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Hi. I am a 31 year old life coach and professional writer and the mother of a beautiful 6 year old little boy. I believe in the kids and teens out there today and I want to be of service in any way I can. I know what it's like to be young and not want to talk to parents about problems. I specialize in relationships of all kinds and parenting. I also am very well versed in health and beauty. I will always respond with sincerity and to the best of my ability. I will always be honest, even if that means I may tell you something you don't want to hear but need to. I am all about inspiring the best from people I come in contact with so that's the approach I take with everyone.
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I am in love with this guy. We'll call him Zach. And I like this guy. We'll call him Elijah. Zach's in love with this girl. We'll call her Alli. Alli's in love with this guy and is in a lasting relationship with this guy. We'll call him Joe. Okay, now the problem is Alli has no feelings for Zach and she's told him so. Zach is still hanging on because it is so hard for him to let go. But he knows he has to. And he's told me that when he isn't thinking of her he's thinking of me. I am that girl that he will fall back on and I'm okay with that. But while I'm waiting for him to get over her Elijah really likes me. He wants to be the guy to make me smile. And the more time he spends with girls the more he thinks of me. I like him, but I love Zach. Elijah told me that he will wait as long as he has to but he will not wait if it will jeopardize his well-being. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose Zach more. Zach tells me but he would be okay if I went with Elijah. But the problem is that if I get too deep in with Elijah and Zach decides he wants to be with me it will only make it harder to turn Elijah away. What do I do? I will rate all answers.
I read your feedback - and I just have to say that if you are not the most important person in your world - who is? It has to be you - love doesn't mean that you put other people in front of your needs. I hear what you are saying - but what I'm saying is not to close yourself off - by far - just don't sit and wait for him. I know it feels very kind and loving to do so - and feels kinda humanitarian to be the one person who understands him and is willing to wait for him...etc..but really it's not. I was there. I am 31 now and have had my share. I just don't want you to sell yourself short. You don't have to be closed off - just put yourself first. Love is not you giving 100% of yourself and waiting for him while he gives much much less than 100%. Love is giving and understanding - from both directions. Being good to you has to come first because - like the old wore out, but very true saying goes - you can't give what you don't have. It's true. Good luck. If nothing else, you will come out of this stronger - no matter the decision. After I came out of the situation over 15 years ago I learned so much. There really is no substitute teacher for life experience.
Babygirl - DO NOT waste your precious time waiting on a guy that has you second on his list! If you like the other guy - go for it - if the other one misses out - his loss. Never wait on a guy - to get over someone. That is like dating a married man that won't leave his wife but keeps promising someday - that is for the birds honey! I can tell you that he doesn't like you that much if he's telling you that it's okay for you to go out with the other guy. And it's fine to say that you are okay with being the rebound girl - but those things never last because they didn't really want to be with you to begin with... I mean for your own good and peace of mind let this Zach guy go!!! You sound like you are really ready to put your whole life on hold if he wants to be with you - you are giving him WAY TOO MUCH POWER. Pull your power back and don't wait on anyone!!! He will walk all over you if he ever does get with you - for the simple reason that he knows you are just waiting for him - won't date anyone - waiting for him - blah blah blah... That just screams I will do anything for you even if it's not good for me - because waiting on the sidelines is not good for you.
I don't mean to be harsh, I just hate to hear women giving up their power to guys that are not even worth it! Make him work for it girl! Don't just sit up waiting and hoping.... that is for suckas and I know you are not that! If he doesn't recognize what a good catch you are - he's lame - not you!!!
ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!
First of all, do his friends have girlfriends? That could definately be part of the problem if they don't because they want guy time - and probably give him a hard time about it. AT that age he is still fitting in with the guys and doesn't wanna look like a puppy dog. Why he's not calling is a mystery I guess... If it were me, I would just do my thing with the girls and let him call. If he knows you will always call then he doesn't have to - turn the tables and bring the ball back in your court. If you didn't talk on the phone before then it does stand to reason that you wouldn't much now. Do you live close to him? Because if you don't and he has a friend around the corner then it may be easier to hang around with him... Don't worry yourself too much and definately do not be the girl always calling - it does take on a needy look after a while - especially if he's not calling back. I say hang with the girls - go to the mall - talk to people - get out more and just have fun. He'll be back quicker if you are not just sitting around waiting on him!!!
