They may not be related, because my computer doesn't that annoying linking thing, but the icons still move. I have both of those programs installed, but it didn't really start until I installed Jasc. So maybe that has some spyware on it. Problem is, I'm not sure if uninstalling it will take off the spyware, but it's worth a shot I guess!

Err..yes, you kind of are being shallow. No offense. It's just that you shouldn't be afraid of what everyone else thinks of you. I know, easier said than done, but think of it this way, if you have confidence in yourself, people will see that in you and want to be friends with you. That will make you MORE popular. So try to be friends with everyone, regardless of what other's think. Who knows? You might be able to show your friends what a cool person that girl is and then they'll want to be friends with her too. My main advice is to listen to what you want and what you think is right before you listen to your friends.

First things first, take a deep breath, calm down! They'll still be there when you're done taking that breath. If you want to hang out with them, invite them over or plan something to do with them, like you had suggested to the friend. If that doesn't work, you can always try again. If you worry so much about what they are going to think about you, they'll see that and not want to be friends with you, but if you act like yourself they'll see the cool person you are and want to hang out with you because you have confidence in yourself and it won't matter what you do, because you can make them have a good time on your own.

Set a time every few nights or so to call each other, that way you know you'll be able to reach the other person. Visit as much as possible, and if things get tough, take a break from your relationship. It may make him realize how much that phone call from you means to him. If you really love each other, not seeing each other for a period of time won't make a dent in your relationship. Sure, it might drive you crazy, but that shows you two are still in love.

This is something you really have to think about. The two of you could have just been horny or something. You're probably going through a lot of changes right now and experimenting with a whole ot of things. One of these things just happens to be sexual orientation. We all go through it, you don't know how things are unless you try it. But being hetero or homosexual isn't something that happens in one night, it will take you awhile to figure out, and you may end up realizing you're bisexual. I can't tell you your sexual orientation, it's something you have to find out for yourself. Take some time to think about things, do you feel more attracted to boys than girls? Less? The same? It's not something you have to figure out immediately, it's a question that will always be with you. I suggest you experiement a little more with BOTH dating scenes before you decide your sexual orientation because otherwise you are never going to figure it out. Like I said before, you might still be changing and it could have just been a one moment thing. Go on with your life, but think about how you feel around girls and how you feel around boys. If you have any more questions on this or any other subject, feel free to ask them, I'll be here for an answer!

Dwarp

No! You're being yourself, which is perfect! Way to go! Most kids are just conforming to what their friends like, but you are looking at all your options and deciding what you like. Very wise for a 13 year old.

Well, having sex with the other guy isn't going to make up for your boyfriend making out with another girl, it's just unfair to your sex partner because he thinks you have feelings for him now. I think there are two separate issues here and we must sort them out.

First: Sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend. I'm assuming he knows you found him making out with another girl? If not, you need to explain that to him and if he already does, you can just get right into the issue. Tell him you are going to be completely honest with him and you hope he will be with you. Then explain to him that when you found him making out with the other girl you got jealous and had sex with the other guy. Then tell him your feelings about your sex partner. (ie: he's just there for sex, you like him, you love him..) Tell him how you felt when you first saw him making out with the other girl, and tell him how you are feeling about the issue now. Then ask him for his side of the story, his feelings and what he wants from the relationship. After you have both talked about your feelings about YOUR relationship, think about it on your own, and you can decide if you think the relationship is worth the pain you feel from him cheating on you.

Issue 2: You need to talk to your sex partner. After you have decided whether or not you will be with your boyfriend, tell him your status of that relationship. (If you're still going out with him, if you guys broke up) After you explain this, if you have broken up with your boyfriend, you can consider a relationship with your sex partner, or you can tell him your honest feelings, that you don't have feelings for him, but the sex was good. If he's ok with having a "friends with benifits" relationship with you, then go ahead, but beware because things can get awkward and ruin your friendship.

If you're still going out with your boyfriend, tell your sex partner that you'd like to continue a friendship if you think that you can handle it, and that you want to stay loyal to your boyfriend because you just couldn't handle the guilt the last time. This will then give him the optioin of a friendship if he wants it, and if he doesn't, he's not worth your time anyway. Either way it will make him understand your feelings for your boyfriend and he won't try to interfere with that.

Remeber, communication is the key to any relationship, whether it be friendship or more!

Hope I helped!

Sincerely,
Dwarp

No, you're not a poser. You're just a beginner. There's a difference. If doing something you think looks cool is considered posing, then every person is this world has been a poser at one point in time. We learn things by copying what other's do and that's what you're doing. You think it's neat and you'd like to learn how to do it. In fact, the term poser is really irrelevant to anything, regardless of who is saying it. You're just doing something you want to do, and just because the sport is predominantly male does not mean that everyone of the female gender is doing it just to meet boys. Ask yourself the reasons why you started skating in the first place and there will lie your answer. (Pretty much, you answered the question for yourself)

Plus...labels are for soupcans anyway. Who cares what other people think as long as you're enjoying yourself?

Go to the doctor. That's all there is to it. He or she can really help you, we aren't all medical professionals on here, all we can do is send you to a place where you can find them.

