When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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i applied lyclear. twice since monday. i am still itching and still have the rash. does it mean that the scabie are going? (link)
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I think you must consult with a doctor, and follow up with him, because no one here will be able to give you a better diagnosis. You have to be on the safe side. Maybe he would suggest increasing the dose of the medicine, or a different medicine, or maybe the scabies are not going, so he will use a different route of treatment.
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hey so on facebook there was a guy who messaged me and he told me he went to a school in the same city as me. his name was Danny Spencer. and i blocked him. well this is going to sound dumb but i unblocked him and he messaged me. i didn't think he would but he did and i asked him who he was and apparently he goes to community college with me but i don't think I've ever seen him. i blocked him when he replied. and today i got on facebook and one of my old friends went to school with and on her facebook she said dear Danny Spencer leave us all alone, and there were a few other girls who said that he tried to contact him. and one girl said he kept texting her. i asked my friend on her status who he was and she said that he's some white guy who looks like a drowned rat and thinks he's black. well my concern is what if i see him at school and he starts talking to him? or what if i happened to see him what should i do? i know the chances of him going to school with me are slim because people make stuff up on facebook, but he's creepy. i don't have any information on my facebook like where i live or my phone number on there so he can contact me, but i am scared what should i do? (link)
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You shouldn't worry at all, he's just a pathetic person with no life, and he wants to make friends with anyone. He isn't a psycho apparently, since he's already contacted so many other girls before, and nothing happened to them thank god. Since they are simply writing to him on facebook to leave them alone, then its nothing serious, if it was something serious, they would've told their parents, or an older responsible person. But apparently, he's just a stupid guy, and like you said, they saw him, and they say he looks stupid, so obviously when they saw him, nothing happened. So if you see him, ignore him completely, and if he tries to talk to you, tell him to leave you alone and that you're not interested, and if he ever tries to contact you again, you'll tell someone and you'll pull him out of college, and threaten that your parents know the dean of college or something and are friends, so you can really do that, you know, and if he still tries to talk to you, tell someone older like your parents, or someone responsible in college.
And you should take that as a lesson not to add or accept requests from people you don't know, online people are freaks, and it was wrong when you unblocked him after you had blocked him, you should never trust a complete stranger, even if he says he's in the same class with you.
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to get rid of smell (link)
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Mild to moderate vaginal small is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about. However, a particularly potent or fishy smell may be a sign that something is wrong. Such a strong odor could indicate an infection like bacterial vaginosis or something more serious. It's important to pay attention to your body's signals and act accordingly, especially if you experience other symptoms such as itching or pain. Fortunately, most vaginal smells can be reduced by improving your personal hygiene and diet. Just realize that the vagina is a sensitive organ that should be treated with care.
Instructions:
1-Change to a light cotton underwear if you wear pantyhose, tights, Spandex, or synthetic underwear. Cotton will allow the vulva to breathe and help reduce the amount of sweating. Excess perspiration in the vaginal area can cause your vagina to smell.
2-Take steps to improve your personal hygiene. Make sure to wash your genital area with a mild anti-bacterial soap every time you bathe. Gently scrub the area and dry completely when you get out of the shower. You may want to consider bathing more than once a day, especially if you perspire a lot or exercise often.
3-Wear loose fitting pajamas or a nightgown when you sleep. The body produces a lot of sweat during sleep, and it's important to allow air to circulate around your vagina so it stays dry.
4-Apply cornstarch to your vagina. This is a natural remedy to help control moisture and reduce odor in the vagina. It's perfectly safe and very inexpensive.
5-Improve your diet and habits. Eat lots of fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and legumes to promote a healthy immune system. Drink eight glasses of water a day to help your body flush out toxins. Avoid alcohol, sugar, cigarettes, and stress.
6-If all else fails, ask your doctor about feminine deodorant spray. This is a bit risky because the vagina is a mucous membrane and can become irritated easily by antiperspirants. Be sure to follow instructions for safe use.