i wanna qet a hair cut tomorrow....i want bang,but i wanna pull them to the side, and i want it kinda short like a little above my shoulders...am i taking serious chances?? cuz my hair is pretty long, but i want something a little more fun and a little preppy/trendy...any other ideas??
xox*jessica
I think that sounds like a cute cut - a lot like what I used to have. If you flip it out and have the bang to the side it looks really great - used to get TONS of compliments on that! BUT before you go - do yourself a favor and pick up a hairstyle magazine. Just hang out in the store and look through them until you find one with the cut you want (walgreens or CVS are great for these mags) and bring it to the hair salon with you. Have a back up style just in case the hair dresser says that style definately won't work on you. If they are good, they can shape the cut you want to the shape of your face and you will come out with a semi - original great cut. Good luck!
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okay i moved to a different city about a year ago. there is this guy that is like one of my best friends and everyone knows that he likes me and i like him too((but not alot)). ive gone to dances with him, but im afraid that if he asks me out things will get all weird, and i dont know if i would be able to kiss him without feeling odd.
please help me!
Kisses can break up friendships. My advice would be to figure out what you like him as more - a friend or a boyfriend. Listen to your gut and DO what you feel. A good friend will last a lot longer than most boyfriends in high school - so if you like him just as a friend - just tell him. He can only respect the truth and the fact that you care about him enough to be upfront and preserve the friendship you two have. On the other hand, if it feels right, go for it!
I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?
Thanks 15-Female
I know that it's hard when someone just up and stops talking to you. It feels incomplete, like just hearing him say "yes, I want to break up" would feel better. And it might, but it doesn't sound like that's what you wanted - sounds like you wanted to stay together. At this point, if he is not returning your phone calls and it been over a month, I would say that he has made a definate decision. Just move on. The energy there is probably so screwy now that even if he wanted to call you up and say something it would feel awkward. Just leave it alone. You know the saying - if you love something set it free - if it comes back it was meant to be (that's my shortened version =) ) Write him a letter - don't send it - just write it. Say what you need to say to him. Get it all out - the mad (cuz you have to be a little mad) the sad and hurt and the love. Get it all out. Then, get a metal container and a lighter - go in your garage or somewhere paved and put the letter in the metal container and light it on fire (make sure to do it in a safe place - and make sure your parents are okay with it beforehand) - make it your farewell ceremony. Sweetheart, there are soooo many men out there - and I know that sounds a bit cliche` but it's true. You are going to find the right one. When things work out like that I have always found that it was for the best - even though it didn't feel like it at the time. Whatever you do - please do not dial that man's number again!!! Forget it - unprogram it from your phone... You'll find better.
hello ive got an interview for nursing on friday and im really scared about it can any one give me any tips on what there going to ask me and what are things i should do to impress them thank you
The best thing to do before an interview is not to stress about it. Maybe a few days before just review what you know and leave it at that. The day before do things that make you feel good...take a warm bath, read a book you like, watch your favorite TV show. The night before you go when you are laying in bed just visualize how it will go and how excited you will be when you come out and know you nailed it! On the way there intend, just lay out how you want it to go. Be yourself. That will impress anyone! Be down to earth and try not to sound to rehersed. Smile a lot and answer their questions the best you can. Some questions will like:
Why do you think you are a good fit for our company? (maybe get on the internet the day before research the company you are interviewing with - drop a little company specific knowledge - like how they treat their employees or something like that)
Tell us about your other jobs (beforehand try to think of how those jobs or training/education will benefit you on this job)
What are your strengths - that should be easy to come up with
What are your weaknesses - (don't say you don't have any to them - think of something before hand like - I'm not good with mechanical things like a copier - something that doesn't mean much for that job)
Where do you see yourself in 5 years (Try not to make this too company specific - maybe something like - I plan to have a job that I love, a place where I can continue to grow in my career and then add whatever family goals you may have - but be brief on those)
If you've had a job they may ask you how you work under pressure - and then follow up with wanting a specific situation where you were under pressure and how you handled it - try to make these two answers coincide - so if you say you deal well with stress then have the story you pick show how well you dealt with it and how efficient you were) They may ask this even if you just got out of school.
