Well, my name is Tina, and I'm 13. I live in New York, and have been through so much and have been able to pull through. All my friends come to me for help when they have a problem, and my advice always seems to work. I hope I can help!
E-mail: Ricanatina@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Rochester
Occupation: Student
Age: 13
AIM: MiKiSsEsRsWeEt
Yahoo: Ricanatina
Member Since: January 1, 2005
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have you had sex? (link)
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No, but all the people I've talked to said it hurts...
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This might be a stupid question, but does it hurt to have sex? Do you bleed?
just wondering (link)
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For the first time it will bleed, and it will hurt just a little.
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i made out with my bf the other day and he has been telling everyone about it ever since, but i only hear that from my friends. he has talked about it to my friends and stuff like that. i dont really like it, should i talk to him about it? i'm not sure what to do, i mean it is true... its not like a false rumour he is passing around or anything. i like him, he's sweet, but i feel like i cant make out with him anymore or else he's guna tell every one about it... also, for the boys out there, why do you think he talked about it so much? thanks (link)
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He talked about it so much, because he's obviously interested, and probably wants to score points with the guys. Lots of guys do this, so trust me, you're not the only victim of these "Kiss and Tell" cases. You should talk to him about it because this makes you feel uncomfortable and it makes you seem unhappy.
Hope I helped.
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OK so I have my period, and Im really just not in the mood. You know cramps all that fun stuff. But what I really wanna know is well... this is embarassing but I wanna shave down there and every time i try the hair gets stuck inside the blade and it really hurts. What am I doing wrong?
thanks~ (link)
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You're not doing anything wrong. You should use Nair. It's a hair removal without razors, or you can try Veet. It's also new, and it comes with a special razor without blades. Hope I helped.
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I found out yesterday that a good friend of mine was killed at a party. Someone had slipped ecstasy in her drink and then she was brutally raped while she was passed out. I feel like this is all my fault. The reason being is because I always went to parties with her and I would always tell her "Beck, don't drink at parties". She'd always yell at me and tell me that I acted like her mother. But I knew I was right, I don't trust the drinks that people hand out at parties. The guy that raped her was my ex-boyfriend. I still feel like this was all my fault because, had I been there, he wouldn't have done anything to her because he's afraid of me. I'm sure by now you're all probably thinking "This is a load of bull" but believe it. This actually happens to people. She was my best friend. I knew I should have gone with her to that party. I'm completely miserable right now. She was my best friend. I always figured that nothing like that could ever hit so close to home. I'd always see stories like this on the news and I'd think to myself "How could they be so stupid?" Or, "That would never happen where I live." But it has. I don't know how to handle this. My ex boyfriend was arrested and my friends family is waiting to go to court but in the time being, I don't know how to handle myself. I don't even have the courage to go to her funeral tomorrow. I need help getting through this. Please help me... Thank you for those who take this seriously. I would really also like a non-sarcastic answer because this is a touchy subject for me. Thank you.
I apologize for the length. (link)
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Awwwww! Hunnie, I just wanna say I am really sorry for your loss. I know how this is. People don't realize that those things can happen, because they live in a "nice neighborhood." and vice versa. Anyways, this isn't your fault, because you've warned her millions of times, and she didn't listen. Hey, accept the fact that at least you care enough about her to do these things and to warn her about it. I'm sorry she was raped, and killed, but things like this happen. You cannot take responsibility for warning her, and her not listening to you. You're right, and she was wrong for not listening to you. I'm so sorry this happened, but there is no way I can help, because, again, you warned her and she chose not to listen. Again, it's not your fault. Don't take responsibility for it.
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the other day, my boyfriend came over and we were sitting on the couch. then we started kissing. he slipped his tounge into my mouth and i did the same. (we were kissing for like 10-15 seconds) is that considered just french kissing or making out? (link)
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It's just french kissing, because making out is kissing for more than 2-3 minutes.
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Hope I helped you out some!!!
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i have really really REALLY sweaty armpits and i need advice on wut kinda deoderant would actually work for me.. its really very embaressing and its really embaressing to ask u all rite now so please don't reply and make fun of me... neway cya hope u can help (link)
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A really good deoderant I use is Secret, or Suave. You could also use Teen Spirit, or Lady Speed Stick. They all work really well. Dove also works well...
Try those. I hope I helped.
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O.K. My problem all started when someone was prank calling my house. I then found out it was one of my best friends. I got mad at her twice. Once for doing. Twice for lieing about it. I'm in junior high and it's so hard for me. Then, my closest best friend took up for her. Then, my other close best friend took up for her too. I don't know what to do. I live in Deer Park and I'm illegally going to Laporte Junior High. My close best friend is threatening to kick my butt and I don't know what to do. Should I switch to my legal school or continue illegally going to a school where EVERYONE hates me. I rate 5's for anyone who can really make a difference in my life! THNX TO ANYONE WHO ANSWERS!!! XOXO
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
~~~KaYlA
Sorry So Long But I need Help ASAP (link)
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Well you shouldn't switch to your legal school, but then she'll think you're scared of her, and besides, you have the right to be mad. One. She prank called you. Two. She lied about it. Who does that??? Wow. Bad friend. And besides, having a fist fight about this whole little thing is soo rediculous. Don't stress. But you should be going to a legal school, because when the illegal school finds out, they'll kick you out, and you'll have no choice.
