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It seems I've spent many hours talking to my friends and offering advice, and as people keep coming back for it, I assume I'm not bad at it.I know what it's like to be in love, and I also know what it's like to have your heart broken. I know what it's like to be depressed and feel anger towards all the people that love you - your friends, your family, your parents, your teachers. Advice is something I've always been good at, as my friends tell me. So if you want honest advice, ask me and I'll do my best to answer.
Aside from that, here's the basic info on me:
BASiCS
001.Name: Valerie
002.D.O.B.: July 10, 1989
003.Place Of Birth: St. Petersburg, Russia
004.Location: Navarre, FL
005.Religion: open minded
006.Occupation: student at Navarre High
APPEARANCE
001.Hair: brown/blonde highlites, past shoulders
002.Eyes: blue-green
003.Height: 5'4"
STYLE
001.Clothing: Aeropostale, Pac Sun
002.Music: Yellowcard, Simple Plan, Avril Lavigne, Linkin Park, Trapt, Switchfoot
003.Make-up: eye liner and lip gloss
004.Body art: none
EITHER / OR
001.Club or houseparty: club
002.Tea or coffee: coffee
003.Achiever or slacker: a bit of both
004.Beer or cider: beer
005.Drinks or shots: shots
006.Cats or dogs: cats
007.Single or taken: both have advantages
008.Pen or pencil: pen
009.Gloves or mittens: gloves
010.Food or candy: food
011.Cassette or cd: CD's
012.Coke or Pepsi: Pepsi
013.Hard or mild alcohol: mild
014.Matches or a lighter: lighter
015.Sunset beach or sunrise: sunset
HAVE YOU EVER...
001.Dated one of your best friends? yes
002.Loved somebody so much it makes you cry? yes
003.Drank alcohol? yes
004.Done drugs: no
005.Broken the law: who hasnt?
006.Ran away from home: no
007.Broken a bone: no
008.Cheated on a test: ....yes
009.Skinny dipped: no but sounds fun
010.Played truth or dare: yes
011.Flashed someone: for me to know
012.Mooned someone: no
013.Kissed someone you didn't know: no
014.Been on a talk/game show: no
015.Been in a fight: yes
016.Ridden in a fire truck: not yet
017.Been on a plane: yes
018.Come close to dying: yes
019.Cheated on your boy/girlfriend: never
020.Gave someone a piggy back/shoulder ride: yes
021.Eaten a worm/mud pie? no
022.Swam in the ocean: yes
023.Had a dream that made you wake up: yes
ARE YOU...
001.A Vegetarian?: no
002.A Good Student?: yes
003.Good At Sports?: only if i like the sport
004.Good At Wakeboarding/Snowboarding: not rly
005.A Good Singer?: no, but i try LoL
006.A good Actor/Actress?: yes
007.A deep sleeper?: no
008.A Good Dancer?: so/so
009.Shy?: not really
010.Outgoing?: most of the time
011.A good storyteller?: ppl say I am
AM I...
1. Quiet or Loud?: can be both
2. Short or Tall?: ppl call me short...
3. Weird or Original?: heh...both
4. Nice or Mean?: nice
5. Friendly or Selfish?: friendly
6. Normal or "Special"?: you decide
7. Smart or Stupid?: smart...but blonde
8. Boring or Fun?: depends
5 things that attract me to the opposite sex:
1. eyes
2. smile
3. personality
4. sense of humor
5. honesty
Life throws things at you, your choice is what to do with the things you catch...Will you drop them and complain about how hard it is or will you catch them and learn from them? Its your choice...
advice
Alright me and my ex are really close and we talk about having sex alot...I mean all the time..I feel ready and I think Im ready...I'm only 14...He is 15...I have never hasd sex before and I'm not sure if I should wait or what I should do??? I mean he doesnt push me into anything and never has and never will... Will someone give me some advice on what to do???
Well, if you think you're ready...you're ready. This is a decision only you can make. Personally, I think you're both too young, but thats just me. Its good that he doesnt push you...but talking about it constantly could be a less direct way of pushing. Also, it'd mean a lot more to you personally if you waited until you were in love to have sex. My advice is, if you decide to do it, use protection. Good luck.
