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I'm a 27 year old female involved with a man of 34 years old for almost 2 years now. He was married before and have a little boy of 6 years old. I have the feeling that this guy is also lying to me regardig his ex wife in various ways. It feels as if he is always taking her side, etc. I want to know: Am I wasting my time with this guy? Will we ever get married? We were engaged for almost a year and he broke the engagement because of a incident that happened between me and his ex wife.
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I think you should cut your loss and move on with someone else. I was in the same situation that you are in. IT was with my ex and his girlfirend and I just let hm go and know I'm marrried to a real great guy. Don't cut your self short. If he broke off the enagaement he's not ready to get married and he's probably still loves his ex if he kepts taking her side and doesnt' stick up for you. I hope I helped.
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he is using you.. find someone else.
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im only 13 but i can help you. i think you should talk to your boyfriend or the person you are seeing about this. if things arnt getting any better, maybe you need some space from him.
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ok so let me get this straight
2 years.....1year engagement....HE broke it off because of you and his Ex....he has kids with her....he is involved with her (meaning..he sees her quite often)... may be lying baout things with his Ex....honey..i say leave the man...if nothing has happened yet then i doubt nothing will...and anyways if he asks you and you guys do get married then what will it be like after dealing with the exwife and the kid...the ex will be in your life forever more....id dump this dipshit and move on with your life....goodluck...tell me how it goes
xo_lauren_xo
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he has kids with another woman. if you marry this guy you may as well consider yourself married to this woman. she is that kids mother. she is a permanant part of your life if you marry him. i say leave him.
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The truth is with a guy like the ex will always be a problem no matter what you do. Maybe you should find a guy who never was married and doesnt have kids that you dont have t worry about these kinds of things.I dont if you ever get married. I think that you will and if you are unhappy the best person to talk to is him and if he doesnt understand then you shouldnt be with in the first place. I strongly believe you will get married. If you dont say anything you will continue to be miserable unless you do something.
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I honestly think that if you have been involved for 2 years and nothing is progressing toward marriage, it isn't going to.
I may be wrong, but I think a time limit should be placed on the relationship if you are looking for a future with your own kids in it.
That may seem pretty cold hearted to some. You do have to look at that though if marriage is what you want out of a relationship. If it isn't what he wants, then you are wasting good years that could be spent finding someone who shares your goal of settling down and raising a family.
His ex will always be in his life. They have a child and they have history. No doubt about it they will always have a special relationship.
Men who have children...those who aren't just deadbeat dads, are going to have communication with their ex. It is unavoidable. They still have a child to raise, married or not.
It is a relationship that would be very hard to understand if you haven't been there yourself, or know those who have. If you have feeling of jealousy then he will probably lie to you just to avoid an argument or bad feelings.
If you are going to be involved with someone like this, then you need to do your best to get along with the ex. If you two don't get along, and can't avoid each other...nine times out of ten I would bet on the relationship not lasting.
Your broken engagement says that loud and clear.
Have a long talk with the guy. Ask him straight out what he sees in your future together. If it doesn't look good for you soon. Bail out and look for someone else. It may be the hardest thing you've ever done, but your future family may depend on it.
Good luck. :)
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