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Hey, My name is Ryan, And I will be your shrink for the day, I have 18 years of life experience, trust me I have been through it all, loss, births (no I didnt give birth silly), Parents divorce, my own bad relationships, I have fixed heaps of relationships, basically, I'm the one who will lay it out straight! if you dont want the answers everyone seems to give like those stupid answers that never really help, then come to me, I condone the realists approach, the ways that REALLY work :D so ask me about ANYTHING..

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OK so like i have this guy whos like my best friend. Online when it talk to him, hes so sweet and nice and funny. Then when i'm out with our friends, he either ignores me or like makes fun of me. I really dont understand it. Does anyone know what this means? And just explain it, please

he is an A-1 Poser, the guy you talk to online is him.. the guy you see with your friends... is not him.. he is posing to look cool.. give me his email.. ill sort him out :P

Oh and being nice and funny and stuff to a chick in public doesnt make a guy "Whipped" you are classed as whipped when the chick makes you change your music.. or give up stuff you love.. then your whipped if youd o this stuff :P

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Okay don't get me wrong I really like this guy but i don't want to go out with him. I'm 14 female and all I want is to be friends with benifits. Lets call him Pete, so me and Pete are BEST friends but I want more. So how can I devolp that more of a relationship without him asking me out? Love always diane (and i rate high pure truth!)

are you serious o.O friends with benefits at 14?! this world really is screwed up.. well just tell him. you wanna fuck him but you dont want a relationship.. thats all you need to say to a guy :P

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I'm a 27 year old female involved with a man of 34 years old for almost 2 years now. He was married before and have a little boy of 6 years old. I have the feeling that this guy is also lying to me regardig his ex wife in various ways. It feels as if he is always taking her side, etc. I want to know: Am I wasting my time with this guy? Will we ever get married? We were engaged for almost a year and he broke the engagement because of a incident that happened between me and his ex wife.

he is using you.. find someone else.

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okay well i have a bf and hes gone for about 2 weeks so i wont be able to see him and i barley get to talk to him. but the thing is wen hes not gone we dont talk (well barley anyway)) and the thing is im started to like this other guy. and i dont want to but then again i do becuz hes not shy unlike my bf and idk what to do im so confused right now. please help me.

whats the point in dating him if he dont talkt o you? whats the point, if he dont talk to you i cant see him doing much more.. ditch the fag.. date the new guy.. you seem young so you will have plenty of time for a long term relationship later.. enjoy yourself while you are young!

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I am a 19 year old female who has dated a lot of immature 18-21 year olds. I joined an online dating site recently, just because I thought it would be fun. Well, now I seem to be drawing myself towards older men, such as 30 year olds. I suppose it's because of their maturity level, financial stability, and experience.

Would this be socially acceptable for me to have a relationship with a 30 year old, or a bit taboo? How would others perceive us? What should I consider before dating an older man? What sort of problems may we encounter in our relationship? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

On a personal level, Id never go over 25, but the thing is.. age is of no importance whatsoever.. it all depends on how you feel for the other person... and who cares how others perceive you.. its up to you who you date.. and as long as you are loving and caring towards each other it doesnt matter. something to consider before dating someone in their 30's is they are 3 times as likely to have or want kids, most might be married, alot of 30 yr olds ARENT financially stable at all.. alot are paying child support or getting over messy divorces.. problems you may encounter is that you must remember there is 11 years of difference. they were young at a different time than you, so they will have majorly different outlooks on life, music, movies, everything. but you may get lucky and find the perfect guy. but in conclusion its entirely up to you and doesnt matter what anybody else thinks

signed, your friendly 18yr old Evil Genius

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My parents are getting divorced because my mum is unhappy.
Anyway I found out that she was cheating on my dad.
I followed her one day down the end of my road where she got into a car with a guy, Mark. I know it was him because I heard her talking about him to her friends and I know its her old boyfirend.
She didnt come home that night.
I feel weird towards her.
I don't know what to do. My dad doesnt know. Should I tell him. I don't want to hurt either of my parents.
Will this affect the divorce porceedings?
Thanks for all help.

