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hey everyone[: im emily, im thirteen + i love giving advice. drama, gossip, and rumors suuuck. if you ask me a question i will give you an honest good answer not a crappy bad one. if you dont like that, then dont ask me question. im on this site to give accurate good answers to help people. ive been on this site for a little over 2 years. if you dont get an answer you are looking for from another person, AIM me, im sure to help you, or just leave me a question.

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how do you become beautiful

i mean prettier

or sexy

hhahaha?

maybe different makeup? different hairstyle? different clothing styles? experiment on yourself, see what looks good! when you can say to yourself "im beautiful" thats when you know that you are truely beautiful. no one can judge you, only you can.

hope i helped.
xoxoxox(:

Hello,

I would love to audition for my local area's singing talent show.

I am used to signing with a group of people, however, I sing in my 8th grade choir, at concerts we have about 4 times a year. I also sang a solo once for choir, and have been in my school's variety show twice.

However, I get really bad stage fright - whenever I sing alone, sometimes I forget some of the lyrics because I get butterflies in my stomach and I get really shaky; cannot concentrate.

I was wondering if you could help me choose a good piece to audition with - my range is from F below low C (C3) to F above middle C - notes F2 to F4. I'd like to find a good contemporary piece, a musical number, maybe.

Thank you for your help, I really appreciate it. =)

for stage fright- imaging everyone in their underwear, im sure you have heard that a billion times, but it really does help. maybe closing your eyes for a bit might help also. just take deep breaths + just think "i can do this, dont give up now, it will be over before i know it" confidence is key.

for the auditon songs- what the person said below me are very good audition songs to choose from. im sure its the right thing you are looking for.

hope i helped.
xoxoxoxo(:

My friends and I were having a discussion in my AP US Government class because our teacher was absent and we were bored. Anyway, one girl was telling me how, if you're not legally certified and you were to, for example, give someone CPR or the heimlich maneuver, even if you save their life, they can sue you...
She said once she was lifeguarding at a club and somehow a pingpong table fell over on a young girl and the parents wanted to sue for emotional damages or something like that. They club had to settle because their lawyer said the lawsuit could win. I just have 2 questions...

How is it legal that you could sue someone for saving your life just because they weren't certified to do so?
How is it moral to do that? Your life (or child's life) was SAVED, how are you going to morally justify suing someone... are you that cheap and can you possibly want money that much?

I suppose I might understand if someone performed one of those and the person died because (and it should be proved) it was done incorrectly... but come on.

How is this legal? I plan on asking my teacher next time I see him, but I was just curious as to what laws would justify this.

well, im sure they wont sue you for saving their life, im sure they will be very grateful. but you shouldnt perform a task like that if you arent experienced or if you took a certain class. in 5th grade, i got certified for all kinds of things + believe me, if i didnt know it, i would do it all wrong. you might mess up + cause a problem, so its best to know what you are doing.

hope i helped(:
xooxxoox(:

f/15/fl

Okay, so at my school, groups are a bit thing. Not really cliques, but definitely groups. Anyway, I'm not that popular, but I have a lot of friends from all different groups. Thus, I don't really have a specific group I fit into. And, at my school, all dating occurs within groups. Thus, I'm in high school and have never even had a boyfriend. And honestly, I don't care, because highschool relationships go nowhere anyway. But, consequently, I have no guy friends. A few I talk to now and then, but really no guy FRIENDS.

So, okay, question--
Today, all of the lower-popular and middle-popular (pretty messed up, right?) guys in my classes couldn't stop talking to me. Its not just like me being in a group of all these guys and talking to them. It was, individually, these guys just kept starting [long, might I add] conversations with me. It was pretty weird. I didn't look any different today... no change. Trust me, I didn't mind lol, they were really cool, but any idea why?

Thanks :]

maybe they have seen another side of you that they have never seen before? or maybe they just want to get to know you? either way, its not a bad thing at all! maybe if you keep talking to them you will bcome fairly close friends with them, which is always good, not too bad to have a lot of friends. [= just keep talking to them, maybe even go up to THEM and start a conversation, that mgiht go farther.

hope i helped.
xoxoxxoxo.

I don't know if this is in the right catergory but ohh well it has to do with music.

Does anyone know when American Idol comes back this year?

I like that show but I really am wondering when it comes back!

thanks!