This is the link where I got this information
http://www.ehow.com/how_5621538_rid-vaginal-smell.html
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to clean the right way (link)
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Your vagina is self-cleaning - you do not have to do anything to clean it internally. Most medical professionals will tell you that douching is not recommended or considered safe, as it can upset the balance of the vagina's natural bacteria and increase your chances of infection.You can wash the outside with soap and water the same way you do the rest of your body.
Copied from Yahoo!Answers.
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He had me text her to ask what she thinks of him: So here is what I texted, "I work with someone I think you know, what do you think of him, would you ever go on a date with him?" and she texted back an hour later, "No thanks." I never brought it up to her again. It's been weeks and it's been awkward at work. All he talks about is how great she looked 2 days ago when he saw her again. He has had rejections like this before and has taken it really hard. Poor self-esteem. How do I break it to him that, she's just no that into him, softly? (link)
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I can think of the reasons she might have said no, cause such an action of making YOU text her and ask her is really childish, it's very Junior school behaviour you know. A girl likes a man, and this move is not very manly, he should have told her himself and face to face.
I think you should show him the text, but point out where he went wrong, tell him that if he likes her, he should have gone up to her and talked to her, even tried to be friends with her at first, tried to get to know her, take this step by step, because if you just text someone and tell them a stranger likes you, of course they'd say no, cause she doesn't really know him, but maybe if she does, she'd actually like him. It's not too late for a second chance, but if he wants to attract her, then he has to be more manly about it and not hide in the shadows behind you as a messenger. And yes poor self esteem, cause he should put himself out there, for people to actually see him and want to be with him.
Besides, HE doesn't really know her either, so maybe if she had said yes and they'd gotten together, he wouldn't have liked her very much. Befriending someone is always the first step, so that if you'd ever get involved with this person, you'd at least know anything about them. Why take it hard over a rejection from a person that might have not been right for you in the first place? Things might have not worked out, HE might have not liked her after all. Tell him that.
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16/f So I like this guy and I want to tell him. But I'm wondering if it would be lame to talk to one of his best friends, a girl who is our mutual friend, about it. I was thinking that telling her might save me some possible embarrassment. But it's not full proof because even if i told her to keep it a secret she could easily tell him about it. Also, I can't help feeling that telling her instead of him just cheapens the whole thing. It makes me feel like I'm 10 or something! What is the best way to ask a guy out? (link)
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I think telling his best friend is NOT a good idea, because she might tell him, and not only tell him, but tell him in this way as in making fun of you, or encouraging him against it, or telling him something negative about you, no matter if your her friend too, you never really know what she'd say, after all she's a mutual friend, but she's not your best friend that you totally trust. So she might just say something wrong that could fire back at you.
There is no best way in asking a guy out, actually it will always be awkward and weird, cause you don't really know if this guy likes you back, so imagine the embarassment if he doesn't, and if he says that to you, or if he tells his friend to tell you that, and then you'd have to see him everyday in school, when he knows that you like him and you tried to ask him out, but he didn't like you back. I'm not saying that to put your hopes down, but I'm trying to help you picture the situation, cause some guys could be mean, and go around telling their guy friends that you asked him out but he doesn't like you back and he rejected and stuff.
So the best way is, is to get to know the guy, go up and talk to him, befriend him, see how he really is like, what type of person, see if you would even still have the same feelings for him when you actually get closer to him and get to know him, he might not be the person you thought he is from a distance. And when you do know him, then it will be your choice to think whether you want to be with him or not afterall, and even if you still do, at least he would have come to know you more, so when you ask him, it wouldn't be weird, cause you know what, maybe he would have liked you then and he would ask you first.
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Is it a good idea to pursue a high school relationship during senior year? I can't predict the future of this relationship, whether or not it will last, but in all likelihood we will be separated by college. I'm going on to college and the girl is still going to be in high school. Is it worth it? (link)
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To be completely honest, if you're here and asking this question, it means that you don't really love this girl, as in love love, as in true love. It's probably just like another person your dating and then you expect that one day you're going to break up, like you know that she's not the one.