see the thing is, they are both your parents, but your mum is doing the wrong thing and your dad is going to suffer for it, he will end up paying child support because your mum decided to be a skank.. If I found out my parents divorced cos my mum was cheating id move out in a heartbeat.. but she is still your mum but id say you have an obligation to tell your father.. you dont know she is cheating.. they may just be hanging out.. just let your father know what you saw.. but make sure he swears not to say you told him or it'll cause trouble.. how old are you? if you are over 16 you can chose to live with your dad instead of your slutty mum

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How does a spinning top remain balanced on a pointed tip - why doesn't it fall down? For a given top, how can I calculate the RPM speed at which it will fall down? Thanks for taking time in answering this question!
Cheers, Ankur.

A spinning top is able to retain its balance as its weight is shifting so rapidly, so if you stand it on its point and not spin it, a lot of things will come into play to determin which way it will fall, angle of incline (if any) and imperfections in the spinning top causing more weight on one side than another, or wind can also cause which way it falls, if you are able to get a perfectly flat surface, no wind, and a perfect spinning top with same weight all around, its not going to fall.. it will stay as it is perfectly balanced.. but as this is impossible this wont happen, when it is spinning fast the weight shift changes so it basically has a constant weight around the top, or an average weight, but beacuse its changing so fast it doesnt have time to fall, when it starts to slow it will wobble as it has a chance to fall but not enough, it is hard to dertermine the RPM's at time of falling as all of the factors above come into play.. you need to know the angle of inclination, and wind speed and include all of taht in your calculations, but I really dont think its possible to get the EXACT rpms..

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I want to download limewire because I've heard you can get free downloadable music from it.. but I don't know if it's safe, and I don't know if I'll get in trouble with the law or anything for using it. Does anyone have any experience with it or any advice whether to download it or to not?

I use it.. completely safe.. just dont download anything thats illegal in your country like porn or something.. otherwise go for it :)

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"as census shows there is 8 women to every one man.. so by two men being gay, there are 16 chicks losing out"

Ah, but how many of those females are also gay, or not sexually active? (Some may be nuns or sexually apathetic, for example.)

thats why im not against lesbians.. there are plenty of females for males to choose from, but not plenty of males for females to choose from.. so thats why a large percentage of females are bi or les :) and i am.. and always will be totally.. 100% against gay males.. its just me.. its the way i have been raised.. i dont treat them any different.. i just think what they are doing is wrong and selfish

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Okay well my boyfriend and I have recently been having sex through about 3 months and we have been going out for three years. Not once have I had an orgasm, I always have to fake it and I sort of get tired faking it because I want to experience what an orgasm feels like. And I don't want him to give me oral or finger me or whatever, I want to have an orgasm through intercourse. The sex feels good, but there are times when I cant even feel it in me. Does anyone know how I could achieve this?

foreplay.. let him finger you or oral you first for a little while to get you ready.. just dont let him make you orgasm that way.. then when you think your ready.. then tell him to f**k you.. foreplay is the best way.. other than that.. try different positions.. get im to "feel you up" i guess like suck on your nipples, massage your breasts, or rub your clitoris while he is screwing you.. lol

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Every year, throughout the Western world, Gay Pride events take place in big city centres (and, in really progressive places like England, even in small villages which need a bit of gringo dollar to repair the church roof). And every year, in my opinion, Gay Pride events set back relations with religious groups and social conservatives throughout the Western world.

So what can be done to improve relations between "the Right" and homosexuals and their supporters?

Additional questions for consideration:
- What is really at the root of the tension between social conservatives and social liberals, and can anything be done to break it?
- Are any of you guilty of Homophobia?
- What are your reasons for supporting/not supporting/outright attacking homosexuals?
- What is the right attitude to take towards homosexuals, in your opinion?

(I am gay, incidentally, but I live in the UK and am perfectly content with myself. The first paragraph, as you may have guessed, was a ruse to catch your attention. I hope it works.)