American Idol comes back January 15. I can't wait! i love that show also!

i got my period in school yesterday and now everyones making suchhh a big deal out of it and being really mean :( im already not very popular but ugh..i got an honesty box message about it on facebook and its beginning to get me down a lot, what do i do?

its completely normal to get your period, ask them how they would feel if that happened to them. tell them, wait until that happens to you. i remember 2 years ago, i had first gotten my period + it was a few months later, + i was wearing white pants, like an idiot, it leaked through, i was so embarresed. thankfully, no one really noticed, but maybe someone did + never told me, yes, its embarresing, but now, no one even remembers it, except me. yeah, you might get a little more harrasment, but it will goo away, it wont happen to you for much longer, wait it out. it will get better soon enough.

hope i helped. [:

xoxo -emily[:

well me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years i brought up a question about how many women he has been with since we have been together well he said one i said i have not been with any since we have been together i didnt say when we were broke up so lastnight he asked the same question and i told him i have been with one other person but that was when we broke up not when we were together and he got all furios and said i lied to him i dont see how i lied when he asked while we were together and not when we were broke up he told me he was with one other person when we broke up and i asked him how he thoght he was better then i was when he done the same thing his answer was "just am" now he refuses to talk to me my qestion is shold i break up with him and move on ?

well, im not too experienced in this kind of situation. but ill try to help you.

what you can do is, maybe sort things all out, talk about who you were with, both of you, and then clarify it all. then, just say, i think we should go seperate ways if we want to see other people. but i think you 2 should remain friends.

but this does depend on your age quite a little, if you are young, you will find true love in another person, if you are older, it might be a little harder.

well, i hope this helped a bit.
if you need anymore help, leave me another question.

xoxox, emily.

I've always had a 6th sense for detecting peoples body lang. and things like that. I also get these feelings that I have to protect someone...

I'm a 15/m and I feel like I have to protect this guy. And I don't know why or how or when b/c he barely talks to me. His life is not the best and I think that's why I have to 'take care of him', kinda like a brother... but the guy won't talk to me and it's very hard for him to trust people b/c of family issues... idk what to do... normally I would just let it go right? ... WRONG!!!

I can't stop thinking about him... and it's not like I like the guy... I just can't stop wondering if he's ok today, or if he's smiling and happy. I feel like I have to play the part of father? I don't know what to do! Why can't I just stop thinking and worrying about him!?

What should I do? Have you ever felt like you had to protect someone that you've never met?

Please Help!
Thanks in advance.

-Andy

i think you just might be protectant over him because you want to see him happy, thats not a bad thing at all. maybe you just want him to have a good life, maybe you want hm to have a life that he wont dread when he gets older. maybe you should start to become frinds with him, maybe so you can talk to him about it + maybe so you wont be so protective over him.

well, for me, even friends, i have to make sure they are ok, because you know, there my friends, + i want them to be happy. but even aqqaintences, people that i dont really know, its good to make them feel like they have someone that is protecting them, its a good thing.

dont worry!

hope i helped!

I dont look forward to going to school. I was wondering if there was anything i could do during the week (after school) to look forward to that way i could get through the day easier and look forward to the next day every day.

do you have any hobbies? do you like to excercise? do you like to cuddle up + watch a movie w| popcorn + candy? make a day each day of the week to do something fun you like to do, that way you can look forward to it when you wake up in the morning. for example, monday after school- work out, tuesday after school- movie.

hope i helped[:

okay me and my bf have more in common than different
but one of the big differences is he actually likes to talk about problems and i don't i hate talking things out. when ever we have a fight i get scared not that hes going to dump me but the fact thats hes going to want to talk about it so should change myself for that because i dont want to lose him

never change yourself for anyone, not even a boyfriend, but i do think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel so you can cope it out. a relationship needs to be comfortable + you need to talk things out with eachother, you'll know you'll have someone who will listen! [:

hope i helped!

My boyfriend fixed my computer a couple weeks ago. And all my music got deleted. Now I have like no songs to put on my Ipod(i just got it) Can you guys give me songs, I like anything, just not the head banging stuff. thank you! =D

well, it will take too long to write down a whole bunch of songs, so what i would do is go to iTunes and look at the top 100. listen to them, + buy what cha like.

okay so in elementary school. everyone was like a teachers pet, but no one cared. includig me, i have anxiety and at the time, since i couldnt be with my mom in school they were the next best thing. my friend and i enjoyed helping our teacher in the class, and during recess. so i kinda got the teachers pet rep. 6th grade came nd i was totally weird. but i still sort of kept up my habits, except my teachers didnt like me like my old ones did. mostof the teachers liked my best friend who was like a perfect kid her parents were really strict and she had people over like every weekend. 7th grade i got better, not so weird and by 8th grade i was normal (normal isnt the right word but i cant think of anything elses.) i hadnt had a boyfriend either at all. so now im a freshman, and my friends and i are slways hearing about people having sex, getting drunk blah blah highschool stuff. one day in lunch somehow we were talking about whos gonna have sex 1st and everything and i ended up at the very end, im sure my friends didnt know but i was kinda hurt by it. i mean i dont wanna have sex now but im not gonna be the 40 year old virgin either. then at a small aprty for new years last night a girl brought a water bottle of alcohol and we all had some. not enough to be smashed but just a little bit. so i have a boyfriend now and also with my rep is that im really tight and i dont talk to guys and stuff

i just wanna know what i can do to turn my rep around. i dont wanna be known as a slut, but i dont wanna be known as a boring girl.