People who are really in love, don't even think of that, don't even think that since they'll be seperated in the future, then should they continue their relationship? On the contrary, they think of ways to be together, and they even start planning how would they manage seeing each other, and when would they visit and how they'll stay in touch, some even go to the extent, of changing their whole future for each other, like changing colleges next to her high school, or she transfering next to your college. But when you come here and say, is it worth it? Then no, it is so not worth it, and I say that without doubt, without even knowing anything about your relationship. Do you understand what I mean?
But my advice to you is, somewhere along the line, you might discover that she IS the one, only time would show. So I suggest for you not to break off the relationship, because why would you? what would be your reason? Like ' oh I discovered we will be seperated after a year, so I'm breaking up with you now' it doesn't make since, and it would hurt the person in front of you, cause you have no reasons. Maybe she's an amazing person, and yet you break up with her, why? You know. I think you should continue with this girl, and if things really don't work out for solid reasons or if before you graduate, you still think she's not the one, and your still questioning yourself if she's worth it, then break it off.
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Alright, so my boyfriend and I of 11 months we were having phone sex, and apparently I was getting to loud at it and my father..which was next door he called attention to my mom, and after I got off the phone, she started yelling at me over it, and asking why I changed my underwear, and I was utterly embarrassed, so when mu bf called back he felt bad, and he said it was his fault and he would tell her we weren't doing anything, so he did..but than afterwords my mom kept bitching saying " I know thats not the truth" and she says I best tell the truth, it will make things better so I decided to tell her the truth. Now its the next day and she won't stop saying " I'm disappointed in you." " Thats so slutty to do." All those things. Also we were planning , sense my boy friend doesn't have such a great home life, his grand mother is all he has and she leaves him for months with no moeny and sense my boyfriend is a senior after this year he was going to move in. Now she says not until shes trusts us again. Now I don't know what to do now? All this is my fault according to her, my boyfriend and I were just expressing are feelings for each other, we don't have sex..we feel it wasn't anything bad. What is it that you guys think? Now I feel horrible, and embarrassed. :/ (link)
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No matter what you say, your mom is not going to understand your point of view or believe you, no matter how many times you try to apologize or explain or convince her otherwise. The only thing that you can do, is give this time, and during this time, prove her wrong, prove to her that your intentions together are not sexual, and that you do not plan to have sex, and how much your boyfriend is a decent guy. You can do that by talking to her, by showing her in actions. It just caught her off guard, she was surprised and she didn't expect that, I mean, you can't blame her, after all, she found out about it while you were doing it, you know, it's not so good. So her not talking to you is probably just an initial reaction of shock, so just give it time, maybe even a couple of days or something, and then try to talk to her again when she has calmed down. And I'm sure that your mom knows that you're a good person, and that it's not like you do that all the time, or regularly with random guys. He's your boyfriend and I'm sure your mom knows him as well and knows that he's decent, enough to have agreed to allow him to stay in the house with you. And tell her that you would never actually have the actual sex act, it was just a means of expressing your feelings, and that you would never go further, you know. Also tell her, that you don't do that all the time, and that it was the first time (even if it wasn't), and that you wouldn't do it again (even if you will), and that you were wrong and your sorry, and she's right, she had trust in you and you should've been worth it and stuff, you know.
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Right, so I love wearing girls clothes but I am not gay I like girls and I have a girl friend but most of the time I feel that I want to be a girl am I just a cross dresser or something else, Thanks :) (link)
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Well being gay is to sexually be interested in guys, and that they'd turn you on and stuff, but as long as whatever feelings you have are not sexual, then it's completely normal. Sometimes, it's just a habit, or a person is curious about 'what if he had been of the opposite sex'. I think it's normal, and you don't have anything to worry about. It might just even be a phase, and you'll get past it.
