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Should I have sex with my ex?
Alright me and my ex are really close and we talk about having sex alot...I mean all the time..I feel ready and I think Im ready...I'm only 14...He is 15...I have never hasd sex before and I'm not sure if I should wait or what I should do??? I mean he doesnt push me into anything and never has and never will... Will someone give me some advice on what to do???
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If hes the type of guy who wouldn't push you into it, then you can feel good about whatever choice you make, besides, it sounds weird to me that you consider him your ex and you are wanting to lose your virginity to him, don't you want your first time or any other time to be with a boyfriend? Thats the way I feel about sex. Anyway, you shouldn't be so crazy about whether you should have sex or not, if when the time comes and you don't want it to happen, then you can stop anytime, but the way you type it sounds like your not ready, your still young, give it some more thought. I hope you make the right choice, (which is the choice YOU make)
-TheTeenGirl
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well if you think your ready then go for it, but don't just do it with any person, make sure you really love them because you wouldn't want it to just be one night of fun then the next day your old news, make sure their "the one" ..xOx KT
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ARE YOU CRAZY!?!?!you are only 14 and he's your ex...i no you are close but your age come on...wait until your older ok....Morgan
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well if he is your ex first date him! nd then ask him if he wants to do with u!
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are you freaking serious??!?!?! You are only 14, kid and you thinking about having sex with someone you feel only close to and not love. You are really messed up in the head. What happens if you get pregers? If you come back here with a question on what to do with your baby, I will laugh because most of these people are telling you to not do it. You are being very stupid and not thinking with your head. You are thinking with your vagina. Hope this helps.
-Inga
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ewwwwwwww thats nasty.....fucking lesbian
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WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE ONLY 14!!!!!! you are honestly too young to be doing stuff like that. what happens if you end up pregnant? think about all, and i mean ALL the consequences of taking that step would be before you even condsider doing it. my best advice: wait til you are legal(18) because if you get caught, he could be charged with rape because you're both underage. even if you both consented. just wait, if he loves you, he'll wait too, hope i helped.
Kat
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I think you should wait, since he is your ex and even though you're close, sex might distance you guys. Plus, you should wait until you've found the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. I am just telling you this because I've learned from my mistake, and I should of done what I am telling you now. Good luck! = )
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use a condom and go for it
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sex isnt what it seems.:)
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I think you should have sex with someone you love and plan on staying with. You aren't together, so it would just be like a sex-buddy. It's kind of odd. But hey, if you're ready, go for it. Just be careful, and use a condom! Also, I suggest birth control, so you have something to fall back on.
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Tina
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Dear Sex w/ an Ex,
Please do not have sex with him. I do not like to preach; but do not make this mistake. Please understand how serious sex is. Sweetheart, if you were ready you would not have wanted our opinions. Step back for a second and look over the possibilities. You can get pregnant or receive an STD. Could you imagine him being the father of your babies? Do you love him? I am not into the whole abstinence preach. If you want to have sex, you are going to have sex. Just wait until you find the right person. When you are a virgin, you believe that sex is going to be wonderful the first time. You think that there is so much pleasure involved and everything is going to be alright. No. If you do not have a special relationship with this person, you will get nothing out of this and when you do find that special someone, then what are you going to do? Please wait until you are sure this is right. Never feel pressured to have sex. Sex is meant to be special, not wasted. Good luck and use protection, if that is the decision that you make.
♥Sarah
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well, if you really feel that u are ready, then go for it..
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Well if you feel ready then go for it! But your ex? Why is he your ex? Don't you think you should be doing it with your boyfriend? Maybe you should start talking about getting back together if you guys are thinking about having sex, your supose to do it your first time with somebody you love or at least go out with! Maybe you should think about it more! Well hope i helped <3 me
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Hey there. Well, if you know your ready and you want it to be with your ex, then i say go for it
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Just wait..but why would you have sex with ir EX??anyway..ur only 14, you should wait.
xoxo
~becca~
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I seriously think you should wait. You're only 14.
-Chish.
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I think you should wait, but it's your choice. If you aren't sure you should wait until you're really sure you want to. I know you'll probably hear this alot on here but you're kinda young. So if you two do end up having sex make sure you use protection because you don't want to have a baby at a young age.