you need to tell them straight up, "im not a slut + never will be, + im not a boring girl, + never will be." prove to them that you are tight + that you do talk to guys because if you didnt, you wouldnt have a boyfriend, right? so just show them girl[: i hope this is what you were looking for, i know you'll change your rep. around[:

how do u do it if possible?

well for 1, you need a video camera, + once you have one, you open an AIM chat box, + at the bottem near expressions you'll see something that says VIDEO, click that + it will sned a request to the other person you are chatting with + if they click accept there should be a box that pops up + youll see yourself[:

hope i helped[:

ok so im 14/f and still TERRIFIED of the dark. every night when i go to sleep i imagine murderers breaking in and killing me. I don't watch scary movies anymore, just a few here and there. the old ones still come back to haunt me, i'll remember any scary thought when it's nighttime. the fact that my house is PITCH BLACK at night doesn't help at all either. i really really desperately need help, i'm scared to go to bed at night. i can't even get up to go pee because im scared the killer with "hear me". i want to use a nightlight, but i don't want my parents to think i'm a wuss, i mean i'm 14!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me find a way to be comfortable in my own house at night.

im the same way in a sense, im terrified of the dark also. but, since i have plenty of windows in my room, i open them + all the street lights + the house lights, which helps a bit. also, maybe you can ask your parents for a TV in your room, i have one + it makes my room a lot brighter. so what if you use a nightlight? if it makes you comofortable then go for it, + your parents wont make fun of you, they're your parents, they want you to be happy. after i watched Scream 2, i was petrified, but the only way to overcome your fear + being able to face it. also, if you have a cellphone, try keeping the backlight on for a bit to make it a bit brighter. dont worry, a lot of young adults are afraid of the dark, your not the only one! [:

i hope i helped!

So I just got the Sims 2 Nightlife and I saw on sims2.com that you can have all these new hair styles and clothes when you got the Nightlife expansion pack... Well I loaded it on my computer and I only have like two new hair styles for male and female.. and I have hardly any new clothes. What's the deal?
Thanks! :)

well, it adds the cars, + you get a few hairstyles + outfits. i didnt get much stuff either, so its not you. once you get more games, you will get much more hairstyles and outfits.

hope i helped[:

How do you become a model, besides being discovered in a mall or the street?

let me just say, its not going to be easy. do som research on the web on modeling agencies, youll find PLENTY. contact some of them + see what they say. if this is a commitment that you really want to do, some of the agencies that you might choose, might require you to move to maybe new york or california, just keep that in your head. like i said, its not going to be easy. you cant just get discovered just like that, it takes time + you have to be patient.

hope i helped[:

ok so i salw a comercial for somthing that was exthacly like webkinz but was called somthing diffrent what is it PLEASE HELP

i think it might be called Shining Stars, im ot sure because i havent seen the commercial, but i have seen the little animals out in stores.

hope i helped[:

Hi! I just got a jacket from Aritzia and it is adorable. I just wanted to know if it was worthy. Anyways should i get uggs with them. What kind of boots would you recommend?

well, if you really like your jacket, then its worth it, you never want to buy something that you wont wear or dont like. i deffinetly reccomend UGGS, but, i was just shopping yesterday + was going to buy UGGS, they are very expensive in the stores, so if you want to buy UGGS, shop online for them, much cheaper + you'll get your UGGS for a better price[:

hope i helped!

I accidentally deleted sound on my computer. I have no idea how but I was wondering what I have to do to get it back. Do I have to buy something or to to a website. Can I get it back without buying anything?

well, im not sure how to get it back because ive never deleted the sound on my computer, but check in the recycle bin, if its not there, contact your PC company. if they cant help, do some research, im sure you will find something.

hope i helped! [:

how do you know what kind of eyebrows are perfect for you? like do you get what im saying like for your face??? hmmm?

experiment, if they dont look good, you can always change it. go to a salon + they can recommend something that looks good on you. like i said, experiment, thats always a good thing so you know what looks good in the future[:

hope i helped!

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