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He had me text her to ask what she thinks of him
He had me text her to ask what she thinks of him: So here is what I texted, "I work with someone I think you know, what do you think of him, would you ever go on a date with him?" and she texted back an hour later, "No thanks." I never brought it up to her again. It's been weeks and it's been awkward at work. All he talks about is how great she looked 2 days ago when he saw her again. He has had rejections like this before and has taken it really hard. Poor self-esteem. How do I break it to him that, she's just no that into him, softly?
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Just tell him. He should have gone up to her himself and tried talking to her. What girl would want a guy who has friend text her? But just either show him the texts or just tell him she's not interested. Good luck!
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I can think of the reasons she might have said no, cause such an action of making YOU text her and ask her is really childish, it's very Junior school behaviour you know. A girl likes a man, and this move is not very manly, he should have told her himself and face to face.
I think you should show him the text, but point out where he went wrong, tell him that if he likes her, he should have gone up to her and talked to her, even tried to be friends with her at first, tried to get to know her, take this step by step, because if you just text someone and tell them a stranger likes you, of course they'd say no, cause she doesn't really know him, but maybe if she does, she'd actually like him. It's not too late for a second chance, but if he wants to attract her, then he has to be more manly about it and not hide in the shadows behind you as a messenger. And yes poor self esteem, cause he should put himself out there, for people to actually see him and want to be with him.
Besides, HE doesn't really know her either, so maybe if she had said yes and they'd gotten together, he wouldn't have liked her very much. Befriending someone is always the first step, so that if you'd ever get involved with this person, you'd at least know anything about them. Why take it hard over a rejection from a person that might have not been right for you in the first place? Things might have not worked out, HE might have not liked her after all. Tell him that.
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I agree that I would just show him the text messages. If not just tell him hey I texted that girl and she said she wasnt interested. Tell him there are plenty of other girls out there and youll find one that really likes you as much as you like her.
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Did you keep the text or delete it? Show him it if you still have it. You're not responsible for his pain or taking things hard either.
It's better he know the truth from you rather than keep going after her and ultimately embarrassing himself around the office in which they both work.
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