open up and talk to someone about this. Maybe get him a journal to write all of his feelings down and then have him share it if he wants to. If a father treats their child this badly, then he should stay out of contact with him at all costs.

I have decided I'd like to end my life. I have been without a job for 6 months and no longer have funds left. Nobody can help me and I feel that I am just wasting space at this time. There are no jobs available for me. I feel pathetic and alone. This weekend I will be left home alone when my roommate goes to spend the weekend with her parents in another state. What are some fast, easy ways to commit suicide? I'd like to this at home, peacefully, so that less people will have to see the body in the end. I'd like something that isn't too messy, if possible, but is fairly painless. Suicide tips? Thank you very very very much.

Please, dont do this. There must be some family that you can talk to! My father recently committed suicide, and it was harder for everyone else having him go then having him here, and we would much rather perfer him to be here today. You dont understand how big of a deal this is. This is your life. Make the best of it, dont just end it! Find all the things in your life that you love! It's a new year, so make it better! Please dont leave your family like my father left mine. Don't do that to them. I'm begging you

Ok so theres this boy jose and i really really like him,yes he knows my feeling i told him bout them a week ago we still hang out and txt but i want to be more than friends.So i don't know what to do or how to take our "friendship" a step closer into a relationship.Any advice??

thnx in advance

TINK2359

Flirt with him a little bit more, and act like you want to be in a relationship with him. Make little gestures and you'll be fine I'm sure he'll like you back (:

Should I send in an application to a job that I'm REALLY interested in but think I'm underqualified for? I found this particular job that I think sounds AWESOME. I told my mom about it and she said I should apply anyway because most jobs will train you how to do something before having you work for them. I don't want to look like an idiot applying for a job that I have no qualifications for or experience in though. What do you think?

If you think you would really like this job, then go for it! Listen to your mom, most jobs will train you before having to work for them. (:

boyfriend and I broke up (he broke up with me) 6 months ago... I was devastated, I was madly in love with him. he still contacted me saying he still loved me and stuff like that. I asked whether he wanted to get back together and he didn't have an answer for me. I chose not to remain friends as it hurt a lot. 2 months ago I started seeing not dating another guy, my ex obviously found out and said to me "well you might start dating that guy, break up with him and then get back together with me, who knows" why is he saying that?

Now that you have moved on, he wants you back. He's just jealous of the other guy in your life. And like the other Advicenators have said, guys want what they can't have (:

Is it worth it? Will we turn out the same if I make the first move?

How am I supposed to approach him about taking this relationship further. We're best friends and we're like a couple, such as cuddling, holding hands, and talking about our personal lives, but excluding the title of boyfriend/girlfriend or any kissing/making out. I'm 50% sure he likes me and 50% he knows that I like him. But how do I tell him that I'm ready to START being able to kiss him, and call him my boyfriend.

We're both 18 by the way, freshman in college, and on Winter Break, and won't see each other for another 2 weeks.

Well, at this age, you need to make sure that he is committed to you, and wants a girlfriend. But I think you should lay out all your cards on the table, and tell him how you feel. (:

So there is this boy and I am not going to get much but he did like me at one point and I dont know if he does anymore so I am trying to move on but it is hard!!! and it would be easier but I lost my best friend last year because lets just say she went bad. She knew how to make her way around guys and she brought out the flirty side of me, now since I have lost her I am having the hardest time doing this on my own! I really need help! The guys I try to text including the one I don't know if he likes me anymore, when I text them I feel like I mess up and say stuff wrong. Liek the other night night, I text one of my ex boyfriends because I am starting to like him again so I figured I would try, and I tried to bring up something from the past and he replied something that made me feel stupid so now I think he thinks I am stupid and he hasnt acted like we are friends since then...! I really need help on getting my own self back and getting a boyfriend, I really need one and want one to get my life back together! Please help !---ThAnKs(:----!