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hi, so im a junior in high school 16 years old. i've made out with 5 boys only one and a half where my boyfriend....long story short. i like this boy a lot, hes a year older dropped out of his senior year than he came back. we hang out at LEAST 2 times a week.. hes unbelievably gorgeous.. model material -seriously. i reach his standards- i think. i'm 5"4 and 110 pounds, not so many pimples and i dress cool. i jjust need to know WHAT IS THIS? should i end it? i dont know what it is i see him in school everyday, s he takes me home if i need a ride and he's so sweet, but in front of people i dont know if it's shyness or something but he doesnt talk to me, he barely looks in my direction. all of my friends know about him, and many of his friends know about him and i. what are we, a thing? i hooked up with him, hes fingered me, ive given him a handjob. he wants to go down on me, i wont let him. is he in it for the ass? he's turning 18 in like 3 monthes.. i reallly think i love him, but he also hangs out with "shtoop'" =public school girls who give the boys ass. he doesnt have somany morals when it comes to that and claims that he doesnt hook up wiht anyone but me nnbut how am i supposed to trust him? if i hooked up with another guy (no desire to) but if i did hed probably get pissed off.. we hang out a lot, more than use=ual these days. we bbm during school an he gives me the cutest looks.. what is this? what am i doing with my life, please help me. my whole family dissaproves becasue of his reputation with girl; he used them and talks about it after.... i dont know what to do, i tryed stopping hanging out with him but i just cant do it i cant let go, i feel like ive found someone exactly like me not a soul-mate, but boyfrined material an adorable... hes so inntimidating and scares al my friends- he's really gorgeous. but i am not scared of him, i like him and how everyone;s scared, i like everything about him, i dont care when he smokes or drinks, but other girls--thats killing me trust, and what are we? please help as soon as you read this n be honest, i sound like a pathetic 13 year old but its my life. i live in a tightnit community and things get out and around quick.. i dont want this out, and if it does i want to have been his girlfriend..... help please remmeber same school, my family disaprroves, and hes unbelievabley beautiful- inside and out. sorry for spelling i cant spell to save someones lifee (link)
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I think you should definitely let go. You see, from where you are, when you are the one with the problem, when you are involved in it, you are too blind to see how it really sounds, but me, from where I am, a complete stranger listening to it, I can make total sense out of it, and read what it really means, and you might not be convinced with what i will say because of that, but this is the truth.
He is not a good person, he's the kind of boy who's a player, he just wants to have fun, he's not in it to commit or to look for a serious relationship, he doesn't even want a girlfriend, he doesn't want to be in love. What does he want then? He wants to have fun, to get laid and to hook up with so many girls, so he can have a good story to go home with everyday, to tell all his friends and show off that yet another girl fell for his looks and had sex with him,and he is enjoying that so much, and you, with what you are doing, you are exactly just another one of those girls. And I know that you love him so much, and that you can't let go, so you are trying to believe the best in him, and believe that he doesn't sleep with anyone else, but actually he does, and it's so typical the way he tells you that you are the only one, ofcourse you shouldn't trust him.
And what proves what I'm saying more, is that he doesn't talk to you at all in school, you said it yourself, he doesn't even look in your direction, why would he do that? why not even at least say hi? cause your not his girlfriend, and your not the person he wants to walk around in front of people with, and be proud of being with you, he just wants to sleep with you, and take from you as much as he can, and then probably leave you, and think of you as another one of those he once had fall for him.
Please trust me on this and let go, as hard as it is, and as much as you can't resist his looks and his charm, you have to let go, and don't give him anything, don't sleep with him, because he is not the one.
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17/f and he's 20/m
5 hours ago, we broke up for the first time. I mean, actually break up. I swallowed my pride and went after him asking to give me another chance. He said, he really didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. His reason was because he feels like his personality isn't fit for a relationship. It sucked. He knew I was the type of girl who would not date someone that I dated once. Until I said, "if we were destined to be together, then we'll be together later. Just not now." After I said that, he asked if I actually believed in that. Later on, he said... "I hope I'll come back." He cried outside my window for a while, I couldn't believe it was over. We kissed for the last time, and he said "I really do hope I'll come back. I definitely do not want to fall in love with another girl." He promised me we'll still be friends. He said he still really liked me, he just doesn't know about love, he was wondering what was the definition of love.
