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If there is one thing that I do well, it is give advice, and care about people. I just named two things instead of one, but I really think they go hand-in-hand.
I am blunt and honest, but also considerate, polite, and courteous. I have a LOT of life experience to draw from, and I spend a little too much time looking back in retrospect to see what I did right and wrong in certain situations.

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Im actually starting to hang out with the people ive wanted to for about two years. I talk to them online and at school. They have a group of 4 people and if I join, it would feel weird becasue it seems to me like i would be brakng into their group when they might not want anymore friends in it. Im best friends with someone who is close with them and the only time i hang out with their group is when that best friend of mine asks us all to. I want to plan something on my own and i have talked to one of the girls about it she said it would be fun but how do i know if she says that to everyone who asks her to do something. Should i go for something that i dont know would work out but truley really want it to, or is their no point in even trying? How do I let the person know that i want to be in their group with out actually saying those exact words?

I really think you have the right idea with planning something of your own and inviting the group of friends. The chances that it wouldn't work out are very slim, and if you don't try it, you might always wonder how it would have gone if you had.
Show that you want to be a part of them through actions, not words. Inviting them to do things, talking online and in person, etc, will surely work you into their friendship. Let them know that you enjoy their company, they will most likely say the same for you.

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my friends mom is lets say not the nicest person in the world. my friend comes into school with bruses (not big ones but they shoulden't be there in the first place) and fingernail marks on her. i ask her and she just says her mom and her got in an argument, and not to worry, but i do. i really want to help her but i don't know what to do. please help

If you trust your parents, talk to them about your suspicions and see if they can help you out with this:
Invite your friend to spend the night on a weekend. While you two have some time alone to talk, see if you can get her to tell you what is going on. Explain that you want to help her, and you care about her and hate seeing her hurt. Ask her permission to talk to your family about it. If she is up to it, see if they can help determine the right legal action to take.
If she is not up to it, try to talk to her about calling the police. At your house, she will be safe to do so. They will come talk to her and then go talk to her mom, and hopefully arrest her.

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There's a boy I like and we're pretty good friends. He's given me some hints and I want to do the same, to maybe urge him nonchalantely to ask me out. I really don't know how to do this or how to flirt that well. Can anyone help? Maybe you have some things I can do that might hint him on but not be TOO obvious?

There are a lot of guys out there who don't exactly like it when girls flirt in the typical way (i.e., batting eyelashes, giggling profusely, etc). If he has given you hints, it sounds like whatever you are doing is on the right track.
Make an effort to talk to him more, smile a lot, maybe even get him a little gift to show your "appreciation for him" ;) Once you feel comfortable enough with the idea, why not just tell him how you feel about him?
The best relationships have friendship as a foundation.

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