JyNxiE
I cant ever find the right guy for me. Most guys get mad becuase i always turn them down and they think i do it to make myself look to good for them. I just want to be with someone that i can tlak to and someone i find attractive someone who can make me laugh and someone who i can have a good time with. I cant seem to find anyone out there.
This is perfectly normal, just keep looking. The right guy will turn up eventually. After all, thats what everyone says, right? You sound like one of my good friends. She's a senior and still hasnt found anyone. So dont worry...in time, Mr.
Right will show up and you wont feel this way anymore. Good luck!
JyNxiE
Ok..So i am 16 years old and i have never had a serious relationship...I have been sexually active with guys but i am still a virgin....I tend to get attached to guys very easily and when i get them i get scared and i break away letting go a guy that cood possibly be someone who i cood date for awhile....am i scared or and i just doing this whole dating thing wrong? Ne advice?
For a while I was just like you, getting into relationships, getting scared, and ending them. There isnt really any specific advice I can give...everyone's different. In my case, a good friend of mine told me to let go of my fears and take a chance with someone. I did, and right now I dont know if I could be happier. So do you think that you're jsut afraid of getting hurt? If that's the case, the only thing you can do is take a change and hope things work out. They may not, and you could get hurt, but if you could be happy, isnt it worth the risk?
JyNxiE
VAL!! i love you! when are we swimming to mexico?!?! um.. about that.. i guess i should mention that i am deathly afraid of sharks, so um.. maybe it would be better if we biked to canada?? i dunno.. sumthin to think about. Um.. and missy: TURN OFF THE XBOX BEFORE YOU TRANSFORM INTO A GUY AND BECOME COMPLETELY ADDICTED!! GRR! FEAR ME!!!!!!!!! lol..ok im done now. anyways.. lylas ttyl ~*stefnie
Stef...you're afraid of sharks?? How immature! They're just fishies with ugly faces, pointy noses, and extremely sharp teeth, and they attack and eat anything they come across...geez, what's there to be afraid of? lol. Either way, you'd need your FLOATIE, but since I'm so mean I wont let you use mine and then you can have some alone time with the sharkies :) MWAHAHAH. *cough* sorry. Evil side coming out. AnywHoS. Biking up to Canada?? That's gonna be one hell of a long bike ride...but sure, I'm up for the challenge! And btw, you're too late...i'm already completely addicted to the xbox....LyLaS **VaL**
I've been with this boy for 9 months and for some reason I feel like things are ending. I love him and he says he loves me but I have this feeling inside that has been there for the past week that its coming to an end. I don't want it to come to an end and I'm not going to be the one who breaks it off but I just feel like he might be getting frustrated with me or sumthing? I mean I'm only 18 and I don't know if this is a gut feeling telling me to move on or what. He says he still loves me when I ask and when I ask him if he doesnt wanna be with me anymore he says that he still wants to but I cant explain this feeling. Has anyone else ever had this before???
I've had something similar to that. Sometimes your relationship might get boring, since you've talked about everything possible and all...the best way to help this is to do something you two have never done before. Go sky diving...i dont know, just something new. It should help.
JyNxiE
I'm 14. A day or two before my period, I tend to get this dark stain on my panties...the front of my panties, not where I would get a normal period stain. It's dark and kind of brown, and sort of thick. Do I have a disease or something?
Also, every single time in my period, I have a normal flow for maybe three days, then it stops for one or two days, then it starts again for only about half a day. Is this abnormal?
It's perfectly normal...every girl goes through that at one point or another, dont worry.
JyNxiE
I'm getting a haircut and I'm not sure what kind to get. I have dirty blonde hair to my shoulders. Its straight and really plain. No bangs. Any ideas?!?!?! I rate good if u give me a real answer!!! thanks a bunch!!
I think layers would look good. Maybe keep your original hair length, but also cut your bangs a little shorter and layers.
