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A New Friend
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I was talking to this girl from my class on the phone today and I realized that she is pretty cool and I want to be friends with her. The thing is that she is not very popular and I'm afraid that if I start hanging out with her, my other friends won't want to hang with me and might diss me. Am I being shallow or stupid? And what should I do?
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It is your choice who you want to hang out with and if your friends diss you for it, then they are not really your friends. As long as she is fun and you get along well, then who cares if she isnt popular..it is your choice.
~Steph~
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Just be friends with her. Maybe your other friends will realise she's pretty cool. Besides, it's just another friend you can add to your list of friends! And if you're friends don't like her, she doesn't have to be a friend you hang out with when you're with your friends. She can just be a friend that you hang out with during school.
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If your friends won't hang out with you just because you are her friend, then they aren't very good friends and they probably aren't the kind of person you want to be friends with anyway. So, I wouldn't worry about it. I think you should befriend her, because, hey everyone needs a friend.
~*Tiffany*~
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i think that if your friends stop talking to you because you want to hang out with someone who isn't as popular as they are then they are the one's being shallow. you shouldn't need your friends permission to hang out with someone else. if they can't accept the people you want to hang out with or at least be nice about it then i'd seriously think about reevaluating your friendship with the popular girls
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Its common for people to be like that. But yes, in my opinion that is shallow. If you truly like someone, then it doesn`t matter what other people think. She could turn out to be a really good friend, and you`ll never know unless you befriend her. It`s not stupid at all. It happens to everyone at least once in your school years. Imagine how you would feel if you were in the other girls shoes.
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heyy .. i am the same way there are some pretty cool people in my class but they arent popular like me so i just talk to them either on aol or the phone and they dont even know and they are cool with me doing that so try it
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Be friends with whoever you want. Don't not like somebody because of "no popularity" because it's not a good or nice way to judge somebody. Being judged because of lack of popularity hurts, so don't do that to her. Be friends with this girl. If your friends are really friends, they would let you hang out with whoever you want to. If they diss you, they aren't real friends. I hope I helped and if you need more help, leave a question in my inbox!
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Yea, you are being a little shallow. Maybe they will be assholes to you, but that is just because they don't know her. They are your friends though, they shouldn't get mad at you for stuff like that. Be friends with whoever you want.
-Brianna
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I think you should invite her to hang out with you. Its been nice to her if you like her then thats cool, that your letting her hang out with you if your friends dont like it forget them. Or tell them thats shes really nice and they should give her a chance.
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if you want to be friends with her then you should be. if your friends have a problem with her just because she isnt popular then that is their problem. if they are true friends then they wont diss you and stop hanging out with you. you should do what you want to do and not let peer pressure stop you. it doesnt matter what they think about her. as long as you like her that is all that matters. everyone needs a friend and you can be just that. dont let your friends put you down just because you want to hang out with her.
signed: ~Des~
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I think that with your situation you are being both, but anyways you should hang out with her because it doesnt matter if she is popular or not the thing that matters is that she will be a good friend. Dont let your other friends choose for your and if they want to dis you aff thatn that means that they are maybe not true friends.
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Ya, you kinda are. If you like someone and want to be friends, you should. Just because a person isn't "popular" doesn't mean they aren't worth your time. As a matter of fact, people who are less popular are better if you ask me. If your other "friends" are going to dis you and not hang out with you because of who you like...well, I'd question weather they were true friends. Probably not. Don't let other people make your friends for you. You pick friends that you have fun with and that YOU like. :)
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Err..yes, you kind of are being shallow. No offense. It's just that you shouldn't be afraid of what everyone else thinks of you. I know, easier said than done, but think of it this way, if you have confidence in yourself, people will see that in you and want to be friends with you. That will make you MORE popular. So try to be friends with everyone, regardless of what other's think. Who knows? You might be able to show your friends what a cool person that girl is and then they'll want to be friends with her too. My main advice is to listen to what you want and what you think is right before you listen to your friends.
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All kids talk about these days is being popular! I mean does it matter!? I mean im considered a 'prep' and 'cool' but when one of my friends hang out with another person....they are all nice and talk to that person! So maybe you should start talking and be friends with her and then introduce her to your friends! If you like her and think shes really cool....but your 'popular' friends dont like her....still hang out with both, i doubt your 'pop.' friends will ditch you because of that!
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Yo, youR "fRiends" aRen't "fRiends" at all if they can so easily up and leave you because you'Re seen with someone unpopulaR. ..RemembeR that..
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Try testing your other friends. Like for ex. you talked about her with your friends. If they express disgust then just keep quiet about it. Weigh the situation and be true to yourself. Who do you prefer? But if they don't express disgust then do it. Make friends with her.
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dont follow the crowd be ur own person stand out that to me is the coolest thing
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Your not being shallow hun, its a perfectly reasonable thing to be concerned about. But if your friends are going to diss you for being friends with someone who you think is nice and a good person just because she isn't popular. Well then that means they aren't your true friends. True friends don't diss other friends (no matter who the other friend is friends with.) Am I confusing you? I am confusing myself. What I mean is.. Be friends with this girl, and if your other friends are shallow jerks and diss you then you just dismiss them. I will be willing to bet a good amount of money that this girl who isn't popular will make a better friend then those other girls would be if they are that shallow. Good luck! Keep me posted about this, and if you need to chat feel free to AIM me. :)
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well, if you think your friends will diss you because you want to be friends with a girl from class then they're probably not true friends. what i would do is introduce the girl you talked on the phone with to you friends and see if they have anything in common and might get along also. but if they act like she's not good enough to be in your posse, then continue hanging out with her and be as good as a friend as you can. tell your friend that you are allowed to have more than one best friend (which you are) and that you think you found a really good friend. but please, please, dont not talk be friends with that girl because your afraid what your current friens might think...dont be afraid to do what you think is right...hope i helped
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just start hanging out with her and invite your friends to hang out with you guys too. if they dont want to then set out diffrent times like if your have break hang out with that girl then at lunch hang out with your friends
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If your friend get mad at you and diss you then they are just gay and ignorant. You are being a little shallow. Just keep talking to her! x0
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