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if you don't want ot do it then don't and if you do and then have secound thoughts on it then you aren't ready. that is exactly what happened with me and my x and i had secound thoughts and we really had fun spending time together after that and then we did it.It is really comfertable once you feel ready he will agree with you. just tell him that you aren't ready.
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If you are not sure then you are truly not ready. And it would not be a very good idea to have sex with your ex. You are 14 and you have a long time ahead of you so just slow down there and wait. There will be a time when you know it feels right to have sex with soomeone and when that time comes that is when you shuold do it
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no matter what, make sure that your safe while doing it, C0ND0MS! haha, well if you think your ready without any doubts then maybe you are ready, thats good that he doesn't make you do anything you dont want, and if you want to have sex, then do it if you feel if your ready. HAPPY NEW YEAR! =) x0
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well if you think your ready, you should do it..but 14 is a younge age..MAKE SURE YOU USE PROTECTION if you do. Dont only do it because he wants you to and if you say no your afraid of the outcome of what hes going to do. Do what you want and think is best.
tell me how things turn out;)
x3 spiCy xo hoTt
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Well, this is a hard one. If you really like him and you can trust him then go for it. But on the otherhand if you don't trust him don't. Just do what you feel is right.
~soccrchick~
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If you have to ask.. then you aren't ready. simple as that.
♥ Katie
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Welp, like many other people are going to tell you, you are a bit young to be having sex. I myself as a person am trying to wait until I am atleast 18 to take this big leap. Just because you feel ready doesn't mean you always are. You have to think: Am I physically ready? Am I mentally ready?. Ask yourself these questions over and over again to be sure. You are only 14 and he is 15. You have your whole life ahead to start worrying about the challenges of being sexually active. Why start so young?! What happens if you accidently get pregnant? Condoms and birth control do not always work. And you've never had sex. If you have sex with him you have lost your innocence better known as virginity. Are you sure this guy is someone that you can see yourself losing this to and not regretting it? What happens if you break up and such and there he is, with your virginity? Think about it.
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If you feel that you're ready, then go ahead and have sex. But in my opinion, it's best if you start a relationship with this guy first so it could be more "special". It's great that your ex-boyfriend isn't pushing you into having sex. You are young but if you feel that you're ready, then have sex with this guy! Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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Are you really ready? I vote that you wait a while so it can more special to you. Im going to tll you a story that happen to someone i know. She was sixteen and she thought she was ready for sex so she got woth her boyfriend one night and did it. She was on the pill and she didnt think she would get pregnate so she didnt use a condom -big mistake there!-. Well she got pregnate and her boyfriend left her. So she was lef tto raise a kid on her own! But things worked out and she went to college and she has a great job! SO if you are going to have sex please wrapp his willy ;)
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The fact that you said "I'm only 14..." You're second guessing yourself. I don't believe at 14 you're ready for sex, but it is all a matter of maturity. Another point that makes me wonder is that you say you 'always' talk about having sex. Doesn't that sound like pressure to you? It's all a matter of what you want and what you feel. If you feel you're 100 percent ready for sex, go ahead and be safe, but if you're not 100 percent sure, if you do have sex, you'll have doubts later on.
If you do make the decision to have sex,be safe and use a Condom/birth controll and what not. I know, I know. You've heard this all before.
Megan
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If you have to question yourself if your ready or not then you are not ready. Which is fine because your 14, you have your whole life to have sex why now?
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i dont think you should have sex with him. 1 reason is your questioning weather you should or shouldnt. it doesnt seem like your ready take it slow,infact see if he's ready. wutevr you do is your business but personally i dont think you should.
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Hun if you feel ready to have sex wit this guy.. then i think you should do it.. and its good he aint rushing you or anything.. but maybe you guys should get back together if your going to have sex wit him also..and i hope i helped *~DEZ~*
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Well, if you think you're ready...you're ready. This is a decision only you can make. Personally, I think you're both too young, but thats just me. Its good that he doesnt push you...but talking about it constantly could be a less direct way of pushing. Also, it'd mean a lot more to you personally if you waited until you were in love to have sex. My advice is, if you decide to do it, use protection. Good luck.
JyNxiE
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