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please read this and help me..i'll rate 5s..just please i desperately need help more than anything
i fell in love with a guy named harrison about 2 years ago, and we have been unseperable ever since then. we'd always have the occasional fights between us, and i was crazy about him, and he was about me too. i loved him more than anything in the world, and this was not just puppy love, this was the real thing. he was my first and possibly final love, and i lost my virginity to him. when he moved to iowa last year, we still loved each other and he never even attempted to go out with any other girl. he was the best thing that had ever happened to me, and i loved him..i truly mean it. he was always there for me, he was there when mother died, i lost my best friend, and when i had to have a heart surgery.
recently he died in a car accident. it wasn't his fault at all, it was horrible luck. he was driving on a highway and a drunk driver crashed into his car, killing him. i cried myself to sleep for months, and i just didn't care about anything but him. i was obsessing yes, but i loved him, and i know he loved me too. he was the only one for me, and i know he's gone now and i should move on and look for other guys, but i don't think i'll ever find anyone else like harrison. i will still of course try, but i cannot help but feel horrible. sometimes i feel i should kill myself so i can join harrison up in heaven, but i have never succeeded. i am hurt beyond words, and i don't know what to do anymore. please help me, anything will help right now. thank you so much for reading all of this.. love, lauren
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OMG.. i`m sooo sorry. it must really really hurt because you loved him. but please, please, please don`t kill yourself over it. ok, i dont think that you should move on just yet. Let things cool off a little. I`m sure that you`ll find someone else, don`t worry, this world is filled with great guys, maybe they all wont be as amazing as Harrison, but i`m sure you`ll have a lot of luck, ok!? if you ever need help with this you can always talk to me, or your friends or anyone really, just please don`t stress out too much, relax & calm down. Just take a couple of days to yourself to think about it and to just reflect, and then maybe the best thing from there is to move on. But don`t entirly forget about him, but don`t obsess over him, you know? Just keep going on with your life..
i wish you the best of luck & love to you!
xo0x- Kata
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its horrible i know i lost alot of family members that were my best friends its hard but killing yourself woulnt do anything live life at the fullest what would he have wanted you to do just be happy and you dont have to forget memories are supposed to be happy its hard to loose someone you love.....harrison sounds like an awsome guy ...
i hope i helped
-pjams
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well maybe you need a good friend rite now thats a girl....by your side..listen ill be here if you need anything my email is prin_cess922@yahoo.com so email me anytime and well i think that you need to find a boy...totally oppisite of harrison BUT not in the bad way...so you can get ur mind off of him
hope i helped
sorry dear
<3
Amber Nicole
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Well thats is a tradgedy beyond my comprehension lauren. I can say that i am truelly sorry you lost the love of your life my heart bleeds for you i really mean it. U say you where obsessing but no you weren't you where moarning and taking it the way you felt right. You dont need to move on to new guys unless you want too. As for killing yourself to join him( i won't say i understand there's no possible way i could)but jus think. Would Harrison want you to do that? I mean you loved the guy and all and he loved you too. He still does. Every day he watches over you and gaurds you like im sure he did way back when! He's there watching over you. No-one expects you to move on like nothing has happened life don't work like that. But my suggestion is you speak to peiople. Or maybe only some-one. A famly member a close friend. And explain hor you're feeling. I think that (and i am not bein callous) you should try and go out and have fun and do things to keep your mind active. Because although you still mourn him and you still love him. Ypu have to do something to stop thinking of him as much. For if you do it will tear you apart worse than befor. I really don't know what more i can say too help as i've never been in a situation like that. I am only tryin g to tell you what i would do and i sincerely hope it helps.
Deepest of regards and respect.
Anthony xXx
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You should never kill yourself. You shouold think of Harrison is watching down on you and he would want you to live life. Since you guys loved eachother he would want you to be happy not sad. Remember he is your gardian angel. You should talk to someone about this it will make you feel better. It did for me when i lost a loved one. I hope I helped.
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I`m so sorry that all of this happened to you. I honestly don`t want to even imagine how horrible it was to go through this.
Do not kill yourself. He wouldn`t have wanted you to do that. He obviously loved you as well, and he would have wanted you to been happy - not sad. Of course, right now it is hard to be happy, but in the future, just keep in mind the good memories and how he wouldn`t want you to ruin your life. There will be no other guy like him, but one day you might just find someone almost as good as he was, and will love you, so don`t feel horrible for wanting to move on.
My advice is to keep a diary or talk to a therapist [or even a very close friend] and keep an open mind and talk everything through.
If you need <b>absolutely</b> anything, do not hesitate to message me. Hope I`ve Helped ♥
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There is no such word as unseperable. It's inseperable. Yeah, I think you should move on, becasue a true real boyfriend will help yo through this. Good luck!