I woke up this morning feeling empty. I missed my first class because I just felt so sad. If I left now, I'd still be counted absent. I couldn't help myself, but called him. I told him I missed him, he said he missed me. And that karma already hit him, he said he was miserable and everything. Later on, he told me that hopefully he'll come back, when he grows up. What he means by that is that, he wants to find out what he wants to do and have full confidence in himself.
Then he said, he will come back. After he grows up. Now he's laying down next to me, he came over to be here for me as a "friend". But he's really asleep.
I don't know what exactly is going on in my mind. I have that feeling of full confidence, I know things are going to work out. Or something will him have come back, but yet I'm also doubting myself. I wouldn't know what would happen. I don't want high hopes, and I get hurt again. But yet, I didn't cry as hard as I thought. I felt somewhat relieved but at the same time, I wanted him back.
What is he thinking exactly? Is he really telling the truth? What should I do? (link)
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Okay, well it sounds to me like he's confused, really really confused, and has so much going on in his mind. I think that the problem is not in your relationship, and not in you, its in his life, things he feels he has to figure out. Sometimes we feel that we haven't really accomplished anything in our lives, and we feel that our life is such a waste, and we're not really moving, you know, like life is going on, but we're just stuck there in the same place. And even though you might have someone that you really love by your side, which is you, he feels that there is more out there, and more he could do, and not only for himself, but for the both of you, you know. He wants to feel like he's done something,he is something, so he could be enough for you, so he could be fit to commit in a relationship. I think you should just give him time, it's just a phase, and once he has a plan, or a goal or just knows what he's going to do, he'll come back. But for the meantime, you should be there by his side as much as you can, and tell him how much you love him, and you'll wait for him no matter how much time he takes to figure things out, you'll wait.
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Hi all
My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, I still really wanted to be with him but he didn't show any signs of wanting to get back together, although he said he "still wanted to be with me" and he "still loved me" He was upset when I said I didn't want to speak anymore, I felt I couldn't move on if we still spoke. I started seeing a new guy recently, and my ex boyfriend found out. He text me saying "I know you are seeing other guys so there is nothing I can do but you never know what will happen" I said what do you mean? He said "Things change, you don't know what will happen in the future. You could break up with him and then we get back together"
Why would you say that to someone you don't want to be with???? (link)
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He does want to be with you, but he was just acting cool or maybe he was mad at the moment he said that. But then when he saw that you are really moving on and you are actually dating someone else, he immediately regretted that he didn't take you back when he could have. It's this human nature, that you have to confront the person with the situation for them to believe that its true or possible, like he would have never imagined that you'd move on so fast, and he probably thought that you'd get back together or that you'd keep trying to get him back, but when the opposite happened, he didn't know what to do, so he told you that.
Look, if you don't want to be with him anymore, and if that new guy is worth it and is a good person, then stick with him, and just let go of your ex, and ignore what ever he says, he had his chance to get u back, and if he really did love you, he would've gotten over his ego or whatever and agreed to take you back, instead of acting cool and wanting you to beg him to take you back. You did well when you stood your ground, first you gave him a chance to take you back, and when he wouldn't , you said not to speak anymore, and then you moved on, and that's great, now don't let anything stop you.
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16/F
So for the past 8 months I've been talking this guy on twitter. We used to roleplay as a fake couple. Well five months into talking with eachother I confessed I've grown feelings for him. He admitted the same to me. Then we started talking about real life stuff like our friends, family, school, and our past. Everyday we would talk about the most random things. Soon its been 6 months and we start saying "I love you." And I know the internet is never safe because you dont really see the person behind the screen and it could be some online predator but something felt right. I mean after seven months why hasn't he made a move if he is an "online predator?" He never asked me about my town or school or my last name. He straight up told me everything but never asked me once. So I told him everything and he put "Why did you tell me that? You didnt have to." sooo yeah. He always talks to me about school and homework and how he took his best friend to the dance for fun. And he always asks me to help with his math homework (lol) and I always do. I mean if this guy is a "predator" he's really good and sneaky and patient to meet me. I told my mom about this cause I thought she should know and she wasnt to happy about it. After everything I told her she is still uncertain..but I told Forest,the boy, that my mom knows and he did nothing...wouldn't he be scared and stop talking to me if he know my parents know?