ONE THING TO REMEMBER about salary - do not give them numbers first - let them offer you something. Try not to talk about money. A lot of times we undersell ourselves because we speak too soon. Do some reserach on Monster's salary calculator so you are sure about what is reasonable. Don't be afraid to counter offer. If they call you back the first time, they will call again.
Good luck!!! Hope this helps you get this job!
What do you do when you loose respect for the ones you love most ?
Losing respect for people you love always sucks. The best thing you can do is try to find what you do love about them. You cannot get your virginity back. That was a decision you made and unfortunately it's a permanant one. BUT the good news is that you can not have sex again until you are with a guy you really love. Don't give these people your power. Remember who you are and that you are strong and able to continue to be who you are - proudly. If you regret what you did - well, it turns into shame and you do not need to be ashamed. You did what you thought was best at the time and that's all anyone can ask of you. Don't beat yourself up over it. You can start focusing on what you like about these people and other people in your school (even though it's summer). Maybe when school gets back in you'll get hooked up with some new friends. Just remember to keep your power - your feminine energy and make your body a sacred place that no one gets acess to without the love card (preferably real love - not puppy love or a crush)
What do you do when everybody around you is turning their backs n you when your going through the consequences of the actions that came with the peer pressure they were putting on you to loose your virginity?
Find new friends. As bad as it sounds, the truth is when crisis hits, you find out who your true friends are. If you are going through something your friends (whether they had something to do with it or not) should be there for you. I'm not sure what consequences can come from loosing your virginity aside from being pregnant or catching an STD, but nonetheless, find new friends.
About a week ago, I told my mom and my sister that we should go see the movie "Bewitched" since we used to watch 70's version of this late at night on TV together. When I said this I meant for us to "set a date" to go see a movie. My mom called me earlier and said she wanted to watch this movie now. I am 31 years old and have a family of my own. I also have other plans to do tonight although my plans aren't that important. Anyways, I told her that I have a headache and that they should just go ahead and watch without me. I felt bad because I was the one who originally asked them to see this movie...It's just that I didn't expect it to be today....It's a long weekend...I just went out and watch a movie with my kids, went to a baby shower and I'm kind of tired and wanted to rest and then maybe do some grocery shopping later tonight. Was I wrong for saying no?...I really feel bad and my guts says I should've just gone with them....
i don't think you are wrong for saying no. Your mom might have understood if you had told her what you did all day and that you were tired. Maybe you could have suggested another night. Nonetheless, it's done and I would not feel bad. We all have days like that. Even though you suggested it you didn't set a date. Maybe next time when you suggest a movie, have a date in mind at the same time so things don't get jammed together...
Hope it helped.
My friend has had a crush on this guy for a little while, and she's REALLY into him. Problem is, he's... not such a great guy. He went out with one of my other friends for a short period of time (when my other friend liked him, which caused a lot of tension between them), broke up with her, and then started liking me for a while and then stopped. Two nights ago I was at her house, and he called and they started talking and he said he liked her. This scared me and I told her to think before she comitted to anything, and she hung up... We talked for a long time, and I told her to really think about it. 10 minutes later he calls and says he doesn't like her, he was being stupid and he was half-asleep. You can imagine how this made her feel. He wasn't even sorry about it later...
And she still likes him. How can I get her to realize that this guy isn't worth her time, and to move on? BTW, she and him are both 14.
Sounds like you won't have to convince her because he doesn't like her anyway. The part about being a friend is to listen when they fall - but let them fall sometimes because when it comes to love there is not a lot someone else can say - even your best friend! I'm not saying she's in love - but this sounds like something she's gonna have to figure out on her own. Of course you can be there to listen to her and give her advice. Now, you could get with some other guys and get her interested in someone else....
please read this and help me..i'll rate 5s..just please i desperately need help more than anything
i fell in love with a guy named harrison about 2 years ago, and we have been unseperable ever since then. we'd always have the occasional fights between us, and i was crazy about him, and he was about me too. i loved him more than anything in the world, and this was not just puppy love, this was the real thing. he was my first and possibly final love, and i lost my virginity to him. when he moved to iowa last year, we still loved each other and he never even attempted to go out with any other girl. he was the best thing that had ever happened to me, and i loved him..i truly mean it. he was always there for me, he was there when mother died, i lost my best friend, and when i had to have a heart surgery.
