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Divorce
My parents are getting divorced because my mum is unhappy.
Anyway I found out that she was cheating on my dad.
I followed her one day down the end of my road where she got into a car with a guy, Mark. I know it was him because I heard her talking about him to her friends and I know its her old boyfirend.
She didnt come home that night.
I feel weird towards her.
I don't know what to do. My dad doesnt know. Should I tell him. I don't want to hurt either of my parents.
Will this affect the divorce porceedings?
Thanks for all help.
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I would tell your father if I was you. But ultimately it's your choice - do what you feel is right.
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yes it will affect the proceddings . you have to do what you feel right telling and not telling your father
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definitely don't tell your dad. it can't do anything but hurt him, and it can't affect the divorce because knowing this certainly won't help keep them together. however you might want to talk to your mom about it, because she needs to know you know. im sorry your parents are getting divorced. i helped one of my friends through her parents getting divorced, so if you ever want to talk, you can email me! hope i helped, and im really sorry. ♥
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i think you should tell your father what your mom has been doing your dad needs to know about that i don't think its fair that u know but your dad doesn't its more important
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see the thing is, they are both your parents, but your mum is doing the wrong thing and your dad is going to suffer for it, he will end up paying child support because your mum decided to be a skank.. If I found out my parents divorced cos my mum was cheating id move out in a heartbeat.. but she is still your mum but id say you have an obligation to tell your father.. you dont know she is cheating.. they may just be hanging out.. just let your father know what you saw.. but make sure he swears not to say you told him or it'll cause trouble.. how old are you? if you are over 16 you can chose to live with your dad instead of your slutty mum
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you shouldnt tell your dad cause it will just make your mom mad. he does need to know tho. ask your mom whats going on, and if she says nothing tell your not a stupid little kid and you need an explanation for what's going on. If she tells you the truth then tell her that she should tell your dad cuz its not fair keeping it from him. If she doesn't tell you the truth then she's obviously ashamed so just say mom, whatevers going on i wont think any less of you so will you please tell me. as far as the divorce proceedings i dont know much about that sorry.
hope i helped
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well i would defintaly tell your dad cause if you were a mom and your husband was cheating on you and your child found out wouldnt you want to know and this mite prceed the divorce but that happend to my parents and they worked everything out
- Ashley and Amber
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Well your still a child so stay out of your parents bizness and keep colm becuz if you don't you'll be the one hurt in the future.
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i dont think you should till like way later, idk but it might effect it. that was a very smart i dea that you followed your mom to the end of your road, it must have taken alot of courage!
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the same exact thing happened to me except it was my stepdad who was cheating and thats why they got divorced...so i think you should talk to your mom first
ask her if your dad knows about this most likely she will just be dumbfounded...but she cant rly get away from you...who are you going to stay with after they divorce?> if its your mom you may feel uncomfortable if your dad doesnt know because you dont know what else she is "lying" about...so ask her about it and then you may want to tell your dad just so he knows....um hope i helped...tell me how it goes....
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I knwo what it is like for parents to get divorced. My oarents are divorced and both are remarried. It is not you and you shouldnt feel like it is your fault. The best thing to do is to talk to your mother about it. If she is cheating on your dad then he has a right to know. Think of it this way do you think you father would rather hear the news from you or some stranger he doesnt even know. It might be less painful if you told him. But talk to your mother first.
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I wouldn't tell your dad because then you will start more problems with the family. Some time what you know, you need to keep to your self. Then if you dad tells you that he found out, just act surprised as if you didn't know, so that way your dad doesn't think that you were taking sides by not telling him.
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I'm not sure how it will affect the proceedings, but if you think your dad should know, tell him. Technically, they're getting a divorce, so your mom isn't TOO MUCH in the wrong. (She is, but it's not like it's CAUSING the divorce, obviously something else is if that's already happening.) Try talking to your mom about it, and letting her know how you're feeling. ]= Good luck!
♥ Melissa
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Honey, I think you should confront your mother with this problem. I know that this is so awkward and that it's so weird to talk to her now after knowing this major detail about her life. But like I said, it is her life. What happens between your mother and father does affect you, but you have to respect it b/c it's their lives and their choices. But just because you respect it doesn't mean that you have to like it. Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. Tell her what you know. And if your father's trying really hard to get over your mother, then I think you should at least give your mother a chance to tell your father whats been happening in her life. Try and persuade her to tell him and if she doesn't, then it's up to you to do what you think is best.
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Don't assume your dad doesn't know. He probably does.
I don't think you have to say anything to him. It probably won't make a difference in what is going to happen.
I know you are understandably upset by it all. There is really nothing you can do about it though. Best bet will be for you to just let them work it out for themselves.
There would be nothing wrong with you telling your mom that you know about Mark. Since you have seen them together maybe she needs to give you an explanation. :)
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