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'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do. (link)
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I suggest all of you go down to the principal's office and report that because if you don't, it will never stop. The principal will do something about it. And they'll make sure he doesn't come near you.
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ok say i met this guy on the internet and we wanted to met somewhere but not alone i mean with like other people. What if he says he is 14 but is really 45 or something should i bring a knife or a gun????? should i have a cell phone ready just in case he tries to do something to me????? NEED HELP FAST !!!!!!!!
OXOXOX,
DONT WANNA BE KILLED (link)
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Hunnie. It's not good to meet someone over the internet in person, because sometimes they don't appear as they say they are. Besides, it could be someone way older and or younger than they say they are. I would bring a cell-phone, but I highly suggest, not going alone, and not meeting the person at all. Safety first.
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Alright me and my ex are really close and we talk about having sex alot...I mean all the time..I feel ready and I think Im ready...I'm only 14...He is 15...I have never hasd sex before and I'm not sure if I should wait or what I should do??? I mean he doesnt push me into anything and never has and never will... Will someone give me some advice on what to do??? (link)
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I think you should have sex with someone you love and plan on staying with. You aren't together, so it would just be like a sex-buddy. It's kind of odd. But hey, if you're ready, go for it. Just be careful, and use a condom! Also, I suggest birth control, so you have something to fall back on.
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i am fat.. when i look in the mirror i look like a mini-sumowrestler.. i'm 13.. 5'1 and i weigh 110lbs.. please tell me how to lose the blubber on my abnormally huge thighs and my blubbery stomach.. it would be much appreciated! ps; i hate exercise and i'm too young to get lapo.. please give me good dieting info.. (link)
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Hunnie you are not fat!!! I'm your age, I'm 5'3 and I weigh 132 lbs. So you're not fat, you're skinny. You're normal for your age, and you're definitely not fat. You don't need to go on a diet.
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im 14/f and i really like my brothers best friend. we are always flirting but i know my brother gets really mad. i wouldnt care what my brother thinks but we recently started talking more and gotten close..my brothers friend is 16..i dont know if i should pursue my secret crush on this boy or just back off? (link)
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I would talk to your brother about it because if it bothers him you should just back off, becaue like you said, you and him have just started getting closer, and talking more. So I think it depends. But anyways, talk to your brother, and if he's fine with it, please make sure, and pursue your secret crush on the boy. I hope I helped.
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My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long) (link)
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Oh my gosh! First off, I just want to say how sorry I am about that. It must be tough to lose your mother. But honestly, there is nothing you could have done. This is not your fault because who chose to drink? Who chose to take the pills? Your mother did. So none of that is your fault. Did you ever put a gun to her head, or a knife to her throat and tell her to do it? If no, then hunnie, this is not your fault. Please don't worry. There is no solution to this. I suggest you stay in the counseling and maybe things will get better. I'm sorry I couldn't help much. I hope things get better for you, and again, I'm really sorry about your loss.
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Sorry this is long, but i rate high :)
I have liked this one guy for nearly a year. We used to date over the summer, but then some stuff got messed up and we broke up. Well he managed to get over me but i never got over him. Recently he and I have gotten really close (somewhat) and we talk all the time. He has been throwing hints he likes me. And apparently he told a friend of mine he likes me. Well, on thursday he and 2 of my other friends (one guy on girl) went to hang out at his house. They got bored and found an unfinished house. Well, the guy i like and my really good friend (who knew i was head over heals for him) went into the house and made out...Yesterday we went to a new years party and the girl told another one of my friends about it. Who in turn told me. Now my friend (the girl) likes him and asumes he likes her as well. Both of the people who made out have yet to confront me about it. Im so devistated right now and i feel like having a break down...Please tell me what to do because im so frustrated...Thanks.
(Please please please dont delete this!) (link)
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Oh my gosh. Wow. I think maybe you should confront the 2 people because that is wrong. If she knew you liked him or whatever, it would mean to back off wouldn't it??? What she did would totally mess up the friendship. Anyways, I suggest talking to them both at the same time,and see what happens. If you need more help, note me, or IM me on my AIM.