JyNxiE
Well i have thins friend lets call him Jen. Well Jen is so ANNOYING she follows me around EVERYWHERE. Everything i do she does. (ex: i color my hair, she does the same. i cut my bangs, she does the same. i make up crazy words, she says she did.) its getting really anoying and i cannot even joke with her about things and then she gets all mad. even my friends know her for a month and thinks she is annoying. She even tried to steal my BF and she didn't even like him she just wanted a bf. She also like a guy after one hour of knowing him. She always complains about not having a bf and i will never have one. and i cannot do much about. So what should i do be friends or not?
You should talk to her about it and see her side of the story. Maybe she's insecure and you're her only 'good' friend. Sit her down and talk. After that talk is when you need to decide if its worth being friends or not.
JyNxiE
There's this guy at my school that I really like, and think I am in love with (I have thought this for YEARS). But I'm afraid to start anything with him because he has kind of been the center of many jokes between me and my friends, and he's not exactly the hottest guy on earth lol. He is kind of short, in fact, I think I'm taller than him. But he's kind of cute in a way and I really like his personality. I know I could probably get a hotter guy, but for some reason I feel like he is the only one I could be happy with. But I am afraid of what my friends will think if I tell them I like him. So what should I do?
If they're really your friends they won't care. You need to be with people that make you happy, even if they're not the hottest on earth as you put it. AFter all, it's inside that matters, right? As long as you're happy, I dont think it matters what anyone else thinks.
JyNxiE
I have lost so many important and special people in my life that now I don't know who to trust anymore. I am getting really close to someone (everyone I get close to is an adult) and I am afraid of getting hurt by her like everyone else I get close to. I have told her this and she says that shes not like the other people, but how do I know. This is a person that I wish were my mother because she is just so incredible and my mom doesnt care about me. What do I do?
Here I thought I was the only one who had that trust issue. Sometimes it's worth taking a risk and letting someone in. You're risking getting hurt again, yes, but you're also risking being happy. Isn't that worth it? I had the same dilema a while back when my bf and I started dating. I was hurt so many times before by people I got close to, I didn't know if it was worth letting him in and risking getting hurt. I fought it for some time, but in the end realized I'm happier with him than I am without him. Thats the question you should ask yourself; are you happier with her or without her?
JyNxiE
It's almost xmas, and I don't have any gifts for my family. And worse of all, I can't go out and get gifts for them because I'm broke. Does anyone have any ideas how I can "make" a gift for my family? [I have one bro, 19, two parents, age unknown, and one sister, age 21.] If anyone could think of creative fun things I could make out of house hold items, I'd love you forever.
--Giftless
Make them a little scrap book of pictures. It's memorable and shows thoughtfullness.
JyNxiE
ok welll i am like in love with this kidd but he doesnt like me i do everything he says like wear whath he says but this one girl likes him and i was joking and said he is mine soo she gott madd at himm and hess mad at me when i was joking what do i doo!
First, you should never do everything a guy says and wear what he says. That gives off the 'obsession' vibe, which isnt all that good. Ask yourself, why love someone who doesnt love you? It's just a waste of time, isnt it? All you're doing is hurting yourself in the end.
JyNxiE
my boyfriend told people he dumped me even though he didnt and we sorta went to far one day n we did it it felt good i guess but it wasnt mi first time the thing iz wuz he just using me but he neva told me it was over so technically were still going out but the people he "told" hate me and they know that were hella close n sexually active but im scared that hes going to break up with me like rite after we had sex and i realli dont know what to do i was cryin all day because i thought he was cheating on me but i told him a lot of personal stuff and i realli like him alot i kno itz cheesey 2 cry bc mi bf wuz supposivly cheating on me but i cant help it were thos ppl he told really telling me tha truth? was he realli using me? im realli confused n i kno if i ask him hez guna act all sweet n tell me it wuz all liez n try 2 get in2 mi pantz agen
please help
signed
CONFUSED
First off, please learn to use correct punctuation. That was a very long and freaking hard to read sentence. But, if you're worried that he's just using you and will break up with you after you have sex, most likely you're right. Intuition is right most of the time. My advice would be to find someone who's better for you and who'll appreciate you for you, not for sex. It does sound like he's using you. You'd be doing yourself a favor by dumping your bf and find someone who's really there for you, you know?