I want to meet Forest cause its killing me inside, I live in Iowa and he lives in California. She says she will believe this when she meets him in real life and well I dont blame her. But how can I convince my mom to get us to meet him?
Sorry if this is long and makes no sense (link)
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Well what about you get to know him more, like using video chat, or make him send you a picture of himself, or like take his number and call each other, and get your mom involved too, like when you chat via video, maybe your mom could be there too, you know? And yes online relationships could be weird and scary, but sometimes they do actually work out. So I think you should take a risk and go forward with this relationship, and you should trust him, because you're right, it's been a long while now, and if he was going to do any pervert thing, he would've done it. But if you're like getting really serious, maybe he should tell his parents too, I mean, it was a really good thing that you told your mom, it means that you are not doing anything wrong or behind her back, but maybe he should tell his parents too, and maybe your parents and his parents could get to know each other, chat or talk on the phone or whatever, you know, just to even assure your mother, that if she talks to his parents, even if for one time, just so she could know that his parents are aware and its safe, you know.
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For some reason I always get these little crushes on guys younger than I am. It hurts me to know that it'll never work out. I'm 18 anyway so it's kind of illegal anyway. I'm not going to date any of them but does any one have a reason why I might like the younger guys?
I also think it may because I'm always told I'm pretty and beautiful but that's it and it never goes any further. My two best friends both have bobyfriends and both go out on double dates together all the time. Makes me feel left out when they do that. We do hang out together other times but it still hurts that they go out on double dates and can't invite me because I'm always single.
I'm very outgoing. I'm fun. I love to party and act silly. I'm in college, but I hate it. I don't talk to anyone and nobody really looks like the care to talk to me.
I just don't understand why I go for the younger guys all the time. Then, I end up getting upset about it. (link)
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Maybe it's cause no guys of your age talk to you or show much interest in actually being with you, meaning what you said that you hate college and you don't talk to anyone, well why don't you? Maybe if you start being more social and getting to know people there, you'd actually meet a good guy of your age and he'll show interest in you, and then just the feeling of someone caring for you back, is going to occupy you, being in a relationship and having someone. But right now, you just completely ignore college, and you probably go for the younger guys cause those are the people who show interest, cause ofcourse they would, younger guys would die to know someone older, and have someone older to show off in front of their friends, and they go like ' oh i'm dating a college girl, I'm cool', but they would never take you serious, cause no guy likes to get involved with a girl whose older, cause it would be weird for him, and it would seem like your the man and not him, he's like younger and childish. So you definitely have to start building some social life in college, and these love things take time,don't rush it, it will come when it comes,and you'll enjoy it then, but right now, you can enjoy the single life, it has its advantages you know, you only learn them when you are involved lol
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Sometimes i think and get to a conclusion or a thought. Then, i think that the thought which i got was a very great thought. I have done a very great deed. Then, the other moment, i think that what i thought was not such a great thing. I did not make a great achievement. At once i get very much interested in a thing and the next moment i get bored as bored could be. There's a lot of mood swing going in. Is it a disorder? What can i do to cure it? (link)
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No, that's not a disorder, actually I am kind of like that too. But it's mostly being indecisive, or confused, or you don't set a certain goal in front of you, so you're just basically like doing anything, and its like every time you start something, you are so interested and suddenly it's all what you want to do, but then after a very short time after it, you suddenly lose interest, and just get bored with it, and you usually don't finish what you started. It's completely normal, but I promise you that there will come a time when you will find something, but you will actually really enjoy it for the whole time it lasts, because it will be your thing, that thing that you like, and people will even recognize you with that thing, which will make you feel better, and feel that this is your own accomplishment that you were successful in, sometimes we need a boost or someone to encourage us. Maybe if you share your thoughts with someone, and take a second opinion, then your thoughts would actually be more meaningful to you, and you can take the right decision.