Ok, this is the second time this week that I have referenced this article, but it really helped me out, so I think it can help you too.

http://spacefem.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=21946

It really depends on the type of hair you have. I know you say thick, but is it curly, straight, frizzy? If you decide to straighten your hair, I have this stuff that came with my straightener. It's called Biosilk Silk Therapy, and it really has a good effect! It makes your hair look shiny, and it also help separate it if it is in clumps. Or, if you're looking for an all-out change, maybe get some highlights? They're pretty expensive, but if you really want to make an impact on people, they will definitely notice if you got your hair highlighted. Think it through though, because if you don't like it in the end it will cost you more money to get it back to the way it was.

As for your thighs,try this website: http://www.toneteen.com/exercises/legs.htm

I hope I've helped!
~dwarp~

Try wearing a SCENTED pad and a tampon. That way whatever the tampon doesn't catch, the pad will, or get the really thick pads if you aren't using them already. There are specific brands for each type of flow. Try out the scented pads for a few days (or odor-protcetion, they're the same thing) and if you still feel like you smell, bring a little perfume to school or spray it on your pants in the morning. I haven't ever had to do this, but I'm pretty sure it'll work.

I don't think cheating is the problem, it may or may not be a factor in your relationship, but the main problem here is that you aren't really communicating. Find a time to call him and have a talk about how you feel like he could be cheating on you and how you never see him anymore. Most problems can be solved with better communication skills and I think this is probably one of them. Don't make it sound accusatory, he will only get angry if you make it sound like everything is his fault, tell him it's probably just a miscommunication, but you feel like there is something wrong. If he gets angry over a simple discussion about your problems then it makes me wonder why you two got married in the first place if you can't communicate at all.

You're moving. You probably rub your face a lot, or maybe you sweat a little in gym class and your makeup just naturally comes off. If you really want to look the same with your makeup, bring it to school and apply in the bathroom during lunch or after you change out of your gym clothes. My suggestion would be to try just going natural a whole day and see if you like that, if not, then bring the makeup to school.

It sounds to me like she's trying to change you too much. If she really wanted to be your date, she wouldn't want to change anything about you. It's just her way of trying to make the "perfect" date, but you could be perfect for somebody else that doesn't want to change anything about you. My advice would be to tell the girl to take you as you are, or find some other ken doll she can dress up, because you aren't going to change just so she can look like she wants on prom night.

Taking up two languages at the same time might be a little confusing. If you can, take Latin 1 your freshman year, and then when you become a sophomore, take Latin 2 and Spanish 1. That way you'll be able to use your basic knowledge of Latin in learning Spanish, but you won't get the two confused. (Trust me, I tried learning Greek and French at the same time, and it can get pretty confusing, even if the languages don't sound that much alike)Ultimately, follow what you think will be right for you, but there's my input on the decision. Freshman year can be a little overwhelming in itself, taking two languages might just complicate things a bit more.

Your cartilidge may be deteriorating from doing the same swinging motion over and over again. I don't know, my shoulder did that during the marching band season, but that was just because I was losing some weight rapidly and gaining muscle. It may just be that your body is growing in a lot of different ways, and your growth plates are getting messed up. Whatever, go to a doctor and he or she will be able to give you a better answer.

Well, if you don't tell him, you're never going to get anywhere. If you aren't afraid of losing a friendship with him, tell him how you feel. If you only like him because he's hot then chances are your relationship isn't going to last very long. So I suggest thinking about this carefully, do you really want a relationship, or do you just want a hot guy to show off to all your friends? If you answered the last one, think about whether or not he is superficial enough to care about how you really feel.

Just think of this, if they like you, then you must have something all the other girls don't. Show confidence in yourself because that's probably what they liked about you in the first place.If you're confident and know that you are better than all of those other girls, they will see that in you and it will also give you the courage to walk up to them and strike up a conversation. If you talk to them more, you'll start to be friends with them and maybe decide if you like them or not.

As for the experience thing, the only way to get more experience is to have more experiences. So take every chance you get to get to know the guys that like you, because it may lead to a relationship! If they're walking in the hall, ask them how their weekend went, or talk about something that has to do with the way he knows you. (ie: if he met you in band, talk to him about band and eventually lead to other topics)

Hope I could help!

(Remember, Flaunt it if you got it!)

Kissing is like riding a bike. Once you do it, you can't forget how. The only way to get better at it is to practice, and if, by some freak-out, your boyfriend tells you that you are a bad kisser just say, "Yeah, but I'm practicing." or something to that effect. Practice makes perfect, so it'll make him want to kiss you more.

If you have Windows, you can save the picture to your computer and then open it with Microsoft Office Picture Manager. Once there, go up to "Picture" at the top, click on "color" and then just mess around with the bars on the righthand side until you get a coloring you like. Be sure to save your changes and if you have it uploaded to a website, upload it again once it's black and white!

Hiya! I'm dwarp. A crazy 19 year old from Chicago with too much time on her hands.I started this column when I was about 14, I think and I keep coming back. My friends tend to come to me for advice, so I've gotten pretty good at answering most problems. I'm a crazy Greek vegetarian, and yes, I have seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding. It's exactly like my family, so I am really great at answering questions about insane families. I study political science and international studies and I like to learn languages. I speak English, French, German, a bit of Greek, and I'm learning Italian next semester. I've had lots of weirdo love/sex-life experiences, so I'm pretty knowledgeable in that area. Ummm.....ask me anything!
Peace!

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