recently he died in a car accident. it wasn't his fault at all, it was horrible luck. he was driving on a highway and a drunk driver crashed into his car, killing him. i cried myself to sleep for months, and i just didn't care about anything but him. i was obsessing yes, but i loved him, and i know he loved me too. he was the only one for me, and i know he's gone now and i should move on and look for other guys, but i don't think i'll ever find anyone else like harrison. i will still of course try, but i cannot help but feel horrible. sometimes i feel i should kill myself so i can join harrison up in heaven, but i have never succeeded. i am hurt beyond words, and i don't know what to do anymore. please help me, anything will help right now. thank you so much for reading all of this.. love, lauren
Lauren,
Going through losing someone so close to you is such a huge loss. I can't imagine how you feel. Life takes turns that sometimes hit us like a ton of bricks. I can tell you though that based on what you've said about your relationship with him, he really meant a lot to you and I know that he is out there somewhere looking over you..I know that he would not want you wasting away here wallowing in sadness. He wouldn't want you to stop your life because his ended. He would want you to live and love and be happy. He would want you to be successful, whatever that means to you. He would want you to find happiness even though he's not here. Killing yourself to be with him is not the thing to do - 'being with someone' in the spirit world is just not the same as it is here. You will be with him one day and he will be waiting. Don't throw away your beautiful life now - I really don't think he would want you to. If anything just appreciate every day you are alive and arriving places safely. Make a memory box of him and write memories for you to cherish. Get a notebook and write him letters - kind of like your diary - but to him. Tell him how you feel. Talk to him, he can hear you. You don't have to make a huge jump from grief to happiness today - just take baby steps. Some of the steps may lead you through anger and rage to frustration and then maybe you can get to irriation and eventually hopeful. Don't be hard on yourself. Remember the good times and cherish them, but don't waste your now being miserable because you can be anything you want! You get to decide.
ok I know I know I am totally screwed probably and I know I messed up big time but please dont tell me that over and ove...but ok I was raped last week and I didnt tell anyone yet...I cant im scared i dont now why but i feel like its my fault cuz it was my bf and Im the one who went out with him...so ya i know im screwed cuz the evidence is probably gone but I really need help on how to tell someone so thats why I came here..plz help!!
thanks
The last thing you need to hear is you screwed up - cuz you didn't. When something like that happens it sometimes take a while to process that it was actually raped because when it's not all violent and crazy and then with someone you know - you start to question yourself. Well, don't go there - you know what happened and that's all that mattered. Maybe you can't talk to your mom -call the rape crisis center. Getting raped is a very traumatic thing that needs to be addressed. Even though you don't have the evidence, you do know who did it. Have you talked to him since? I think you need to call and talk to someone or tell your parents. They won't be mad - they will still love you and want to help. You need all the support you can get right now. Let it out honey, tell someone!!
Hi
I was just wondering...
1. can you go to a tanning bed like every other day or should you out more time is between or does it really matter...?
2. do the UV rays or anything mess up acrylic nails?
2. how long/or how many sessions does it take to get a good base tan...?
3. Has anyone tried any really good lotions that work really well...
by the way...i dont need people telling be how it will harm me...i know the outcome...i am only doing for a month...
I am with you sister!!! don't let anyone tell you what will or won't harm you. The fact is that just because something happens to someone does not mean it will happen to you!! As for tanning - you can go everyday. I would suggest giving it like 5 minutes the first day and then maybe even 5 on the second day. SLOWLY move up so that you get a tan and don't burn. It may feel really slow - but it's worth it. No, UV rays will not mess up acrylic nails at all. Getting a good base tan depends on your skin. Even fair skin can get a great base tan in a month. Like I said, go slow. For a lotion - use something with a bronzer. Stay away from tingle factors for now - those lotions are for when you are already tan. Since all of the lotions work differently on people - use a few different samples from the front desk. If you use them right they can last 3 times. Oh yeah, get a triple bronzer if you want color really quick. If you tell the person there you want a triple bronzer sample they will point you in the direction. One thing I do recommend is the eye protection. I think it is worth it to spend a few bucks on a pair and they don't leave tan lines. ALSO - when you use a bronzer - make sure to get an extra towel that is wet so that you can wipe your hands REALLY good. It may stain if you don't.