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I have this friend named Heidi, and shes a really fun girl to hang out with. I know she has a rough time at home because her brother and her are really close and when he does pot and crap she gets super mad and cries really bad because he soon before stopped. Her sister also drinks and she has to babysit for her 1 year old neice (sisters baby). By the way the sister is not married. Or w/ the boyfriend w/ the baby anymore. Um, yeah, anyways, i thought that backround info might help, but, she is such an energized person at school and to hang out with. very fun to hang out with. but sometiems most of the time she can be snotty. its her personality. she will be like your a bitch! and stuff as a 'joke' and she knows ALL the swear words possible.. cock sucker pussy licker, bitch, hoe, skank, etc. yeah, so shes realy good at comebacks. anyways, yeah, im the kind of person thats sorta dumb and stuff like slow on things, they call me a total dumb blonde and the most blonde i have is highlights bcuz im a brunette. anyways, yeah, she'll be like ERIN SUCKS shout that when i bowl like the other day, and then she'll randomly hit me and stuff like punch me and then she started hitting me HARD and it hurt im like what r u doing she goes IM BORED im like ummm ok... and the whoel time she was walking around in her tightest jeans and tighest shirt and she has a big butt big boobs shes pretty kinda and idk, she was walking around like she was the king of the world, queen i mean, and she was stickingher chest out and crap. it just annoys me so bad. and she'll make fun of me as a quote joke unquote and shell laff and im like no.... not funny that hurt. but i cant confront her w/ all the stuff she does because this other girl that did she got totally ditched by her and isnt friends w/ her. im in the popular crowd and part of me doesnt want to lose being in there because u know everyone wants to be in it. im in 8th grade by the way, and im sick of her pushing me around. i mean by "ignoring" herpunching me and crap, part of it is just letting her do it and push me aroudn more. idk. my screen name is takemeaway032 on aim. ill give you more info ifyou would like. thanks os muhc, please give advice!!!!! :-\ (link)
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Hunnie, I'm so sorry. I went through this in 6th grade. But for the girl with me, her home-life was really good. I'm thinking maybe your friend is just really stressed out and she takes it out on you, because you're there. I guess maybe you need to talk to her when she's over your house, or when you're on the phone or computer. She sounds really mean, and you really shouldn't tolerate her hitting you. I know fighting isn't the best solution, and violence is never the answer, but my mom always told me, "If someone hits you first, you have the right to beat the hell out of them. And, never make the first hit."
So if she hits you again, I would hit her back, but it's up to you. Give her a reality check, and act the same way. But the best way to get it through to her, is to talk to her about it, because it's not fair to you, and it's not nice either. Don't let it get to you. She's stressed. But please talk to her about it. I'll be sure to IM you on AIM. IM me if you need more help...
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I always look at myself and see how not pretty I am. I hate it. Then I look around at all my friends..why do they get to be automatically pretty? No makeup for some--but still not ugly. I have kind of chubby cheeks but not huge. I have dark blonde, almost brown-ish straight hair a little past my shoulders. I'm sort of tan, but not much. My eyes are hazel, mostly green. If I go out or to school, I wear eyeliner and that's it. I also have a little bit of a belly. I really think I'm not pretty. I've never had a boyfriend, and maybe that's why? Any ideas for makeup that's not too drastic, that will make my face look better? If you have ANYTHING..please tell me. (link)
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Oh hun, from what you describe yourself as, you're pretty. You should have more confidence in yourself. I always thought I was ugly too, and sometimes I still do think it, but I realized it's how I feel. If you feel this low, maybe people feed off that, and it makes them feel that way too. I bet there are lots of guys who like you, but are just shy. Just be yourself, and if you find someone you like, go to them. Don't wait for them to crawl around to you. For make-up suggestions, I would wear mascara, some eyeliner, and maybe some lip gloss. It's simple, and nothing too drastic, like you asked. You don't really need make-up. You're beautiful. You just need to trust yourself. I hope I helped some.
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Correction Tina. but i believe you can love at any age im 16 so dont tell me im to young now but i believe you can love at any age (link)
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You can love at any age, which is quite true, but some might call it puppy love. Do as you want. Sorry if I didn't help you.
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okay I'm not ugly I get compliments all the time
but I don't I feel like I'm ugly and i can't love myself I'm not fat but think I am.my friends love me and I like to be on the spot light ,I'm really trying to love myself.I had boyfriend ,we broke up because I was moving.now I miss him bad.I don't show it.It been three years and I can't find a boyfriend.that only makes me think I'm ugly but know I'm not,I'm really confused .how can I love myself and find a loving boyfriend. (link)
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Oh hunnie. You need to find a little confidence in yourself, I know you think you aren't ugly, but you think you're fat. Maybe you could lose weight until you're happy with your size, or whatever. But never doubt yourself, because to a guy, that's a HUGE turn-off. Hope I helped!
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ok my boyfriend i love him to death and he really loves me...but like i feel like i annoy him...so i dont like calling him....i talked to him about it before and he was like aw baby you dont annoy me i love it when you call me i love talking to you...i was like ok...but it seems like whenever i call him hes eating....ill be like are you busy?? and hes like no im just eating..and ill be like oh...want to call me back or something then? and hell say yea ill call you in a bout 20 minutes...and he doesnt call for like another 2 hours....i called him at 3 3o and its now 4 30!! i mean come on....thats kind of rude....what do i say? i dont want to be like...WHY DIDNT U CALL ME BACK IN EXACTLY 20MINS?! and like possesive....but hes kind of pissing me off!!!!!! (link)
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If he says you don't annoy him, you don't. If this happens, maybe you should call him... I mean if he doesn't call, maybe something came up, so call him now! Besides, don't be all agressive or possessive over him or anything, because then he'll think you're acting like his mother.
Hope I helped.
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