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so i'm going with my school on this field trip and was thinking of wearing a short top but i have love handles i mean it doesn't look that bad but do guys like love handles? because theres this guy that i want to impress (link)
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Well I'm a girl, so I'm not sure what a guy would like, but I've never heard of a guy that likes love handles, not that I've heard of one that hates them, but honestly, I don't think that it's something that a guy ever thought of liking or not liking. I think that you should be confident about the way you look, and if you mean to impress a guy, then if this guy doesn't like you the way you are and the way you look either if you are wearing a long top or a short one, or if you have love handles, then this guy is not worth it, and obviously he just wants you for your looks. The guy who would really love you, is the one who loves you for your personality and the person who you are, and not the person you look like. So ya wear that top and show off those love handles, and don't care about what anyone thinks. Impress on! hehe
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I have been having a lot of stumoch pain and it it just getting worse. The pain also involes my legs and migranes. The pain in my stumoch hurts mostly after I eat certain food and it hurts my upper stumoch. But like right now im having lower adominal pain and it hurts on and off I get back pain. I am only 19 and i feel like im 90 (link)
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I think you should consult a doctor, and tell him your symptoms exactly, and he'll give you the right diagnosis, cause here, we might try to guess your diagnosis or give you links to websites that might help you, but the doctor is going to give you the right medication you need to get well. So please book an appointment and see someone, and hopefully it won't be anything serious, but one always has to be on the safe side, and better early not late.
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20 female - Joe 19
I've known Joe for about 5 years now. He is like my best guy friend. I can tell him anything and trust him with my life which I can't do with many people. I've always had a crush on him. When I find another guy, I always seem to think about him. Sometimes the things he does and how he acts towards me makes me think he likes me more than a friend but I don't know.
He's always giving me hugs
He always listens, no matter what it is
I know he is attracted to me
He talks to me different than other girls I've realized, even texting. He short texts all other girls but with me he's different
Sometimes I will say love you at the end of a text or something and he always says "love you too linds!" which makes me smile
It seems like when we're around people and other guys he tries to "show me off" in a way
When he found out I was "talking" to another guy, I could tell he got really jealous
We ALWAYS flirt when we're together and the occasional cuddle
At a bonfire I was crying because I found out bad news with my family and I came back and he was like Linds come sit right here and he was pointing to his lap so I sat there in his arms..i didn't want to leave.
I could go on and on. But these could just be him being my best friend too right? How can you tell if it's something more or not? The thing that makes me back off a little is he was with a girl for 3 years, his only girlfriend. They still talk and are really close which makes me doubt myself. I would say something about liking him but I don't want to make myself look stupid and have our friendship be awkward.
Then sometimes I feel like he doesn't like me because..
When I ask him about other guys or talk about them he doesn't say much. I don't know if he really is bothered or if he tries to hide it. I always seem to have to text him, but he is always busy, but if he liked me wouldn't he text me every now and then? People say he could be intimidated by me because everyone tells me how pretty I am (not sounding conceited) but he is really cute too all the girls want him. Why doesn't he just make a move sometime!!? Sometimes I feel like he wants to kiss me or do something but he won't.
There are so many mixed signals. Are there any big signs?? More and more I've realized that I have to put myself out there and I've been trying, I mean it's pretty obvious I want him. What do you guys think? Please don't say just tell him, It's not that easy. If I could have I would of 5 years ago.. (link)
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Okay, no I'm not going to tell you to just tell him, cause you shouldn't, I never really believe in girls making the first move, I feel like it makes the girl look manly or something. The point is, you are completely right to be confused, there are so many mixed signals here, and most of them say that he likes you and is trying to make a move but something is holding him back, and that thing could be the same thing that is holding you back, he's afraid you'd reject him, and then you'd lose your friendship as well. Best thing to do here, is to let things fall into place on their own, you shouldn't make a move, he should , and if he does love you, then he will make a move. When a person loves someone, they do anything to be with this person, and even if it means overcoming their fear and risking their friendship. So if he does like you, he will come around, you just have to wait, and enjoy what you have in the meantime. Maybe a little hinting around wouldn't hurt, like when you're talking, you can go like, do you ever picture us being together, do you think its possible, or something like that. Just give him the green light, that hint that tells him if you ask me to be your girlfriend, I will say yes. It's just a feeling you send across.
