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Im actually starting to hang out with the people ive wanted to for about two years. I talk to them online and at school. They have a group of 4 people and if I join, it would feel weird becasue it seems to me like i would be brakng into their group when they might not want anymore friends in it. Im best friends with someone who is close with them and the only time i hang out with their group is when that best friend of mine asks us all to. I want to plan something on my own and i have talked to one of the girls about it she said it would be fun but how do i know if she says that to everyone who asks her to do something. Should i go for something that i dont know would work out but truley really want it to, or is their no point in even trying? How do I let the person know that i want to be in their group with out actually saying those exact words?
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Ask to hang out with them at the mall sometime. If they say yes to that, they obviously feel like they can hang out with you. If they say no, then it wasn't meant to be.
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Relax! If she says it would be cool to hang out with you, why would she lie? Just start hanging out with them more and more and they will accept you into their group. If they were your friends who cares if there are 4 or 5 people in the group, lol. Good luck.
-Brianna
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First things first, take a deep breath, calm down! They'll still be there when you're done taking that breath. If you want to hang out with them, invite them over or plan something to do with them, like you had suggested to the friend. If that doesn't work, you can always try again. If you worry so much about what they are going to think about you, they'll see that and not want to be friends with you, but if you act like yourself they'll see the cool person you are and want to hang out with you because you have confidence in yourself and it won't matter what you do, because you can make them have a good time on your own.
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I really think you have the right idea with planning something of your own and inviting the group of friends. The chances that it wouldn't work out are very slim, and if you don't try it, you might always wonder how it would have gone if you had.
Show that you want to be a part of them through actions, not words. Inviting them to do things, talking online and in person, etc, will surely work you into their friendship. Let them know that you enjoy their company, they will most likely say the same for you.
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Its great that your starting to get the friends you want! So, i would say after you hang out once say to them, i had a blast with you guys maybe we can hang out more often. That should deffinitly make them understand that you want to be good friends with them. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~
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Okies ... first of all, i'm glad you finally got your wish. Secondly, if you are not sure whether she means it ('that your plan would be fun) then, you could always ask another one of the gurls, your best friend as well, if they think it'll be fun. There's no need jumping to conclusions that that gurl didn't mean it. You should ask others. Hope it helps.
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