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wow i am soooo sry i know how it feels to loose people you love and suicide really isnt whats right. consider this you found something so precious in life that most people wait there whole lives trying to find and that is true love. im sure youll never feel the same but why not try and find something to keep your mind away from the sadness and help you see whats ahead of you. this is normal for ppl to say but im sure that he wouldnt want to you sulk in your sorrow. you might try writing letters to harrison it helped me when my dad and uncle past away it might help you. i wouldnt even consider suicide because life is truly whats precious and im sure he would tell you the same thing.
i hope i helped if you ever want to talk pls let me know. i totally understand what its like to lose the people you love the most
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Suicide is not the answer...he truly loves you and will wait for you...
You can pray to him...
Try to go out more with your friends to make yourself feel better.
Very,very sorry :(
-Long Lost <3
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Lauren,
Going through losing someone so close to you is such a huge loss. I can't imagine how you feel. Life takes turns that sometimes hit us like a ton of bricks. I can tell you though that based on what you've said about your relationship with him, he really meant a lot to you and I know that he is out there somewhere looking over you..I know that he would not want you wasting away here wallowing in sadness. He wouldn't want you to stop your life because his ended. He would want you to live and love and be happy. He would want you to be successful, whatever that means to you. He would want you to find happiness even though he's not here. Killing yourself to be with him is not the thing to do - 'being with someone' in the spirit world is just not the same as it is here. You will be with him one day and he will be waiting. Don't throw away your beautiful life now - I really don't think he would want you to. If anything just appreciate every day you are alive and arriving places safely. Make a memory box of him and write memories for you to cherish. Get a notebook and write him letters - kind of like your diary - but to him. Tell him how you feel. Talk to him, he can hear you. You don't have to make a huge jump from grief to happiness today - just take baby steps. Some of the steps may lead you through anger and rage to frustration and then maybe you can get to irriation and eventually hopeful. Don't be hard on yourself. Remember the good times and cherish them, but don't waste your now being miserable because you can be anything you want! You get to decide.
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wow i can really tell you are hurting right now, im sorry for your mom passing on and his reck. but now you have to move on. i now it is really hard to but you can not live in the past. just put one foot infront of the other. maybe you try joining a local church, i'm sure that would help alot if you dont already. try takeing up a sport, you dont have to play it enless you want, but like prehaps soccer or football or baseball or something, you can watch the game/s on your tv to take your mind off of everything else.
i hope you feel better
cam
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Lauren
There are no words i can say to begin to describe the pain i feel from just simply reading your question. I even had tears fall down my cheeks. I could only imagine the pain and hurt you are going through yourself! I honestly wish i would help but the truth is there is nothing i could say or do to make all the pain go away! There isn't a cure for such a thing like this! All you need is love from your family , and support from your friends! I want you to know that you have me! if you ever need a friend or just a talk. Im here! Lauren i want you to know it's ok to cry! It's ok to hide from the world for a little while, but life goes on and so should you! You dont need to forget him, thats the last thing he wants, he wants you to always remember all the memories you had! He want's you to find someone that loved you just as much as he loved you! If you feel sad and start to miss him just talk to him! whenver, wherever. It could be when your getting ready to get into bed. Or when your coming home from work! Hes there. Trust me. You may not see him but he will always be there to listin to you. He wont respond but he's there. Think of it this way. The wind. We cannot see it but it doesnt mean its not there! And lauren remember TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES!
♥ maria ♥
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omg i feel so bad i know what your going through but think would harrsion want you to be miserable he would want you to have fun and date other guys. not forget about him or push him out of your life completely just think if you died what you want him to do probaly be happy. so go date other guys but you will always remember him. hope everything works out. xojess
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Lauren,
I know how you feel i never lost a love one like that but i can imagine the pain you are going through. I know that Harrison will want the best for you ,dont try to kill yourself there is so much more life to be lived and for you to experience so many wonderful things. I understand that you are going through a great deal of sorrow but honey you need to try to move on and later in life you will find some one like him hopefully but now you cant keep on feeling so miserable its not good for you.Try to go out and have fun with your friends for Harrison's sake, then maybe you will feel alot better.Think of it as he is looking down on you smiling and wanting for you to be happy. Good luck and if you need any more help im here for you.♥Kate
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i konw that you still miss him i think that you should move on i mean you may might find someone like harrison but you may find someone like him theres nothing wrong with nissing him but if you really believe in god and if you kill your self then you going to hell and if you dont look for someone els you will be lonly for the rest of your life well i hoped i helped and if you have ne more quistions drop em in my inbox
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first of all I am very sorry for your loss...i dont know if i can really help you becasue it seems like you know what you should do, its just a state of mind..maybe talk to a councelor? that could really help. Its so tough to get over someone after they die and it seems especially difficult in your situation! but remember sucide is not the way! its a sin and harrison wouldnt want you to, he would want you to continue your life and live it happily! i hope everything works out! &hearts very sorry!!
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