Hope that helps!
Well let's see....There's this boy that I really like....And a couple weeks ago it seemed like he liked me 2 ...well even then he had a girlfriend but everyone knew that relationship wouldn't work out.....Now he goes out with this other girl that goes to his church during the summer and some during the school year....What really got to me was that I thought he liked me and might would ask me out after him and the first girl broke up but apparently he didn't and it kinda makes me mad cause the girl he dates now is a total slut.... What do I do I mean he is just bound to get hurt by her and I mean I really like him?
If you wanted advice on how to stay miserable - I definately answered the wrong question. I was trying to tell you that even though you may THINK you know someone you don't and trying to break them up WILL NOT HELP YOU. If you didn't want the truth, you shouldn't have posted.
Baby girl, there is absolutely nothing you can do about who he is with. And why would you? It wouldn't make him like you or want to be with you. If you really like him, then respect him enough to have his own life and if he wants you in it he will ask you to be. And watch those finger pointing accusations of people (calling the other girl a slut) - that is just ugly and you don't know where she is or what she is dealing with. Don't hate on her because of him. Just find someone else. It's obvious that if he wanted to be with you, he would have asked you...and he didn't. Let it go. Maybe when they break up he will be into you - but breaking them up will not help you!!!
my soon to be boyfriend goes too far sometimes. he comes over to hang out a lot and we cuddle and everything but sometimes his hands wander and i want him to stop. it's really uncomfortable for me and i want him to stop but i don't wanna seem like a prude. i've tried moving around to get him to move his hands but i don't know, there's just something weird about it. my past two boyfriends have been really verbally abusive and my last boyfriend hit me a lot right before we broke up and after we broke up and i still don't trust guys and i don't know if i should continue hanging out with this new guy. i know he really cares about me and has for a while. he took a lot of crap from me before we started hanging out. i lead him on and broke his heart when i hooked up with a different guy. HELP. i'm a girl btw.
If you are attracting physically and verbally abusive guys then the chances are this one is no different. What do you have going in your energy that is attracting you to these types of men? If it were me, I would probably break it off with everyone until I figured out what was going on with me then wait for the right one to come. I don't know how old you are - but it's better to start early than late. The bad news is that the first two were just verbally abusive then it escalated into violence with your last boyfriend. What will happen next? This is pretty serious stuff and I will be the first to tell you that you don't want to go down that road. If you really want some help, I am a life coach and I will talk to you via email for free. Don't take me up on that if you don't sincerely want the help.
I'm girl thats 14 and going into 9th grade, but I'm dating a guy thats almost 17 and going into 11th grade. A couple days ago he told me that before he met me, he made out with pretty much all his friends that are girls, and he misses that because he doesn't see me everyday so hes tempted to do things with them. He asked me if it would be ok if he did stuff with them. and still did things with me too, in other words, have friends with bennefits instead of a relationship. I said no because I didnt want to be his piece of ass, so I told him it was over. Now hes asking me to take him back, and I know I shouldnt but deep down I really want to be with him. what do I do!?
I think, if he asked you then he at least respects you enough to discuss it first. Being tempted is not the same as cheating. Maybe ask him what he wants out of the relationship with you. Of course you can't make him be faithful...
Now, you say that you know you shouldn't...why? Has he done something or just talked about it? If he's just talked about it - I can respect that because most guys wouldn't have. If he did something - leave him on the curb where you kicked him! If not, then maybe you could give it a try. He should know now that you are not playing because you broke up with him...you never know...he might really want to be with you and just felt comfortable enough to tell you...
Bottom line, go with your gut. Women's intuition is nothing to be fooled with!!!
Im 14 year old girl, and my friends are the same age, I went to the beach for a week this past week and my best friend, we'll call her, Jess *hold that thought* I also played volleyball this season and made some great friends and I went to hang out with them and invited Jess. but since I went away for the week. Jess has pretty much taken my place. My friends dont even think about calling me to do stuff... they call Jess, its like. she stole my friends. and shes taken my place in every aspect. I dont remember the last time any of them called to see what i was doing.