I am a homophobe.. I dont attack homosexuals.. i just dont agree with it.. as census shows there is 8 women to every one man.. so by two men being gay, there are 16 chicks losing out, which is why I dont have anything againt lesbians.. most dont have a choice as there arent enough guys.. but i dunno.. i just yeah.. dont like the idea of gay males.. but thats just me..

btw this isnt an advice question.. so please in future.. dont write stupid discussion topics like these, if you wanna start a discussion, i suggest you join a forum.

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i really wanna get my belly button piecred. but my parents don't want me to til i'm older. i really want it done and a lot of people at school my age have them done. what can i do to get them to let me get it pierced?

ps. 13/f

dont get it peirced.. its not good on all chicks.. at your age it would look slutty.. serious.. and plus.. i know heaps of people who have had their belly peircings get infected and they had to be removed.. i know one person who cant have a baby because of an infection aquired by a belly button ring.. so seriously.. dont do it.. it doesnt look all that good on alot of chicks anyway..

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i dont know how to tell my mom i got my period. i'm embarrassed about that kind of stuff, and i dont like talking to her about it. please tell me a good icebreaker, and be honest!!! HELPP!!!

seriously sweety.. just say it.. i got my period.. she wont be angry or anything.. and its not an embarrassing thing (ok so i dont know for sure im a guy) but every chick gets it so it shouldnt be embarrassing.. :P good luck

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what is the quickest way to tone your legs & stomach?

no quick ways.. if you wanna tone and stuff.. it takes time.. the quicker it happens, the quicker you get that excess weight back.. and it doubles.. so if you wanna tone.. you gotta do it the normal way.. no shortcuts

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i really need someones help!!! ok so i am 17 and over the last 3 days i have been so hungry i have just wanted to eat and thats it. Today i ate a whole bowl of rice all to myself and i did not even feel full up i think i am Ill. I went to the doctors the other day cus my neck was swollen they looked at my tounge and ears and said it was fine. but seriously i can't stop eating... what shall i do.

im not being mean.. im being honest and truthful.. if you feel like you constantly need to eat.. you need to do the following

a> do more stuff, if your bored, you eat
b> keep warm, the colder you are the more you eat, simply as when your body burns food it produces heat, so you need more food to keep warm... so just make sure your plenty warm at all times
c> get yourself checked out for worms (serious) its a common thing, i have had worms, all it takes is a simple worming tablet and your all good again :) it doesnt mean your unhygenic or anything, if you have been near animals.. its so easy to get worms from them.. alot of animals have worms..

hope this helps (i strongly reccomend you do c asap)

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What are some things that turn on a guy whenever a girl does something?
[Example: Biting ear, kissing neck?]

Suck on his tongue.. gives the impression you like sucking things you know ;););) nothing turns on a guy more than a chick who likes to suck.. even if she doesnt.. it wont matter if you want him turned on.. suck his tongue :)

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how do you get the moving letters across the screen for your myspace wen you like want to leave a comment to someone

use the < MARQUEE>Insert text here

NO SPACES IN THE MARQUEE TAGS

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how do you say yes when someone askes you out without sounding too...i dont really know what i mean

too eager? tell him to give you some time to think about it.. obviously you dont wanna just come out n say "YES" coz that might make you seem desperate.. just tell him to give you some time.. there is some other guys to consider.. then maybe after a day or two, tell him youll give him a shot :)

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how do you dump a guy?

follow my lead

You: Hey (insert guys name)
Guy: Yeah (or yo or whatever he says)
You: (this is where you give i to him straight, no pussy footing around) I dont want to be with you anymore, i dont have feelings for you, i just want to be friends
Guy: (crying) WHY WHY WHY (shoots himself) *JOKE*

nah who knows how he will react, all guys are different, if he asks why, dont ignore the question, TELL HIM WHY! he will be thankfull you gave it to him straight

Whatever you do, DONT DO WHAT GANGSTA SAYS! Lieing only causes trouble.. just be honest and dont make up some bullshit! PLEASE dont do what she says!

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What do you guys look for in a girl? (like, personality and looks wise)

nice eyes, nice smile, nice personality, funny, fun, outgoing, long hair, and thats about it for me..

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