And about his ex girlfriend, if he still liked her, he would've gotten back with her, or he would've told you, there is nothing to stop him from doing that. So you shouldn't be intimidated by her or make that hold you back. They're probably just close cause after dating, they discovered that they are better off as just friends, some people don't work out as a couple, sometimes they are just meant to be friends, and that's probably how it is between him and his ex girlfriend.
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I had a nightmare that i was laying in a casket thirsty. this nightmare was so creepy. i'm scared that this is foreshadowing thati will die. but don't plenty of people have weird nightmares liket his that mean absolutely nothing at all? i'm scared haha is that a stupid reason to be?? I'm re doing my room and i liked this ruffly one and my twin says not to get it cause it looks like a dead girl's blanket so when i took my nap i was trying to figure out what would look good in my new room and maybe thats why i dreamt that? also, i began to think that i might be bisexual and i keep talking to this one guy who my sister likes and i'm scared that she'll find out and i commented a bisexual girl's picture on facebook saying your so pretty girl (link)
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Well in my religion as a muslim and in the books which explain the meaning of dreams,says that when you dream that your going to die, means you will have a very long life, its stupid i know lol, but that's how they explain it. A dream is always a dream, and even if something does happen to you, its not because you dreamt of it, dreams are not visions. You definitely just dreamt of that because of the 'dead girl's blanket' thingy. You shouldn't worry at all.
About the sexuality part... It's completely normal to feel attracted to your own sex and the opposite sex, its like we come into this world, and you don't choose your sex, so you start to explore, and its as if there comes this certain point when you define your own sex, the point when your sure that you can only be with guys, or only with girls, or you feel its normal to be with both. Maybe your not quiet at that point yet, your not sure yet, you're confused, and there is nothing wrong in being confused, we're all confused all the time, but usually what you should do is, to let things fall into place on their own, don't over think the issue, don't try to force yourself by making yourself believe that there are signals telling you that you are bisexual, if you are, then you will be, then you will end up doing something with the same sex, but if you are not, then you will feel disgusted when you actually confront that abnormal desire. There is a difference when you sit behind your computer screen and comment on a picture, and when you actually see someone infront of you and you are about to do a sexual act with them, then you will know what you really are.
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ok so i have this friend who i just met about 2 months ago, and ever since ive been obsessed with her. its not like i stalk her because were actally good friends and at least i think she likes me too. the only thing is i really like her too much (not in a lesbian way, i just mean in a friendly way) like i get jelous when other people talk to her and my day doesnt feel complete without seeing her. like if she doesnt come to school one day because shes sick, my day is siginificantly worse. i realize its a good thing to like your friends but i spend way too much time obsessesing over with person and waiting to see them or for them to text me or anything.
what do i do?
pleas help! (link)
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I know exactly how you feel, I've been obsessing over my friend whose a girl, for 4 years now, and I'm still not over her, even though we broke up our friendship in the end, cause of certain reasons, I never got over her, and I always tried to have her back, but she wouldn't. I just love her so much, that even my own family thought that it might being something lesbian, but its not, and i'm the only one who understands that, she's just amazing, everything about her, and its like i want her to myself and no one else. I wrote about 10 stories about her, and I even counted the days I cried over her when we broke up, it was crazy, but it was never lesbian like.
There is nothing wrong to love someone so much, or have a person who makes your day and makes you happy, just enjoy it, stop questioning what's between you, cause what's between you is completely normal, so enjoy it and live as much as you can of it, and take this advice from me, don't ever lose her, don't ever hurt her in anyway or fight with her, just don't lose her, cause losing her would kill you and you'd regret it for the rest of your life.
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