I want my friends back.. what do i do
How about call them? You went away and they probably did get closer to Jess, but that doesn't mean they don't like you anymore. Don't make the mistake of thinking you know what they are thinking if they haven't told you. Lots of friendships end because someone assumes that someone else feels a certain way. Just give them the benefit of the doubt. Tell them you want to hang out and you miss them. Don't think the worst. Just remember what you like about them. Oh yeah, I'm sure your best friend did not try to 'steal' your friends. She probably just liked them too. Go hang out and don't make too much of it. Have fun!!
♥ hey.
i have a Question. At night I exfoliate and use moisturizer and i sue stridex pads. Should I use my stridex pads after i moisturize? or will that be to much? and i also have a cleanser and Do u think i should use an exfoliater then cleanse? Im so confused because I want to do all of that but it might be too much for my face. what do you think? -THANKSS-xoxo I RATE HIGH! And also if I should ue all of that..then in what order?
Yeah, there are so many things out on the market today that it's hard to say what to do first. Here's what I would do: Use your exfoliator 2 times a week then moisturize (no cleanser these days becasue the exfoliator is doing the work of the cleanser). Space those two days apart. Then the other 5 days use your cleanser then your moisturizer the other days. Moisturizer is ALWAYS last. Make sure you are getting something that does not clog pores if you are having to use stridex for acne. If you do not have acne - don't use the stridex. It's full of alcohol that will just dry out your skin.
Hope that helps!
Ok there is this really hot guy I like. I have liked him since the moment I saw him, and I told my friend that. She said ok, and she told me she liked this other kid. Well now shes trying to hook up with the guy I like. The guy told the both of us that he was gonna hook up with us tonight. We know that he told the both of us, and she said oh really, im just not going to. Well after that she was all over him. And I talked to him about it and he said he wants to hook up the next time he sees me. I really want to, but i know that hes probably saying the same thing to my friend. I don't know what to do, I've never hooked up with a guy and I just want to make out. I don't want me and my friend to hate eachother though. What do I do?
So you just want to make out with this guy? You don't really like him? Or do you think if you make out with him you two will be together? Either way, I say you are ruining a friendship. True, you liked him first, but it got a little too sticky and I would just leave it alone. The guy obviously doesn't like you for anything more than a 'make out session' or he wouldn't have been trying to hook up with your friend. Leave him alone. And what is the deal with just wanting to make out with someone? You have to be proud of your body and respect it before any man will!
Ok, my girlfriend is pregnant and she's really worried about it. We're both 19 and this wasn't planned or anything. We talked about it for a long time and we both agreed that we want to keep it. Her parents disowned her when she was 18 becasue she started to see me, because she was raised catholic and I'm not catholic. I felt that was rediculous because I have nothing against catholics and I was willing to join the church if it meant I could be with her but she decided that she didn't want that...anyway her parents won't be helping us with her pregnancy and with the baby so we're on our own. (my mother is dead and I've never met my father) I know that she's going to be going through a lot with her pregnancy and I was wondering if anyone knew how I could help her get through with a little more ease. I'm working two jobs one full time and the other part time so I'm not around that much. But is there anything that I can do to be of any help to her or is there anything that I should look out for? I was also wondering about taking care of baby. If anyone has any tips about taking care of baby that would be a big help as well. Thank you for the advice and I will rate a five for any help.
Tim
That's gotta be a hard situation. One of the huge things you can do is be sincerely concerned abouth her. Reminder her how beautiful she is even though she is getting bigger. Try to attend whatever classes she does with her. That means soooo much!! She will know by how you act that you really love her and truly support her. That is really the best thing you can do - besides going out in the middle of the night to get whatever food she is craving!!! As for the baby, well, your instincts will kick in and hers definately will. There are places that can help and will help. If you ever have a question, your pediatrician will be an asset. Get a pediatrician BEFORE the baby is born. If you don't know what to do about something, they typically do. Try to keep the stress down - as impossible as that sounds - because the baby will sense that stress and will be stressed too. Go to the doctor appts with her - if you can - at least some. Especially the important ones like the sonogram. Have a few "pick a name" nights and play about what name will be perfect. Another great resource is yahoo groups. There are tons of groups for parenting and new babies. They have lots of good information. Stop by the library and pick up a book on newborns. They have a ton of them with some really good advice. Just relax and know that this is in perfect order. If you are looking for answers now before you even have the baby - I'm sure you will be very prepared and great parents!!!
Good luck and congratulations!!!