JyNxiE
this guy and i are in all of the same classes and everyone says that we flirt and that we need to go out! lately he has always been hanging around me a lot! like there was a chair near some girl but i was sitting somewhere else so he was lying down on the table that was next to me! what should i do? and i was wondering how can i get him to give me a hug?
Sounds like you two both have a thing for each other. I'd say just flirt with him and see where things go. As for the hug, whenever I want one, I just simply ask. Always works.
JyNxiE
m/16 Hi, ive been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and a few weeks and her parents are, sorry to say, PISSING ME THE **** OFF. They wont EVER let her see me but maybe 1 every two weeks or so, and it kills me cause i never get ANY alone time with her, and the time we do get to spend together is with friends cause her parents wont let her over to my house alone. Anyone know of anything I can do to get their parents to let her do somthing, or anything i can tell my girl to say? help please!
Hmm...kinda reminds me of the problem my bf and I have with my parents...But, get her parents to trust you. If they already do, maybe they're thinking about the mistakes they made when her age and are trying to protect her from them. Personally, parents need to back off and let us make our own mistakes, but they don't feel that way sadly. Show her parents that you take good care of their daughter and that she'll be perfectly safe with you. Sometimes parents, especially mothers, are afraid to see their daughters growing up and just want to protect them for as long as they can. It's a tough situation, but maybe over time they'll losen up. Hope I helped,
JyNxiE
Ok, in school I'm in the "popular group" and my friends are really nice and everything but sometimes they really annoy me. Here's why. Whenever a guy asks them out they'll like automaticlly say yes (even if they don't like them), and when a guy dumps them or they dump a guy they'll be going out with someone else within an hour. Anyway, for some reason this really bugs me. I don't really no why either. Now a guy asked me out and I said no because I don't like him and now they keep calling me too picky. What do I do?
Maybe you need a new group of friends who will let you be yourself, instead of what they expect you to be. You have every right to turn someone down if you dont like them. The relationship wont last if you're with someone you dont like. If you dont want to get new friends, then just ignore these. After a while they should see that you're not like them and leave you alone, hopefully. Kinda off topic, but your friends may be insecure about themselves if they go out with so many guys. Maybe they're trying to prove that they're wanted. *shrugs* I dont knwo, just something to think about.
JyNxiE
well i like this boy right and he's spanish and i have no problem with that b/c he''s really sweet and cute. but all my friends do b/c im like white and we're totally diff and some of my friends are sort of racist. i don't know what to do b/c i rlly like this boy...what should i do
Forget your friends opinions...they shouldnt stop you if you really like this guy. Also, it may be good that you two are different. Opposites attract, right?
JyNxiE
Will a yeast infection go away on its own or what can you do to get rid of it?
It should go away on its own, but that'll take time. You should go to a hospital and get some pills for it. They'll keep it confidential, so dont worry about parents finding out.
JyNxiE
Whats up everybody! I smoke weed and love it. But i want to quit. They say weed is not addicting, but if it isnt, then how come i can not quit? I love it so much. But know it will get me nowhere. So how can i quit? Or should i not quit?
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD QUIT! It may be great right now, but it'll do you absolutely no good down the road and will most definetely screw up your future. To quit, you should to go to one of those rehab places. Atleast you realize it'll get you nowhere...thats a good start to quitting. And whoever said weed isnt addicting?? I'd think its common sense that it is. In Health class they always beat it in students' heads that it's very addicting. But I'm getting off topic. Talk to someone and get them to help you. It may be hard at first, but it'll be worth it.
JyNxiE
my best friend always goes over to a girl named sarahs house.She goes over because sarah has an older brother and i guess julie (my best friend) thinks its really cool that she gets to do "stuff" with older guys after many times of this, the guys ALWAYS deny it when asked and NONE of then ever talk to her. Also my friend falls in love spontainiously (sp?) like one hour shes in love with one guy shes never met, and the next shes in love with another guy shes never met its really dumb and eventually i know she will get hurt but if i tell her that they are just using her then shes going to say no and be mad at me... please tell me somthing i can tell her
The blunt truth always gets straight to the point. True, she'll be mad at you, but a real friend tells the truth, even if it hurts. Think on this, whats better, a lie that will draw a smile or a truth that will draw a tear?
JyNxiE