Just be yourself, and if hes a nice and honest guy, he will like you, for you. You can always try to laugh around him, and make little gestures towards him, like lightly touching his arm or putting your hand on his knee. You can also find a guy who likes you, and then find all the great things about him. You will end up seeing the good in him, and will eventually (hopefully) start to have feelings for him, and that may help get over the guy you like now. (:

Alright, all day today I was around this boy who is majorly cute and I would not turn him down if he asked me out, haha. But anyway, everytime I was around him, today, my friends would whisper to me that he's looking at me and they told me he was looking at me a lot. Then at the end of the school day I was nonchalantly turning around to find him because my friend said he was behind me and when I turned around to look for him, he was already looking at me. What does this mean? If he thinks I'm attractive, why doesn't he talk to me? Thanks!

Maybe this guy is very shy, and is scared of being rejected. He probabaly likes you, but you might need to make the first move, by talking to him, and making small talk. Hopefully this helped! Good luck! (:

My friends have been excluding me out of their plans lately. when I'm around them they say that I'm their favorite because I'm so nice and I never make them mad but I don't get invited anywhere. Maybe this is just a phase but now I just hang out by myself :(

Maybe your friends just want space, and maybe go out and try to make some new friends while this is going on. Then you will have two sets of friends, and you can always have someone to be with, and not hang by youself(:

My mom has been cheating on my dad all year basically. I known about it but never told my dad. Well, last night my dad came home early from work when my mom had this guy over. They were doing stuff and my dad came in and it was a big mess. I mean, there was shouting and my dad practically threw the guy out the house. My mom slept on the couch last night and they didnt say 1 word to each other today yet. Mom acts like shes all mad! My dad is So hurt you can see it. Anyways, do you think my parents are gonna divorce? I'm kind a worried about it because you know they're my mom and dad. I dont want to just up and say it though. So is it likely to happen?

I'm so sorry to hear about this event occuring. I think that it is very likely that your parents will divorce soon, your dad and mom might wait a little bit, or they might go through with the divorce immidiately. Just remember, divorce is always hard on the child, and its fine if you become angry or sad. If you ever need to talk, I'm here! (:

i [19f] definitely, absolutely, certainly only like him [20m] as a friend. and i am as close to certain as i can possibly be about him also only liking me as a friend. i'm not into friends-with-benefits relationships. he's tried to hook up with me before and i said no, but sometimes when we cuddle he'll hug me just right and i'll want it so badly.. we hooked up once before leaving for winter break, and we've talked every day since leaving. i do not want to be more than friends but sometimes i really, really want to hook up with him.. thoughts? what should i do?

i realize that the constant texting and skyping is bad, so my new rule has been that i can't initiate the conversation. the texting has slowed significantly but the skyping not so much..

it's just that i always tell myself i don't want to hook up with him, i shouldn't hook up with him, but then when i think about it i really want to, physically. heeelp

It seems like you want to hook up with him, but you know its not the best thing to do. But just know if you do end up hooking up with him, always use a condom(: if you really think you like him, I would go for it, but if your not sure, then I would wait a little while.

So hers the story so far: I'm 13 year old girl & i have a MAJOR crush on this guy named Nathaniel. I have been told all sorts of things like that he's gay(which i don't believe). Well his best friend asks me if i wanted to go out with him while we were in the band room. I told him I did & he goes & tells Nathaniel. Nathaniel just nods & walks out of the room. Just recently I've started having dreams about him & some of them made no sense. I honestly don't know what to do. My best friends Cayley & Riley keep taunting me about ho I'm falling in love. What do I do?

First you need to find out if Nathaniel likes you. If he does, then forget what anyone else says. Go out with him. It seems as though you are so concerned with what everyone else thinks that you are forgetting to look inside your heart and make the decision that you would enjoy most. Forget what people say. If you like him, go for it girl. (:

My best friend & I are very close. I dont know what it is about him but I can feel like I can trust him with EVERYTHING & ANYTHING. Everyone who knows how we are around eachother always tell us that we would make the cutest couple because we care about eachother so much. When I tell him about something stupid I might do he goes through so much to stop me & im the same with him. Does it sound like we should be a couple?

The question is, do you think you should be a couple? I mean, do you have feelings for him? If so, take that next step, and become his gf(:

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